WHAT IF...

[little man]

like everyone else, from time to time, i've wondered what life would have looked like had i made different choices. now, i don't regret anything at all...i'm pretty happy with the person i am (for the most part). but, still, i wonder.

what if....

i'd accepted the placement at west point?

i'd stayed in the military and been able to take the position writing for the stars and stripes?



anyone else willing to share their "what if"?

[adorable]

The truth for me is that IF I had done <insert the myraid of anything here> differently I wouldn't be who I am today! And while I may be a fucked up version of perfection ~ I am me. That has to account for something.....

[SuperFemme]

What if there really IS a sock monster?

[UofMfan]

What if there really IS a sock monster?

There is!

An ex of mine had a saying that went like this: What if my grandmother had had balls? She would have been my grandfather.

What ifs are useless in my opinion. Instead of focusing on what ifs, I tend to focus on what possibilities lie ahead.

[SuperFemme]

What if I secretly liked missing socks because then I can go shopping?

What if UofMan figured me out?

What if my grandmother was my grandfather?

[Strappie]

WHAT IF........

I WAS NOT SINGLE!....hmmm

[SuperFemme]

WHAT IF........

I WAS NOT SINGLE!....hmmm

Then you'd be double?

[UofMfan]

What if I secretly liked missing socks because then I can go shopping?

What if UofMan figured me out?

What if my grandmother was my grandfather?

What if you actually shipped that baby?! What if?!

I figured you out long ago ;)

Oh then you would have two grandfathers, ha!

[Soft*Silver]

what if my brother had not committed suicide...

this single event has altered my entire life as well as the rest of my families lives. My daughter who never met him wonders if when she gets depressed if she will turn to this family coping mechanism. I pushed my experimental adolescent drinking into full blown alcoholism after his death.

I also would not have gone into mental health as a career. I would not have had the sensitivity and the fearlessness to deal with crisis and violence.

I would have had a brother who would have knocked a few people on their ass for the way they treated me..but not until he would have knocked me on my ass to wise up

I would have had another man to look up to, and at other times, to shove the reality into my face that even heros crash and burn...wait ...I have that now anyways...

If only he hadnt died, I have a very real belief that I would have been the one in the family to commit suicide. I was certainly heading there. He just beat me to it. Because I had to get mental health for dealing with his death, I firmly believe it stopped the momentum for me to try it

how would I have done that to my parents, after witnessing what it did to them when my brother committed suicide...I just couldnt...not any longer...

if only...as momma use to say if only wishes were horses, beggers would ride...

I do wonder what it would have been like to have had him around as we matured...I know I barely knew him because we were 7 years apart. I know I miss him every day.

what if he hadnt committed suicide?

[Rook]

I do agree, all my desicions, pisspoor or Not, make me who I am today
However...

What if I would've stayed put in Puerto Rico..?

What if I would've stayed quiet, and took the USMC's offer ?{Maybe I'd be one step behind Sonia Sotomayor, or JAG Corp brass, my ASVAB was 63}

What if I would've listened to my high school sweetie and stayed with her, in the school she enrolled in? [ our public school was closed, too violent, the school she picked was my mothers high school alma mater, the school I picked was a Specialized school *dept. of Education covered placements*]

What if I ignored my fears and continued Collegiate Track n Field?


hmmmm.....

I got many more what if's....
But, when I'm done with the fantasy I shrug with a "Fuck it, life goes on"

[little man]

what if...

i'd thought twice about starting this thread as a means to discuss self-examination and decisions we'd made in life?

[Shadowboi2010]

What if....

Bugs screamed before they hit the windshield?

[Rook]

What if....

Bugs screamed before they hit the windshield?

i used to mimic their shrieks of "help me" before diluting the window with water and wiping, does that count?

hmm..

What if puke jelly belly actually tastes like puke, or the booger one? ~stares @ the bag~

what if I was actually born a Man? {would I have the same friends?}

[SuperFemme]

What if I didn't mean to derail this thread?

What if I thought the only thing worth re-examining WAS my sock problem?

What if I just shaddup now?

[betenoire]

good thread, little man. now if only people could resist the temptation to act silly and derail it.

What if I had never moved to Vancouver? (in 2001)

I would probably still be working the job in Toronto that I had, which would be nice because it was a great job (although I do love the job I have now - my current job is the only job I've LOVED since I left the agency I worked for in 2001).

I would be in a better place financially. Up and quitting and moving across the country on the fly really screwed things up for me in that arena. I -still- haven't recovered from that set-back. I was young and stupid then, and had no idea how difficult it would be to find another secure and full-time position.

However: I also would not have met a nice transguy who lived in Seattle (I tried to pick him up at a Mexican restaurant by passing him a note about how much I liked his shoes) from whom I learned a whole hell of a lot about myself. Although, I probably would have figured that shit out on my own or through someone else eventually - and saved myself a little bit of heartache along the way.

Since this guy introduced me to livejournal (among a zillion other things) I would not have met a shy Femme in Toronto upon my moving back to the GTA. This livejournaling Femme introduced me to the funnest group of people on the planet, some of whom I've lost touch with, some of whom continue to mean the universe to me.

Since this guy also introduced me to "the dash site" I would not have met my spouse, Nick. Me and Nick met on the dash site.

Had I not met my spouse, I probably never would have moved to the town I live in now. That would be good and also bad.

I do not love this town, and I get lonely for my life in Toronto. However, being in this town has gifted me with the only job that I've cared about in 9 years. And, of course, it's where me and my spouse have been making our home.

[cane]

What if they had picked another adoptive family for me, maybe somebody that liked children, I think that would have made all the differance...

[Gemme]

*marking*

I'll come back in a couple days to give a proper post.

Good thread idea!

[Andrew, Jr.]

What if...my younger brother didn't commit suicide and was alive today?

What if...my older sister didn't die from skin cancer? She would have watched her oldest son graduate from high school and go to art school.

What if...I never was honest with my parents?

What if...I never was homeless?

What if...I didn't have my faith?

What if...I wasn't around to save my animals?

What if...God answered my prayers and changed my body to match my mind?

What if...I was born male?

[little man]

like everyone else, from time to time, i've wondered what life would have looked like had i made different choices. now, i don't regret anything at all...i'm pretty happy with the person i am (for the most part). but, still, i wonder.

what if....

i'd accepted the placement at west point?

i'd stayed in the military and been able to take the position writing for the stars and stripes?



anyone else willing to share their "what if"?


i feel a bit silly quoting myself, but what the hell.

had i accepted the appointment to west point, i'd have gone through with the first class of women accepted to the point. if the abuse those women suffered hadn't caused me to wash out, i'd have had an engineering degree and more opportunity to work in a more lucrative field. that would have allowed me to do more for my family. i would also not have had the 8 years with my first partner tha t helped considerably in shaping who i am and allowing me to fully explore my queer identity.

the gig with stars and stripes would have kept me writing and honing those skills. i suspect it would also have led me into photograpy much sooner than i managed on my own.

[Blade]

What if I was born into a different family?
What if I hadn't had the early influences I had?
What if I'd never left east TN back in the 80's?
What if my precious Angel had been born?
What if Cindy hadn't died?

For the most part these are positive what if's. Certainly I have a possible answer for each one. I know if these 4 things had developed differently, I'd be a very different person and have a very different life than I enjoy today. Some things we have no choice in, when we have a choice and make a bad one, we should use it as a building block, a stepping stone if you will. Certainly there are things I wish I'd done differently but I learned from each mistake. Sometimes I must say I didn't learn enough, but I've never had to mess up more than twice to get it.

Much more to this list both good and bad.
Great thread BTW.

[Rook]

What if "that man" I know was really my Father? {I never did investigate closely, my mother always gets offended.But then, when I sprouted thick red hair*i was totally bald for 2 years after birth*, everyone, including her Husband questioned her, she demanded a DNA test}

[suebee]

What if I'd accepted that position in Northern Quebec working in Inuit communities? Where would I be now?

[Gemme]

What if I had told the truth that day?

[Lillie]

what if I actually saw in myself what others really see

wouldn't that be amazing

[Andrew, Jr.]

What if cancer was cured once and for all. :danceparty:

[chefhottie25]

what if...I had majored in urban planning. What would I be like today?

[Lillie]

emily was here

[JustBeingMe]

What if there really IS a sock monster?


Oh but there IS. He eats my socks when I do the laundry. LOL

[JustBeingMe]

What if I had not gotten hurt at work and became disabled?
What if I had moved a few years ago? What if I had finished college earlier in my life? What if I hadn't moved last year?
What if my dad was still here?
What if I wasn't in the situation I am in?
Hmmm....tons of what if's here.

[Lillie]

what if...everything really did come up roses? :girldevil:

[Apocalipstic]

What if I to had not been adopted?

What if my Mother had not died when she did?

What if I had chosen Pushkin and Gamera over a girl?

[AzDesertRunner]

what if...everything really did come up roses? :girldevil:

If everything always came up roses we would not appreciate all we have in life!

[Strappie]

Then you'd be double?

OMG.. would you really wish there to be TWO Strappie's? Isn't ONE enough?? lol

[Strappie]

What if.....

"singing" If I had a million dollars.. I'd buy....

[Gemme]

What if I'd held fast to my ideals? Where would I be now?

[DamonK]

What if...I had not met the people I did, oh so many years ago?
What if...I had not moved when I did?
What if...I had given the chance begged of me?
What if...I had not logged in that night?
What if...I had kept silent that first night?
What if...I had not stood true to who I am?
What if...I had been scared off from certain situations?

What if...I hadn't tried?
What if...I hadn't withstood all I have?
What if...I hadn't followed my gut?
What if...I hadn't told all those many years ago?

Would I be who I am today?

No.

[Blade]

What if....I had been laid off a year ago instead of taking a $1200 a month pay cut

[Strappie]

What if......


We didn't have anything to "what if" about??

[Kenna]

What if I had chosen to go to Job Corps in Marion VA instead of where I did?

What if I had never met my nightmare-devil of an Ex at the school I chose to go to?

What if I could change the past? (Would I?)

What if I had never taken certain paths in my past that affected me in such a negative way, would my present path hold such positive influences and maturity?

What if I had been born a blonde knock-out like my sister?

What if I had not started my family far too early, and had followed my dream to join the Air Force as a pilot?

[Jet]

What if the terrible incident never happened on that night 17 years ago?
I wonder where I would be now.

[Abigail Crabby]

What if ...

My daughter gets a job and I can move on with my life. :newbie:

I'll be one happy camper.......

[Spirit Dancer]

What if I never answered the phone?
What if words spoken in haste could be erased?
What if will only make me second guess, so I look forward to the future.

[Andrew, Jr.]

What if we learned what animals were saying?

[Miss Scarlett]

What if Congress finally gets its act together and actually does things that are in the best interests of the people of this country rather than their own or that of those to whom they have sold their respective souls?

What if people really did love their neighbor as themselves?

Dare to dream...:sigh:

[Toofrufru]

One day everyone stopped arguing with their exes?:sadangel:
What if their kids didn't have to hear the ugliness spew from the mouths of the people they trusted most about the only other ones in the world they thought they could trust?:hiding:

[Blade]

What if Congress had to live on the average medium income, and had to share our SSI and health insurance instead of having their own little nest egg to suck on.

What if former representatives didn't get a pay check for having been representatives? Does your employer fire you and continue to pay you a sum the rest of your life.

What if we (society in general) got to vote ourselves a raise like Congress does?

[Gemme]

What if we went back to bartering for goods and services?

[Leigh]

What if I had never made the choices I made?

[Kenna]

What if I had never sent that message on March 10th?
What if I hadn't been admitted to the hospital very ill shortly after March 10th?
What if my dad hadn't passed away so very suddenly, while I was still in the hospital?
What if I had moved to Indiana like my dad asked me to do so last Thanksgiving?

[katzietootle]

what if....

i am your fairygod mother??
and kabooooom....

[Blade]

What if I had birds or fish instead of DOGS chuckling.....naaaa dogs are more fun shakes head and goes to bed

[DamonK]

What if... I had kept using?
What if... I had used more?
What if... I had given up?
What if... I had been given up on?
What if... I hadn't taken the chance?
What if... I hadn't been strong?
What if... I hadn't been weak?
What if... I hadn't stood my ground?
What if... I hadn't seen where my life was going?
What if... I hadn't seen clearly what the drugs would have done to me?

Not a "what if" but along the same lines:

Would I have gotten clean and stayed clean if I had been given up on?

Probably not.

[WingsOnFire]

What if... I had kept using?
What if... I had used more?
What if... I had given up?
What if... I had been given up on?
What if... I hadn't taken the chance?
What if... I hadn't been strong?
What if... I hadn't been weak?
What if... I hadn't stood my ground?
What if... I hadn't seen where my life was going?
What if... I hadn't seen clearly what the drugs would have done to me?

Not a "what if" but along the same lines:

Would I have gotten clean and stayed clean if I had been given up on?

Probably not.
Honey I am sooooo thankful for the ones who never gave up on... who gave you the chance to live the life you now live.

I love you... and love the one that was there for you all those years you needed support and help to make the right decisions. I will never thank that person enough.

Thank goodness you werent given up on...

Yours forever

[diamondrose]

What if internet was gone forever..gasps

[Pretty Woman]

What if more people just ended their sentences BEFORE the ',but...'?

[Pixie]

What if I had never found my voice?

What if I had stayed?

I am so glad I don't have the answers to these.....I shudder to think.

[girl_dee]

what if I had came out as a young girl and lived in my own skin.

[SuperFemme]

what if sodas and fast food were deemed illegal? :detective:

[Kenna]

What if your housemate didn't share the ice cream :cookielove: :watereyes: , blamed their bean farts :fart: :eek: on a poor helpless little 8 inch tall doggie that just looks up at them with love and devotion, and didn't "back you up" when you tell your little begging doggy to get out of the kitchen? :seconddoh: :readrules:

[Lillie]

what if those hijackers changed thier minds and never got on those planes on 9/11.......what if....

[cinnamongrrl]

What if...... there IS a monster under the bed....???

[Electrocell]

What if I had never kissed my first girl?

[cinnamongrrl]

What if I had never kissed my first girl?

I guess we on the Planet wouldn't have the privilege of knowing you! :)

[cinnamongrrl]

What if the little Toyota isn't good driving in the snow tonight?? :|

[Chancie]

What if I were braver, instead of trying to do things right, and failing sometimes anyway?