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06-17-2010, 07:29 PM
I just finished this book. It took me all of three hours. It's been a long time since a book has actually affected me in some sort of a profound way.
I don't have the words for it at the moment. Other than what a fucking book!!!
And btw for those who have not read the book butch is actually a noun, a verb, and an adjective...so to be clear this isn't a thread about butch being a noun.
It was given to me today at lunch by someone who considers butch to be their gender. Butch and Femme as gender has just confused the hell out of me. After reading this book I GET IT. I really do. Yay me!
The first time we met of course, it was the topic of conversation and I was using the words the way we use them here. Hy understands those words too since hy was raised here just like I was...but what hy said was, no it's different...and hy wanted me to read this book so I could understand how it's different. So I could understand hym. (you have to read that part fast for effect cuz I'm all kinds of excited.)
Has anyone else read it? There is so much in it. There is so much, IN HERE meaning BFP specifically and all the threads, in it...it's amazing to think of it as bigger then us. US meaning hym and I, and (the collective) you and me. Like, there are other people out there that are like us...(insert spaceship icon here and look up into the sky.)
I think because I am isolated here without a B-F community, that I tend to think of this as an online phenomenon. It exists in here. If I want to think about these things I come in here. If I want to talk about gender or IDs or dynamics or emphasis on differences - this is the place.
To have someone else now, right here, right now that says they get it and not only do they get it, they get ME because we both are these strange ducks in a heard of geese that have always lived in this bizarre queerfriendlybutnotreallyinclusiveexclusive city is beyond awesome. We just can't stop talking to each other. How freaking impossible is it to find another one - in the same situation, with the same questions, with the shared experiences of knowing we weren't like anyone else here? <--rhetorical.
Ok so the actual point of this thread would be to discuss this book if you've read it. Or if you have read another book that helped you get something about butch femme or gender or yourself - spill it. I sense a reading rampage about to happen for me.
This book inspired me to buy a pair of faux snakeskin 6 inch heels. I don't know what that means yet. But it's exciting to really get in a meaningful way all that butch is and isn't, unless it is or it's not. Because we know, except we don't, even though we all talk about it, unless we don't and then it is or it isn't.
Fucking.
Brilliant.
I don't have the words for it at the moment. Other than what a fucking book!!!
And btw for those who have not read the book butch is actually a noun, a verb, and an adjective...so to be clear this isn't a thread about butch being a noun.
It was given to me today at lunch by someone who considers butch to be their gender. Butch and Femme as gender has just confused the hell out of me. After reading this book I GET IT. I really do. Yay me!
The first time we met of course, it was the topic of conversation and I was using the words the way we use them here. Hy understands those words too since hy was raised here just like I was...but what hy said was, no it's different...and hy wanted me to read this book so I could understand how it's different. So I could understand hym. (you have to read that part fast for effect cuz I'm all kinds of excited.)
Has anyone else read it? There is so much in it. There is so much, IN HERE meaning BFP specifically and all the threads, in it...it's amazing to think of it as bigger then us. US meaning hym and I, and (the collective) you and me. Like, there are other people out there that are like us...(insert spaceship icon here and look up into the sky.)
I think because I am isolated here without a B-F community, that I tend to think of this as an online phenomenon. It exists in here. If I want to think about these things I come in here. If I want to talk about gender or IDs or dynamics or emphasis on differences - this is the place.
To have someone else now, right here, right now that says they get it and not only do they get it, they get ME because we both are these strange ducks in a heard of geese that have always lived in this bizarre queerfriendlybutnotreallyinclusiveexclusive city is beyond awesome. We just can't stop talking to each other. How freaking impossible is it to find another one - in the same situation, with the same questions, with the shared experiences of knowing we weren't like anyone else here? <--rhetorical.
Ok so the actual point of this thread would be to discuss this book if you've read it. Or if you have read another book that helped you get something about butch femme or gender or yourself - spill it. I sense a reading rampage about to happen for me.
This book inspired me to buy a pair of faux snakeskin 6 inch heels. I don't know what that means yet. But it's exciting to really get in a meaningful way all that butch is and isn't, unless it is or it's not. Because we know, except we don't, even though we all talk about it, unless we don't and then it is or it isn't.
Fucking.
Brilliant.