If you're 60 or older, come join me. Let's talk, hang out, tease and support each other.

[iamkeri1]

Hi y'all,
I'd love to talk to you silver-fox butches, femmes and FTM's (or those elders of other persuasions.) I'm over sixty and feel great most of the time. I have lots of energy and lots of dreams I still hope to achieve. I also have times of sadness and pain. I'd like to have someone in my age group to talk these things over with.

Care to join me?
Many Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hello Keri,how r u doing? Im over 60 slowly geting more of a silver fox every day,been told I should dye my hair to atract women cause id look younger than I already do..I keep telling them that age is like good wine...only gets better with time.

[Greco]

Definitely agree with you there Rockinonahigh, no need for dyed
hair...what has challenged us in life is what has defined us, so
the silver is golden!

Best, Greco

[Jude]

Hi, I just re-found this forum. Joined in January and promptly forgot all about it, so I have no idea yet how to navigate my way around in here. Hope you all will start up a thread for women over 50. We're really infinitely more interesting than our younger sisters and have come to a point where we've learned some of the critical lessons in life (well, some of us). Please include me in your posts.
I need to finish my profile and add a photo -- being just old enough to be frazzled by all this high tech stuff that won't accept a pic over such and such pixels. Anyone on the east coast? I dye my hair cause it makes me feel good and I'm sticking to that story.

[Liam]

Hi, I just re-found this forum. Joined in January and promptly forgot all about it, so I have no idea yet how to navigate my way around in here. Hope you all will start up a thread for women over 50. We're really infinitely more interesting than our younger sisters and have come to a point where we've learned some of the critical lessons in life (well, some of us). Please include me in your posts.
I need to finish my profile and add a photo -- being just old enough to be frazzled by all this high tech stuff that won't accept a pic over such and such pixels. Anyone on the east coast? I dye my hair cause it makes me feel good and I'm sticking to that story.

Hi Jude, you might want to check out this thread:

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/forum/showthread.php?t=317

[Soft*Silver]

can I come in here if I am a silver-lover? :moonstars:

[AtLast]

I'm in..... 59 and 1/2 ....... counts, right?

Old dogs are good dogs!!

[Soft*Silver]

and the only kind of dog I will have! LOL

[MysticOceansFL]

Hello fellow older chatters

[Jude]

Thank you. I'll try to follow both. Someone suggested a chat room for people over 50. I'm in if it flies. Perhaps a regular meeting day and time, at least at first? Whole lot of topics that just aren't shared by our younger sisters and brothers. New opportunities, new problems.... would be terrific to have a discussion group.

[iamkeri1]

Good eventide to all you wise elders. S'up?
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Keri.well what am I up to...lets see.Yesterday I went to the last of my rehab visits, so they say for my back .The therapist said I was doing just fine but need to keep doing the exersises he gave me to do,then gave me more to do for the mid back.My appointment with the sergons is late next month,acording to rehab all I need is the right kind of help to get over the last bit of work keeping my back stronger (core muscels).I doubt any surgery is needed but may end up with the shots to block some nerves..ouch!Its never going to be like it was before but atleast better and I will be able to do more than I have in a long time.
Then I did fur kid laudry today,gave them a bath ect,ect.I swear they take as much or more time then the two legged kids I have.Oh, I am suposed to get an appointment with the elder affairs office sometimes next week about some work..paper work and such,but I have no clue as to what is on there minds cause I was just glad to hear they finaly got me something if only part time.
Today was a beautful day,sunshine but a bit warm,come on summer give it up
its time for fall.

[Blade]

If I'm lucky and the good Lord lets me live 12 more years I'll be back:hangloose:

[socialjustice_fsu]

I am 51 and I believe the best is yet to come. Although I am about 9 years from 60 I look forward to every year I age...because 'that' birthday means I am still here! I have spent many years learning, taking a step forward, two backwards, and always landed on my feet when I took a great leap of faith. I find now that I can apply all those experiences and life only gets sweeter and sweeter. I see things through a different lens now. Day by day I continue to have those 'aha' moments when all things in the physical and supernatural world seem to come together. And...mostly for the greater good. I am no way ready to close this book of life. Now is the time to really LIVE. To FEEL. To SEE. To LOVE with no restrictive conditions. I am now simply an older woman with more experience and I would not choose to rewind or fast forward the tape of life. I do find the posts so far on this thread as insightful, needed, and validating.

[AtLast]

Hello fellow older chatters

Thank you. I'll try to follow both. Someone suggested a chat room for people over 50. I'm in if it flies. Perhaps a regular meeting day and time, at least at first? Whole lot of topics that just aren't shared by our younger sisters and brothers. New opportunities, new problems.... would be terrific to have a discussion group.

I would really like a discussion/chat group for us!!

I love our younger cohorts here, but, yes, sometimes we just have things going on that are age related.

[Jude]

I would really like a discussion/chat group for us!!

I love our younger cohorts here, but, yes, sometimes we just have things going on that are age related.

_________________________________________________

Hi AtLast. Following you with interest on the other thread. I'm a very new member and still haven't figured out how all this works (pea brain here), so suggesting that you or some other more senior member set up a time and secure a chat room and let's just do it once and see if we all have a great time and see how many people show up.

Maybe anyone else interested contact me directly and I'll be sure you're notified.

Time/Date: What about an evening around 7 est. That would be 10 p.m. out west, 9 in the mountains and 8 central. Most people are up those times.

We do have very specific topics -- retirement, travel, finances, entertainment and adventure, aspirations (what we're looking for in life at this stage)............

I'd love to participate. Thanks for your enthusiasm.

[lipstixgal]

I'm 52 and that's who I am just looking for that special butch that wants to be with me!! But I feel great and don't really look like 52...

[Kobi]

Im 54 but feeling 60ish this week. Can I stay?

Would love to get to know some folks my age. And would love an olders chat. Tho if memory serves 7pm est would be 4pm pacific, 5 mountain, and 6 central.

Ok back to Patriots and Jets. Patriots will win tho.

[AtLast]

Amazon.com: Back to Basics: A Butch/Femme Anthology (9781931513357): Therese Szymanski: Books

Might be a book some want to take a look at.

[Jude]

Im 54 but feeling 60ish this week. Can I stay?

Would love to get to know some folks my age. And would love an olders chat. Tho if memory serves 7pm est would be 4pm pacific, 5 mountain, and 6 central.

Ok back to Patriots and Jets. Patriots will win tho.

Ha ha ha ha ha, just goes to show my age. Us older women get confused all the time!
10 p.m. EST
9 central
9 mountain
7 pacific

[Jude]

Im 54 but feeling 60ish this week. Can I stay?

Would love to get to know some folks my age. And would love an olders chat. Tho if memory serves 7pm est would be 4pm pacific, 5 mountain, and 6 central.

Ok back to Patriots and Jets. Patriots will win tho.

Ha ha ha ha ha, just goes to show my age. Us older women get confused all the time!
10 p.m. EST
9 central
9 mountain
7 pacific

OH CRAP :seeingstars:
I meant 8 mountain.

[iamkeri1]

I would be very interested in the chat/discussion group. 10pm eastern sounds good to me, But please not on Thursdays, I have another great meeting I go to that night.

Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

I say 60 plus is the most sexy!

[vabzee]

So, did the discussion group ever materialize? If so, what, where & when?

[Jet]

I'm 52 and that's who I am just looking for that special butch that wants to be with me!! But I feel great and don't really look like 52...

I thought this was for people in their 60s.
Confused.

[Rockinonahigh]

Over the last fue weeks I have been leting my hair grow...now dont anyone have a panic attack,after really short hair for years I desided to grow it longer so now its almost down to my coller so by next spring it should have filled out and gotten the deep waves it use to have.Short featherd back on the sides...full on top so the waves will come on..the same in the back...prolly going to get about a tad longer than shoulder length is what im looking for.What superised me is how much silver im geting and where..like 1 1/2inch wide strips and as long as its growing,looking pretty good I think.

[Rockinonahigh]

I'm 52 and that's who I am just looking for that special butch that wants to be with me!! But I feel great and don't really look like 52...

Welcome and any age cose to 60 or above this is the place to be...

[iamkeri1]

You go! Rockin! Love that long hair!
Smooches,
KeriOver the last fue weeks I have been leting my hair grow...now dont anyone have a panic attack,after really short hair for years I desided to grow it longer so now its almost down to my coller so by next spring it should have filled out and gotten the deep waves it use to have.Short featherd back on the sides...full on top so the waves will come on..the same in the back...prolly going to get about a tad longer than shoulder length is what im looking for.What superised me is how much silver im geting and where..like 1 1/2inch wide strips and as long as its growing,looking pretty good I think.

[iamkeri1]

Just wanted to say "Happy day" to all of you. Its beautiful here in the sunshine state. The temp is a little cooler than normal at this time of year, and the sun is VERY bright. Just the kind of weather that drew me to Fla. in the first place.

I am winging my way to Las Vegas this weekend, to celebrate my birthday and to meet for the first time in person someone who has become, well let's just say 'Important" in my life. Scary, exciting, ... scary, exciting. I feel both of those things strongly. Life continues to bestow new blessings upon me and I am very grateful for them.

As I look at the calendar, I just can not believe that it is November. This has been the fastest year! Slow down, time!

Sunny smooches to you all
Keri

[vabzee]

Take the risk and have a good time. You know how to be careful and you know nothing can happen if you don't take a leap or jump or whatever.

[Rockinonahigh]

U go girl,a birthday trip to Vegas is fantastic with endless possablities.Happy bday to UUUUUUUUUUUUU>

[iamkeri1]

Garsh folks, :o Thanks so much for the well wishes and support.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

It's Christmas/holiday season right now. Many of us Elder folk find ourselves alone at this time. I want to wish you all a wonderful holiday season. Let's spend some time talking to each other. Let's bring some love and support in to each others lives.

Here's my story. Christmas has been pretty awful for me since my darling died unexpectedly three days after Christmas in 2003. We had adopted four kids and the oldest was 15 when he died. we began to change some of our family traditions because doing things we had always done was so painful without him. We always opened presents on Christmas eve, which we still do, but Christmas day was a lazy day where we re-examined all our gifts, played with new toys and watched sappy old christmas movies together, while working together to make a fantastic Christmas dinner. Now what we do on CHristmas days is to go to one of the many dinner shows in Orlando. Each year it seems that someone has a "half off" special, and that seems to guide us to the show we will see that year, LOL!!

This has become something that we look forward to, and it relieves us of the strain of cooking at all on Christmas day. Usually we have a friend or two from out of town, which helps to provide a distaction. Last year my friend from Michigan came to visit and we had a ball baking cookies all day until it was time to go to the show. The kids followed the sit around and watch Christmas movie tradition, and every once in a while would slip in to the kitchen to steal more cookies!!! It was a wonder we could eat at all when it came time to go to the dinner show.

This year we are going to the magic show at WonderWorks in Orlando. We are all looking forward to it. A "new" tradition that is likely to stick with them long after they have families of their own!!

Also this year, I have a new love in my life. We will not be able to spend the holidays together as we live across the continent from each other, but we will talk a lot, and dream of sharing a home together by this time next year. Life can still bring you miracles!!!

How are all you other oldies doing during the holidays?

Mistletoe Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Merry Christmas Everyone!

The kids and I are going to Orlando tonight. We're going to the dinner show - a magic show - at Wonderworks. I'm looking forward to it.

Hope y'all are doing something fun today,
Hugs and smooches,
Keri

:smileyXmasTree::snowysmiley::cc::anothersnowman:

[iamkeri1]

Guess I'll just say "HI!" I had a long post all typed up, but I lost it somehow ... poop!

Talk to me, peeps.
Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

OK, tease me..... go ahead! I am a queer elder crone!

:fastdraq:

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Keri,Rockin hear.Ive been down with the flue,it is no picknick to deal with..I even had a flue shot but got it anyway.I was told by the doc thats the reason I dont have a really full on case of it..you coulda fooled me cause I feel like I got run over by the bus.Had it for nearly a week,been medicated to the 9's..still on one med for a day or 2 more.I still have a wet cough but way less than I had.Work is bout to have a cow cause im not there..but hey im not going to go back till im well...dont want a relaps.My fur kids have been takeing care of the old man as best they can,they do better than most ppl do any way.How have u been doing???Goin to Little Rock..HUmmmmm??

[cinderella]

I turned 68 last December. Most times I feel 19, but today - and alot lately - I'm feeling tired. But, I think it's emotional. I am - at this late stage of the game - travelling to TX to meet my sweetie for the first time. I had totatally given up, and never dreamed this would ever happen to me again, but, there you have it! When you least expect it, that ol' rascal cupid is up to his old tricks! So hey, if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone! Cheers, silver foxes and diamond doyenes, Hope springs eternal, so keep the chins up! lol

I hope much success to this thread. I will be popping in from time to time.

Would love to discuss what/how those of you who are retired are enjoying it, or how you're feeling about it. Totally retired? Semi-retired? Or still honing away at that grindstone?

[iamkeri1]

OK, tease me..... go ahead! I am a queer elder crone!

:fastdraq:

And you are such an adorable crone in that hat!!! You know I love hats!

Great to see you here A L. I'd love to here more about the dances you were talking about in the Saturday night thread. Do you know how they got started?

Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Hi Rockin,
So sorry you've been sick. Flu is bad. I'm glad you're on the mend. Fur kids are such a comfort when you fell sick or down, aren't they? And they don't get the flu, so you don't have to worry about making them sick with what you have.

Little Rock sounds great, but we'll have to see what happens. I'm chicken to go to things like that alone. Arkansas is such a beautiful state too. I'll bet it is gorgeous in the fall.
Get better quick!
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

I turned 68 last December. Most times I feel 19, but today - and alot lately - I'm feeling tired. But, I think it's emotional. I am - at this late stage of the game - travelling to TX to meet my sweetie for the first time. I had totatally given up, and never dreamed this would ever happen to me again, but, there you have it! When you least expect it, that ol' rascal cupid is up to his old tricks! So hey, if it can happen to me, it can happen to anyone! Cheers, silver foxes and diamond doyenes, Hope springs eternal, so keep the chins up! lol

I hope much success to this thread. I will be popping in from time to time.

Would love to discuss what/how those of you who are retired are enjoying it, or how you're feeling about it. Totally retired? Semi-retired? Or still honing away at that grindstone?

Cinderella,
Look at you girl!!! I hope you have a fabulous time. Love is not all there is to life, but it makes life so much more fun and thrilling. I love that phrase you use, "diamond doyenes", sounds sexy.

Thanks for joining us. Much joy to you in meeting your tejano.
Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

Whoops, not quite 60 yet..... will be March 22. I shall return!!! :)

:blink:

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Rockin,
So sorry you've been sick. Flu is bad. I'm glad you're on the mend. Fur kids are such a comfort when you fell sick or down, aren't they? And they don't get the flu, so you don't have to worry about making them sick with what you have.

Little Rock sounds great, but we'll have to see what happens. I'm chicken to go to things like that alone. Arkansas is such a beautiful state too. I'll bet it is gorgeous in the fall.
Get better quick!
Smooches,
Keri


Now Keri,I havent been to Little Rock either,so there.Im throwing caution to the wind,packing my bags then takeing off the the goings on in Little Rock.Sometimes ya got to just go.

[cinderella]

Thank you for the well wishes, Miss Keri. Btw, my guy is not a 'Tejano', he is a Puerto Rican (as I am) dude living in TX, originally from Boston (I am a native Newyawka, lol), so we're both from the east coast.

As for 'diamond doyenes', it is meant with great respect and admiration for ladies who know the score, and have lived to tell about it. ;)

Cinderella,
Look at you girl!!! I hope you have a fabulous time. Love is not all there is to life, but it makes life so much more fun and thrilling. I love that phrase you use, "diamond doyenes", sounds sexy.

Thanks for joining us. Much joy to you in meeting your tejano.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Cinderella,
It is certainly a small world out there... and where loves happens is absolutely astonishing. Have the best time!
Smooches to you both,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Rockin,
I'm proud of you for doing something that is scary to you (me too.) I hope you have a wonderful time. Stepping out of our comfort zones is so hard!
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Hi Plenties!
Just popping in to "hi!" to y'all. I hope you had a great weekend, and wish you a happy week ahead. I spent most of the week-end working, but I did manage to catch a flick on Friday. Saw the adult comedy "Paul" about an extraterrestrial who had been held captive on earth for 60 years. It was pretty funny, but if you dislike the F-word, you'll have to keep your ears covered for most of the movie, LOL.

Cinderella - are you in Texas? Hope you are wrapped in the arms of love. Let us hear from you.

Smooches to all my peeps.
Keri

[mustangjeano]

Hi everyone
I am new to bfp and glad to see this thread for us over 60 folks. Thanks Keri for starting it. I look forward to getting aquainted here.
Jeano

[Gina]

I am over 60. At this stage in my life - many changes are taking place. I am moving back home after being gone for 8 years. I am so looking forward to it...:) I hope you all have blessed days and nights and remember to stop and smell the roses...and dance...:)

[AtLast]

Just have to say that although this 60 year old body has its creaks, it still kicks ass!

[iamkeri1]

Hey A L
You're all grown up now (not!!!) So you can join us here in the "big kids" thread. Welcome again - you were always welcome.
Smooches,
Keri

[Gina]

I will be headed back to Kansas in a U-haul...lol!!! I want all the younger people in here to know what lies ahead for them (well at least some)..I am 65 years old and notice that sometimes when I cough, I pee. I have to take Claritin for allergies (not an age thing - but they didn't hit me until my late 50's)..Sometimes I will have an ache in my knees or hips or back - never used to be there, damn it. One thing for certain - stay active - all of you! I love to travel which is no secret - but if you want to travel when you are older - be prepared for anything to happen...I look in my mirror and wonder who the hell that is in there looking back at me! Go away and bring back the non-wrinkled version! Okay then - at least let me keep my teeth and eyes? Enjoy the ride and the journey!

[iamkeri1]

I hope that Kansas is a place you truly want to go to, and that you have totally a lot of fun whe you get there.

So why are you moving?

Enquiring minds want to know, LOL.

Smoooches,
Keri

[Gina]

I hope that Kansas is a place you truly want to go to, and that you have totally a lot of fun whe you get there.

So why are you moving?

Enquiring minds want to know, LOL.

Smoooches,
Keri

I lived there for many years and still own a house there - with a pool...It's going to really feel nice when it gets hot..:)

[Rockinonahigh]

Morning to u'all on this sunny sunday morning,I hope everyone is doing well with the spring season finaly comeing in.Finaly I got over the flue(I think) and have gone back to work wich is for some reason,just plane crazy.
Yeaterday I started spring cleaning,and today im pooped out from it all tho I still have some to get done,just glad its only little things.I may even take a nap sometimes today cause I know the comeing work week is gonna be a hard one.

[iamkeri1]

OOh Rockin! You had that flu for a long time. Wow I hope I don't have what you had! I've been sick a week as it is, and I want it gone NOW!

Hope your Monday is not as tough as you think it will be.

Gina,
May the road be smooth before ou and your U-haul door stay locked. :carride:

Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

Hummmm..... had a dream last night that a grand 50-something femme broke into my house and took liberties!! Now if she would materialize as real!!!

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Kiri
My flue is much better than it had been,at least I can get thrue the day pretty well.I just hope I dont catch the mess again,ya know I hadnt had a flue shot in years but as I work in elder care I am required to have one yearly..then I got the flue...nasty bug it is.
How have u been doing,well I hope.
Rock

[FemmeKat1]

Hola everyone -- I'm soooooo very excited to see this thread here. I am somewhat frustrated with the lack of older Butches available and it seems to me the dating pool dimishes after age 55 (or somewhere around there) for me. I"ve noticed that there are a whole lotta butches who are seeking younger femmes and younger femmes wanting older Butches, so where does that leave this 63 year old femme but wondering if it is an age-ism issue. I've been out lesbian since 76 and have always enjoyed the company of wonderful Butches over the years and the lifestyle that goes along with it. I am very versed on the "dance" between B/Fs and love the art of seduction, etc. I found that younger Butches do not have the same form of reference that I do and have not found those relationships truly satisfying. I also found it frustrating that younger femmes want to be part of this thread too. The pool of availability was much wider when I was younger, so I guess I'm not delighted to see that and kind of verifies my thinking. I'm bringing this to the table for discussion, your observations, etc. My intention is not to be critical, just frustrated with my own journey over the past several years and wanted to give a voice to this issue. Thoughts anyone?

Be at peace all

[AtLast]

Hola everyone -- I'm soooooo very excited to see this thread here. I am somewhat frustrated with the lack of older Butches available and it seems to me the dating pool dimishes after age 55 (or somewhere around there) for me. I"ve noticed that there are a whole lotta butches who are seeking younger femmes and younger femmes wanting older Butches, so where does that leave this 63 year old femme but wondering if it is an age-ism issue. I've been out lesbian since 76 and have always enjoyed the company of wonderful Butches over the years and the lifestyle that goes along with it. I am very versed on the "dance" between B/Fs and love the art of seduction, etc. I found that younger Butches do not have the same form of reference that I do and have not found those relationships truly satisfying. I also found it frustrating that younger femmes want to be part of this thread too. The pool of availability was much wider when I was younger, so I guess I'm not delighted to see that and kind of verifies my thinking. I'm bringing this to the table for discussion, your observations, etc. My intention is not to be critical, just frustrated with my own journey over the past several years and wanted to give a voice to this issue. Thoughts anyone?

Be at peace all

WELCOME!!

Much of what you posted feels the same for me as a 60 year old, single butch. Throughout the 4 years I have been a member on the B-F sites, I have felt some ageism. And that the dating pool for me is just not very big at all. I prefer women near my age. I do, however, value the younger members and their take on things, but can't see myself involved with a lot younger than myself.


On the other hand, there are many more femmes and butches over 50 than I thought there would be. But, most are partnered. Although, I like the interaction because there are those commonalities we share.

I think it is important to keep the age boundary in this thread. Many threads throughout the site try to create a particular space- BDSM, Trans, Butch, Femme, etc. simply to have a place to relate within boundary desired.

[Greco]

AtLastHome, I agree with you about the importance of keeping the age boundaries with this thread and as I say that I feel a bit hypocritical because I'm not 60. I am coming up on 59 years soon very soon. So let me know if I'm over stepping the boundaries myself

I am in the process of "seeing" what I want to create in my life for this 6st decade of my life feeling grateful to be meeting it clear eyed healthy

At present I am not dating, nor wanting to feel I want to move into this decade alone not lonely love solitude that being said I have met a lovely lady but the time is not right yet for me

Am a deeply private person so I'll stop for now FemmeKat 1 welcome and the best to you and all who are seeking a special person in their lives.

Greco






WELCOME!!

Much of what you posted feels the same for me as a 60 year old, single butch. Throughout the 4 years I have been a member on the B-F sites, I have felt some ageism. And that the dating pool for me is just not very big at all. I prefer women near my age. I do, however, value the younger members and their take on things, but can't see myself involved with a lot younger than myself.


On the other hand, there are many more femmes and butches over 50 than I thought there would be. But, most are partnered. Although, I like the interaction because there are those commonalities we share.

I think it is important to keep the age boundary in this thread. Many threads throughout the site try to create a particular space- BDSM, Trans, Butch, Femme, etc. simply to have a place to relate within boundary desired.

[AtLast]

AtLastHome, I agree with you about the importance of keeping the age boundaries with this thread and as I say that I feel a bit hypocritical because I'm not 60. I am coming up on 59 years soon very soon. So let me know if I'm over stepping the boundaries myself

I am in the process of "seeing" what I want to create in my life for this 6st decade of my life feeling grateful to be meeting it clear eyed healthy

At present I am not dating, nor wanting to feel I want to move into this decade alone not lonely love solitude that being said I have met a lovely lady but the time is not right yet for me

Am a deeply private person so I'll stop for now FemmeKat 1 welcome and the best to you and all who are seeking a special person in their lives.

Greco

Well heck- 59 is way close! I have more of a problem with a whole lot younger than that. Hummm... wonder if it would be OK to have a "pre-grace age period?"

I hear you about timing- really important. I would welcome someone in my life again, but am needing to get back on my feet physically and financially. Feel like I am far too stressed to be present for someone.

[Greco]

Well heck- 59 is way close! I have more of a problem with a whole lot younger than that. Hummm... wonder if it would be OK to have a "pre-grace age period?"

I hear you about timing- really important. I would welcome someone in my life again, but am needing to get back on my feet physically and financially. Feel like I am far too stressed to be present for someone.

AtLastHome, I love the idea of the "pre-grace" period. We'll see what Keri thinks of this idea.

In any case, yes, I understand about needing to get back on one's feet financially, and physically. For me it is psychically getting to my own place in life alone after many years with a beautiful soul of a woman.

As I've said, I have met a lovely Lady who I have strong feelings for, but I know I must wait for a period of time where I can "see" her, and be with her, and not be in the past, though I carry-on with enduring memories of a great life and love.

I'm saying a lot this evening but feel drawn to share with you, and with others on this thread.

I look forward to continuing the discussion of how it is to age gracefully, healthily. Thank you AtLastHome for your sharing.

Greco

[iamkeri1]

Greco
I hope you and others close to age 60 as well as those who are over 60 will feel welcome here. We have so much in common to share with each other. Let's share it here. We have so many ways to support each other, (and teach each other what lies ahead), I hope lots of it takes place here.

While the goal of this thread is not necessarily to meet the next love of our life, it would please me if that happened for some of us. (Though I would like most of the romance stuff to be conducted through PMs to each other rather than on this thread,LOL) Some of us like folks a little older and some like folks a little younger, so older than 60's is fine and younger than sixties is fine too.

Welcome and please come back frequently
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

FemmeCat,
Welcome to the site. Come back often,
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Hi Everyone!
Hope you are all having a fabulous week-end. I have been lazing around all day, but have to go take a bath now. Going to Orlando to check out a van I may want to buy. It's quite old, but has lots of handicapper equipment in it, and my old van is pretty well dead. I have nothing I can drive independantly right now, and would like to be able to get back on the road. Also money is tight - that's why I'm looking at this old of a vehicle.

Well if nothing else, it will be a nice drive to Orlando.

Get out there and DO SOMETHING FUN Y'ALL!!! Then come back and tell us what you did.

It's Memorial Day week-end ... what are y'all doing to commemorate it?

Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi everyone happy memorial day weekend to u all.This that are/have been going one around hear are much the same besides work.Last night I played my useal pool league night and won my game...seems like im on a bit of a streak hear..keep on wining them as I can,my team captain said ourteam will play in the city tournaments in july so there is some money to be won and u bet I will be doing my best to get some of it.Also there is going to be a singles tournament that I have been waiting forever to finaly meet the requirements to play in (I did and will play) again chunk of cash is in the pot.
Tomorrow im haveing a fish fry hear gonna boil some crawfish to with the fixings..should be fun.Im off monday,u can bet im gonna layze away the day.Kerri goodluck with the new old van..hope it works out.

[Greco]

Keri,

Best of luck with the van, and that it will fit your needs.

And have a good Memorial Day everyone.

Greco



Hi Everyone!
Hope you are all having a fabulous week-end. I have been lazing around all day, but have to go take a bath now. Going to Orlando to check out a van I may want to buy. It's quite old, but has lots of handicapper equipment in it, and my old van is pretty well dead. I have nothing I can drive independantly right now, and would like to be able to get back on the road. Also money is tight - that's why I'm looking at this old of a vehicle.

Well if nothing else, it will be a nice drive to Orlando.

Get out there and DO SOMETHING FUN Y'ALL!!! Then come back and tell us what you did.

It's Memorial Day week-end ... what are y'all doing to commemorate it?

Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Hi Everyone, Happy Saturday to you all.

I decided to nix the van. It was pretty much in good shape, but 21 years old. Good thing I decided against it, because something has come up that will likely take a good chunk of the money I would have used on the van. For now I will just continue as I have been doing. I have a van I can drive once I get in. I just have to have someone else put my scooter on the lift. Cuts the spontaneity out of my movements somewhat, but I've been surviving. Also I live in a little town where I can pretty much do everything on my scooter. The bank and post office are close at hand, away. I actually love running around town on my scooter - I never got to ride a bike when I was a kid, so it fills in that gap. It works out pretty well, I just miss being totally independant. Maybe the universe is teaching me a lesson that it is OK for those who love me to help me. I have always had a hard time taking help from anyone, though I constantly help and offer help to others. Patience grasshopper, patience!

Y'all get out there and cut your grass - it's looking a trifle long. Then grab a cool refreshing drink of your choice and do something fun. I plan to get my hair cut, and then go swimming. It's 88 degrees out right now!

Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Do I wish we had 88 degree weather hear,it has gone for low to mid 80's to the mid to high 90's nearly over night..yeaterday it was 101 with the heet index..Hot..hot ..hot.
U r lucky to have a palce to swim,the only places I can go is the "Y" and only in the evenings....noooooo not me in a pool of crazy kids.WIsh I could join ahealth club with a pool with out breaking the bank.
Cutting the yard is a snap hear with the John Deer mini tractor I have with bush hogg atatchment...just buzz cut that grass.
I get how u feel about acepting help from ppl,I try to do as much as I can on my own even though at times I could use a hand now and then.

[iamkeri1]

Rockin
The heat has definetly settled in here. It's been in the high ninetys for about five days now. Not unusual for Florida, but a little earlier than usual.


I am lucky to have a pool. I have a great house in a shitty neighborhood. Well, it's an industrial neighborhood, so the "view" is not great. Great house, though, which is why I stay. Also because it is a racially mixed neighborhood and my racially mixed kids are the norm here. A few years ago I rented this house and bought a house in a beautiful neighborhood in the next town. It was obvious from day one that we were not welcome there. I got a complaint call about my sons at least once a week. They were hanging out by the gazebo at the main drive. They were sitting on a bench down by the lake. They were playing video games in the clubhouse. They actually changed the clubhouse rules to keep them out. They raised the age kids could be alone in there from 14 to 16 and then to 18 when one of the boys turned 16. People were constantly telling me how wonderful my daughter is (she's blond with blue eyes), but the boys were not wanted. After about 18 months, when my tenants moved out. we moved back "to the old neighborhood." Now I have a racialy mixed grandchild, so I guess we'll be staying here as long as any of the kids are at home. It is after all. a great house.

So what have you peeps been up to? Are any of you off work for the summer? Any travel plans in the offing? Any relatives on the way?

Speak to me,
Smooches,
Keri

[janii]

Thrilled to find this thread. Nice to know that their are people here that I can relate with. I recently moved back to Kentucky from Kansas (hey Gina) after being gone for 30 years and do not know anyone except for family here. Don't even know where to look. I am 60 but don't feel it most of the time althought I recently had a knee replacement and oh how I am feeling it, but it ls getting better and I am back to work. Looking forward to meeting all of you.

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Kiri,yes its hot hear all of 100 today,I wont even gess at the heet index cause I my faint away from being out most of the day.What I did today was join a wellness center so I can swim,use beter equipment than what I have,and also beable to just go when I wan to most of the time.

[Greco]

Welcome janii

Greco

[janii]

Hey Greco......Thanks for the welcome. Hello everyone. Hope this finds everyone well and in good spirts. I am in the process of reading all of the post but have not finish yet, but I did see talk of starting a chat session did this happen if so is it still happening:byebye:

[iamkeri1]

Janii
Hi Welcome to the thread; sorry I missed you earlier. Sorry to say the chat idea kind of fell by the wayside. I for one would still like to see it happen though. Knee replacement is very painful I have heard. Glad to hear you are feeling well enough to go back to work - hope you will soon be out dancing.

Tell us a little bit about yourself, if you feel like sharing.

Hi everyone. Glad to see you popping in fairly regularly.
Smooches,
Keri

[janii]

Janii
Hi Welcome to the thread; sorry I missed you earlier. Sorry to say the chat idea kind of fell by the wayside. I for one would still like to see it happen though. Knee replacement is very painful I have heard. Glad to hear you are feeling well enough to go back to work - hope you will soon be out dancing.

Tell us a little bit about yourself, if you feel like sharing.

Hi everyone. Glad to see you popping in fairly regularly.
Smooches,
Keri
I am 60yo recently moved back to Louisville Ky having lived in Kansas for almost 30 years. Moved back to help my son with my granddaughter as well as to get to know her better and have her get to know me since I had only gotten to see her a few times. Remember a few folks on the Planet from another site I once belonged to, and Gina is a very good friend that I miss very.

[Rockinonahigh]

BUMP,BUMP.....Helllllllloooooooo anybody home??!!! Just thought I would stop by and see what was up.This rounds up my first week at the wellness center,holy gay am I one tired person...not a part of me dosent feel wimpy so it must have done some good.Its been so long since I used real exersise equipment I cant tell ya.Looks like all the crazy questionairs werent made for me...looks like im on the edge of everything,wich is good on one hand but confuseing to my personal trainer.All is well though but I wish I could remember the names of the ppl I went to school with that are there,I made friends in school but over the years names and faces have left me..kind of outta sight outta mind.Then there is the cute red head at the desk who knowsme but for the life of me I know not where..Today I went in the office to sign in then get a locker key she handed me the key then ask if I needed help...she wasnt talking about finding the locker I can ashure u..not with that look.Gess I sitll got "it",whatever "it" is,to bad she is half my age.

[iamkeri1]

WOO WOO! Rockin! In a few months you'll be all buffed out and even more women will be offering you help you find what you're looking for. LOL!

Still here in Florida instead of on the way to Michigan as a business problem occurred to delay me. The heat is incredible 99 one day this week and 100 yesterday!

Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Kiri,today we are haveing a second fantastic rainy,cloudy day thats is 85,yesterday was 77,I dont care how this happened but it is welcome after so many days of 101heet.
I have no idea how buff I will be but I will be a lot lighter if at all possable.Today I went to put out a fue job apps( still got the other one but time to move on if I can)I put on my suit...lo and be hold I thought my pants were going to fall off,I didnt have another pair of grey dress pants so I wore them any way.How did I do this,beleave it or not its the diabetic diet im on plus the near daily workouts.I thought I wouldnt have any energy with out all the carbs,wrong..yes, it is an ajustment but my body has ajusted and I feel great.THe thing thas has helped is haveing a test meeter and useing it three times or more times a week to check my sugar count,at first it was 103 then 104 then 101 today was a perfect 85,with a metter I can keep a check on if in processing carbs or not if not cut back till I do.It has taken close to two weeks to get to this point.

[iamkeri1]

I'm rootin' for you Rockin!!!
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Bump!Bump! Helloooooo how is every one,mighty quiet in hear.Whats going on this weekend with u all?

[janii]

Doing nothing here I am off tonight but working the weekend as well as the 4th. Have a fun and safe holiday weekend everyone.:fireworks:

[iamkeri1]

Happy holidays everyone!!!!!
Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

Bump!Bump! Helloooooo how is every one,mighty quiet in hear.Whats going on this weekend with u all?

Yeah, let's make some noise!!

My weekend is at home and a small neighborhood 4th festival. Good eats and local artisians and some good music!

[Rockinonahigh]

Its quiet sofar in the neighborhood,we wre haveing a fireworks ban cause at the moment its 101 outside,the whole state is dry as tender.Im spending the weekend hideing in the house staying very close to the a.c.

[iamkeri1]

We have been having (thank the universe!) a lot of rain, so the fireworks are on. The little town I live in is very active at holidays. Down at the rec center, they are having a little 4th of July Festival with fireworks out over the two lakes that are central to town. Don't know who if any of the kids will be here, but those of us who are will be down at the park to watch the fireworks - I love them - OOOPs the neighbors are starting the fireworks off early - I hear them out the window as I am typing.

Happy 4th y'all!
Smooches,
Keri

[AtLast]

Its quiet sofar in the neighborhood,we wre haveing a fireworks ban cause at the moment its 101 outside,the whole state is dry as tender.Im spending the weekend hideing in the house staying very close to the a.c.

Yikes! I always worry about fires over the 4th. So many idiots that do their own. And that is so nuts as there are beautiful fireworks all across the SF Bay. One of the best places to go and see them is acyually my local dog park. It is huge, has tables and several benches and looks right over to the SF skyline. Perfect! Lots of room for people to plop down and there are even some public BBQ's there.

Tomorrow is going to be very warm here- unusually so. I hope people just go to the public fireworks and not do stupid things. We had a fire a few blocks up from me on a hillside a couple of days ago due to kids and fireworks. It could have spread to homes quite easily.

I bet you will be by the ac! But I hope you have a good weekend nonetheless!

[Rockinonahigh]

When they do have fireworks I usely would like to call the popo on a neighbor on the corner cause he dosent just pop regular fireworks he gets the big stuff that shouldnt be used in a place with so many houses as hear,last year he set his own yard on fire and nearly the house cause he was careless.The next day several of us had to take our fur kids to the vet for nervous shakes..my pug wont eat for days after a fireworks holliday,this year I am armed with something to calm both a bit.
The best place to watch fireworks is on the park way down by the river,the casinos all pop them from a barge in the river so ists quite a show.This year they had an indoor party that was just as good as the one with fire works cause I hear thay gave out cash vouchers thst rainged fron ten bucks to 500,it was one of those swipe the players card to see what u got things.
Have a happy forth my friend.

[mustangjeano]

Up here in this Northern Ca. farming community the fireworks show is at the fairgrounds but there are also fireworks stands all over town where people can buy fireworks for their own use. I wish California would outlaw fireworks except for celebrations done by pros in safe locations--Ca, is just too dry and lots of fires are started by firworks every year. I always stay close to home on the fourth because I worry about neighbors setting loud stuff off (or shooting their guns) and spooking the horses. It is now a little past midnight and someone close by is already setting off firecrackers. I will probably go to the neighbors across the street for a bar-b-que. Hope everyone has a great 4th.
Jeano

[Sweet Bliss]

Can anyone recommend a good alternative to a hibachi grill?? I loved mine, finally lost it moving long ago.

My hands are badly damaged from over use, and although I want to have another hibachi, I know I will not be able to pick it up, let alone move it around all summer or winter while camping. I would prefer something tougher than a cheepy Wally World one/or two use grill, the kind that look disposable. But it needs to be light enough for me to pick up and carry in the same day.

Does any one have other ideas for BBQ-ing that maybe don't use a BBQ grill per se?

Anyone wanna share how they found alternative methods to do "whatever" around the house or garage or where ever?? I love my grabber, don't get the cheepy one, you will spend more time cussing than picking up. But now I have to use both hands or wait for someone to help me..... btw, cats are no help in this area.......:glasses:

Thanks in advance

[clay]

Hey Bliss:
How about one of the many, many models of "Tail Gater" grills. Those have to be utilitarian, lightweight, and easily folded and packed away! I am not sure where to look, but maybe google tailgating grills..and see???Good luck, hon! ClayCan anyone recommend a good alternative to a hibachi grill?? I loved mine, finally lost it moving long ago.

My hands are badly damaged from over use, and although I want to have another hibachi, I know I will not be able to pick it up, let alone move it around all summer or winter while camping. I would prefer something tougher than a cheepy Wally World one/or two use grill, the kind that look disposable. But it needs to be light enough for me to pick up and carry in the same day.

Does any one have other ideas for BBQ-ing that maybe don't use a BBQ grill per se?

Anyone wanna share how they found alternative methods to do "whatever" around the house or garage or where ever?? I love my grabber, don't get the cheepy one, you will spend more time cussing than picking up. But now I have to use both hands or wait for someone to help me..... btw, cats are no help in this area.......:glasses:

Thanks in advance

[clay]

Hello all you silver foxes! Hi Keri! This is an awesome thread! Thanks for starting it! I have subscribed to it! Looks like it has been quiet lately! Maybe we can get folks back in and start it back up hot and heavy again!!!! <smile>
Keri, I have spoken with you on the Floridian Thread! I was in Jax...but have recently had to move back to SC! My doctor is here and I will be having an Out Pt. surgical procedure in the next couple months! This is where my deceased wife and I lived for 15 years! I have been "widowed" for 2.75 years....:(.
I have enjoyed following everyone's posts here! I trust this will find everyone well and having some great days! Looking forward to seeing more posts and making new friends!!! Have a great day!!! Clay

[msW8ing]

Can anyone recommend a good alternative to a hibachi grill?? I loved mine, finally lost it moving long ago.

My hands are badly damaged from over use, and although I want to have another hibachi, I know I will not be able to pick it up, let alone move it around all summer or winter while camping. I would prefer something tougher than a cheepy Wally World one/or two use grill, the kind that look disposable. But it needs to be light enough for me to pick up and carry in the same day.

Thanks in advance

Hope this helps.. http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/185-3850827-5028447?asin=B000BPEE4M&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=|B000BPEE4M&CPNG=sports&ci_gpa=pla&ci_sku=B000BPEE4M&ci_kw={keyword}&ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001

[AtLast]

Where the hell is that rocking chair? Today, I need it!!

:sunglass:

[Sweet Bliss]

Where the hell is that rocking chair? Today, I need it!!

:sunglass:

MMMM, what I would do for my own rocker again.... omg, just got a flash of Granny on the back of that old beat up pick up on Beverly Hillbillies, lmao, omg, am I REALLY that OLD???!!!

hee hee hee!!!

Hmmmm, where can I find a folding rocker to take camping??? Back to Target I go, thank you MsW8ing!

[msW8ing]

MMMM, what I would do for my own rocker again.... omg, just got a flash of Granny on the back of that old beat up pick up on Beverly Hillbillies, lmao, omg, am I REALLY that OLD???!!!

hee hee hee!!!

Hmmmm, where can I find a folding rocker to take camping??? Back to Target I go, thank you MsW8ing!

Here ya go. I miss camping so much. I'm so jealous. http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/178-5737993-1296936?asin=B004C477QU&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=|B004C477QU&CPNG=patio%20garden&ci_gpa=pla&ci_sku=B004C477QU&ci_kw={keyword}&ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001

[Sweet Bliss]

Here ya go. I miss camping so much. I'm so jealous. http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/178-5737993-1296936?asin=B004C477QU&AFID=Google_PLA_df&LNM=|B004C477QU&CPNG=patio%20garden&ci_gpa=pla&ci_sku=B004C477QU&ci_kw={keyword}&ref=tgt_adv_XSG10001

They are out of stock, BUT will start nagging my local Target stores...

Thanks!:cherry:

[Gina]

I am 60yo recently moved back to Louisville Ky having lived in Kansas for almost 30 years. Moved back to help my son with my granddaughter as well as to get to know her better and have her get to know me since I had only gotten to see her a few times. Remember a few folks on the Planet from another site I once belonged to, and Gina is a very good friend that I miss very.


Aww - missing you too !!!! Shay told me about your son - I am praying and waiting to hear from you...(f)

[clay]

Hi Lofters....hope to see this thread going again...it is a lovely thread!!! SC here....morning Ms. Gina....smiles...

[janii]

Have not been on the sight for a while. Hope everyone is doing well. Did caught up on all the posts that I missed. TGIF just let me make it through this night than 2 days off. I am looking so forward to them....Hey Gina everythinf went well with my son he has some blockage so they started him on new meds, now if he would just listen to the doctor...Love and miss you I have got to get back to kansas for a visit.Everyone have a great weekend:bow:

[Gina]

[QUOTE=janii;433436]Have not been on the sight for a while. Hope everyone is doing well. Did caught up on all the posts that I missed. TGIF just let me make it through this night than 2 days off. I am looking so forward to them....Hey Gina everythinf went well with my son he has some blockage so they started him on new meds, now if he would just listen to the doctor...Love and miss you I have got to get back to kansas for a visit.Everyone have a great weekend:bow:[/QUOT


Hey Lady - it was great talking to you! Okay - so next bash we are so there!!!
:phonegab:

[iamkeri1]

So Happy to see this thread pop up again. How are all you eldrs doing?

Sunday was my 64th birthday. Yikes! Whoever thought I would live this long?


Give me your answer, fill in a form, mine forever more
Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I'm sixty-four?

Smooches,
Keri

[mustangjeano]

Keri, Congratulations on your upcoming 64th B-day. Next year I will celebrate my 64th. I think you should start celebrating right now and just keep on celebrating as long as you wish---maybe until its time to start celebrating your next one.
Jeano:bunchflowers:

[iamkeri1]

MJO
I had a huge celebration on my birthday. They put on a fantastic parade in my honor in Orlando. See film below.

eNd8iOxCHWo


I got lots of beads, candy, a tote bag and other good stuff. I had so much fun!

When is your birthday - maybe we could make a "bridge" of celebration from my b'day to yours, LOL (and invote in all the other birthday celebrators along the way. Thanks for the best wishes.
Smooches

[janii]

[QUOTE=janii;433436]Have not been on the sight for a while. Hope everyone is doing well. Did caught up on all the posts that I missed. TGIF just let me make it through this night than 2 days off. I am looking so forward to them....Hey Gina everythinf went well with my son he has some blockage so they started him on new meds, now if he would just listen to the doctor...Love and miss you I have got to get back to kansas for a visit.Everyone have a great weekend:bow:[/QUOT


Hey Lady - it was great talking to you! Okay - so next bash we are so there!!!
:phonegab:

We are so there!!!!!!!!:bow::bow:

[SweetJane]

I just saw this thread and figured I belonged here.

Ahemmmmm..... I was 62 in Sept. I, too, am in awe that I've lived to be this age. I'm vital, active, and have a sharp mind (that does fog once in awhile). I feel 35 most days, until I realize that may body just can't do that little fancy step as gracefully as it once did.

Ironically, I'm finding that at this age, I truly am younger in body, mind, and spirit than I was two or three years ago. I hike, I dance, I work out. I change my own light bulbs (even though I'm only 5' 1"---a 4 foot ladder is a must-have). I'm learning to do maintenance on my own car. I even put together five pieces of furniture-in-a-box and only had to unscrew and turn a piece a couple of times! (I'm spatially challenged--even with a diagram). I'm also beginning to paint again and lead a women's spiritual group. I travel alone, and I enjoy meeting people wherever I go. And I still am working.

In a nutshell, I like being me. So, hello to all of you elders.

[iamkeri1]

Hello SweetJane.
Love your post. Thanks so much for joining us. I've been a little stuck myself. Hopefully your inspiring post will give me the little kick I've been needing to get going again..
Smooches,
Keri

[SweetJane]

Hello SweetJane.
Love your post. Thanks so much for joining us. I've been a little stuck myself. Hopefully your inspiring post will give me the little kick I've been needing to get going again..
Smooches,
Keri

Keri,
Glad to encourage you, hun. We are awesome elders!

[4verNlove]

Hi, I don't know if this is the place for me to vent. I did try going on the posts re: infidelity; however, everyone seemed so young and thier outlook for the future subconsciously, could have been based on that..I feel, my age has much to do with my decisions...Anyway, my wife and I are together for 16 yrs, married for 10. Long story short, a year ago, I discovered emails written by her and another woman that were love "longing"..I was up in bed recovering from a broken ankle, couldn't walk, and my partner would go downstairs and have telephone conversation with this woman..This went on for 6 weeks before I discovered the emails. They were even planning to meet sometime in the future, as this woman lives in a state far away. They met on line 17 years ago; she was quite young at the time and they had an online/telephone relationship then, but never met. My partner and I had been having family problems that put a wedge between us; however, I never considered she or I would cheat...We love one another emensely. She decided in the fall to live in our beach house and that we should live seperately for a time she could not determine. She said all contact had been cut with this woman. Not true. I found a book the woman sent her containing love and longing quotes and once she called at 1:30 am and my partner got out of bed to go talk with her..downstairs. I didn't know who it was but overheard her calling her "babe"...I have tried leaving her, that very same night, I was so upset; and a few times after that. She would come after me, begging me to come home, and saying she loved me and didn't know why she answered the phone., She said she panicked. My confusion is the "babe" thing. This woman is conserably younger. My wife and I have dinner every night together, go out to dinner, I sleep with her on weekends at our beach house but still she doesn't want to live together. She contends she has reached the end of her rope and needs to spend time alone, (is having a lot of problems with her adult daughter)...but my fear is...is this woman still trying to contact her...She is ruthless...My wife refuses to talk to me about it; says it makes her nervous but that she wants to stay with me, doesn't want to start with a new relationship at this age, it will have kinks of its own to work out...Me? I feel so pathetic...but I know she loves me, and she is the love of my life...How do I trust and believe her, how do I remain strong and accept what she needs...So afraid I will loose...I have nothing...and no one. I feel so alone and lonely, especially at night. We were so close, almost co-dependent. Actually she used to say she liked it that way but has made a complete turn around. Now where before I did nothing alone, I do everything alone and feel so so lost. I could use any opinions and help anyone has..Thanks for listening to this long post. Hope its ok I wrote this...

[Darbonaire]

I reached a point in my 10 year marriage where the adult daughter of my ex-wife's dysfunction, the noise of the grandbaby & dog, & the stress of a tumultuous time with parents dying etc. I needed a break. I moved out around the corner from my wife & we continued that way for about 6-7 months. I was fine with it. I was NOT looking, seeing, talking with or having ANY contact with ANY other people ...nor was she. I had been laid off & decided to move "home" to VA. It didn't mean I stopped loving my wife at all. I actually had hoped & wished she would move here when she retired. That will never happen so we tried the LD relationship & well, that wasn't enough for her. She sounds like you in that she wants a live-in by her side always partner who loves Alabama, children, football etc. That's not me & never has been or will be. I want to be "with" someone, yes but only if it's comfortable for BOTH of us. But, I digress.....LOL.....& I apologize.

Bottom line as I see it is this.......If it never got any better than it is RIGHT now.....is it good enough? if not, then perhaps "waiting" for it to become what you want is a waste of your time. Right NOW is all we have. There ARE people out here that WILL be ble to give you the things you need. If you "feel" betrayed or cheated upon.....then why stay? Can you really rebuild a trust? If you can....then maybe staying is ok......but, you cannot control your partner. If she is interested in another than let her be. That is her path & to wait for something, or expect to "change" the other person to be what YOU want & need....well, that's swimming upstream & most likely to no avail.

Just my thoughts on it.......do what you need to do & want to do for YOU. YOU are the most important person in YOUR life.....we ALL are in our lives too.

Best of luck with whatever your decision is. May you find peace.

Jonathan

[iamkeri1]

Hi you beautiful elders. I hope you are all having a wonderful day. The heat here in Florida is incredible. I usually spend most of my summers in Michigan, but I sold my house there last summer and have less reason to go, so I am staying here. I hope to do a Michigan trip in the fall, when funds will be more available.

I joined a (gay) church a year ago that has turned out to be such a positive thing for me. I am pretty non-religious, but there are very few other ways to meet people in Polk County. I have made many acquaintances with whom I am very comfortable, and who bring fun into my life. Even made a couple of very close friends who are now firmly imbedded in my family and I in theirs.

I have been single for a few months following a short living together relationship. I don't exactly feel on solid ground yet, but that is mostly due to the shifts in my family. My daughter and grandson moved out a few months ago and my son (finally!) graduated from High School. He still "resides" here, but is gone or asleep 90% of the time. So I have a lot of time on my hands.

Discovered a pub quite close to my house that is Lesbian owned. Fridays they have music (no cover, no drink minimum - can't beat it.) A lesbian group called Karmic Tattoo played a week ago. I went with a friend and had a great time. The place was crawling with Dykes of all ages. The atmosphere was more like a club than a bar. People were mingling and introducing themselves, which is great because I am not good at initiating things myself. If a friend is not available, I still do things alone rather than stay home. A relationship still interests me, (HINT HINT!!! LOL) but "nothins cookin" right now.

Love to hear from you silver folk.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Talk to me, Peeps.
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Keri,glad you are back.Yeah life catches you with a fue curve balls now and then but we are strong and get thrue them with the life experences we have had.You are lucky to have places to go and folks to meet,sounds like fun to me.

[rockybcn]

I want to join this amazing group as I will turn 60 yrs young in October!
Its been quite a journey and as I get to know you all a little better I will pipe right in. I am newly single,just out of an 8 yr marriage and still living in Barcelona,Spain(its legal here)....but I am coming back to the States close to Christmas. If all goes well and as planned I will be moving to the Houston,TX. area. If any of you dwell in this area or close by...would love to cultivate some friendships. Looking forward to a good future!

[*Anya*]

Hi, I don't know if this is the place for me to vent. I did try going on the posts re: infidelity; however, everyone seemed so young and thier outlook for the future subconsciously, could have been based on that..I feel, my age has much to do with my decisions...Anyway, my wife and I are together for 16 yrs, married for 10. Long story short, a year ago, I discovered emails written by her and another woman that were love "longing"..I was up in bed recovering from a broken ankle, couldn't walk, and my partner would go downstairs and have telephone conversation with this woman..This went on for 6 weeks before I discovered the emails. They were even planning to meet sometime in the future, as this woman lives in a state far away. They met on line 17 years ago; she was quite young at the time and they had an online/telephone relationship then, but never met. My partner and I had been having family problems that put a wedge between us; however, I never considered she or I would cheat...We love one another emensely. She decided in the fall to live in our beach house and that we should live seperately for a time she could not determine. She said all contact had been cut with this woman. Not true. I found a book the woman sent her containing love and longing quotes and once she called at 1:30 am and my partner got out of bed to go talk with her..downstairs. I didn't know who it was but overheard her calling her "babe"...I have tried leaving her, that very same night, I was so upset; and a few times after that. She would come after me, begging me to come home, and saying she loved me and didn't know why she answered the phone., She said she panicked. My confusion is the "babe" thing. This woman is conserably younger. My wife and I have dinner every night together, go out to dinner, I sleep with her on weekends at our beach house but still she doesn't want to live together. She contends she has reached the end of her rope and needs to spend time alone, (is having a lot of problems with her adult daughter)...but my fear is...is this woman still trying to contact her...She is ruthless...My wife refuses to talk to me about it; says it makes her nervous but that she wants to stay with me, doesn't want to start with a new relationship at this age, it will have kinks of its own to work out...Me? I feel so pathetic...but I know she loves me, and she is the love of my life...How do I trust and believe her, how do I remain strong and accept what she needs...So afraid I will loose...I have nothing...and no one. I feel so alone and lonely, especially at night. We were so close, almost co-dependent. Actually she used to say she liked it that way but has made a complete turn around. Now where before I did nothing alone, I do everything alone and feel so so lost. I could use any opinions and help anyone has..Thanks for listening to this long post. Hope its ok I wrote this...

I see that you wrote this a bit ago but I don't generally drop in here so just read this.

I wasted 19-years with a cheater. She had repeated affairs, I found out, she lied, I called her on it (I always knew when she lied. I think we always know in our guts when someone is lying-we may chose to ignore it but we know) she would then apologize profusely and I would always want to believe that it was true, that she really loved me and of course, would never do it again.

On and on it went. I was in my 20's when we got together, with two small children and an ex-husband that paid zero child support. I was emotionally dependent on her. I was educated. I always worked but for some reason just could not break away.

Until. She did it one more time too many.

I had enough. Took me 19-years. I was always so embarrassed to admit that but it was the truth. I just grew a backbone finally and kicked her out.

I spent the next 10-years alone. Did not date. Had minimal social life, only with work friends and did not have sex with anyone else.

Last October I finally began to date. I fell in love with a butch on the Planet. She is 10-years younger than I am. I love her heart, her mind, her brains and love looking into her beautiful eyes. I feel as though I can get lost in them forever. We have the same values in loyalty, fidelity and our outlook on life. I laugh every day now, deep laughter from my heart and soul. We have electric sexual chemistry. I had forgotten what that felt like!

Your life will not be over, even if it feels that way, to just say: enough is enough.

You do not deserve to live with such stress and anxiety. You are far stronger than you give yourself credit for and there is true joy just around the corner if you only open your life to it.

Best of luck to you.

[iamkeri1]

Good for you Anya, I had a similar relationship years ago, though, thank the universe, I 'only' put up with it for xeven years. The lies and infidelity are rough on one's self esteem. Glad you have found love and happiness for yourself. Blessings to you.

rockybcn. So sorry to hear about your marriage ending. I hope you have support there in Spain. while you recover from this loss. You will probably have huge culture shock upon your return to the US. but it is natural for you to want to return "home." Are you from Texas? Keep talking to us when you need friends to lean on.

Rockin: Hi sweetie, nice to hear from you. You are always ready with a supportive word or little joke. Its good to know you.

Smooches, y'all
Keri

[rockybcn]

Thanks Keri...

I am feeling and healing. I took marriage as such a commitment that it had ripped away part of my spirit when it ended. I will always have a place in my heart for her...but I am letting go and letting God show me my authentic self and making all the changes needed for feeling whole again. I will never be perfect but I will strive to live life perfectly in the moment.
I have lived in a number of places....born and raised in Indiana,lived 35 years in Michigan,5 years in NC,5 years in Portland ,OR...then married and living in Spain for 4 years. I will move back to the States close to Christmas and begin working in Houston,TX. I really am excited to start over. Life is so full of promise and adventure. Wishing all you other spring chickens lots of tommorrows full of all lifes best!:wine:

[cinderella]

...going on 70. I've never felt better, physically, emotionally, and spiritually then I do now. To boot, I have a honey that want's me! Who wouldda thunk it!! Life is good, and I am enjoying it to the hilt - squeezing every bit of joy and happiness that I can. I am grateful to all the gods in the universe for giving me excellent health, and the spunk of a 20-year-old too!

Live life to the fullest - it is a gift!

[iamkeri1]

Hey Cinderella
Good to hear from you and welcome to our thread. Glad to hear you ar healthy and happy. (and loved!)
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Keri,today I went garage sale hopping,to .To bad u arent close cause you would have had a blast going.I pickerd up a clasical guitar for ten bucks thats a bit dusty and a fue strings short at all six,then a pro qulity key bord with sheet music for 20.00,now im on a quest for three more things I have been looking for..a banjo,a set of drums along with a fiddle.I can play by ear pretty good..its been a long time sence I played and I am wanting to do it all over again.

[iamkeri1]

Hi Rockin,
Wow I can't believe I missed your post. How exciting for you to get back into playing music! With all the instruments you want to acquire, you must have a lot of musical talent. I hope you are making progress and enjoying yourself. I used to play a decent guitar myself years ago. I still fantasize about singing with a band. Guess it would be a geezer band now, LOL But so what as long as we are having fun. I'm not real interested in oldies though and would like to do more current music, maybe even a little (very little) rap. I love the energy of hip hop too.

To all you silver folk. I hope you are happy and healthy out there. Stop in and chat.
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Rockin,
Wow I can't believe I missed your post. How exciting for you to get back into playing music! With all the instruments you want to acquire, you must have a lot of musical talent. I hope you are making progress and enjoying yourself. I used to play a decent guitar myself years ago. I still fantasize about singing with a band. Guess it would be a geezer band now, LOL But so what as long as we are having fun. I'm not real interested in oldies though and would like to do more current music, maybe even a little (very little) rap. I love the energy of hip hop too.

To all you silver folk. I hope you are happy and healthy out there. Stop in and chat.
Smooches,
Keri


Hello to u,glad to hear from u.
Well we need a singer for the pool hall junkies band,its a hodge podge of folks who had the crazy idea we could do this music thing.We get together a couple of times a week to play some tunes.Last time we actualy were playing things that sound fairly well considering all of us are just reliveing what we missed a lomg time ago.
This weekend i'm going to a couple of garage sales to see what I can find,even if I dont find a thing it will be fun to go and get out before it gets really cold,at the moment its is 60* breezy and my joints hurt.I got the heads up on an estate sale thats comeing up in an older part of town where they have familys that have lived in these big old houses for generations..heck they have no idea what thay have a lot of times.Once I went to one that had the sttic door open and a sign on it that said $50.00 take ur pick and did I ever.

[iamkeri1]

Rockin
You definetly seem to be one of those people who once they make their minds up to do something, just go out and get it done. How fun that you are in a band! I've been contemplating trying to do something like that at church. We don't have a music person right now, and I don't have the skills to do that anyway, but I've been thinking that if we could get a few people together who play some kind of instrument, along with a few singers, we could maybe at least do a song every week or month... and hopefully it will kind of overflow into other music as well.

I will use you as my inspiration!
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Rockin
You definetly seem to be one of those people who once they make their minds up to do something, just go out and get it done. How fun that you are in a band! I've been contemplating trying to do something like that at church. We don't have a music person right now, and I don't have the skills to do that anyway, but I've been thinking that if we could get a few people together who play some kind of instrument, along with a few singers, we could maybe at least do a song every week or month... and hopefully it will kind of overflow into other music as well.

I will use you as my inspiration!
Smooches,
Keri



Keri That sounds great,all u need is someone who can play a piano or keybord,keybords are great cause all u can do is add the background then play the keys.I saw one that will flash the keys so all anyone had to do was keep up with them.Today I ordered a cd on how to play a violin it's next best to an instructor...I did get a violin but for only haveing 4 strings its the hardest thing I have ever had to keep tuned cause it is tuned from the bottom not the keys on top,its doable and fun.My fur kids sing(howel) along with us when we playesp the violin..great fun.

[iamkeri1]

Hey Rockin,
That's the biggest problem for me in trying to pick up the guitar and play it again - the tuning part. It was always hard for me to tune, but I did eventually learn to do it fairly quickly (like 5 minutes) I am not good at hearing the differences in the notes. Now I can't even get it tuned right with an electronic tuner. I have no trouble finding voice notes and never need a beginning note prompt, so I don't understand why I have so much trouble with musical instruments. I also have an auto harp that I dearly love and I haven't been able to play it in years because I can't tune it. It has way more strings than a guitar, so it's kind of a lost cause for me.

Your "singing" dogs reminded me of my little poodle who died years ago. She loved to sing and especially loved songs that started with the word "Oh", like Unchained Melody (Oh my love, my darling, I've hungered for your touch) and Oh Holy Night. She was so much fun.

You are amazing - you're going to teach yourself violin, the hardest instrument there is, with a CD. All right now! I want to hear about the progress you're making.
Smooches, Mr Music,
Keri

Keri That sounds great,all u need is someone who can play a piano or keybord,keybords are great cause all u can do is add the background then play the keys.I saw one that will flash the keys so all anyone had to do was keep up with them.Today I ordered a cd on how to play a violin it's next best to an instructor...I did get a violin but for only haveing 4 strings its the hardest thing I have ever had to keep tuned cause it is tuned from the bottom not the keys on top,its doable and fun.My fur kids sing(howel) along with us when we playesp the violin..great fun.

[Rockinonahigh]

Keri I'm not shure how good it will turn out with the violin,better word hear is fiddle,as we have some band groups that play good old mountain music or the tunes from down south Louisiana most of them never had a lesson...so there is hope I gess.So far i'm able to make clear clean notes without a warbble or bounce of the bow most times so thats progress.I have an digital tuner to clamp on both the guitar and fiddle so its not to bad.Mostly i'm a mad drummer from hell but don't have a space to put them ...yet.My son knows me a an eqestrean with a mission but this has him shakeing his head.Oh well I keep him on his toes as life dosn't get boreing hear.

[Darbonaire]

Can a 57 yr old guy join you in here ???

[rockybcn]

Can a 57 yr old guy join you in here ???

Sure ya can, you young whipper snapper! LOL Welcome Darbonaire!!!

[Rockinonahigh]

Can a 57 yr old guy join you in here ???

Shure, hop right on in and wellcome.

[Darbonaire]

Sure ya can, you young whipper snapper! LOL Welcome Darbonaire!!!



Why thanks Rocky !!! Much appreciated !!!....<grin>

[iamkeri1]

Well, I guess it will be all right, but you have to promise to act like a geezer, LOL

Welcome,
Smooches,
Keri

Can a 57 yr old guy join you in here ???

[iamkeri1]

Hey Rocky,
Are you back in the States yet?
Smooches,
Keri

Sure ya can, you young whipper snapper! LOL Welcome Darbonaire!!!

[Darbonaire]

Well, I guess it will be all right, but you have to promise to act like a geezer, LOL

Welcome,
Smooches,
Keri

Yes ma'am....<hobbling to my chair>.....LOLOLOL

[iamkeri1]

OK you're in, LOL
smooches,
Keri

Yes ma'am....<hobbling to my chair>.....LOLOLOL

[rockybcn]

Hey Rocky,
Are you back in the States yet?
Smooches,
Keri

Not back yet Keri....in december I will touch ground in the good ol USA.
The job I had planned on was in Houston,but it fell through.
I am looking to find employment in Florida. I have some friends there and I think it will be a better place for me weather wise.
Anyways....how the heck is everybody? Everyone behaving yourself? LOL

[Rockinonahigh]

Bump,bump hellllllllloooooooooooooooo any body home???Roll call please and thank you...whats been going on folks??

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

Hi everyone
I have been away for awhile but I miss my online BFP community.
I often say to myself WOW in May I will celebrate my 60th birthday.
I feel peaceful and happy.

[Gina]

It's been a long time since I have popped in here. I am not sure that most of you know that Janii passed away in December and she is so missed. She had complications from a knee surgery and got a blood clot that couldn't be fixed. She passed away on her partner's (Shay) birthday. So sad.... So my heart has not been in getting on here.

But I'm back and doing well. I also hope all of you are well and living life to the fullest extent of your abilities. I went back to the beginning of this thread and re-read all the posts and I am not sure anyone is still posting here? IF you are - let me know. I've been around for awhile..

Humor is a big part of my life. Laughter is an instant vacation so I find humor in almost everything. I have been finding corn cobs laying around my yard. Who is feeding the squirrels and why can't the squirrels leave the corn cobs in *their* yard?

[cinderella]

Isn't that where the corn is as high as an elephants eye? ;)

Maybe they're left-overs from your neighbor's last BBQ.

It's been a long time since I have popped in here. I am not sure that most of you know that Janii passed away in December and she is so missed. She had complications from a knee surgery and got a blood clot that couldn't be fixed. She passed away on her partner's (Shay) birthday. So sad.... So my heart has not been in getting on here.

But I'm back and doing well. I also hope all of you are well and living life to the fullest extent of your abilities. I went back to the beginning of this thread and re-read all the posts and I am not sure anyone is still posting here? IF you are - let me know. I've been around for awhile..

Humor is a big part of my life. Laughter is an instant vacation so I find humor in almost everything. I have been finding corn cobs laying around my yard. Who is feeding the squirrels and why can't the squirrels leave the corn cobs in *their* yard?

[Gina]

Isn't that where the corn is as high as an elephants eye? ;)

Maybe they're left-overs from your neighbor's last BBQ.

Cinderella - I don't have any corn crops...but there are squirrels around..this is toward the end of April and I woke up to snow covering the ground..I should be planting flowers instead of shoveling snow....:confused:

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

Popping in here myself, it is good to see the thread active. It still comes as a shock to my mind that I qualify to post here, too! (like hey, when and more importantly HOW did THAT happen, that I crossed that milestone and hit 60?? And now actually 61!!)

I don't feel 60 most days, or at least not what I imagine 60 is supposed to feel like. I don't look or act 60 most days, or at least what I imagine 60 is supposed to look or act like. So of course it makes sense to me that it does cause a feeling of disconnect for me when I am reminded of my actual age.

Well, time to head back to work here. Starting my own business at the age of 59, is still kinda scary, but really REALLY nice. I am also seriously looking forward to heading down to Austin in 2 days to see so many friends from here at the Halfway to Reunion party. I am in serious need of some good BF energy!

APG, aka Ann

[iamkeri1]

I have been pretty much without a computer for a month, except for quick trips to the library to check my bank balance. The super cute straight couple that I sold my Michigan home to August 2011, turned out to be super awful instead. They stopped paying late fall 2012 and told me they had moved out leaving the house clean and ready to go. What with my daughter getting married, and the very cold Northern winter this year (not mention my reunion in February with Ben, a wonderful man, my previous partner, from whom I had been separated for almost a year), we delayed coming,

In mid-April we arrived to find my home a disaster, Mr and Ms nice guy had turned my lovely cottage on the lake into a grow house for marijuana, ripping out walls and wiring, (and closets - now who rips out closets? - you can tell she was no femme. LOL) and ruining every carpet in the home. Two large blessings ... both the furnace and the plumbing remained intact. Good thing, because the night these Florida folks hit Michigan, the temp was 31 actual and 25 wind chill, and we needed that furnace badly.


Slowly, slowly we have been cleaning and planning each next step to take. Had Ben not been with me, I think I would have just gotten back in to the car and gone home. The place was so filthy I oculdn't imagine that anyone had actually lived here. I forgot to mention, they stole the track for the garage door, so we couldn't even get in the house. I am a wheelchair (electric scooter) user, and they took out all the ramps I had installed, except, thank the universe, the large ramp that allows access to the upper level., which was somewhat liveable.

To put it mildly it has been an adventure. We have gotten the place pretty well cleaned up, had the garage door repaired, bought a comfortable bed and a cheap refrigerator. And yesterday, after a two week struggle, and having made three trips to town to provide more and more proof that we were NOT the people they allowed to run up a huge cable bill, Comcast finally turned on our internet service YAAAAAAY!!!

We got the bills paid yesterday and are having a lazy, lay around the house day today. Ben , who was up and busy for a while climbed back into bed where I was playing solitaire on the laptop, and is now snoring away beside me.


Hope you have all been having a wonderful day week and month, with as much adventure, but less agitation than I have been having this last little while.
Smooches,
Keri

[Greco]

iamkeri1, may all be well with you these days.

Today...today I arrived at the office and found an email that a colleague's partner had passed suddenly...my heart went out to her. I know from experience that there is nothing I could say to make it better, but I could and did simply...listen...listen.

How often are any of us ever really just listened too? You know, no advice giving...just listening...to her sense of loss...her shock...listening and holding a quiet place where she could talk, and know that her words fell on caring ears, a caring mind, and a caring person...listening.

Frankly, tonight I went on my after work run...and I listened to myself, felt my feelings of loss, of wonder at this mysterious life, and gave thanks for her gift to me...allowing me to be a person that could be there for her...simply being me...nothing more...nothing less.

So, why am I sharing all of this with you? Honestly, to listen to myself, and know how much I've grown not outwardly, but internally.

When I was much younger I knew all of the answers, so I thought. Now I know that the most precious thing are the moments, each moment of a day when I can be in the moment, and open to it's call.

Perhaps a call to simply...listen.

Thank you for reading.

Sending you warm thoughts, Greco

[rockybcn]

Thanks Greco for sharing your insight and compassion for both others and yourself.....we are physically changing as years progress....but internally...we are alive and blessed with a vibrance and understanding that our younger years nary possessed.....we have wisdom!

a little music nostalgia for us old timers.....
Beverly Bremers - Dont Say You Dont Remember - HD Bubblerock Promo - YouTube

[Greco]

Well said rockybcn...and thank you.

Greco

Thanks Greco for sharing your insight and compassion for both others and yourself.....we are physically changing as years progress....but internally...we are alive and blessed with a vibrance and understanding that our younger years nary possessed.....we have wisdom!

a little music nostalgia for us old timers.....
Beverly Bremers - Dont Say You Dont Remember - HD Bubblerock Promo - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCDRIfdRI8s)

[Sweet_Amor_Taino]

I turned 60 on May 20th 2013 and I am still not use to hearing Senior Citizen. A few of my friends and I were sitting around talking and one said Do you know that on Tuesday is Senior Citizens day and you get 20 % off My friend Ruby and I turned to look at each other and burst out laughing my friend Ellen said WHAT I am 71 and I look good I am not a shame of being a senior. I responded by saying I know girl but we are just not use to it yet. I am happy to have celebrated my 60th birthday.

[iamkeri1]

I turned 60 on May 20th 2013 and I am still not use to hearing Senior Citizen. A few of my friends and I were sitting around talking and one said Do you know that on Tuesday is Senior Citizens day and you get 20 % off My friend Ruby and I turned to look at each other and burst out laughing my friend Ellen said WHAT I am 71 and I look good I am not a shame of being a senior. I responded by saying I know girl but we are just not use to it yet. I am happy to have celebrated my 60th birthday.


http://www.desiglitters.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/belated-birthday-Wishes.gif



Smooches,
Keri

[Licious]

I am almost 57, feeling 60 something, so I peeked in....

[iamkeri1]

I'm trying to get myself out of a funk I've been in for weeks.

"Cures" I've tried
*Working endless hours in my yard, pulling weeds, planting flowers, soaking up sunshine and vitamin D
*Playing "bubble shooter" here on the planet and various types of solitaire from my computer .
*going out to a nice restaurant for dinner
*Telling myself hundreds of times per day the "happiness" is a choice

For the last few days I've been cleaning the garage. Wow that is hot work here in the scorching Florida September, The garage looks lots better - still a long way to go, but I still feel bluesy.

So tonight I am here with my "peeps", catching up reading postings about same sex marriage. It's hard not to feel better reading about all the progress that's been made recently. Never thought this would happen in my lifetime. Perhaps I'll live to see equality on a national basis. Wouldn't THAT be sweet!!!

Tomorrow I will pursue the ultimate cure - going shopping for fall clothes for my adorable grand children. My beautiful 3 1/2 year old grandson and my gorgeous three month old granddaughter. So much fun! I already bought her a Christmas outfit. A green velvet dress with matching bloomers and cap trimmed with lots of white lace and little pink silk flowers. Got it at a garage sale in perfect condition for $3.00!

Licious, welcome to the site. "feeling" like you're sixty is good enough. But tonight, I hope you are feeling like you're twenty.

Smooches,
Keri

[lamuymuyfem]

Now I'm officially 10 years older than the delicious butch I am dating.

Is she right? Am I a cougar?

Discuss…...

[ProfPacker]

I don't consider 10 years cougar material. Maybe younger than 45ish. That's the range I put on dating sites haha

[ProfPacker]

Do I hit a milestone on the day I apply for Medicare? Kind of auspicious, don't ya think?

[DJ4321]

Thank goodness for this thread. I don't have too much time this morning, but I'm going to try really really hard to remember it and get my big arse back here soon ( you know how memory is at this age-it comes and goes :-)
See all you beauties soon I hope.

[JoSchmooze]

And so.....I just found this thread....
I hit the big 6-0 over 2 years ago.
Just recently, I hit the minimum retirement age.
But there is no way I will be able to retire any time soon.

Lord knows I want to retire. I want to be able to travel
without it having to do so for work! I want to be able to take
someone along with me...to treat her as well as she deserves
to be treated. I want to be treated the way I deserve to be
treated. I want to be able to come home, really home,
at the end of the day and she'll be there....
and be able to sleep in my own damned bed
for more than two nights at a time.....

If this selfish? Perhaps. But I deserve better, I have earned it.....

That's my rant. Sorry about that.....

[sharonsuburbia]

Thank goodness for this thread. I don't have too much time this morning, but I'm going to try really really hard to remember it and get my big arse back here soon ( you know how memory is at this age-it comes and goes :-)
See all you beauties soon I hope.

i so agree - nice for us vintage women to connect - i am a late blloomer and:rrose: have never been happier :)

[Rockinonahigh]

I haven't been hear for a while as life ha had me firmly in the grips of one thing or another.A few weeks a go I had been having a really bad time with my back(worse than ever) with too long a wait for the doc to d something.So he put me on narco 5 wich really pitched me for a loop,then I finely got my injections done this past Wednesday but still kept me on the meds.I have complained a lot about how it effected me and all I got was it will take sometime to adjust to it,I gave it three weeks then this morning I just quit taking it.I am so tired of going around with my head in a deep fog and going around dope headed of that and worse cause a lot of times I was so out of it I had no idea how to deal with the day.After many calls to the doctors office to talk to his nurse I just took matters in my own hands.It will probly take a few days to de fogg my head but it is already better this morning.I refus to give up what I have gained over the years building a life with mobility issuse,I have used a cane when I needed it to using the electrice buggys at the stores to get around so now I am thinkng of getting a pesonal scooter for when I need it,any thoughts on what is best from anyone?Take care everyone.Oh,please excuse the spelling my eyes are still not right from the meds.

[DJ4321]

Nice to meet you Sharonsuburbia. I guess you could say I'm a late blummer too. There are things I'm just beginning to learn about life. But on the otherhand, I want to be a learner until the day I die-how dull it would be not to be learning new things.
Anywho, in the last month I've learned a little bit about femmes and butches. For instance, I learned that I truly am attracted to femmes--I love all of 'em! hehehe. But I want to meet that one special one and at my age, how in the h$*% do I meet her? Clubbing is out of the question, been there, done that, don't want to do that again.
Anyone in here have any ideas you'd care to share?

[sharonsuburbia]

hi :)
:rrose:

[Greco]

So, thoughts on beginning anew at this time of your life...new beginnings whether
it is new work, new relationships (lover, or friendships), new locations...I am in
transition and beginning anew in all areas of my life.

Is it scary? Well, no. Ask me if its exciting, absolutely yes!

I am grateful for the opportunity to live all I've learned so far, and
am in awe that I see clearly so much beauty in this life.

Yes, I pray, and move my feet!

So, thoughts?

Greco

[*Anya*]

Good morning.

It is like coming out to post in here for me!

I have always been touchy about my age. It really seemed to matter more to me when I was younger and until I found my love.

We are both in our early 60's.

DJ4321, I found her on a Match.com. I dated quite a bit over a 3- month period of time on another dating site and then I joined Match.

I should say: she found me; 10-days after I joined.

It was just a luck of the draw, the universe smiling, karma-however you can look at it; I feel very fortunate.

I did put myself out there. I had some great dates before I met her and some not-so-great. All of them were an adventure. I learned about them. I learned about myself

Never give up on the desire to find love and companionship! I am so glad that I did not. We have been together, soon to be 19-months in June.

It is funny that now it seems like a long-time together but my ex and I were 19-years together and my GF and her ex were together for 21 years.

New beginnings.

:moonstars:

After 10 years at her job and a total of 30 in her field, my love was laid off. It has been a big psychological blow to her. I did some research, which I kept to myself, and statistically, it is a small number of people that ever find a job at the same level or even close to the same money they made before they were laid off. She struggles with wanting to retire vs. feeling that financially and emotionally, she should keep looking for a job.

She is a very logical person and I am very much a "feelings" person. Together, we are a good match. I know she will come to terms with the lay-off and will figure out where she wants to go from here. I figure she will be playing golf 3 days a week, instead of two when she decides to fully retire and enjoy it. That's my guess.

Then, when I can retire, before all of our knees give out completely; maybe we can travel and do some of those things older people do in our "sunset years". <<<<<< that phrase always used to crack me up.

Greco, I am so joyful at the thought of you having new adventures! Please tell us more about those new adventures!

Jo! It is not selfish at all to want to get to sleep in your own bed every night! You do a tremendous amount of travel. I often wonder how you do it! Hope your knee is doing well, too.

All the best to you and to all of the other "over 60's" that are living life in the very best way that we can.

:stillheart:

[Dean Thoreau]

I am sitting here wondering where the time went....seems like yesterday I was turning 30, now here I am comfortably over 60 and still wondering about life stuff.
Looking back I see lots of mistakes, and now refer to them as quality learning experiences. Regrets? Just wishing I had spent more time with my kids and less time thinking that lawn mowing, and vacuming, and saying no to the kids having a big cookie instead of a small one was so damn important. It wasnt, it isnt..and grandparenthood is great cause it took me that long to figure it out.
It has almost been a year since I last wandered into this fine site......not sure where I have been or what I have been doing....but it sure has been fun...I paint a lot..I have so many pictures in my head,,,it will take me at least 10 years to get them all painted....I have this little 4 legged furry companion named cookie...that resides with me in my little ol tin can at the jersey shore...turned a small shed into my studio,,so I can leave easels and palettes and brushes lay around...
I meandered onto a few dating sites....started talking to a few nice ladies but...just dont have the desire to date, meet, get involved.....Perhaps it is because I like the solitude, not sure but I can say I am happy and content; I guess that is what this silver section of lifes rollercoaster is all about....a few bumps and dips but a nice comfy pace to the end.

[iamkeri1]

Dean,
I wish I knew how to post the gorgeous, up-close photo of a dandelion in full bloom that is on my camera. I had lots of them in my yard in Michigan, but they don't seem to like the Florida heat. Sounds like you are prospering, not just enduring ... but give those ladies you talked to on the dating site another chance - for their sake if not for yours. It doesn't have to lead to bed or to the altar. It's just a lot more fun to go to the movies with someone than go alone (for me anyway.)

Hello to all. Come back and talk to us.
Smooches.
Keri

[puddin']

wow, i'm shy o' 60 (by 3 years come november), but can relate to most o' what is bein' said...

:rubberducky:

[morningstar55]

hey ya … i just turned 60 this yr in april ….
i read somewhere someone wanted to dye the grey out of there hair.
geesh …… butchs / the guys …… look so handsome and distinguished with that silver in there hair. ;)

[Tuff Stuff]

I for one won't dye the grey (or in my case whites) out of my hair,i'm actually looking forward to getting grey.

I like hanging out with the older crowd.I'm 47 but most of my friends are in their 50s,60s on up.Sometings i'm in owe at what they can teach me.But i've always loved being around people who were much older than me.I have witness to that some young people are wanting to hang around me more these days...maybe because i'm still young at heart *shrugs*..i don't know,i've always felt older,even at 10 years old when at that age i'd hang out with the older teenagers.

With most of my older friends its usually me and them talking over coffee or shopping.There's no sex or trying to get them to marry me *snort* although there are a few i'd gladly drop everything i'm doing and run to their home for a quick roll in the hay...older people can sometimes be sexy as hell.:sunglass:

But thats my take...

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi everyone, nice to know this thread is still around, I hope you a doing well.
Grey hair is something I had had since I was 19, as for dyeing it.. no way what ever it is it will be.
Question for some comment if you please. Last week I had a situation come up at the pool hall with someone I played against from another team. from the start of play he was harassing me, it started mildly but annoyingly but I simply ignored him it became worse as the game went on, I gave him the look from hell and just went on with the game. The captains of both teams never said a word (my two captains and co captains wernt there cause of a family emergency) I have since told them about it and they were pissed and were going to do something about it. I truly wanted to give him a peace of my mind but kept my cool cause If anything got started it would be a mess. If I had been 20 years younger it may well have been a different ending...I hate it when age comes to play I feel I did right but feel like a simpleton for not doing more.

[Daisy Chain]

I for one won't dye the grey (or in my case whites) out of my hair,i'm actually looking forward to getting grey.

I like hanging out with the older crowd.I'm 47 but most of my friends are in their 50s,60s on up.Sometings i'm in owe at what they can teach me.But i've always loved being around people who were much older than me.I have witness to that some young people are wanting to hang around me more these days...maybe because i'm still young at heart *shrugs*..i don't know,i've always felt older,even at 10 years old when at that age i'd hang out with the older teenagers.

With most of my older friends its usually me and them talking over coffee or shopping.There's no sex or trying to get them to marry me *snort* although there are a few i'd gladly drop everything i'm doing and run to their home for a quick roll in the hay...older people can sometimes be sexy as hell.:sunglass:

But thats my take...


Oh I so agree, I have always been drawn to older people in most situations/interactions to be honest. Most of my friends are older. I am just 50, my honey will soon be 58, I find that incredibly sexy if I`m honest....oddly she has a very young, playful way about her, I am more of the serious one but at times she gets very `grown up`...I enjoy and often need that aspect of her. I love her how her hair is greying and as she is as butch as butch can be I think she looks more and more handsome as her face ages. :blush:..OK I`ll shut up about her now !!

Hi everyone, nice to know this thread is still around, I hope you a doing well.
Grey hair is something I had had since I was 19, as for dyeing it.. no way what ever it is it will be.
Question for some comment if you please. Last week I had a situation come up at the pool hall with someone I played against from another team. from the start of play he was harassing me, it started mildly but annoyingly but I simply ignored him it became worse as the game went on, I gave him the look from hell and just went on with the game. The captains of both teams never said a word (my two captains and co captains wernt there cause of a family emergency) I have since told them about it and they were pissed and were going to do something about it. I truly wanted to give him a peace of my mind but kept my cool cause If anything got started it would be a mess. If I had been 20 years younger it may well have been a different ending...I hate it when age comes to play I feel I did right but feel like a simpleton for not doing more.

I`m sorry that happened to you. I can understand how it made you feel but I think they were the simpletons not you. Sounds like you held your cool and walked away from it all with dignity. i`m sure some time from now when they have `grown up`..{we live in hope}....they will look back and think they behaved like jerks.

Daisy :bouquet:

[Tuff Stuff]

Oh I so agree, I have always been drawn to older people in most situations/interactions to be honest. Most of my friends are older. I am just 50, my honey will soon be 58, I find that incredibly sexy if I`m honest....oddly she has a very young, playful way about her, I am more of the serious one but at times she gets very `grown up`...I enjoy and often need that aspect of her. I love her how her hair is greying and as she is as butch as butch can be I think she looks more and more handsome as her face ages. :blush:..OK I`ll shut up about her now !!

I meant to type Sometimes in awe I had a distraction *snort*

Yep,turning grey isn't all that bad.

[Rockinonahigh]

Oh I so agree, I have always been drawn to older people in most situations/interactions to be honest. Most of my friends are older. I am just 50, my honey will soon be 58, I find that incredibly sexy if I`m honest....oddly she has a very young, playful way about her, I am more of the serious one but at times she gets very `grown up`...I enjoy and often need that aspect of her. I love her how her hair is greying and as she is as butch as butch can be I think she looks more and more handsome as her face ages. :blush:..OK I`ll shut up about her now !!



I`m sorry that happened to you. I can understand how it made you feel but I think they were the simpletons not you. Sounds like you held your cool and walked away from it all with dignity. i`m sure some time from now when they have `grown up`..{we live in hope}....they will look back and think they behaved like jerks.

Daisy :bouquet:


Thanks Daisy, I know I did the right thing by not falling to the jerks small minded ways but sometimes I often wonder how people can go through life with such a bad attitude then call yourself human. Tonight I was ask why I didn't say any more that I did to him...simple you cant fix people like that it's best to just stay away from them.

[Greco]

Much respect to you Rockin for choosing your battles wisely. People say wisdom comes with age, well for some of us.
As for silver hair, at 63 I thought I'd have more...still, dig the silver that rides my temples.
Glad to see this thread is up and running again.

Best, Greco

[Rockinonahigh]

For the longest time I have become so board with things as they are that I have started job hunting for a part timer. I gave it a go at doing volunteer work that was fine till the real workers started putting nearly all there work on the volunteers that they had so I just wasn't going to bust ass doing the job someone was getting paid to do so I gave it up.
It's not that I sit hear all day cause I play on three pool teams three nights a week, it's that I don't do board dome for long to start with. All I can say is I hope if I do find something I find something that I enjoy doing. I have a list of what I won't do and the jobs I think would do for me, one is hopefully going back to work as a Chef is a lot of fun for me, I know its work in a pro kitchen but it never was anything that I have any issues with no matter how fast pace it was or what was going on nor the times that 8 hours drug on for ever that I went to polishing silver where to pas the time, It's all in how you look at what ever you have going on....so hear I go charging into the big world to see what out there to do.

[Rockinonahigh]

Much respect to you Rockin for choosing your battles wisely. People say wisdom comes with age, well for some of us.
As for silver hair, at 63 I thought I'd have more...still, dig the silver that rides my temples.
Glad to see this thread is up and running again.

Best, Greco


Greco
I wish wisdom had come a lot sooner I could have saved myself lots of B.S. in life. Ya know the ,if I knew then what I know now things would have been way better, I guess that what getting to this age is good for.
Rock

[Glenn]

Yep Grec; What's that old saying? Walk quietly and carry a big cue stick. Believe me, this old boy will still deck anyone who crosses that line though.:fastdraq:

[Rockinonahigh]

Last year my son bought me a fancy walking cane, the handle is thicker than normal. Why?? Well it has a stun gun application if I ever needed it...yep big stick. I play a lot of pool in some not so nice places, last year there were a few car break ins as well as three people assaulted at there cars as they were getting in them. The pool halls mostly have one security guard but one isn't enough.
I'm glad to see people posting hear as it has bee far to quiet around hear.

[Daisy Chain]

I may offer that I think there is something both charming and masterful about a cane or walking stick, odd as that may sound and if its a Butch swaggering along with one even better ! *smiles*

Daisy :bouquet:

[Blind Melon Chitlan]

But the BS in our younger years is part of what taught us the ..."if I knew then what i know now theory/'

i'm just now retiring and yes scared as hell, but, still find it exciting to finally do what I really want to do. Even navigating the retirement process has been like a roller coaster. I'm loving it and the person I'm riding with !

[Rockinonahigh]

The last time I got in a scuffle was at our local g-bar (about 20 yrs ago), this butch I know was about 7 sheets to the wind and looking for a fight. I was minding my on bizzwa when he kept coming closer to be with every pass around the area I was at so finely he shoulder bumped me.. I said excuse me and went on with the conversation I was having with someone then he did it again only harder, so I moved to get some space between us so hopefully the nut case would just pass me by. No such luck, the fool was dumb enough to grab me by the shirt...wrong move...I stepped back turned to the left then bitch slapped him out cold...then went back to what I was doing. To this day I'm not sure he ever knew what hit him or who. Oh those were the days.

[puddin']

grey looks good to me now. i adore how i look, finally.

thangs i nevah understood i do now. i mean i really get them.

like how tides work, how lightenin' generates and executes itse'f, why deafness has a continuum, etc.

learnin' is nevah endin'...

[iamkeri1]

Rockin,
I laughed when I saw your post about the stun gun. When my youngest was about 14, he was in trouble with the law and at school on a pretty constant basis. He used to love running out the door yelling over his shoulder that he was going where he wanted and doing what he wanted to do, and there was nothing I could do to stop him. I used to comfort myself by visualizing myself dropping him to the ground as he ran away by zapping him with a TASER. Which, of course, at least at that time, eight years ago, were legal for private use in Florida with no license and no training required. I even spent quite a bit of time perusing the many vendors of these weapons who would sell you one or several, online, no problem. I never did buy one, but I thought about it REAL hard.
Be Careful when you go out, but keep going out. Have you found a job yet that you like? I know you love to cook. Best Wishes,
Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Keri.
How are you and good to hear from you.
Your son sounds much like my older boy at that age, he missed going to Juvi hall by a breath a couple of times. He got to running his mouth big time one after noon when he came by my job at the stock yards. He wanted money my car and was going out drag racing and who knows what then, as I wasn't in the mood to deal with it I told him to get home I would see him when I got home. He went home but got hold of my mad money in my lock box but couldn't get in it and he was pissed. I had all I could stand of this crap...thought about it a while then called my uncle who had strong connections to a military school ,the next day uncle came for a visit then went back with my very pissed off teen ager taking him to said school where he was enrolled in for the next year. Being in military school was a lot better than being in jail where his cronies ended up.
I have had to put off job hunting cause my left knee went nuts with arthritis so for the last long while I have been dealing with its foul pain. I thought my back issues were tough to deal with, oh heck just add arthritis in a knee joint to the mix...just bad. I had my back injected Tuesday so things are a lot better but I will need my knee shot up by my regular pain Doctor before long.
I tried another treatment with a different Doctor that worked the first time just fine but the second set of shots of supratz were useless didn't work at all, so now my regular pain Doctor is waiting for the stuff to clear out of my system before he gives my anything else, he said in a couple of weeks and that's doable.
So that's a wrap for me, what's been going on out your way?
Rockin

[Dean Thoreau]

Well here I am, almost another year gone by since my last post on this thread...Let's see,
Ok so I dated a few folks and am continuing the date thing......wow, interesting experiences,,,I have decided that at this age,,the first meeting is fascinating and very different...scheduling it has different issues as well:

Instead of bands you talk about your meds.
Discuss medicare instead of If we care.
Compare social security pay days to schedule the next date.
Instead of favorite songs you compare illnesses.
current events are the ones we read in AARP magazine.
Having a late date....means eating at six instead of the Early Bird menu : )
Staying out late is dependent on which one can drive at night, and if its neither it means....home before nightfall.
Having gas is no longer embarassing,,its a fact of life.and after we both say excuse me,,,3 or four times after dinner we just laugh and keep walking...
Transplants, pacemakers, eyeglasses, hearing aids, canes, walkers, are a fact of life and have to be figured in when choosing whose car we will use/ or where we shall go.....
Travel time includes lots of pee stops,,,and in the morning, after the diuretic kicks in, its more frequent.

Now for sex.....
wow,,,we both become 20 again.....and certainly feel free....can keep it going for days...if one has med breaks, pee breaks, fart breaks, ...and you just plan on using a lot of ben gay after the 3 day marathon, cause the back, hip, knee, elbow,,bones and muscles are sore. Of course neither admits that till the 5th day of the marathon, when the "hot showers" get longer and longer, and the lil nap turns into a 6 hour dueling snore fest with the breathing machines, O2, apnea machines,bp monitors, omg we should have brought a 50 foot extension cord and 12 outlet power bar to the hotel with us...u want to borrow my what did you say? for your what?

Oh those whispers of sweet nothings are now PA announcements so she can hear them when the hearing aids are out..."You won what?" You have a harpoon? Lets buy a truck??? oh oh....Lets truck? no? no that was a question no.....no not go....well if you want to go..No I dont want to go....no thats not snow....oh fuck what did u say? LETS FUCK well why didnt you say so???? dont need to shout...

:wine: :byebye:


(btw some of this is tongue in cheek, most of it is true, the sex part is true, and btw definitely bring a bright heavy duty extension cord with a power bar to the hotel.....extra batteries for what ever needs batteries )

[iamkeri1]

Dean,
Thanks so much for the post. Who cares what time of day you're dating? You're out there dating and that is so good to hear. I have very good hearing, by the way. Sadly, no sweet nothings are being whispered in my ear for the time being. Sounds like amid the pain and equipment you are still having fun and I salute you for it.

Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi all, its been a while since I have been hear. If any of ya'll are being effected by all this nasty rain please stay safe, it has rained well over two feet hear, depends where you live, that there have been 70 major and simi major roads closed over 2,000 places evacuated so says the last news cast. I am glad we live on the top side of a hill .
Many have probably read at some point about my knee issues so finely a few things are coming into the picture that should have happened a long time ago.
For one I am finely going to see a Doctor about operating on my knee now that it is bone on bone arthritis, we have done any and everything that can be dome but surgery that should have been done two years ago and saved me all the pain I have been dealing with, I do hope It happend asap so I can get on with the healing so at some point the pain will stop in my leg so I can get on with life. Two that I now am getting an o.k. for a hover round chair to improve my mobility, I am on crutches that is destroying my right shoulder. What blew me away was the two to four months waiting time to get the chair.
I know this wont be a walk in the park but it will be the end to a long pain full thing I have dealt with for to long time. Take care everyone, night.

[iamkeri1]

Hi Rockin,
Great! you're making progress in two directions at once. I'm so glad to hear it. Just try to be a little gentler on your new knees than you were to your old ones. If you decide to climb Mount Everest, at least take a guide instead of trying to do it all on your own, LOL
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

It's mildly storming here in Central Florida. I am sitting here on the bed with my laptop, playing Bubble Hit and enjoying the rumbling thunder outside. We needed rain badly.

Next weekend is Tampa Pride. We will be in the parade with the PFLAG groups from several locations.

Then there is Easter the next day. I'm cooking. I have a pretty standard menu planned. Ham, coleslaw, green bean casserole, fresh baked rolls and "Bunny" cake. My grandkids love that cake. I want to do something with rice rather than potatoes. Something with fruit. So far the recipes I've found all include whip cream. They sound good, but not what I'm looking for. I used to go to this Polynesian Restaurant (the KonTiki) in Cleveland when I was a kid. they had wonderful dishes like I had never had before. There is one I remember that had rice and fruit that I loved. It was only mildly sweet. I think it had chunks of chicken in it too, and maybe tiny peas and celery. I'll keep looking, but would appreciate ideas if you have them.

Hope y'all are enjoying your Saturday. Its almost Spring! A beautiful time of year. Blessed be to all you witchy folk as the equinox and Ostara approach. March 20th will be the 100th anniversary of My Mother's birth. She has been dead for many years, but I still think of her almost daily. I was so lucky to have her.

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The spring equinox falls on Sunday March 20, 2016.

Smooches.
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Hi Rockin,
Great! you're making progress in two directions at once. I'm so glad to hear it. Just try to be a little gentler on your new knees than you were to your old ones. If you decide to climb Mount Everest, at least take a guide instead of trying to do it all on your own, LOL
Smooches,
Keri


Hi keri
No luck, the doc says he absolutely wont do the surgery till I get the loose skin around my knee removed. Medicare turned me down a while back for paying for that reduction, I have no idea how I am going to pull that off but I am going to be looking hard to find away, being in debt for $5,000.00 at my age isn't anything I ever planed on. I do have a couple of ideas so we will see how they work out, I spoke to a good friend and then my cousin today and got some pointers to try. I am pretty down about it , but you can bet I wont let this knee slowly take my life one day at the time, one thing I am worried about is they may made me a dope head before its over as now I am on oxy morphine, tramadol 50 mg's along with 500mg robiaxions a day and its kicking my butt. If you or anyone else has any ideas please pass the to me I need all the help I can get.
Thanks
Rockin

[iamkeri1]

Call me crazy, but it seems such a simple thing to remove some extra skin around your knee when they are already removing significant amounts of bone. Kind of redundant to do two surgeries for it.

CRAP!! Docs (and medical people in general), are always dangling something in front of you that you really want or need, and then saying "BUT, you have to do this first." So sorry, my friend. But you are pretty resourceful, and will probably soon have it figured out.

On another topic completely, Mr. Chef, do you have any good recipes for Shrimp, rice, and fruit (what I have available is canned pineapple, and fresh apples and oranges.) Here is something I put together on paper yesterday after reading many other recipes.

Shrimp rice and fruit delight
1 cup peeled deveined shrimp
2 TB butter
1/4 cup green onions
1/4 cup yellow onions
1 egg
1/4 Tsp chili seeds (like you shake on pizza)
1/4 Tsp garlic
1/2 tsp ginger
3 cups cooked rice
1 cup orange sections
1 cup crushed pineapple
1/4 cup coconut (optional)
1/2 cup almonds or pecans for topping (what I have available is pecans)

In a tablespoon of butter, saute shrimp and green onions, till shrimp is browned and onion caramelized. Add spices and toss with shrimp. Whip egg till fluffy. Push saute mixture off to side of pan, add remaining butter, pour in whipped egg, stirring constantly till cooked and broken into small chunks. Add rice, oranges, and pineapple. Add as much of fruit juices as you desire to achieve the consistency you desire. Mix well and heat to boiling. remove from heat, add coconut and stir well again. Place in serving dish and sprinkle nuts over top.

Does it sound like it will taste good? I am going for a very light fruit taste, not real sugary. I want to serve it hot as a starch instead of potatoes, rather than as a salad. A big question I have is this. Should I use more butter and throw uncooked rice in with the shrimp while it is sautéing and brown in up a little? Then add fruit juice and/or water to cook the rice the rest of the way. You generally get more flavor that way, but will the shrimp taste get too strong if I do it that way? Will it overwhelm the fruit taste? OR should I cook the rice separately and then add it in at the end like I've described above?

If you have any better ideas, lay 'em on me ... and thanks.

PS. I still use that recipe you gave me for putting peaches under the skin of a turkey before you cook it. I have gotten lots of compliments on it.

Smooches,
Keri

[Rockinonahigh]

Call me crazy, but it seems such a simple thing to remove some extra skin around your knee when they are already removing significant amounts of bone. Kind of redundant to do two surgeries for it.

CRAP!! Docs (and medical people in general), are always dangling something in front of you that you really want or need, and then saying "BUT, you have to do this first." So sorry, my friend. But you are pretty resourceful, and will probably soon have it figured out.

On another topic completely, Mr. Chef, do you have any good recipes for Shrimp, rice, and fruit (what I have available is canned pineapple, and fresh apples and oranges.) Here is something I put together on paper yesterday after reading many other recipes.

Shrimp rice and fruit delight
1 cup peeled deveined shrimp
2 TB butter
1/4 cup green onions
1/4 cup yellow onions
1 egg
1/4 Tsp chili seeds (like you shake on pizza)
1/4 Tsp garlic
1/2 tsp ginger
3 cups cooked rice
1 cup orange sections
1 cup crushed pineapple
1/4 cup coconut (optional)
1/2 cup almonds or pecans for topping (what I have available is pecans)

In a tablespoon of butter, saute shrimp and green onions, till shrimp is browned and onion caramelized. Add spices and toss with shrimp. Whip egg till fluffy. Push saute mixture off to side of pan, add remaining butter, pour in whipped egg, stirring constantly till cooked and broken into small chunks. Add rice, oranges, and pineapple. Add as much of fruit juices as you desire to achieve the consistency you desire. Mix well and heat to boiling. remove from heat, add coconut and stir well again. Place in serving dish and sprinkle nuts over top.

Does it sound like it will taste good? I am going for a very light fruit taste, not real sugary. I want to serve it hot as a starch instead of potatoes, rather than as a salad. A big question I have is this. Should I use more butter and throw uncooked rice in with the shrimp while it is sautéing and brown in up a little? Then add fruit juice and/or water to cook the rice the rest of the way. You generally get more flavor that way, but will the shrimp taste get too strong if I do it that way? Will it overwhelm the fruit taste? OR should I cook the rice separately and then add it in at the end like I've described above?

If you have any better ideas, lay 'em on me ... and thanks.

PS. I still use that recipe you gave me for putting peaches under the skin of a turkey before you cook it. I have gotten lots of compliments on it.

Smooches,
Keri


I would say that recipe sounds pretty good to me, just keep the sweet taste a bit lite as you always can add more. I will give it a try at home this week as it sounds to good not to give it a try.
Doctors are a crap shoot, I am loosing my respect for them quickly, I grew up with Doctors that at least made an effort to help instead of hear it is take it or leave it. Out of all the Doctors I am seeing only two have been trying to help , the res have been rude ass holes. My cousin said it's because of so many rules and regs that there hands are tied on what they can do. She works at a hospital and said for me to get with the paitent advocate at my hospital as well as university health to see about what they can do, there is something called care credit that is put together by Doctors to help people who need help.
Most of today I have floated around on meds but I would rather not spend the day wasting time sleeping so much. Yesterday I found something aspercream
rub that has Lidocain 4% pain releaver in it. I checked with my pharmacy to make sure it wouldn't clash with my meds, it wont so I used it and it dose help.
Sorry about my spelling... the meds are at it again. Oh, I will check mu=y cook books and let you know which will help the best.

[CowboyJ]

What part of KS Gina? There are some nice places here :).

[iamkeri1]

Hi everyone. No One including me has been posting for quite a while. Are any of you still out there? Just wanted to say, "Hello!"
Smooches,
Keri

[Greco]

Keri...indeed, still here..."Hello!" to you as well...life is good.

Best, Greco


Hi everyone. No One including me has been posting for quite a while. Are any of you still out there? Just wanted to say, "Hello!"
Smooches,
Keri

[Curley]

Dean....its been forever since I have been here, Glad to see you are as witty as ever.....loved it

[Esme nha Maire]

I guess I'm the new girl on the block here. 59 and feeling mildly grumpy because until I stupidly went and overdid exercise a few weeks ago, I was feeling physiclly a lot younger than I am. Mentally still am feeling a lot younger. I need help...

------

Dear Aunt Saffie:

My libido wants to go chasing the bright young things, 'cause I wasn't doing that back when I was a teenager (too screwed up/scared, long story, doesn't matter here).

My body, this last few weeks, tells me that chasing may not be done at any speed above a brisk walk, and that not for long, and may require the assistance of a stick now and then.

My mind tells me that I may have better luck pursuing women nearer my own age, which seeing as it's mostly older lesbians (ie: around my own age) that I know thus far locally, is likely a more attainable group anyway. Oh, and pursuing? A wallflower like me? I have been working on the self-confidence thing though, lately. Did manage to tell a lass I thought she had a lovely face a few weeks ago then blew the situation minutes later, sigh...

My emotions tell me that theyr'e (the locals I know) all adult and grown up and a bit intimidating, and why would they even look twice at a messed up kid like me?

Aaaand I'm about to start college, for the first time in my life, commuting from home, to do a degree in horticulture, so I'm likely to be meeting lots of new people. What do I do if I encounter a hot young thing with more energy than I can handle, aside from ask them nicely if they'd mind doing a spot of digging I can't quite manage?!

Haaalllp!

I look forward to your reply, Aunt Saffie,

Confused antique babydyke.

[Greco]

So, a lovely young thing just asked me how old I am.

I am 65 years old. And, no, have no issue with aging, since
have been aging ever since I was born...smiling.

Do like the question as it opens doors to other questions.

Here's a memory of an experience I had in 2010.
Remember I shared that my NYC 2010 Marathon was
a disaster? But, I also met three wonderful people.

A daughter, a son, and their grandfather who was
95 years old! We talked as we ran on the Verrazano,
a bridge from Staten Island to Brooklyn. I'll tell you
he didn't look past 50yrs old if that, they were from
Ireland...and his, and daughter's, son's energy and
spirit of good will helped fueled my run.

I understood when meeting this man of 95 years that
we can continue to move and live with passion well
into our elder years, should we be so lucky.

Now, living in NY, I met and ran with many women
and men of all ages, races, and ethnicities, which is why
I miss my City so much...but the vigor of this man was
inspirational, to say the least.

So, I am 65 and continue to move and live with passion
and gratitude for my life, family and creativity.

That 2010 NYC Marathon taught me a great deal...train,
train, and train some more...and never give up on myself,
my body, or mind.

So, my dear young lady there you have it.

Greco

[iamkeri1]

Greco, that is a beautiful post. Such a positive approach to aging. I applaud you and I hope the young lady in question recognized the wisdom as well.

Smooches
Keri

[Greco]

Keri...you are gracious, thank you.

Greco

Greco, that is a beautiful post. Such a positive approach to aging. I applaud you and I hope the young lady in question recognized the wisdom as well.

Smooches
Keri

[Orema]

People looking at Medicate Supplemental Plans in the U.S. should check out this website:

https://www.ehealthmedicareplans.com

[Stone-Butch]

Not too many folks are gonna post here I don't think. What!! give your age approx.? How exposing is that LMAO. My jij is up I am old and growing older as we all find out sooner or later. Smile if you are under 60. Grin that grin if you lived more than that.

[homoe]

Not too many folks are gonna post here I don't think. What!! give your age approx.? How exposing is that LMAO. My jij is up I am old and growing older as we all find out sooner or later. Smile if you are under 60. Grin that grin if you lived more than that.

I'll admit to being in my 60's.....:giggle:

I've got a lot of good memories and hope to have even more before all is said and done!

[Blade]

Not quite 60 but knocking on the door.that door will open in 10 months and I will happily hobble threw. We'll maybe not hobble, may actually walk threw if I've had surgery again by then.

[iamkeri1]

Wow, the first posts in a long long time were on my birthday and I missed them. I have actually been going through a lot of very heavy things. It would be good to have people to talk to. Thanks for chiming in, Blade, homoe, Stone Butch and Orema. Welcome and come back soon.

Smooches,
Keri

[Soft*Silver]

I turned 65 this year. I really love the grace of aging. My hair is very silver and suddenly it’s extremely curly and thick just like it was when I was a teenager! I love the lines around my eyes. It’s as though I smile with my whole face now! Within me there is a peace I have been waiting all my life for. It wakens me softly. And later makes me tired so that sleep claims me easily. And in between, I explore for what I did not have time for before. I am baking sourdough bread! I’m learning how to cook Chinese meals. I’m taking lessons in Spanish. I’m building a huge raised bed garden with a greenhouse.
It’s interesting because in other parts of my life there were complications and strife. Not so here at 65. I am so grateful where I am at this age….

[firecat242]

61 and ok with it. Even with menopause I am more stable and content than I have ever been. Twice as bitchy? Yes. Several degrees warmer? Oh hell yes!! But I don't have the need to prove anything or compare myself to anyone else....for me that is priceless. I will take the aches and pains....the forgetting what you walked into a room for....and early bed times for the peace that has come with age and maturity.

[Stone-Butch]

Welcome to my world, won't you come on in. I do love that Jim Reeves song.

[iamkeri1]

Happy Pride, everyone.!!


Smooches
Keri

[Gentle Tiger]

Hello All,

It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted. Turned 60 earlier this year. Who would have thought? Certainly not me! I didn’t expect to see 30. So imagine my surprise to still be here at 60!

Nothing witty or profound to say. Just thankful for the gift of life. And I thought I would say so. :praying:

Peace

[Kätzchen]

I just celebrated my 65th birthday (I’m a Memorial Day Weekend baby) the other day.

Me too ## (lucky I’m not dead yet and super grateful for each day of life).

❤️❤️❤️🥳🤩🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎁💫💫💫😚💋

[Soft*Silver]

Happy birthday!!!


I just celebrated my 65th birthday (I’m a Memorial Day Weekend baby) the other day.

Me too ## (lucky I’m not dead yet and super grateful for each day of life).

❤️❤️❤️🥳🤩🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎁💫💫💫😚💋

[Stone-Butch]

Do you ever ask yourself "how did I get here ?" I sure do, daily. My mind is awake, alive and wanting to dance my butt off. I guess we need to shake ourselves but, wait, not really. I like my mind as is. I realize now that I am as I am I can think better, clearer, make more sense of things. My temper is no longer quick to act as I think back to younger years when it was fast and furious, really, what was the point of it all. Now it brings me to a peaceful place knowing that noone else understands my way of thinking any more than I understand theirs. SO, think before you act or speak as if it is cruel and unnecessary, you are showing that age does not automatically come with wisdom.

[iamkeri1]

I was so excited to see recent posts on this thread. Hello everyone!

I have not been here for a long time myself. I started this thread a

long time ago. I have been in my seventies for some time now. Still alive, still kicking, still hungry.


I am alone now. My husband died 20 years ago. How could that be? I partnered again, another trans man, and he is gone too. Why do some of us die and some live on?



I am thankful every day, every minute really, for the blessings of my life.
I have 8 grandchildren. Again, how could that be? I was the one that didn't want kids. My Husband wanted them. In all things we gave each other what we wanted, so we adopted four kids out of foster care. These 8 beautiful beings, so vital to my life, came from that decision.



Will I ever partner again? Who knows? I am not anxious to share my home with someone. A new person in my space is hard. Share a bed for the night, or some afternoon delight? That is very appealing. I still have that hunger.


Mixed musings.


I wish you all a sweet evening filled with hunger for more. More life, more love, more music, more touching. More of whatever you long for.


Smooches,
Keri

[Soft*Silver]

I am now 67 1/2. Remember when you were young and half a year was so important to claim? “ I’m 8 1/2 years old!” lol
Today I noticed that I have crepe’ skin on my arms for the first time. Up until now my flesh was smooth on my limbs and my body. The only signs of aging were around my eyes, more lines than smile lines nowadays up there. Tonight as I was watching a show I reached for something and I noticed the crêpe in the folds of my arm. When I was a child and I saw my older relatives, I’m marveled at the crêpe skin of theirs. I loved the texture! How could skin honeycomb in such a relaxed way? I found it beautiful, like the ripples in the water when you throw a stone with it. And now I have some for myself!
My silver hair is so beautiful! I get so many compliments about it. I’ve cut it short and when the light hits it now, it’s like sun on steel.
I also have the aches and pains of aging, but I have the glory of it too. Everything is so settled, and in its quiteness, It’s so bright! like snow on an early winter morning when the world around you is just beginning…

[Stone-Butch]

Read this on the wall in someones house and never forgot it. "Too soon old, too late smart".

[iamkeri1]

I'm sitting here wishing I was not alone. There is a storm brewing out in the gulf. It is predicted to hit Florida as either a tropical storm or Cat1 hurricane with lots of rain and flooding. Storms make me nervous as hell, which is a big part of why I wish I had company right now. No one I can talk to right now. I am the only "night owl" in my friend group. So I decided to come to the planet to seek comfort and contact from y'all. Eeeek!


Smooches,
Keri

[nhplowboi]

You've been through plenty. Just use your common sense. I have faith in you. Let us all know when when you are safe.

[Stone-Butch]

I am over 60 and a definite night own and can be reached here to chat for comfort if needed.

[iamkeri1]

Thanks so much, Stone-Butch. Your offer is a comfort in itself.
Smooches,
Keri

[Stone-Butch]

You know , they say , that if there is snow on the roof, there is probably a fire in the furnace.

White hair will get you everywhere lol.

[iamkeri1]

Lost my post again in the middle of writing it. SO this will be be shorter. Thanks to those of you who responded to say I was not alone. It helped. The storm is huge and still hanging over the state, but fortunately it is not as strong as many of them are. Most of the damage will be caused by water/flooding.


Just talked to a friend in Mulberry Florida. Her house is partially flooded. It has happened before and she was pretty stoic about it. I live on what they call the ridge. It is the highest part of Florida, about 300 feet above sea level. We have never had a flood. But my son, who is a truck driver is out driving in this mess and there is lots of flooding elsewhere.


The storm is moving cross Florida heading for Georgia and South Carolina and after that, who knows. My love and best wishes to those who are in her pathway.
Smooches,
Keri

[Stone-Butch]

After living where I do for the last 20 years and never having seen a tornado or earthquake and only street size flooding. I feel fortunate listening to news how others are suffering all over the world and knowing how lucky I am to be away from all that. Take nothing for granted and help those who need it. I believe that donations should be given if you have it to give to show your caring for those not so fortunate.

[iamkeri1]

Stone-Butch,
I probably noticed before that you live in Canada, but it didn't get in to my brain until tonight. My Mom was Canadian, from Petrolia Ontario. A few weeks ago, when it was (horribly) looking like Trump might win the election, I was laying plans to move to Canada. My mother's family - my family - is very large. Recently I counted 50 cousins in London alone, with more in Toronto, so I would have a rather large support group upon arrival. No queerfolk though. In a family of that size, how could I be the only purple sheep of the family? There are however, many LGBTQ+ organizations/groups in the London Area.

Currently I have hope that Dems will win out. I really love FLorida and I'm mot dying to go back to the type of cold weather I lived with in my previous home of Michigan. My passport app is filled out and sitting on my desk. I still need to fill it out, since I cant go to Canada without it. I let my previous passport expire. My cousin, our family historian, has my mother's birth certificate, and I need that to be able to establish my own Canadian citizenship. Freedom is more important to me than warm weather, but I live in hope that the Dems will be successful and I will not be forced to leave my Florida Sunshine. Sorry, a very disjointed post. I'm tired and should be sleeping.
Smooches,
Keri

[Stone-Butch]

Keri, all of Church St in TO has moved half to Young St. and there are tons of gays of all ages down around there. It is the place to be. I was in Florida when I was driving truck once and it was in summer also. I would not move there if they gave me a free home to live it. It is ok for those who love and can take the heat but I like it up here sitting by my fire in winter and do not freeze. Last winter was almost like spring all winter, mild and few snow falls which we needed for the fires out in BC and Manitoba. If you have folks here you can come to visit and see how you like being partially out of the heat lol. It is hot as the devil here too. Almost all summer was in the 80s and 90s area with the humidity. Temps were 70-75 but felt much hotter and they had announcements often for older folks to stay in if possible so who needs it hotter than that I ask you. Anyway, Canada is here lol.

[iamkeri1]

It really is super hot here in Florida. I've been here 22 years and it is much hotter now than it was then. I do a lot of yard work, and I find that if I acclimatize myself to the heat in the spring as it is starting to get hotter, then I can tolerate it pretty well. Huge live oak trees provide a lot of shade and I mainly work in the evening when its cooler.

I do miss the cool Michigan evenings.

We were in Canada all the time when I was a kid. It's stupid that we have to have a passport to cross the border. We spent every new years eve with my Aunt in London. She would buy everyone in the family Lotto Canada tickets and we would all gather around the television to hear the numbers called.
None of us ever won, lol. Thirty or forty Irish people in a room and not a drop of luck among us.
Smooches,

Keri

[Stone-Butch]

Well, I am certainly glad you like it where you are and so do I. I live quite near the Scarborough Bluffs and spending time in the park is super nice if I might say so. It is good you have adjusted to living hot but I could never as I have trouble here on hot days. Air conditioning is ok but I prefer out in nature when it is cool and breezy. It is 66F here today and a nice breeze so I will be off to the park shortly. If you come up this way I would be happy to show you the park. We want to get rid of Trudeau as much as you do with the big T. Both are criminals and should not be in politics supposidly helping the people. All we can do is vote and hope our fellow neighbours feel the same. Take care....

[iamkeri1]

I enjoyed so much reading your post. I love talking to happy people and bathing in their positivity. The cool weather you are experiencing sounds wonderful. When I am out working in the yard it is usually in the high 70's to low 80's fahrenheit. Outdoors, 80 is my favorite temperature, and a breeze makes it even better. Florida is not a very breezy place though, at least not inland where I live. I would love to augment my household electrical system with a windmill which is a lot cheaper than solar. But there's just not enough wind to make it at all practical.


Tomorrow is our primary election for state positions. There is a primary in the early spring for the president. Like so many other things in politics, it makes no sense, to me at any rate. I would love to see our Senator, Rick Scott be displaced, but that won't happen till November. I don't have any particular favorites. I want to elect as many Democrats as possible. No LGBTQ+ folk are running that I know of. I am extremely liberal with social issues, but I would love to see the deficit lowered or eliminated. I would like us to stop being the cops of the world and significantly reduce the size of the military.


Sorry, I did not intend to turn this into politics. Thanks again for your happy post. It made me smile.


Smooches,
Keri

[Stone-Butch]

It is 65F here today and I could not be happier. We were suppose to get tons of rain but I have seen only normal amounts and welcome them to keep fire under control. Changing weather, hot and humid to cooler is hard on the old bones lol. I think as we age we learn to adjust but looking to winter is another story. Snow is nice but not overdone. A serious fall can be a real life changer. I will be glad when little boy T is out of office. He is useless and a crook but trying to get the younger generation to stop looking up to him can be a challenge. I must go and enjoy this beautiful day, time for the park. Always nice to chat. Take care and mind the weather lol.

[Bèsame*]

Came across this article, it's a great read. Let's look at life like they are. An interesting interview with Al Roker and Oprah Winfrey. Its a rainy relaxing day here..I'm in enjoying the company of my Texas bestie this week .

https://www.today.com/life/al-roker-oprah-winfrey-interview-70th-birthday-rcna167195

[iamkeri1]

I was a good girl and completed all the tasks my health care company wanted me to do, so they are sending me a gift card. For $50! And I got to pick where it was coming from. There were a few restaurants I could pick from; Applebee's, Chili's and I can't remember the third one, but it wasn't Ruby Tuesday, which is my favorite. Their salad bar is out of sight, and they have a lot of choices on their menu. You can sit there for hours talking to friends and they don't pressure you to leave. But they were not on the list, so I just picked Walmart so I'll have extra money to buy nuts and other baking supplies for the upcoming winter holidays.


The "good girl" was said tongue in cheek. Years ago I had good strong feminist boss. She used to always say "good girl" if we got all the unreasonable stuff done that she asked us to do. My standard response was "Good Girl" is what you say to your dog when you come home after a full days work, and she has not pooped on your carpet. LOL


SO now I'm a good OLD girl, and that has some status in the South. I'd like to give a shout out to to all y'all good old girls. You're awesome.


Let me hear you make some noise!
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Ruminations on a Monday afternoon . .

It been raining here in my neighborhood for most of the afternoon. First the wind whipped up, then we had a couple bouts of driving rain. No big storm or anything, but now I'm listening to soft thunder in the distance. Peaceful.

I cooked fresh beets yesterday. They came with a decent amount of greens. I love beet greens. I had them for dinner yesterday with a bunch of other veggies and fruit, and radishes. I adore radishes. So Summer-y. Today I hope to make a soup I "invented" about six months ago that I have come to love. Beet and cauliflower soup. Its a beautiful color with bite sized bites of flavor throughout. I enjoy soup and I'm a pretty good soup maker.

About ten years ago there was a commercial for some kind of soup base. The tag line was "because I make the best chicken soup in the world." A friend was living with me at the time and we would both spontaneously shout "No I make the best chicken soup in the world!" Then we would quibble among ourselves about who made the better soup, LOL. Our approach to soup making was very different from each other. She was talking bone soup which she cooked for days in a slow cooker. I favor chicken soup bursting with 10 or 12 different kinds of veggies. Mostly it doesn't matter what the veggies are, but two I consider "musts" are cabbage, and then at the last moment just before serving, I add one finely chopped Roma tomato. It adds such a bright, fresh flavor.

Well my friends, I hope you all enjoyed a thoughtful time today, and I wish you well.

Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Clay, this is for you. I know years ago I frequently posted visitor messages on people's user page, but for the life of me I can't figure out how to do it now. Anyway I am responding to your rep, and thank you. I live in Dundee, a little town about 40 miles South of Orlando. I too am looking for friends both off and on-line. Good to hear from you.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Hi Everyone, what are your plans for Thanksgiving?

I think I'll be hosting at my house. Broke my leg getting ready for Hurricane Milton and I'm not driving yet. I've got a turkey and all that other stuff, but I hope the rest of the fam will do a lot of the cooking. I am fully functional in the kitchen, but haven't had much interest in cooking for a while now.

Do you have any special traditions or ethnic foods that you cook instead of the standard fare? Do y'all eat around the TV watching football? Share with us, please.
Smooches,
Keri

[Gráinne]

Hi Everyone, what are your plans for Thanksgiving?

I think I'll be hosting at my house. Broke my leg getting ready for Hurricane Milton and I'm not driving yet. I've got a turkey and all that other stuff, but I hope the rest of the fam will do a lot of the cooking. I am fully functional in the kitchen, but haven't had much interest in cooking for a while now.

Do you have any special traditions or ethnic foods that you cook instead of the standard fare? Do y'all eat around the TV watching football? Share with us, please.
Smooches,
Keri

Oh! I hope you're doing OK, both leg-wise and hurricane-wise.

I think it's pretty much tradition; a half ham, mashed potatoes, stuffing, peas, and crescent rolls (which I can't make into crescents, so they look like little blobs). I also make my mom's lime Jell-O with Mandarin Oranges, which exactly no one likes but me! And of course, it's not Thanksgiving without Gherkin pickles and olives.

Also in the grand tradition, I spend all day cooking and setting up, for a mad dash at halftime and phoom! right back to the game :).

[Stone-Butch]

Thanksgiving was quite a meal around our house when all six of us and probably more family members showed up. Mom made a turkey and either a ham or roast beef (I could never stomach turkey), mashed potatoes, carrots, peas, greens, lots of gravy. Custard and Jello or her special muffins for desert. Our meals always opened with tomato juice or V8. Since the family is gone except for me and my brother and my general knowledge of Thanksgiving I do not celebrate. It was a good time had by all and wonderful to look back on. Good if you don't have a broken leg or two.

[iamkeri1]

We did have Thanksgiving at my house. My daughter and her family were there and, happily she made most of the food. We had turkey, ham with pineapples, Cheesy hash brown casserole, collard greens, candied sweet potatoes, green bean casserole, home made cranberry sauce and a cranberry jello salad with walnuts. For the first time in many years I did not make my own pies, but the store bought pumpkin and pecan were very good, nonetheless.

After dinner we played "Sorry." My 10 year old grandson, wiped the floor with us all winning both games.


I believe in teaching kids how to cook and bake and do food prep early on. My daughter, like her Dad, prefers to do everything herself, so it is hard for her to watch the freedom/responsibilities her kids have at my house. They all know their jobs and with a few reminders, it is very efficient. The 14 year old boy gets down a basket, puts napkins in it and then counts out the silverware we'll use for the meal. He gets out the paper plates and napkins and puts them on the table and fills a bowl with ice for the drinks. Age 11 girl does the pickle tray - I always have a bunch of different pickles on hand - and she does not want to be interfered with. She wants to do it herself! Ten year old boy loves making the garlic bread or cheesy bread. We cut the french loaf in half and he can handle it after that. Baby girl, age almost 6 knows where everything is in my fridge. She brings us condiments when asked or puts them on the table. She also helps big brother put ice in the glasses. They are awesome.

Every year we make cookies, brownies, chocolate dipped pretzels and different chocolate candies together. They are so proud of their work. Each of them get to mix up a batch of cookies and put them on cookie sheets. We all work on them when they are done and we have a lot of fun Last year I also recruited them to help me make Stuffed Cabbage which I find tedious on my own. We made a big batch and they got to take a bunch home. They always love showing off their cooking to Mom and Dad.

They fight like all siblings do. Lately I've been having a little talk with them before we start about how much we all love each other and how to say positive things to each other. One time it worked beautifully, one time they still fought constantly. Its a work in process as they say.

Woops! Long post!

Thanks for sharing.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Well, today is super bowl Sunday. Traditionally I have made a big "snack buffet" to munch on throughout the game. My daughter and I, averse to football, would hang out in my bedroom and watch a movie, while the football lovers monopolized the front room. No company this year. That means no football and, sadly, no buffet. I'll probably watch a movie like in years past, and if I can time it right, watch the super bowl halftime show.
Maybe I'll order some wings from Domino's pizza. Their plain wings are awesome. I can never figure out how they make them so flavorful when there are no detectable spices, breading or sauces involved.

Happy day, Everyone.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Love to talk to y'all. Are you hibernating for the winter?
Smooches,

Keri

[Orema]

Love to talk to y'all. Are you hibernating for the winter?
Smooches,

Keri

Yes, I'm hibernating and am enjoying every single minute of it. It's what I need and surprisingly, it's what I want.

We've been swamped with snow and arctic temperatures in my neck of the woods. The weather people on the news were excited this morning because we're finally in the 20s. Thank goodness I'm retired and don't have to drive much in this weather.

I'm also still mending my wounds from the election. I'm quiet when I'm not well and I'm chatty when I'm good. I haven't checked out, but I shut down when I'm not good and become over-protective of my thoughts, feelings, actions. Not sure how I (we) will recover, so for now I'm going with my inner voice that tells me to be quiet and still. I think a lot of us are feeling/thinking the same.

It's good to see you postiing and I hope you're well, Keri.

[Orema]

Love to talk to y'all. Are you hibernating for the winter?
Smooches,

Keri

Do you travel, Keri?

I like to travel, but haven't been anywhere in ages.

I was hoping to go to Africa (Ghana, Kenya, ?) this year for the first time, but that's not gon' happen anytime soon. That dream will just have to stay on my bucket list for now.

I also want to see the comedian and actress Lunell when she appears in Detroit, but my Ex will be there and I don't want to run into her.

I can always find a jazz festival to attend, but I wanna do something different. So, I've decided to go to a WNBA game nearby in the Illinois/Indiana area. They know how to hoop, they look good, and I'd have a swell time. Gives me a reason to support a sport I love and reason to stretch my traveling legs. I just have to decide what game, where and when. The more I think about it, the more I like it.

As you can see, traveling is on my mind. I don't get to do it much, but I get a bug every now and then.

What about y'all? Anyone going anywhere anytime this year or the next? Anyone been anywhere they can recommend?

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Hi Everyone,

I have been quietly lurking on this thread for years, waiting until I turn 60 to join. I am now 59 3/4 (I will be 60 on May 13). Are y'all really going to make me wait 3 more months to join, or can I get a pass? Y'all are an interesting group and I want to play. Please!

[Kätzchen]

Hi to Keri, Orema, and GM :)

Happy almost 60th birthday to you, GeorgiaMa’am!

I turn 66 over Memorial Weekend.

Orema? It sounds like you have a plan to enjoy a few outings, soon! I’m glad you can do something special just for you.

I don’t have plans to travel… I don’t trust our airlines transportation system. I don’t have much faith in trains either. If I go anywhere, I stay locally, within a five mile radius. I’m not interested in contributing to the overload of pollution Mother Earth is enduring. But that’s just my values and boundary system.

There’s lots to do and enjoy in my area, so staying home is worth it (in my mind). And with so much of our country under attack by the sinister people ruining our country, it’s better if I stay local in case something happens that causes a fuck ton of heartbreak.💔

Enjoy your day and stay strong, friends.

— K. (f)(f)(f)

[Orema]

Hi Everyone,

I have been quietly lurking on this thread for years, waiting until I turn 60 to join. I am now 59 3/4 (I will be 60 on May 13). Are y'all really going to make me wait 3 more months to join, or can I get a pass? Y'all are an interesting group and I want to play. Please!

Hi y’all. You have my vote and an early Happy, Happy to you!

[iamkeri1]

Hi Everyone,

I have been quietly lurking on this thread for years, waiting until I turn 60 to join. I am now 59 3/4 (I will be 60 on May 13). Are y'all really going to make me wait 3 more months to join, or can I get a pass? Y'all are an interesting group and I want to play. Please!


You're welcome GMa'am. Glad to see you here.
Smooches,
Keri

[iamkeri1]

Do you travel, Keri?

I like to travel, but haven't been anywhere in ages.

I was hoping to go to Africa (Ghana, Kenya, ?) this year for the first time, but that's not gon' happen anytime soon. That dream will just have to stay on my bucket list for now.

I also want to see the comedian and actress Lunell when she appears in Detroit, but my Ex will be there and I don't want to run into her.

I can always find a jazz festival to attend, but I wanna do something different. So, I've decided to go to a WNBA game nearby in the Illinois/Indiana area. They know how to hoop, they look good, and I'd have a swell time. Gives me a reason to support a sport I love and reason to stretch my traveling legs. I just have to decide what game, where and when. The more I think about it, the more I like it.

As you can see, traveling is on my mind. I don't get to do it much, but I get a bug every now and then.

What about y'all? Anyone going anywhere anytime this year or the next? Anyone been anywhere they can recommend?

I used to travel quite a bit, on the continent. I have tons of family in Canada, mostly in Ontario. Before 911, it was nothing to cross the border. Answer a question or two and you're on your way. Now you have to have a passport. I've been trying to get myself to do the paperwork to get a new passport, but so far I'm procrastinating.

Right before Covid I was planning some travel. I can't remember if I've said this in this thread or not, but I'm handicapped and use a scooter full time for mobility. So there are considerations for me about travel that most people don't have to think about. Inside the U S, I don't have to worry, but a lot of the world is not accessible. Complicates things. I found this crip tour group. They had several tours they were qdvertising. Unexpectedly, as I had never thought of going there before, the one to Africa sounded awesome. I was talking to the tour group people getting it planned, and whamo bango here comes Covid. Kind of haven't planned any travel since then, sad to say. Well, I've gone places in Florida, but not outside. Thing is, my friends are all coupled. Being a third wheel is not my desire, so I always have to go alone and I am not a big alone person.


I'm running out of steam, so I'll say goodnight. This post is pretty long, anyway.

Smooches,
Keri

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Hi Everyone!

Thanks for the warm welcomes!

I used to travel, too, before my knees got so bad. I usually traveled with one other, but I often traveled alone. My favorite trip with a partner was to the island of St. John. We camped on the beach in the National Park for a week. My favorite trip with a friend was to London. I won tickets on the radio to fly there and meet Peter Gabriel and Sionead O'Connor (and see their concerts). My favorite trip alone was a drive up the east coast from Georgia to New Jersey (I think it was New Jersey) where I quickly ran out of all my remaining money in a casino and had to turn around and head back home. I made it about 10 days altogether on that trip, I think.

I have done some local-ish traveling with my bad knees lately, but nothing adventurous. These days I rent a mobile scooter. On my most recent trip to the beach I rented a mobile sand scooter! That was fun. I plan to do some more local-ish trips over the next year or so, and after my knee surgery I plan to do some more serious traveling.

Orema, may I ask, how long after your knee surgery was it before you felt capable of travel?

[Gráinne]

Happy March everyone! I hope this is finally springtime, though just in time for peak storm season here.

Ohio is certainly not as "wow" as Ghana or a sunny island, but it is Grainne's destination in late April for a genealogy conference, four days of classes, workshops, and social activities. I'm also receiving a certificate due to having proved my roots in Ohio pre-1850. On my trip there (driving from my home), I'm stopping for a day in the happening city of Fort Wayne, Indiana for research at the Allen County Public Library, one of the largest genealogical libraries in the country. It's actually reported to be a pretty city, with interesting sites, so I'll probably do some exploring, too.

Lately, with my great push at my family history, a research trip appeals even more than sightseeing somewhere (though a British Isles cruise next year is calling my name). I must be the only person on the planet who would go to Fiji not for sun and beach, but for scouring the local cemetery, searching for a cousin who became an anthropologist there in the early 1900's. I found his story fascinating.

I'm now glad to be a solo traveler. I want to research all day, or be in classes, without worrying about boring my companion (unless we were doing the same thing).

[Orema]

Hi Everyone!

Thanks for the warm welcomes!

I used to travel, too, before my knees got so bad. I usually traveled with one other, but I often traveled alone. My favorite trip with a partner was to the island of St. John. We camped on the beach in the National Park for a week. My favorite trip with a friend was to London. I won tickets on the radio to fly there and meet Peter Gabriel and Sionead O'Connor (and see their concerts). My favorite trip alone was a drive up the east coast from Georgia to New Jersey (I think it was New Jersey) where I quickly ran out of all my remaining money in a casino and had to turn around and head back home. I made it about 10 days altogether on that trip, I think.

I have done some local-ish traveling with my bad knees lately, but nothing adventurous. These days I rent a mobile scooter. On my most recent trip to the beach I rented a mobile sand scooter! That was fun. I plan to do some more local-ish trips over the next year or so, and after my knee surgery I plan to do some more serious traveling.

Orema, may I ask, how long after your knee surgery was it before you felt capable of travel?

I would have waited 6 months because of my age. I think it would have been a quicker healing process had I been even 10 years younger.

Love the travel ideas, y’all.

[Orema]

I would have waited 6 months because of my age. I think it would have been a quicker healing process had I been even 10 years younger.

Love the travel ideas, y’all.

Apologies for the garbled message. I shouldn't write so early in the mornings. My knees were good enough to travel after 6 months. I may have been better before 6 mths. I'm sure my doctors would have cleared me to travel after 3 months, but I waited to be cautious. I think younger people might heal more quickly.

[iamkeri1]

Well, I'm frustrated still because my laptop refuses to take me to bfp. I keep arriving at a "default page". For a while I could get on because a few specific threads would show up like the "What for dinner" thread, but now I keep getting the "page not found" message on those, too. Obviously not a problem with bfp as I have no trouble getting here on my phone.
Anyway, I miss being here, so here I am on my phone.
Hi Everyone, hope your arriving Spring is beautiful. I love those early days when the trees are just beginning to leaf out. That light green color is so gorgeous and only visible for a few days. We don't get it here in Florida, but I caught it in the background on the news the other day.
Smooches
Keri

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Hi Keri, I have missed you too!

Did you by any chance see my message about dealing with the default page? It happens to me sometimes too. When you get the default page after signing in, try clicking on the URL bar and clicking enter. It should take you to a legit page, where you can navigate to what you want.

Hugs,

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Thanks everyone for letting me join in a few months early! But I'm officially 60 today! I never really thought I'd make it! No big plans, just going to my favorite bakery to pick up a great big cherry pie, then out to dinner with the boy. Watch the Braves game and eat pie when we get home. The perfect birthday!