Describe Mr/Mrs Wonderful

[SoberBoi]

For all the singles out there....

Something fun on a Monday night....

No holds barred.... describe your perfect partner.... :sunglass:

[bigbutchmistie]

Hmmm. That's hard I guess the basics for me would be someone who is on my level that I can connect physically spiritually and emotionally. Someone. I trust without reservation.

[bigbutchmistie]

Hmmm. That's hard I guess the basics for me would be someone who is on my level that I can connect physically spiritually and emotionally. Someone. I trust without reservation.

Also I love aggressive women who are extremely girly looking

[jules5041]

Lets see... describe my perfect partner...

Ummm...definitely has to be butch.

2. SHORT hair.
3. A good sense of humor.
4. Must be able to type a complete sentence including knowledge of the use of nouns, verbs, adjectives and adverbs.
5. Has a job in the medical field or is a chef or cop.
6. Will give me my space when I need it.
7. Affectionate.

[Rockinonahigh]

A good sence of humor is a must.
Can cook.
Dosent mind some of the stupid stuff I do and can laugh at it right along with me cause being dyislex can be doawn right crazy at times.
Me mindfull if the rest of my idiocys..think absent minded proffessor.
Like fur kids.
Be adventurious.
Good kisser dosent hurt.
Understan I have a fetish for hawiian shirts.

[Tcountry]

The perfect (for me) femme...

-Is true to her sense of self, faithful & honest
-Appreciates my cheeziness, but doesn't fall for it
-Is sweet & silly & loving.......& passionate
-She has a huge heart, loves affection, is understanding, & giving
-Loves sweet kisses, "us" time, & life's simple pleasures....& fits perfectly in my arms
-She is independent, stubborn, & fiesty...but can come home to being taken care of & loved up on
-She is smart, sexy, & beautiful(inside & out) & has the ability to just say "thank u" when I tell her
-She loves her family.....& tolerates my friends
-She knows my story, faults, dreams, & fears...& loves me anyway
-She can reach the depths of my soul with just one look
-& she actually has an answer every time I ask what she is thinking ;)

[Sachita]

The perfect (for me) femme...

-& she actually has an answer every time I ask what she is thinking ;)



I love that! I'm always asking that "What are you thinking about?" and I hate hearing "nothing". Even if its an array of random silly thoughts I love to hear about it.


wow seems like there are so many threads listing and describing the person of our dreams. Maybe we need a matchmaking service exclusive to our community here? lol just saying



My perfect person is intelligent, stable, secure and strong enough to relinquish control to me. They don't view a female lead relationship, me being in charge, as a sign of weakness but they enjoy the woman I am. My perfect person is health conscious and spiritual without being a fanatic. We eat organic most of the time but every now and then pull into Buffalo Wild Wings to snag a shitload of hot wings, pick up a quart of ice cream at Cold Stones, go home, watch movies and pig out. They love animals, especially dogs and animals need to be part of their life. My perfect person loves gardening with me and we have a fabulous garden that includes flowers, fruits and veggies. My person loves country living and could not live in the city. its just not an option. My ideal mate is outgoing, spontaneous and playful but also respects my space. They dont get offended or passive aggressive because I enjoy lots of alone time. My perfect person might have a bit of baggage but they wake up each day with a clear mission to bring happiness into our lives. yes, its work but my perfect person isn't afraid of hard work!

[Julien]

My perfect Ms. Wonderful is intelligent, witty/sense of humor, loving, the same morals and ethics that I have, compassionate, not afraid to speak her mind, a woman who listens to what I have to say, not just hear my words, wants to learn new things and explore the vastness of the world around her and at the same time is content to share time together with just us, confident, comfortable with herself and me, and with all that comes a woman who is sexy and beautiful. This is just the beginning of a rich partnership built on love and respect. Those of us who have found the perfect partner are truly blessed. (f)

[deb_U_taunt]

Describe Mr/Mrs Wonderful

Mr/Mrs Wonderful needs to be a friend and PARTNER. We will have each other's backs.


(and front :blush: )

[imperfect_cupcake]

sarcastic
Playful
ironic
kinky
high sex drive
dominant in bed, does top and bottom. Likes a bit of pain.
Bit of a fabulous dapper
adventurous
nonmaterialistic - doesn't care about having "stuff" (house, things, matching plates, "nice" furniture)
Likes new food, new cultures, new places
isn't afraid of telling me off
loves talking with me and trading stories

physically? really not fussed but if I got pick the whole thing??
lots of tattoos - full sleeves, legs and some up neck
little bit taller than me
I love small boobs

I don't care what gender (woman, genderqueer, butch-as-gender) as long as they are fine with being female/happy with it/or at least made peace with it. Someone who ok with any pronoun, even if they have a preference for one or the other (I don't want the evening ruined just because we got called "ladies" at the restaurant or some clueless femme called her "him" without asking. Making a joke and dropping it and moving on is what I do when people make mistakes about me, I'd like the same in others).

I've had a relationships with people who were ok with who they were, accepted themselves who who they were, had the odd blip with gender/body, but generally had no issues with who they were anymore. I found the relationship became about us and less about how small their cock would become if she/they/per held my bag for five minutes while I picked something up.

Although I don't particularly care for being seen as "butch" by straight people (and they do call me that on a semi regular basis when they find out I'm gay, cause they are clueless), it's not an insult, it's not embarrassing and it doesn't wreck my day. I don't care for partners that see being mistaken as feminine in some way as insulting/embarrassing/cause for a long sulk.

I'd also like someone that although enjoyed my cooking, a lot, liked to make me meals too on occasion, even if it's mushroom soup from a tin and some toast. Someone that understands that if we are going to move in together to save some money - some of that money is going on a house cleaner cause I ain't no haus frau and I'd rather spend that time cleaning or arguing about house work having sex or laying in the park looking at men's fashion magazines with them.

:D

please and thanks

[Kätzchen]

The person who becomes the 'Special Someone' in my life will care deeply not only for me, but for themselves as well and equally, as much as humanly possible, we'll think of and put each other first (above all else).

That's a rather tall expectation:
but I stand tall in most, if not all, aspects of my life.

[Girl_On_Fire]

Character traits I want in my Mr. Wonderful:


Patient
Self-Sufficient
Goal-Oriented
Laid-Back
Good Sense of Humor
Gentleman in the Streets
Freak in the Sheets
Politically Aware
Spiritually Awake
Protective

[Katniss]

Someone with a 6 inch tongue that can breath through their ears.

[Debb]

Someone who has traits that turn me on/that get my attention........

-Understand that I'm being me
-Likes me to cook ANYTHING; doesn't have any hang-ups about food
-Understands I have "down" time
-will help me get back in school
-understands that I enjoy GROCERY SHOPPING, time at resale stores, books, spending money on my daughters
-just loves me for me.

[JAGG]

Someone with a 6 inch tongue that can breath through their ears.

Great !! Now I can't get rid of this visual . It's not pretty.lol

[barnes]

a femme that is sweet and kind to a fault.
a femme that will accept my back pain and the problems it causes me.
a femme that is honest and open and loves to talk .
a femme that is ready for true love in her life and gets excited as I do about love.
a femme that is self sufficient.
a femme that has passion for the fine arts.

[Sweet Bliss]

Funny, sweet, adventurous, willing to try new things, strong hands, big heart, loves Mom/Dad/family ...... and totally gets me.

The butterscotch topping for my French vanilla.

[thedivahrrrself]

Funny, sweet, adventurous, willing to try new things, strong hands, big heart, loves Mom/Dad/family ...... and totally gets me.

The butterscotch topping for my French vanilla.


Totally gets me. That one is a big deal, and really, really hard to find. There are people who know a lot about you, but they never understand the choices you make or why you do things the way you do, because they don't really know or understand you.

There are some friends I've had who just got me, right from the start. Oddly enough, I've never expected that from a partner, maybe because I assume I'm just too weird for most folks to "get". LOL But it is very important, I think!

[Corkey]

~~My wife.~~

[Metro]

Smart, sexy, sweet, and sure of herself!

[VintageFemme]

...simply loves me wonderfully.

[little_ms_sunshyne]

Is perfectly imperfect :)

[Kent]

She's wonderfully delicious... ;)

[Daktari]

Is clever and articulate
Isn't covered in tattoos
Drop dead gorgeous
Likes sparring with words
Is an enthusiastic masochist
Has passion for her 'subject(s)'
Empathic
Isn't bothered about towering over me when she wears heels
Likes my jokes
Can crack a funny line
An ability to dance is a bonus
Being able to sing and harmonise with me a distinct bonus
Happy to skin anchovies and peel shrimp for me
Likes cats...love me, love Her Royal Greyness, we're a package.
A sense of her own style

Oh and has a great 'rack' please :thud:

[girl_dee]

i am my own Ms Wonderful.... :moonstars:

[femmsational]

Someone who can put up with me and my......specialness. hehehe

[Deborah*]

Someone who has their life on the same level as mine. Someone with the same goals, values, integrity. Someone achieving their dreams.

Deborah

[CherylNYC]

My Ms./Mr. Wonderful would be a smart, fun, sane, stone butch leather top. And I mean butch, NOT male. She would have to be scrupulously honest, financially solvent, and not actively addicted to any substances or to alcohol. She would have to be an interesting person, and well informed, too. I'm not opposed to a mildly paternalistic butch, but she would have to be a feminist. Ideally she would be a very sexual person who would be able to match me in that department. She should be larger than me in at least one dimension, but that isn't particularly hard. Being a snappy dresser isn't imperative, but it certainly helps. I'm a sucker for a butch in a well fitting suit. Motorcycle riders get extra points with me, too. Finally, and most importantly, she would have to be someone who could be my rock solid best friend. I want to be with someone who I know I can depend on, just as she would be able to depend on me.

I understand that this is a tall order. I may be submitting my list early for my next life.

[Chad]

I will start by saying that I am not searching for a partner.

If I met Ms. Wonderful to me she would be a OFOS femme. She would be educated, have common sense, career minded, and driven. She would be positive, kind, generous, and generally sweet with a great sense of humor. She would not need me for anything but she would choose to spend time with me. She would have a solid sense of self, confident, and have solid morals and values similar to mine.

[girl_dee]

i am my own Ms Wonderful.... :moonstars:

and now i have met my own Mister Wonderful :heartbeat:

Hy is is witty, respectful, funny, successful, caring, generous, loving and may i add SO freaking handsome.

Besides all of these attributes is how wonderful i feel. i am finally myself, just me, and it seems okay.

This is how i define “wonderful"

[girl_dee]

and now i have met my own Mister Wonderful :heartbeat:

Hy is is witty, respectful, funny, successful, caring, generous, loving and may i add SO freaking handsome.

Besides all of these attributes is how wonderful i feel. i am finally myself, just me, and it seems okay.

This is how i define “wonderful"



Oh! Must love dogs!!!

[imperfect_cupcake]

For all the singles out there....

Something fun on a Monday night....

No holds barred.... describe your perfect partner.... :sunglass:

hum.
-Witty. Likes banter, a lot.

-Is busy themselves so never pressures me for time.

-Likes to buy me little gifts when they visit (my favourite oranges/ cat nip for guv/ a little octopus clip they saw somewhere, little things that show they were thinking of me and they know who I am and what I like).

-Likes to go with me (organise them, but doesn't need to pay for them) on little city break trips or day drives into the mountains/beaches for tea (4pm meal) - we both work really hard and need to get out on regular little breaks.

- doesn't drink much, doesn't smoke pot or take hard drugs.

- loves cats

- loves long talks, we just click that way, always have something fun to talk and banter or discuss.

- likes film, has similar netflix taste as me lol.

- into some science-y stuff so we can go do fun sciencey things together now and then.

- into kink but not 24/7 leather lifestyle

- as for monogamy or not... I don't really care either way. As long as I *know* they are deeply loyal to me, really want me as a partner.
a) But if they are non-monog, then ideally we have the same sort of values around it.

b) If monog, it's ok if there are times when we *don't* see each other every week. And we don't talk every day. We love talking to each other, but we don't feel the need to "check in" daily to feel connected to each other.

- Asks me if I need help with errands if we are driving somewhere for a date eg: did you want to pick up cat litter? Let's grab that form from the post office that you need while we are out. <3 this is a huge deal to me.

It means they are aware of my life and what goes on it, and they are showing how much they care by offering help. That means SO much more to me than "I love you."

- someone emotionally steady, secure: no huge jealousy issues, no big temper problems (I don't mind raised voices, but no explosive tempers), is aware of their own issues and baggage and works on it.

- is NOT "socially conservative" - I do have some quiet, private ways of expressing traditions in my way, but I am not into "femmes should not get phone calls from butches she doesn't know if she has a partner" stuff. That doesn't float with me.

- deeply respects my independence, my choices, my free time, and does not attempt to put "rules" on my behaviour (in my life on my time, how I treat them they have every right to have boundaries around) or my life. They can make decisions about my choices (like I'd rather not date people who smoke pot), and they can discuss my choices if they think it impacts them - and we can come to agreements. But no one gives me rules about my life outside of them.

What forms between us is an organic dance step that we make up on our own according to how we fit together best. Not how we "should" or how we are "supposed" to. And because of that custom fit dance, we hopefully do it for a very long time.

[imperfect_cupcake]

My Ms./Mr. Wonderful would be a smart, fun, sane, stone butch leather top. And I mean butch, NOT male. She would have to be scrupulously honest, financially solvent, and not actively addicted to any substances or to alcohol. She would have to be an interesting person, and well informed, too. I'm not opposed to a mildly paternalistic butch, but she would have to be a feminist. Ideally she would be a very sexual person who would be able to match me in that department. She should be larger than me in at least one dimension, but that isn't particularly hard. Being a snappy dresser isn't imperative, but it certainly helps. I'm a sucker for a butch in a well fitting suit. Motorcycle riders get extra points with me, too. Finally, and most importantly, she would have to be someone who could be my rock solid best friend. I want to be with someone who I know I can depend on, just as she would be able to depend on me.

I understand that this is a tall order. I may be submitting my list early for my next life.

that's fabulous, but slip in science geek for motorycles. And stone/not stone either or.

and yeah, rock solid friendship *sigh*.

put one in for me.

I'm fairly certain I'm a spinster from here in and I've made my peace with that. But if I do hafta come back, I'll early order now too.

[Martina]

I don't know. Really don't at this point. Kind and funny. Reasonable. If people aren't smart, they tend not to be attracted to me. So that is usually there.

An observer of boundaries. Playful but not immature. Not walking around oblivious to others. Basically kind and fun. What's the point otherwise?

If you still have extraordinary ego needs at our age, OMFG no. Be relatively secure and enjoy time alone with yourself. Don't be constantly shopping for validation.

Like pets. Be on the left politically.

Do not be controlling or opinionated about little things I do. Couples like that live a nightmare existence IMO. Have a fucking life of your own.

Don't be boring. Quiet is fine. Even random riffs on stupid stuff. But have some interesting reactions to life. Read books.

Care about people and the planet. In your job or somewhere in your life, show that you are doing something about it.

Respect my time. I am not going to run your errands or do your paperwork. I mean, shit.

Be considerate with decent manners. Not bone selfish.

Be able to support yourself including provisions for care when you age or become disabled.

Basically BE a grown up who has the playfulness and wonder of a child somewhere inside.

[BullDog]

Be kind, honest, intelligent, good sense of humor, have a positive outlook on life, be a complement to my gender/sexual identity (e.g. femme, submissive, etc). Beyond that we just have to see how well we get along. I don't like having a long list of requirements. I would rather be pleasantly surprised.

[Esme nha Maire]

My Ms Wonderful is honest, kind, intelligent, good manners, left-leaning politically. Preferably is OK with cats. Preferably doesn't smoke. Must not be a drug user or alcoholic, other factors may apply if have previously been an addict/drunk.
Nice sense of humour. Very much their own person, but happy to let me help/support them in their life and will help/support me in mine. Wants to spend time with me, but doesn't go nuts if we're apart for a few days. Able to cope with a certain amount of eccentricity. Able to hold a decent conversation.

Beyond that, well... it's hard to say. There are many types of look that float my boat. It really is the personality that is most important with me. That said, my libido errs toward lusting after femmes, but some butches have made it sit up and take attention too. If butch, must identify as female, though.

[Kätzchen]

I really don't know if it's possible, but I am always hopeful!

The wonderful special someone in my life will, I'd like to think, like my klutzy-angel side. That if I give them an notebook, they will journal about all the things that they like about me, things that spur their imagination, that causes them to wonder in delight about me (things brought up.in an recent HONY video I saw just today).

I just watched a video on f.b., which is an ongoing series about human relationships of the romantic kind. It touched my heart. Romantic relationship ideas from people of all ages!

I've talked at length on the forum boards here about all types of things I'm looking for in an romantic relationship, but I think most important to me is that I'd hope the person I become involved with will truly accept me for who I am. That they'll see that my whole life up to now is more than just about all the things that have shaped me into who I am, with regard to any factor in that process, whether it was good, bad or ugly.

I think, still, that there's someone out there who truly gets me. Who adores me and is not abashed by views I hold which might not align significantly with their own. I'm an independent thinker, I am independent in my political philosophy, as well.

I am okay with my single status, but I won't want an romantic relationship where equity between the two of us is compromised in ways that leaves either person feeling like they have to watch what they say or can't be open or honest about their feelings either.

In my mind, the person who is "Wonderful" will embrace me for who I am and be not only enthralled with me, but be real in their relationship expectations and be willing to be delightfully surprised by my entire personality.

To me, as I age, it seems impractical to become involved romantically if mutual attraction and an reasonable set of like-mindedness is not present from the get go.

Anyway....if you get a chance to view the latest video by Humans of New York (HONY), S1: E4 -- Relationships, then check it out. I enjoyed watching it and could identify with those who participated in the latest subject for people who are either in a relationship and happy or just barely age 7 and trying to have an intelligent conversation about these types of things. :)

[Shystonefem]

Has to be stronger than me... No easy feat

The rest makes me sound selfish so I won't go there. Lol

[homoe]

I really don't know if it's possible, but I am always hopeful!

The wonderful special someone in my life will, I'd like to think, like my klutzy-angel side. That if I give them an notebook, they will journal about all the things that they like about me, things that spur their imagination, that causes them to wonder in delight about me (things brought up.in an recent HONY video I saw just today).

I just watched a video on f.b., which is an ongoing series about human relationships of the romantic kind. It touched my heart. Romantic relationship ideas from people of all ages!

I've talked at length on the forum boards here about all types of things I'm looking for in an romantic relationship, but I think most important to me is that I'd hope the person I become involved with will truly accept me for who I am. That they'll see that my whole life up to now is more than just about all the things that have shaped me into who I am, with regard to any factor in that process, whether it was good, bad or ugly.

I think, still, that there's someone out there who truly gets me. Who adores me and is not abashed by views I hold which might not align significantly with their own. I'm an independent thinker, I am independent in my political philosophy, as well.

I am okay with my single status, but I won't want an romantic relationship where equity between the two of us is compromised in ways that leaves either person feeling like they have to watch what they say or can't be open or honest about their feelings either.

In my mind, the person who is "Wonderful" will embrace me for who I am and be not only enthralled with me, but be real in their relationship expectations and be willing to be delightfully surprised by my entire personality.

To me, as I age, it seems impractical to become involved romantically if mutual attraction and an reasonable set of like-mindedness is not present from the get go.

Anyway....if you get a chance to view the latest video by Humans of New York (HONY), S1: E4 -- Relationships, then check it out. I enjoyed watching it and could identify with those who participated in the latest subject for people who are either in a relationship and happy or just barely age 7 and trying to have an intelligent conversation about these types of things. :)

Thanks for posting about Humans of New York (HONY), S1: E4
I do not have Facebook, is it available somewhere else do you or anyone else know?

[Kätzchen]

Thanks for posting about Humans of New York (HONY), S1: E4
I do not have Facebook, is it available somewhere else do you or anyone else know?

I don't know for sure but we can see if they have an YouTube account. Here is their Channel Account HONY @ YouTube (LINK):

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCJ8CZrZO_2dwYXR1uzUScOg

P. S. Most of the videos they film are live streamed on Facebook, though. I tried finding the S1:E4 video earlier on YouTube but couldn't find it there. So sorry homoe!

[imperfect_cupcake]

Be kind, honest, intelligent, good sense of humor, have a positive outlook on life, be a complement to my gender/sexual identity (e.g. femme, submissive, etc). Beyond that we just have to see how well we get along. I don't like having a long list of requirements. I would rather be pleasantly surprised.


I don't either, but the game for singles is
"if you had your *ideal,* what would it be?"

I know my ideal career is far more than the career that I love to bits.
My ideal cat is different than the one I have and love to bits and would never give up.
My ideal apartment is different than the one I'm in or willing to take.

So Ideal and what you'd be willing and happy to work with is different, no?

[BullDog]

I don't either, but the game for singles is
"if you had your *ideal,* what would it be?"

I know my ideal career is far more than the career that I love to bits.
My ideal cat is different than the one I have and love to bits and would never give up.
My ideal apartment is different than the one I'm in or willing to take.

So Ideal and what you'd be willing and happy to work with is different, no?

Well of course if it works for others that is awesome. But no I do not have an ideal that comes with lots of characteristics. I would rather have the real thing than an ideal dream femme in my mind.

I couldn't have imagined ahead of time any of my past partners or their combination of qualities other than obvious ones like femme, compatible with stone butch, etc. Of course given that I am a Dominant Stone Butch Daddy there is a lot to be compatible with, so I guess mine is complicated from the get go. But I have been very pleasantly surprised every time in the past. So I prefer it that way. And I would hate to be measured against a long list of qualifications - unless of course I miraculously passed most of them, lol.

I think real live people are better than any list we can dream up (well they can be a lot worse too, so there is that), but yeah we all think about it differently.

After reading Esme's post though I do need to add left-leaning politics as a must!

[imperfect_cupcake]

hmn. I think I saw this as a game

if you ask me what I'd like in a *real* date I would list something very different and leave most things up to chance. I only have about 5 or 6 absolutes I require in dating folks. That's *much* different than a game of an ideal.

I would HATE to think that me talking about an ideal/perfect/dream is *ANYTHING* I would *EVER* expect *ANYONE* to *EVER* live up to. Because it doesn't exist. Ideals don't exist.

so, this isn't measuring against a long list of qualifications. Even remotely. To me, this is a parlour game of "doesn't exist"


ETA
I think if the question had been worded "what do you require in a partner" rather than "singles, describe your perfect partner to while away the hours on a monday night" I would have answered very differently. One sounds like a based in reality list, the other sounds ( to me and my brain) sounds like a game in front of the fire place like "if you could go anywhere in time, where would you go." and "If you could be any person in history, who would you be" kind of thing. Pure fantasy.

[BullDog]

Yeah I probably misread the intent of thread. Either way I don’t have an ideal in mind. I do write fiction so I make up characters quite often, but in this case for me I would just rather see what the real women are like.

[imperfect_cupcake]

So, no fantasy date ladies for you! ok ;)

[JDeere]

Yeah I probably misread the intent of thread. Either way I don’t have an ideal in mind. I do write fiction so I make up characters quite often, but in this case for me I would just rather see what the real women are like.

Agreed. Rather see what real women are like.

[Kätzchen]

I don't know for sure but we can see if they have an YouTube account. Here is their Channel Account HONY @ YouTube (LINK):

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCJ8CZrZO_2dwYXR1uzUScOg

P. S. Most of the videos they film are live streamed on Facebook, though. I tried finding the S1:E4 video earlier on YouTube but couldn't find it there. So sorry homoe!

Here's the full Web link to Human's of New York (HONY):


http://www.humansofnewyork.com/


Very interesting film narratives on an variety of human conditions. HONY just finished their film series with an heart wrenching episode titled: Comnections.

I highly recommend the entire film series. (f)

[homoe]

For all the singles out there....

Something fun on a Monday night....

No holds barred.... describe your perfect partner.... :sunglass:



FIRST and foremost she has a wonderful sense of humor....