whats your style

[luv2luvgirls]

I was wondering, on this board who likes to persue and who likes to be persued? you know whats your style?

are you the hunter or the prey :D

[The_Lady_Snow]

I tend to be a hunter...

[clay]

Hunter, definitely! Must be that Leo in me! <wink>

[Daktari]

Predator :grindevil:

[bigbutchmistie]

Its the shyness that I have. So I would say I am the prey. I need to be pursued.. :)

[jelli]

I will pursue enough to make sure that I am the prey. :cheerleader:

[luv2luvgirls]

I tend to be the hunter...but im not gonna lie I dont mind a femme hunting me for a change lol...

So Incubus, Lady Snow and Claybaby..in life are you a go getter and competitive? I tend to get gungho at work and in games lol

Bigbutchmistie....so do you think its because you are shy you dont persue?

[luv2luvgirls]

I will pursue enough to make sure that I am the prey. :cheerleader:


LOL I like that answer thanks :)

[clay]

Yes ma'am....competitive to a degree....in affairs of the heart....not so much! I want someone to WANT to be with me....if competition is involved...I am "walk away, Jo"...<wink>I tend to be the hunter...but im not gonna lie I dont mind a femme hunting me for a change lol...

So Invitucus, Lady Snow and Claybaby..in life are you a go getter and competitive? I tend to get gungho at work and in games lol

Bigbutchmistie....so do you think its because you are shy you dont persue?

[luv2luvgirls]

Yes ma'am....competitive to a degree....in affairs of the heart....not so much! I want someone to WANT to be with me....if competition is involved...I am "walk away, Jo"...<wink>

couldnt have said it better dude!!

[clay]

Thanks, dude!!!!couldnt have said it better dude!!

[*Anya*]

In matters Of the heart, prey-yes. I have a hard time being the initiator. I think I have pretty much been socialized into this role and I try to break out and to be more of the pursuer but it is not comfortable for me. I am pretty shy too.

In matters of the heart, no competition. Refuse to play games-either want me or not.

In work and life, yes I will and have-pursued jobs and opportunities that I have wanted and have also been competitive in those arenas. Somehow it is much easier for me behind my professional role than in my personal life.

[tapu]

Hungry like the wolf.

[MissPriss]

I definately like to be chased....but I can also chase Im a skilled hunter! lol

[luv2luvgirls]

im enjoying your responses, im thinking shyness might have a lil to do with it what do you all think?

[Holly.88]

I'm definitely a hunter.

[tapu]

im enjoying your responses, im thinking shyness might have a lil to do with it what do you all think?

What is this... "shyness" you speak of? :cool:

[luv2luvgirls]

What is this... "shyness" you speak of? :cool:

that just made me lmfao thanks ;)

[Dreams]

i am the hunter...but some how i always end up being the prey..

[sweetfemme247]

I am to shy, so they would have to chase me

[luv2luvgirls]

Dreams now there isnt a thing wrong with that :)

[Violette]

im enjoying your responses, im thinking shyness might have a lil to do with it what do you all think?

Yes, I think it does. I am shy when it comes to pursuing/being pursued. Professionally, not shy at all.

I too, wonder if the shyness around romance is socialized in me as well. Or maybe not being out for very long has something to do with my shyness. Don't know, seems the older I get the more shy I am. Oddly, though, the older I get the more confident I am as a person. Okay, I don't have a clue (or, perhaps too many).

I appreciate it when someone shows interest. I try to show some interest by making direct eye contact and smiling. If the person doesn't show any interest back (maybe playing it cool, or just not interested, or doesn't know I am gay) then I back the heck off.

I don't know, how does a femme let someone know they are gay? Do we even register on the gaydar??

[weatherboi]

i don't consider myself shy. i am prey. i have been attracting predators since I was little!!!

[bigbutchmistie]

I tend to be the hunter...but im not gonna lie I dont mind a femme hunting me for a change lol...

So Incubus, Lady Snow and Claybaby..in life are you a go getter and competitive? I tend to get gungho at work and in games lol

Bigbutchmistie....so do you think its because you are shy you dont persue?

Yes, its because I am shy that I dont pursue... :)

[The_Lady_Snow]

I don't think I'm competitive at least that's not how I carry that natural ability to want to be successful or attain things I may want or desire. It's just is what it is..

[tiggs]

I am definitely the prey, I wouldn't have it any other way. If I am interested in someone I will let them know with coy flirting, smiles and the like but I will not initiate at all, guess I am old fashioned that way. That and the dominant, alpha personality thing is so dang sexy *fans self*. lol

[luv2luvgirls]

Yes, I think it does. I am shy when it comes to pursuing/being pursued. Professionally, not shy at all.


I too, wonder if the shyness around romance is socialized in me as well. Or maybe not being out for very long has something to do with my shyness. Don't know, seems the older I get the more shy I am. Oddly, though, the older I get the more confident I am as a person. Okay, I don't have a clue (or, perhaps too many).

I appreciate it when someone shows interest. I try to show some interest by making direct eye contact and smiling. If the person doesn't show any interest back (maybe playing it cool, or just not interested, or doesn't know I am gay) then I back the heck off.

I don't know, how does a femme let someone know they are gay? Do we even register on the gaydar??

hmmm good point,yeah if you try and they play it cool or just dont notice which is what happens with me TBH lol I dont keep trying
Femmes show up on my gaydar just sayin ;)

i don't consider myself shy. i am prey. i have been attracting predators since I was little!!!
you know that is what happens to me..and usually it feels like its outta the blue

I don't think I'm competitive at least that's not how I carry that natural ability to want to be successful or attain things I may want or desire. It's just is what it is..

Im only competitive in life not in romance at all..but I do find I am not shy in the least.
I do find its a natural ability to me as well...it just happens to be I am good at a lot of things I try

[Rockinonahigh]

First of I dont play games with anyones feelings, but that being said if the right intrest is shown...watch out things can change in a heart beat.

[Leigh]

I'm like Mistie in the sense that I'm very shy and will not likely pursue someone making Me the prey ~ I am slowly beginning to come out of My shell, so maybe this whole shyness business won't last too long ;)

[Gemme]

I am the prey, until I am not.

I have periods of shyness, interrupted by bouts of coyness and manipulation.

[moxie]

I tend to start out being the persuer but I have gotten off that train and have decided to wait on someone to woo me. I deserve it. Looks like I'll be waiting a while.

[MysticOceansFL]

I'm a hunter

[sweetfemme247]

Im shy and dont go after people, especially since I do like older people then me, and not alot of them give me the time of day.

[kannon]

http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e64/zacpope/nerds.gif

[dixie]

Usually, I am the hunter. Although I will pretend to be the prey. ;)

[Leigh]

Even though I posted a little above, I think I will always be shy and therefore somehow will always be the prey! :|

[luv2luvgirls]

Usually, I am the hunter. Although I will pretend to be the prey. ;)

I think that is alot of femmes style...all coy on a butch make us think its our idea huh :D

Even though I posted a little above, I think I will always be shy and therefore somehow will always be the prey! :|

Matt you make me laugh,that smiley and your comment thanks

[Starbuck]

I like being the prey, but there are times I also like being the hunter. A friend of mine once described me this way: femme in the streets, butch in the sheets...LOL, I am more flexible than that but it's pretty darn close. I do so like to hunt. But at the same time, I enjoy playing coy and making eye contact and smiling making you come to me. So you figure me out, I don't know...

[luv2luvgirls]

I like being the prey, but there are times I also like being the hunter. A friend of mine once described me this way: femme in the streets, butch in the sheets...LOL, I am more flexible than that but it's pretty darn close. I do so like to hunt. But at the same time, I enjoy playing coy and making eye contact and smiling making you come to me. So you figure me out, I don't know...

so you get the best of both sides then. eye contact and a lil aloofness or coy lol,is also a way to hunt...just sayin :D

[weatherboi]

being that i am prey sometimes i feel very baitish...today is one of those days!!!

[JAGG]

I have had both ways, I really don't have a desire about it. Anyway it happens is fine with me.

[The_Lady_Snow]

being that i am prey sometimes i feel very baitish...today is one of those days!!!



*smirks* is it working boy??

[weatherboi]

*smirks* is it working boy??

Ms!!! only time will tell!!!

but if you have an urge to throw me down, tear me open, and lick my inside, then it may be working. :)

[BullDog]

I am a hunter... however I have discovered that a very mutual pursuit is quite nice indeed. :D

[The_Lady_Snow]

Ms!!! only time will tell!!!

but if you have an urge to throw me down, tear me open, and lick my inside, then it may be working. :)


No, today I just need you to make chicken soup...

[LaneyDoll]

I am the hunter and the prey. I would rather be the prey but the predator I prefer is pretty rare & unique so sometimes I have to hunt for a bit. I can't be prey for just anyone now can I?

:sparklyheart:

[LaneyDoll]

I knew this question was reminding me of something...

From Tombstone:

Josephine Marcus: [looking lustfully at Wyatt] "This is a remarkabale scene...I wonder who that tall drink of water is."

Mr. Fabian: "My darling, you've cast your gaze upon the quintessential frontier type. Note the lean silhouette. Eyes closed by the sun, yet sharp as a hawk. He has the look of both predator, and prey."

Josephine Marcus: "I want one."

Mr. Fabian: "Happy hunting."

Yum!!!



:sparklyheart:

[Soft*Silver]

at this time, I am neither. I have chosen not to indulge in romantic or sexual relationships. I am way too damaged. I have a submissive who meets my companion and diverse needs but other than that, I have concluded I prefer not to bother. I have healed as much as I could from past affairs and its still not good enough to offer another human being. Nor am I interested. (shrugs) I am still warm and soft and caring. I just dont want you to get That Close. So I dont pursue and I make sure I give no signals of wanting to be pursued...

[luv2luvgirls]

I am the hunter and the prey. I would rather be the prey but the predator I prefer is pretty rare & unique so sometimes I have to hunt for a bit. I can't be prey for just anyone now can I?

no ...no you cant,where would the fun be in that :)

:sparklyheart:

I knew this question was reminding me of something...

From Tombstone:

Josephine Marcus: [looking lustfully at Wyatt] "This is a remarkabale scene...I wonder who that tall drink of water is."

Mr. Fabian: "My darling, you've cast your gaze upon the quintessential frontier type. Note the lean silhouette. Eyes closed by the sun, yet sharp as a hawk. He has the look of both predator, and prey."

Josephine Marcus: "I want one."

Mr. Fabian: "Happy hunting."

Yum!!!



:sparklyheart:


hehe this made me chuckle thanks

[luv2luvgirls]

at this time, I am neither. I have chosen not to indulge in romantic or sexual relationships. I am way too damaged. I have a submissive who meets my companion and diverse needs but other than that, I have concluded I prefer not to bother. I have healed as much as I could from past affairs and its still not good enough to offer another human being. Nor am I interested. (shrugs) I am still warm and soft and caring. I just dont want you to get That Close. So I dont pursue and I make sure I give no signals of wanting to be pursued...

maybe one day you will feel ready again :) I went thru a long period of time just not wanting anything. thank you for posting this Softness

[princessbelle]

I knew this question was reminding me of something...

From Tombstone:

Josephine Marcus: [looking lustfully at Wyatt] "This is a remarkabale scene...I wonder who that tall drink of water is."

Mr. Fabian: "My darling, you've cast your gaze upon the quintessential frontier type. Note the lean silhouette. Eyes closed by the sun, yet sharp as a hawk. He has the look of both predator, and prey."

Josephine Marcus: "I want one."

Mr. Fabian: "Happy hunting."

Yum!!!



:sparklyheart:

Oh i remember this. Tombstone is one of my most fav movies of all time and this scene...yeah, yummmy.

I suppose i tend to be prey with a twist. I will embark in non specific, not in your face and very underlying ways of getting at least someone's attention if i am intriqued.

Like moving in the tall grass and showing a tiny bit of me at just the right time.

If the hunter likes what they see.....game on.

[Soft*Silver]

thanks, I know you meant well, but no thanks. I would rather subject myself to hell before I would do That again...oh wait...same thing! LOL..

seriously, no. I doubt very much it will happen. I truly learned my lessons....

maybe one day you will feel ready again :) I went thru a long period of time just not wanting anything. thank you for posting this Softness

[intrigue_in916]

I was wondering, on this board who likes to persue and who likes to be persued? you know whats your style?

are you the hunter or the prey :D

Being either hunter or prey, would depend on the game.

[Apocalipstic]

I have in the past definitely been the hunter.

As I move forward I would like a mutual pursuit/connection with straighforward communication.

Too old for guessing games.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I like to be/am the persued - I'm way too cowardly chicken to be the persuer, lol! The truth is, I feel if it's meant to happen, then it will happen. I don't hide, or actively encourage - I'm aware I'm not the ideal woman for some women/Butches and that's OK! ......I'm not competitive by nature...

I get a lot of interest from Femmes - I'm not sure why?! I wouldn't rule out being with a Femme if she was 'The One' for me, but, it's not my preference (if it was, I wouldn't be on this site, lol!).

I have asked Femmes if they see me as Soft-Butch/Boi and the answer is always NO! .....It still doesn't answer why, though! LOL!

[Apocalipstic]

I like to be/am the persued - I'm way too cowardly chicken to be the persuer, lol! The truth is, I feel if it's meant to happen, then it will happen. I don't hide, or actively encourage - I'm aware I'm not the ideal woman for some women/Butches and that's OK! ......I'm not competitive by nature...

I get a lot of interest from Femmes - I'm not sure why?! I wouldn't rule out being with a Femme if she was 'The One' for me, but, it's not my preference (if it was, I wouldn't be on this site, lol!).

I have asked Femmes if they see me as Soft-Butch/Boi and the answer is always NO! .....It still doesn't answer why, though! LOL!

Post a picture and I will tell you! :)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Post a picture and I will tell you! :)


Type in my username in here: http://butchfemmematchmaker.com/skadate7/member/search.php

I will NOT be held responsible for any hysterical laughter fits you have from my photos! LOL!

[Babyangeleyez]

I'm gonna go with....PREY! I'm shy and so I'm not sure how to go about being the hunter. I wouldn't know if someone was interested in me, they would literally have to smack me up side the head...LoL.

[Apocalipstic]

Type in my username in here: http://butchfemmematchmaker.com/skadate7/member/search.php

I will NOT be held responsible for any hysterical laughter fits you have from my photos! LOL!

They want to date you because you are beutiful and you make them feel..you know...kinda butchy. ;)

[BugsAndKisses]

I don't really actively hunt, its more like setting a trap and coming back later to see if it sprung:fastdraq:

[Inuus]

I don't usually hunt...not my bag. I have before but it would be a rare occurrence.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

They want to date you because you are beutiful and you make them feel..you know...kinda butchy. ;)

Thank you! I hadn't thought of it that way - I wonder how many Femmes are 'secret Butches'...... lol!

[Trey339]

I am definately the Tiger in the equation,,,,tho I like my 'prey' to be equally enthralled,,and show it

[macele]

i have been told that i am a bold-ass butch LOL. i flirt, i can not lie.
i enjoy asking her a question that makes her laugh real big with a bit of shock lol. nothing vulgar, just a lil dirtysweet question.

i don't see myself as the hunter or the prey. if that's possible. she'll know if
i like her and vice versa. but i guess i do lean toward the prey lol. maybe.
and i have commitment issues. i'm not looking for promises, moving in. dating is a wonderful thing.

i'm laid back, ... so in the past i've waited too long to make my move lol.

two things for sure. i don't beg. i don't compete.

[chai~]

I would say I am most definitely, prey.

Very shy at first, but when I start to feel comfy, I can be very flirty, and then I will need a 2x4 upside the head if someone is interested. I just don't "see" when someone is into me!

Would like to develop a hunter streak though! Take a walk on the wilder more assertive side! RAWR!!!!! ;)

[luv2luvgirls]

i have been told that i am a bold-ass butch LOL. i flirt, i can not lie.
i enjoy asking her a question that makes her laugh real big with a bit of shock lol. nothing vulgar, just a lil dirtysweet question.

i don't see myself as the hunter or the prey. if that's possible. she'll know if
i like her and vice versa. but i guess i do lean toward the prey lol. maybe.
and i have commitment issues. i'm not looking for promises, moving in. dating is a wonderful thing.

i'm laid back, ... so in the past i've waited too long to make my move lol.

two things for sure. i don't beg. i don't compete.

yep.. dont beg or compete at all!! like this post Macele

thanks for your input

[CockyDude]

Usually, I am the hunter. Although I will pretend to be the prey. ;)

I chase them till they catch me. ;-)

[Star Anise]

I tend to like both really, each has its merits...

For example I find it quite pleasurable to be persued by a butch, to feel sexy and wanted.

But I do also enjoy the thrill of the chase, and the satisfaction of getting what you want!

:girldevil:

:giggle:

[CockyDude]

Professionally, I have always been sought after so I haven't had to compete. Where women are concerned; hmmmm. I'm an unabashed flirter, even if I'm not interested in her. But if I see something I like, the hunt is on. And I will be relentless. I want what I want and I'm not leaving without it, dammit! LOL. Course, if there's a mutual attraction it's nice if she's got a little hunter in her too. There's nothing sexier than that initial "eye dance", the body language. Makes the hunt so much more sensual.

[Random]

Some of the time I'm a fairly agressive hunter... I'm not shy about letting someone know I'm interested.

Other times I'm a lazy hunter... I'm going to let you chase me until I catch you... grin...

Then there are those very rare times when someones energy blows me out of the water... Gulp... I go shy.. I go submissive... I can't talk...I tend to act like a idiot because I have NO idea how to attract the persons attention...
( Cringes at the memory of the last time this happened to me..)

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

Years ago I started a screen name for myself in another life, calling myself "Gazelle". The story I told was that gazelles are swift and sleek animals, who are chased, often caught, and if they were very very lucky, devoured. I related totally to that idea. I WANTED to be chased, and I NEEDED that predator to want to devour me. I wanted and needed the fire of passion to overwhelm me, and us.

So I suppose I would say, for the most part, I would choose to be the prey. HOWEVER, there is a part of me that will answer back to that predator, giving back as much fire and energy and PUSH as she can take.

I had a scene once at a BDSM convention, a knife scene, where it started out with the Top coming to me with various knives. I was blindfolded at the time, and as the sensations and passion and fear built, I began to growl. the Top also started to growl back, almost in answer to my inner animal. Which upped my own gutteral sounds, back and forth between each of our inner animals. My wants and needs and DEMANDS for release were as strong as Hys.

One of the hottest scenes I have ever had the pleasure to partake in.

[theoddz]

I'm neither the "hunter" nor the "prey". I look for a woman I can be friends with, first. I consider "flirting" to be a mental thing. Once I have her friendship, I'll flirt. It's that friendship element that gets me into flirt mode. :winky:

If the flirting is too heavy, especially at first, I tend to become overwhelmed and skiddish....and I run. :|

I guess this is because I'm just painfully shy and introverted.

Let's be friends first, then once that's on fire, the flirting will begin.

Trust me. :winky:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[sara-bera]

I sort of need to be pursued... mostly because I'm not aggressive but also because I tend to be a bit dense when it comes to knowing when someone is interested. Honesty and clear communication are helpful, of course.

[smouldering]

Honestly, i am usually the prey, though depending on the circumstances i can also definitely be a mutual hunter, i am a flirt and a giggler :D

[chai~]

Y
I had a scene once at a BDSM convention, a knife scene, where it started out with the Top coming to me with various knives. I was blindfolded at the time, and as the sensations and passion and fear built, I began to growl. the Top also started to growl back, almost in answer to my inner animal. Which upped my own gutteral sounds, back and forth between each of our inner animals. My wants and needs and DEMANDS for release were as strong as Hys.

One of the hottest scenes I have ever had the pleasure to partake in.

well....THIS is fucken HOT!!!

[chai~]

I'm neither the "hunter" nor the "prey". I look for a woman I can be friends with, first. I consider "flirting" to be a mental thing. Once I have her friendship, I'll flirt. It's that friendship element that gets me into flirt mode. :winky:


~Theo~ :bouquet:

ditto! for me it's the mind set....I think this will determine if I CHOOSE to be the predator or the prey.

[SugarFemme]

Definitely prey. Even though it may sound old fashioned, I really enjoy the energy of a butch pursuing me, the femme. That person wanting and craving me and not being afraid to show me that in either words or actions. It's hot.

[sweetee]

I am definitely the prey...I like to be presued ...i would love to run across some butch who comes into my life by accident but stays on purpose ...just so hye could just make me smile and be my best friend and eventually my everything

[Talon]

I definitely want to be pursued...Unless you're shy>:blush:...but, if I can tell that you're attracted to me...then I may just have to make that rare exception.

[Rope]

Snow lol---what an understatement

[WintergreenGem]

Pursued. I joke, play and flirt a lot, so when someone really I wouldn't catch it. They have to come after me and get my attention.

[Happyfemme]

I am definitely the most comfortable being the prey. I like to be pursued and I am good at letting the person know that I'm interested. I think it is just part of my nature because I like when the other person is more in charge, if that makes sense.

[Jean_TX]

I tend to follow a sequence and it's somewhat like a dance:
First, I am the hunter (I seek her out and make overtures),
Second, I briefly become prey (She must respond with a corresponding, yet ever so feminine, pursuit of me),
And last, I become the hunter again (I charge in for the "kill").

Overall, I am the hunter - it feels natural to me.

[CXanderRun]

If I'm really interested I'm most definitely the hunter however I also tend to be a 2x4 Ftm.. So if you're interested in me, unless you're really clear about it I will just think you're being friendly.

[~baby~doll~]

Prey... though looking butch and being very submissive can be confusing for onlookers. i guess it is a good thing i am owned.

[Tuff Stuff]

I was wondering, on this board who likes to persue and who likes to be persued? you know whats your style?

are you the hunter or the prey :D

Been a hunter most of my life,but I do recall that one time in '85 where they put a collar around my neck,but even then it was I who found and persued them.I like to persue Femmes but i've notice i'm being hunted by a married woman lately..is it the season? or what??.I couldn't believe the words coming out of my mouth when I said Stop.And oh gawd she is soo hot.Thing is I see her once a week where she works and she lives very near...do you know how dangerous that could be.She is a huge flirt and the last time we met she touched me and when I told her to stop she gives me this fucking goes straight to my clit evil laugh.Damnit

[imperfect_cupcake]

Hmn. Hard. Dominant personality mixed with submissive sexuality. I like being pursued but will make it real clear if someone is pushing too hard. I prefer relaxed, easy going, genuine interest, rather than being chased. I like mild initiation and patience.
I react very poorly to being pushed.
But I'm pretty independent. I'm not a single tackle kind of gal. I won't initiate contact. I've learned not to. I've had so many bad experiences with initiating contact that it will take me months of interaction for me to initiate for a change. I've learned that if *I* initiate, people lose interest. They've succeeded. They have won. And they lose interest. So I have to trust the person isn't like that before I try.
I may be open and frank about who I am, what I think, but I'm emotionally reserved. So it does take patience. And it will take months, not weeks, to get me to emotionally respond in a deeper way.
I saw someone recently bitching that someone she was dating hadn't committed after three months and should she drop her and go for someone else who had expressed interest. The butch is my age. These are the reasons I don't commit quickly. People like that.

So it's not hunting me... It's hand feeding something feral till it trusts enough to stay longer and longer in your presence and I decide to stay. They loyalty payback is massive, but heaps of patience needed.

[Daisy Chain]

I could never be the hunter, ever. I dont have that type of confidence. And to be honest if someone was to choose to pursue me, not that I`m available but if I was, they would have to be prepared to play a very long and patient game. I woudnt want to be wooed and romanced, Hy would just have to be there, be around, let me observe, who Hy was, how Hy was and how Hy conducted hymself, then maybe I would allow myself to be pursued.

I myself, love people, I like to chat, interact, share and learn. Have a little fun. I think sometimes my friendliness can be misinterpreted as the wrong type of interest in a person. HHmm..thats something I need to be more aware of. :blink:

Daisy :bouquet:

[Tuff Stuff]

It would be a great honor if I were persued by either one of you..just saying.

:D

[Sweet Bliss]

I see myself as the Female Wolf, under the lamb costume disguised as Red Riding Hood. Ya, that about covers it.

LoL, no not the prey type, Have yet to meet Alpha Wolf under the baby goat costume disguised as Little Boy Blue..... maybe some day.

Hope springs eternal.:flyingpig:

[legally_b10nde]

Introverted prey and like the art of seduction.

[Shystonefem]

I like to be the prey but I can flirt and drop signals.

[akiza]

definitively a prey ^^ but not an easy one

[homoe]

The Hunter albeit a shy one!

[Stone-Butch]

I flirt a lot but I rarely pursue at first. If the woman lets me know she is interested then I do pursue (gently). Always a gentlewoman with the ladies and most appreciate that.

[introverted1]

I have been the initiator in nearly every relationship I have had. I'm an introvert with a shy streak, but I always have to be the initiator.

[Chad]

I am the hunter.

No suprise I am sure but I do appreciate a signal from a lady.


:cowboy:

[Bèsame*]

I can easily walk in between the lines of both. The hunt can turn into the prey...I suppose it's the dance dynamics of Butch/Femme.

[Esme nha Maire]

Variable. After much consideration, that's the only sensible thing I can say without a long digression into why!

[indigo]

mostly I smile and dart glances and hope the other person starts a conversation... :hk16:

[Ender]

I feel like I tend to be the hunter. :cigar2:

[JDeere]

Im both the hunter and prey... It just happens that way.

[homoe]

I'm the hunter, but I tend to hang back and observe for awhile before making a move!

[cathexis]

My style is that of a medium sized cat. I hunt alone. My personal habits are rarely observed. I will lay on a cliff just watching your habits, waiting. You rarely see me.

[CherylNYC]

I'm most comfortable being pursued. I'll flirt in a way that makes my interest known, but I could never make the first move. Yes, prey.

[clay]

I am definitely a hunter!

I am a very OFOS butch, so I do things in an old fashioned way!!!

BUT I will hunt when I am really interested in someone. There is one here whom I have had THE biggest crush on for several years...she isn't even aware...and I plan to keep it that way!!!

[Tuff Stuff]

I'm still the "hunter"..so is my wife,that's how she got me.

Yep, I also got it bad for someone from this site. I'd say over a decade now,goes back to the original site.It's her mind I'm in love with and nothing else.

If she only knew the power she has over me. :bowdown:

Her posts are legendary..for me anyway.

Sad part is she lives far away..might as well be Venus.

[Lyte]

When I saw this thread last night my first thought was...

Good grief... it's been a while!

My second thought was...

Well, I'm definitely not prey. My side thought was... Although ... some femmes are quite adept at letting the Butch think they're not prey. lol

I concluded, so then... I'm a hunter!

I thought back to a time when I hunted... and thought back ... and thought back ... and thought back ... and then I remembered a (now embarrassingly) cocky mantra from my youth ... I don't chase. lol SMH

I was standing in the middle of my kitchen ... with furrowed brow ... trying to recollect how I ever got girlfriend in light of these glaring contradictions... I'm a hunter and I don't chase ... and then... it hit me!

I'm a ... Venus Fly Trap!! :blush:

I quite literally laughed out loud when that name and image popped into my head last night. I know... I admit... it may not seem as sexy as hunter or prey but ... more importantly... I've never gone hungry. ;)

This thread has proven to be a most interesting trip down memory lane and self-reflection. Thank you!


p.s. I want y'all to know I resisted the urge to replace Venus Fly Trap with something else that lures and is a lot more Butch!! Let's all pretend I said the very butch... Alligator Snapping Turtle! :p



I was wondering, on this board who likes to persue and who likes to be persued? you know whats your style?

are you the hunter or the prey :D

[AmazonDC]

you find Me in My wranglers and cowboy boots and usually a polo shirt or button down and My ball cap

[Femmewench]

This has changed radically for me over twenty years. Twenty years ago I was definitely prey.

Last fall I stalked someone at a leather weekend (in order to determine what I might use to start a conversation, nothing more) and eventually wound up offering to buy her a cup of coffee. Success with the coffee and almost success with more but alas it was not to be.

There are still times when I need a clear signal that more might be welcome. So I put a lil bait out there and if it's snapped up, it's on.

[~ocean]

I will let a butch know I'm interested in hym ~ a look , smile , get hys attention ~ then I'm prey ~

[Signmypapyrus]

When I have dated in the past, I like to pursue. I also date “soft butches” or more feminine dykes (not necessarily femmes) so I guess it works out.

[cathexis]

It depends on the personality of the person I want to hook-up with. Can vary between butch and andro Top (rare) to serious butch submissive and masochist (frequent) or sammie or even the rare brat personae.

Got to be able to read the person or people in order to make my split second decision where to go. That keeps the excitement up even in my relationship.

[introverted1]

I don't know if it's because I'm femme, but I always end up making the first move. I would like to be pursued once, lol.

[WheatToast]

I don't know if it's because I'm femme, but I always end up making the first move. I would like to be pursued once, lol.

I like the femme to make the first gesture, then I'll make a move.
See, I'm one of those smiling, friendly people, and in a lesbian setting my natural friendliness is sometimes read as flirtation, when it's not.
Sometimes I give my closest friends nice 'just because' gifts or pay for dinner, and some of them have thought I was trying to get in their pants.
What does one say to an old, platonic friend who thinks that, when their pants are of zero interest to me?
If I've known them 20+ years I'd usually say, "You wish."
They reply, "No, YOU wish."
"Yeah? You wish I wished."
"You're too wishy washy to wish!"
"You need a trailer for that ego!"
"You need one for your self help books.."
"F*uck that!"
"No, f*ck you , you f*cking f*ck."
"No, thanks."
etc.

After a few dozen rounds of that..we get bored and go back to normal.
But if I get that kind of static from someone I'm not making moves on, I'm sometimes kind of scared to make an actual first move and get the same reaction. Make sense?

I find that lots of femmes tend to be comfortable making moves, and I think it's great. The best lovers I've ever had always made the most memorable first moves.:rrose::rrose:

[~ocean]

I always flirt, let them take me from there ~ enough said. lol

[bright_arrow]

Depends on the person... In general though I think I make the first move to show interest and then go from there. Same way back in high school, with the addition of hand-written notes, drawings, and poetry (To all my ex's: I'm so, so sorry for all that poetry... :| I mean, it worked..but still.. #angstybabyfemmedyke )

[firecat242]

Depends. Sometimes I'm the bug and sometimes I'm the windshield. :|

[laura4daddy]

I'm prey.

*runs off nervously giggling :byebye:

[clementinefemme]

I prefer to think of it as a dance, rather than predator vs. prey. I wouldn't want to do the preying or be preyed upon lol. I'd rather be swept off my feet. :bellydancer:

[MaddieRobbie]

Much as I find being the object of attraction appealing...I will make myself known to someone if I'm interested in them or simply just attracted to them.

Life's short, right? A girl can't always wait for someone else to make their move.

[firegal]

Agree on the dance aspect.... meaning taking time to let them know who you are and see the attributs as to how you mesh!

[homoe]

Much as I find being the object of attraction appealing...I will make myself known to someone if I'm interested in them or simply just attracted to them.

Life's short, right? A girl can't always wait for someone else to make their move.

You got that right!