Women-identified Lesbians Loving/Living with other Woman-identified Lesbians

[*Anya*]

I would like this thread to be for woman-identified lesbians that date/love/live/fuck; other woman-identified lesbians.

Do you have issues of concern involving our own lives ( that do not relate to any other thread already on the planet)?

Single? Difficulty finding a lesbian community with other lesbians?

A wonderful, supportive community of woman-identified lesbians?

Do tell....

[*Anya*]

I live in suburbia. Very suburbia. I live in a neighborhood surrounded by families with 2.5 children and mom & dad. There is one house within blocks of me with a rainbow flag.

Not the best choice for a single lesbian.

I don't like living in the heart of the city either. My youngest daughter & her family live in the heart of LA. I used to be able to drive to LA in the carpool lane with my Hybrid Honda until the CA legislature just took away the carpool lane stickers they gave us 5-years ago for buying a hybrid (thanks you fuckers), so last time I went to see her on a Saturday, it took me 1.5 hours on the freeway to drive about 30-minutes!

The heart of the city does have a lesbian community but not much of a butch-femme lesbian community. When I retire, if I am still single (oh god, please no), I will sell my house and move to an area not in the big city but with more of a lesbian presence.

How have the rest of you managed to find a place that you feel that you belong and that still has a vibrant lesbian community?

(Please note, this post says zero about separatism-so please do not go there!)

[lettertodaddy]

Single? Difficulty finding a lesbian community with other lesbians?


This is me in a nutshell. Just about all of the lesbians I know are partnered off. I don't like feeling like a fifth wheel, they don't seem to know any singles. I'm lucky I work in a place where not only are there a lot of lesbians, but most people tend to be queer-supportive, but I really wish I had a queer community that I could feel like I was a part of.

Right now the Planet fills that need for me.

[Medusa]

If I were not already partnered, the prospects of dating here in Arkansas would be abysmal, not because there aren't a ton of Lesbians here but more because many of the Lesbians here don't fall into the "Butch as Identity" category. (my primary desire)

It was difficult to meet people even at the Lesbian club in Little Rock because my appearance drew a lot of suspicion with folks who didn't understand that skirt and makeup didn't mean "straight woman has entered the wrong club".

The thing I have found is that when the local Lesbos figure out that I am "safe" (partnered), they tend to be much more friendly. I've made a lot of good friends but we are pretty spread out so it takes a little effort to get together. Most of my closest friends can be found here on this site :)

[Toughy]

I live in Oakland.....the city with the highest number of lesbians per capita in this country. I have not been able to find anyone I want to date in a very long time. There are lots of b/f folks around here. I co-founded an active B/F Social group. There is community here.

Part of my problem has to do with age. If I wanted to date someone in the age range of my nieces/nephews (their 30s) it would be easy, but I can't do that.....it does not work for me......I tried it. The differences are profound.

So lack of dating opportunities is not always about where you live.

[lettertodaddy]

Part of my problem has to do with age. If I wanted to date someone in the age range of my nieces/nephews (their 30s) it would be easy, but I can't do that.....it does not work for me......I tried it. The differences are profound.


I'm finding this to be a challenge as well. I don't know how much of it is real, or how much of it is in my own head, however. On paper there doesn't seem to be much difference between 35 and 43, but in my head, and in terms of where we are in our lives, there's a lot of difference. And I find that difference difficult to overcome.

[*Anya*]

I live in Oakland.....the city with the highest number of lesbians per capita in this country. I have not been able to find anyone I want to date in a very long time. There are lots of b/f folks around here. I co-founded an active B/F Social group. There is community here.

Part of my problem has to do with age. If I wanted to date someone in the age range of my nieces/nephews (their 30s) it would be easy, but I can't do that.....it does not work for me......I tried it. The differences are profound.

So lack of dating opportunities is not always about where you live.

Toughy, is that the good news/bad news, lol?!

I wondered about that too, though just very recently started putting myself out there.

It is flattering to get a pm from a 39-40 year-old but there is a difference between being in your late 50's and someone 40... Like almost the age of my daughters and that gets into the creepy zone for me!

What is the answer then? Dating sites for lesbians? As I posted previously, there are women my age on them but they are full of femmes. I love my femme sisters but they don't ring my chimes in the same way butches do.

Where are all the butch lesbians my age? You can't all be paired up, can you?

[WolfyOne]

I think I live in an area that is quite closeted when it comes to being OUT. I am single and older. Most of the lesbians I see around here are either too young or butch like myself. Maybe as I age, I just can't spot the femmes around here. Perhaps my gaydar is off, I don't know. I do think as we age, it's harder to find someone in or around your age group that isn't already partnered. For myself, I see one more move in my future, but it still won't put me in a place that has an older lesbian community or perhaps I should say an older lesbian community that is visible to my eyes. I don't need a huge community to be happy in life. All I really need is a partner that wants to share the same space as me in an area that is just gorgeous. I'm not in a hurry as I have other things to tend to first to get to where I need to be. Right now I have The Planet and it fills the emptiness I feel some days. I have some really good friends from here that have helped me through some trying times. As for me, I'm always looking forward to what a new day brings.

[Toughy]

My 16 yr relationship had an almost 9 years difference and that was not hard for me. She was around 25 and I was around 34 when we first got together. Funny thing was I met her at her college graduation party...she was 21 and I knew it was love at first sight.....<grin>. However I told her she had to be 25 before we ever got serious, plus she had a girlfriend at the time. 4 years later and living in different cities it became serious. Our age range stayed the same however she was 4 years older.....made a difference.

I'm 59 and mid 40's is the very very low end of my acceptable range. I have no upper limit. I dated a woman 20 years younger once and I doubt I would do it again. I've also dated about 6 years older.

I once heard you have to put yourself in a target-rich enviornments. Which means getting out of the house and doing things like museums (they all have free days), street fairs, concerts in the park, church/mosque/synagogue (yes I said that...... laughin) places and things you like to do, .....oh yeah......we all know when you quit look it shows up....

Anya......move to Long Beach darling and get your daughter to come to you....my understanding of So Cal is all the dykes are in LB and all the L word types are in LA.....laughin....

[sweetfemme247]

Well I have lived in washington for 5 years now, not much of a lesbian scene in everett, seattle yes, but most of them are older then me and they dont want to date someone who is 25. Though I am going to school to be a nurse and such they still think of me as a partier(which I have never even been to a club) sad....... I am moving back to california in 7 days. Palm springs has alot of gays, not many lesbians.. I was raised in california and we will see where things go.

[ArkansasPiscesGrrl]

If I were not already partnered, the prospects of dating here in Arkansas would be abysmal, not because there aren't a ton of Lesbians here but more because many of the Lesbians here don't fall into the "Butch as Identity" category. (my primary desire)

It was difficult to meet people even at the Lesbian club in Little Rock because my appearance drew a lot of suspicion with folks who didn't understand that skirt and makeup didn't mean "straight woman has entered the wrong club".

The thing I have found is that when the local Lesbos figure out that I am "safe" (partnered), they tend to be much more friendly. I've made a lot of good friends but we are pretty spread out so it takes a little effort to get together. Most of my closest friends can be found here on this site :)


Medusa, your post just was exactly what I needed to hear....NOT! LOL No, seriously, I kinda knew that when I moved here from south FL, it was going to be a much different feel for me. I had a large network of lesbian friends, in the Recovery area (we had a couple of large lesbian AA meetings there), in the leather community, and a much more OPEN attitude. I was partnered with a butch woman, and though I wasn't involved with a specific b/f social group, there were plenty of couples who fit that dynamic.

When I had decided to move here, my sponsor encouraged me to come and "find my tribe", in other words to put myself out there to find other lesbians. I mean, I do have my bio family here, my kids and grandkids. I have people that I have gotten to know in the recovery life. My family, my recovery, my work, all seem to keep me busy and keeps my focus away from the fact that once again I am single (and NOT liking it!)

Frankly, the whole idea of dating, of putting myself "out there" is intimidating. There is such a self-perceived notion that "everyone is staying in the closet" or "everyone is already partnered" or no one would accept me or want me because "_______(age,size,age,past,age, etc)" LOL

So what i think I want to do is just hopefully just make friends. Friends to hang with, to go to movies with, to dinner, to go fishing with, things like that. If something ever comes from that, that would be wonderful, but in the meantime I won't have felt that lonely sick "OMG I will die ALONE" tape that plays in my head sometimes!

When I met my last gf, and we were spending that lovely "getting to know you" time, it was wonderful! I wonder if I will feel and experience that again.

[bigbutchmistie]

I have been single for years. And it seems to me here in Big D that its pretty much girly girls on girly girls. I hear alot that butch women arent what they seek. Even going to clubs from time to time I hear that. How crazy is that living in Big D ? LOL

[paintedleofemme]

I live in central Washington. the city that I live in has an ok gay community but its just that, gay, not really lesbian. Here in Yakima its mostly butch on butch love or older lesbians who are at a different place in time than me, or butches who are into drugs or open relationships, it makes it hard.

[sanee66]

medusa said If I were not already partnered, the prospects of dating here in Arkansas would be abysmal, not because there aren't a ton of Lesbians here but more because many of the Lesbians here don't fall into the "Butch as Identity" category. (my primary desire)
The thing I have found is that when the local Lesbos figure out that I am "safe" (partnered), they tend to be much more friendly


same boat here, even just wanting a butch or trans friend, cant find them, i cant believe they are all taken, sometimes i think they are more sensitive than us femmes, and once they have been hurt, they will not come out again lol

[sweetiefemme]

I live in central Washington. the city that I live in has an ok gay community but its just that, gay, not really lesbian. Here in Yakima its mostly butch on butch love or older lesbians who are at a different place in time than me, or butches who are into drugs or open relationships, it makes it hard.

Hello Painted, I am on the same side of WA as you, nice to meet you.

I don't think there is a gay/lesbian community where I live. :(
The few people I know in town are my ex and her friends, so leaves me with nothing. I however come from Eugene OR, and I have to say there is a good mix of gay/lesbians there for a smaller city, and the straight people are very open minded.

[*Anya*]

I however come from Eugene OR, and I have to say there is a good mix of gay/lesbians there for a smaller city, and the straight people are very open minded.

Small world, my 1st love, a femme, moved to Eugene after we split. There was a thriving lesbian community last time I visited her there but it has been a while so that may have changed.

[kissinfemme]

I'm from a small, very conservative, right wing "church" town (there are 153 churches here) & there is no "open" lgbt community where I live at all.... Butch women? Forget it! I think my ex is the only butch in town.

For any type of lgbt atmosphere I have to travel at least 3 hours... I live for gay pride in June to get my fill till the next summer.... so I finally decided to do something in my own town.... I started a PFLAG chapter here in the hopes of stimulating (no pun intended) the lgbt community & to some degree has worked... with the younger crowd. If there are available butch women in this town, around my age, they're hiding out & I don't appreciate it! lol In the year we've been around we've had our first prom, which was fabulous but mostly young kids.... in October we're having a Masquerade Ball, hopefully more adults will turn out... it's important that we know we're not alone here or in this life, especially our life.

kissinfemme
:lips:

[CherylNYC]

The bad news is that I haven't been finding many butch women that fit my criteria, either. I live in NYC, so like Toughy I'm thirsty in an oasis. It seems to be hard to find partners everywhere, but I'm really grateful for a thriving lgbt community. I try not to take that for granted.

[NorCalStud]

If u are in santa rosa , albuq, or gallup. Im passing thru tomorrow

[Toughy]

I live in central Washington. the city that I live in has an ok gay community but its just that, gay, not really lesbian. Here in Yakima its mostly butch on butch love or older lesbians who are at a different place in time than me, or butches who are into drugs or open relationships, it makes it hard.

I'm so sorry you live in Yakima...........move........I say move and move now!!!!

By the way............what does open relationship mean to you? when do you decided it's a closed relationship.........

[Toughy]

I'm from a small, very conservative, right wing "church" town (there are 153 churches here) & there is no "open" lgbt community where I live at all.... Butch women? Forget it! I think my ex is the only butch in town.

For any type of lgbt atmosphere I have to travel at least 3 hours... I live for gay pride in June to get my fill till the next summer.... so I finally decided to do something in my own town.... I started a PFLAG chapter here in the hopes of stimulating (no pun intended) the lgbt community & to some degree has worked... with the younger crowd. If there are available butch women in this town, around my age, they're hiding out & I don't appreciate it! lol In the year we've been around we've had our first prom, which was fabulous but mostly young kids.... in October we're having a Masquerade Ball, hopefully more adults will turn out... it's important that we know we're not alone here or in this life, especially our life.

kissinfemme
:lips:

Where in NM? I was born and raised in lovington........

[kissinfemme]

Where in NM? I was born and raised in lovington........

Roswell....

[kissinfemme]

If u are in santa rosa , albuq, or gallup. Im passing thru tomorrow


None of the above :( I live in Roswell...

[Toughy]

Roswell....

I assume you mean RosHell......:|...

however you do have to admit the craftsman homes are stunning...........I only have to go to parts of Alameda CA and I think I am in Roswell..........

[Toughy]

None of the above :( I live in Roswell...

It's a max 3 hr drive to the I-40 Santa Rosa truck stop or Clines Corners.......the drive is beautiful..............come on.........it's a nice drive .............ya might have fun

just saying............

[kissinfemme]

I assume you mean RosHell......:|...

however you do have to admit the craftsman homes are stunning...........I only have to go to parts of Alameda CA and I think I am in Roswell..........

Lol, yes RosHell!!! This place sucks & I can't wait to leave it! :bow: And as soon as I figure out where my next adventure begins, I'm outa here!

[Chazz]

I would like this thread to be for woman-identified lesbians that date/love/live/fuck; other woman-identified lesbians.

Butch lesbian, here.

Do you have issues of concern involving our own lives ( that do not relate to any other thread already on the planet)?

Yes....

Single? Difficulty finding a lesbian community with other lesbians?

A wonderful, supportive community of woman-identified lesbians?

Do tell....

Through effort and some luck, I have been fortunate to cultivate a relatively large community of woman identified lesbians.

I live midway between NYC and Albany, in a suburban-rural area a few miles from Woodstock, NY. This area has been a hotbed of lesbian Feminist politics for a generation. I've formerly resided here for many years, though I've also lived abroad, on and off, for seven years.

There is a local LGBTQ Center in a nearby "city" about six miles from my home. I am an active member of a lesbian women's group (about 200+ women) that meets there twice a month. The group draws women from a four county area; approximately 30-50 women attend any given meeting. There is also a revolving pot luck get together that meets once a month at different women's homes. We party, recreate, picnic, hike, read books together, and organize excursions of all kinds. I'm blessed to know these women. We have similar politiks.

I'm also an active member of the 12 Step Community. I have close lesbian, gay, straight friends from that community.

I belong to a Harley motorcycle club. We ride and party together.

I'm single, but dating. One woman I'm dating lives in central New Jersey. She has a nice lesbian community, too.

I feel absolutely awful for lesbian women who live in isolation. Come stay at my house, I'll introduce you around.

[Starbuck]

Well I have lived in washington for 5 years now, not much of a lesbian scene in everett, seattle yes, but most of them are older then me and they dont want to date someone who is 25. Though I am going to school to be a nurse and such they still think of me as a partier(which I have never even been to a club) sad....... I am moving back to california in 7 days. Palm springs has alot of gays, not many lesbians.. I was raised in california and we will see where things go.

Good luck hon!

[starryeyes]

I live in San Diego, and there is a thriving gay community here. We have a gay town, we call "The Gayborhood" or "The Hilly" which is called Hillcrest. There are some pretty awesome places for lesbians to go here, we have bars, social clubs and a very active meet-up.com group that have weekly activities for lesbians of all ages.

Now, when it comes to Butch-femme? Not so much. I have hosted a few meet-up events, and had a speed dating event, but when I advertised them as "butch/femme" I pretty much got my head chewed off. I met my current girlfriend on the dash site (Thank goodness for the internet!!). I dated a few girls that I met in my community, but none of them appreciated a Femme. Mostly when I go out, I am thought of a straight or a fag-hag, which stinks.

I know they are out there, but I haven't found my BF community in San Diego. I have one lesbian friend who identifies as Femme, but the rest ID as Lesbian.

I hope to some day find a BF community in my area and be able to have closer relationships with people who subscribe to the same ideas I do!! Until then, I love this site for resources and meeting people!!

:-D
Starry

[JAGG]

Well that's what we have mostly in Tulsa. Almost all are what I call burkenstock lesbians, or andro lesbians. They aren't butch or femme and don't have a clue what butch femme dynamics are . And are even insulted by it. But that's what most my friends are. I guess if I wasn't ok with it I wouldn't have any friends. hahaha To each his own. But it does bug me when someone says, you should grow your hair out. Or suggest more female style of clothes. They think if you have short hair or wear hats that makes you butch. HAHAHAHA NO CLUE!!!!!! They have no exposure and no interest in it. They are happy in their andro burkenstock world and good for them. They can share wardrobes and shoes and even make-up , pluck each others eyebrows, you know burkenstock bonding moments . It's special.:eek:

[*Anya*]

Lol Jagg!

In LA we have a lot of lipstick lesbians!

[clay]

hey Jaggy...you are so darn funny! Love your humor dude!
LA Lisptick lesbians...whoohoo....love them!

[JAGG]

Lol Jagg!

In LA we have a lot of lipstick lesbians!

hahah yes we do too. Lipstick lesbians and burkenstocks make up 95 percent of female gay population here. The only butches you see are usually butch on butch. They look like twinkies too. Dress alike , same hair style, same style cars. hahahaha Whatever floats your boat. Just please don't call them butch , it makes my ribs hurt from laughing so much.

[*Anya*]

LA Lipstick lesbians do not always identify as femme and frequently date each other, not butches.

It gets very confusing sometimes.

[JAGG]

hey Jaggy...you are so darn funny! Love your humor dude!
LA Lisptick lesbians...whoohoo....love them!

Thanks I'm glad you like it!!!

[Julie]

Well that's what we have mostly in Tulsa. Almost all are what I call burkenstock lesbians, or andro lesbians. They aren't butch or femme and don't have a clue what butch femme dynamics are .

They think if you have short hair or wear hats that makes you butch. HAHAHAHA NO CLUE!!!!!! They have no exposure and no interest in it. They are happy in their andro burkenstock world and good for them. They can share wardrobes and shoes and even make-up , pluck each others eyebrows, you know burkenstock bonding moments . It's special.:eek:

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

[*Anya*]

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Julie you are a femme! (f)

[Julie]

Julie you are a femme! (f)

I was getting worried there Anya - all that birkenstock androgyny talk!

[JAGG]

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Why you are the kindest sweetest prettiest femme on the planet, but you already knew that. hahah Also I'd like to add , My your hair looks nice today.

[JAGG]

Did it work? I'm I in the clear?
Ps thanks for the heads up Dapper lol

[LaneyDoll]

I wear Birkenstocks.
I have short hair.
I don't pluck dreamers eyebrows.
Though, every once in awhile, I see a stray toe hair and i PULL IT!

What am I?

Hmmm, you are a masochist if you are plucking hair from the toes.

:)

:sparklyheart:

[LaneyDoll]

I would like this thread to be for woman-identified lesbians that date/love/live/fuck; other woman-identified lesbians.

Do you have issues of concern involving our own lives (that do not relate to any other thread already on the planet) ?

Single? Difficulty finding a lesbian community with other lesbians?

A wonderful, supportive community of woman-identified lesbians?



Issues yes. Ones that do not relate to other threads here-probably not. But I have not had time to look through all the threads here - lol.

Single yes. And when I was actively looking, I was more likely to date women in Atlanta or Montgomery than here in Birmingham. For some reason, the women here must not have been looking as hard as I was.

Community yes. But my community comes from the BDSM lifestylers here who accept me for who I am and allow me the space/freedom to be myself. It is hard to say "Yes, there is a great community of women-identified lesbians in my town" since it seems that *most* of the non-straight women I meet identify as bisexual, pansexual or queer. The 20s crowd seems to really prefer the term "queer" and I have a handful of wonderful friends in the age range. For me to be as specific as "lesbian" is very hard.

Right now, I have a very good friend who identifies as a femme lesbian, another great friend who is queer and a best friend who is married and bisexual. So I guess that the rainbows that fill my world are very colorful ;)

:sparklyheart:

[Julie]

Why you are the kindest sweetest prettiest femme on the planet, but you already knew that. hahah Also I'd like to add , My your hair looks nice today.

Can you repeat that? (snort).
(not the hair part - we already established that).

[ruthie14]

I am loving this thread! I love a female identified butch! Love the butch/femme thing. Most of my friends are butch (but won't identify with the label), andro, Tweeners, butch ...very few femmes. You would think that would get me a lot of dates.. uhhh NO! A lot of attention, yes... dates... once they figure out I won't have sex outside of a relationship... gone...done.... an occational flirt maybe. My friends keep telling me to give up on the butch/femme thing. Ok, you give up on the lesbian thing and go straight and I'll think about it. lolol.. Really, I am who I am. I LOVE a butch... one that lets me love her back, even better!!!

Jagg.... you are very funny my dear. Here's a wink just for you! ;-) hiya handsome!

Ok, this femme is headed to bed.

Night all!
Ruthie :blueheels:

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I live in a semi-rural area and most lesbians are partnered, those that aren’t are too young for me or a little older than I’d comfortably like – I’m only 41, but, I’ve travelled and experienced many things in my life and want a woman who has also experienced life and the world – who can be my equal on an emotional, intellectual, spiritual and physical level.

I also want a woman who can hold her own when my unyielding determination (read as stubborn) kicks in and I try to do too much only to end up in pain, in tears and on crutches. I’m NOT wanting a carer – that is the last thing I want (when I’m old, completely Ga-ga and sporting a pink rinse hair-do, then yes! More like I’d need a rubber room in a Psychiatric unit, lol!), yet, what I do seek is a woman who is able to allow me to remain independent as I am now, yet, when I need/ask for help, she is willing to do so and not feel put-upon.

I appreciate that me having a form of Spina Bifida and Alpha-Thalassaemia (treated with high doses of Folic Acid) isn’t what every woman wants to have in a partner, especially is they love hiking, and other sports. I am active with regular Yoga practice, swimming and walking – I can walk about 2 miles at a fairly steady pace……OK! I can’t do that everyday, but, I CAN still do it! (Unless of course it’s traipsing round shops for hours, then I’d rather watch paint dry! LOL!).

When I’m on my crutches, I’m slower doing my daily activities and have to be fairly strict in organising myself and plan ahead.

When I’m getting to know a woman, I’m open hearted and vulnerable - I do feel insecure and feel embarrassed about some of the challenges that come with Spina Bifida, yet, I’m comfortable confronting the necessary issues and not be dishonest about them to her…..Sometimes even the most confident, self assured, carefree spirit has moments of weaknesses.

[*Anya*]

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

[femmepoet]

I feel less alone now, after reading all of your posts. I'm in South Florida, and there seem to be so few butch women here. I'm 54, and would like to date within my own age group, but the butches my age, who are on the online dating sites, are looking for younger women. The few good butch women I know are partnered and happy. So . . . coast to coast, NYC or South Florida or CA, we're all having difficulty. Thankfully, good friends are everywhere, but it's hard to be without that special someone sometimes. Thanks to everyone for your comments. I'm glad I read them.

[Inuus]

That's one thing good about forums of any sorts. One can find like people to share experiences etc with and perhaps ease the feeling of being "the only one".

Although I don't micromanage (as I put it) my butchness. I do claim female identified Butch, and I do appreciate a femme who can understand and embrace that small facet.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

To 1QuirkyKiwi: my sweet dear femme sister, thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. You really have no idea how many of us on the planet deal with being differently-abled every day (me, arthritis & thyroid cancer to name a couple)!

We all deal with our frailties and our strenghts in our own way and as we age, even if we were totally healthy at 40, it does not mean we still will be as the years go by.

I believe with all my heart (well ok I do get scared) that I will find love again in spite of my outer wrapper being a little tattered and torn, that just like the Velveteen Rabbitt, when I am loved, I will look like a shiny new one in her eyes.

Anya/Georgia,

Thank you so much for you sweet words.

All too often we don’t see how others see us - we are usually much stronger than others think – that comes from our vulnerabilities and acceptance to say “We’re not perfect, yet, we are worthy of being loved, cherished and adored.”

We will find love again with ‘That One Special Woman for Us’, but, she/they will find us when she/they are ready as we will be, too.

I wish you every health and happiness.

[Okiebug61]

I just want to say that I love being a woman, I love being a light butch and I love loving Red who is simply a wonderful woman ID'd lesbian. It just rocks!

[girl_dee]

love this thread, love loving a Female identified butch woman!

[eclectic_fox]

love this thread too… and looking for that female identified butch woman
:blueheels:

[TruTexan]

I'm just a lesbian that happens to be butch that accepts my being female and embraces that part of me. My masculinity is female not male.I live in a small town where there aren't any lesbians, butches, femmes or even gays. I miss the advantage of a larger city for community. I do the butch-femme dance with femmes only. I can't do a butch-butch relationship because I'm not into butches and I certainly don't wanna share my clothes and shoes. NO offense to those who do, but it's not for me.
Glad I found the site. Been reading lots of things here and finding out more than I knew about how people differently ID. Perplexing at times, but that's ok, to each their own.

[CherylNYC]

Welcome, Tru.

[LexiLove]

Woman Id'd lesbian here and in love with my butch woman Id'd lesbian.

[cutiefemme]

A lot of the butches I've dated identified as women, not all. I also used to have les/bi flatmates all the time (feminine) and we had lots of fun too.

[Gayandgray]

BUMP BUMP………..

[Stone-Butch]

I am proud to be female. I am also proud to be all butch.

"Any woman that tries for equality with men, lacks ambition"

(I can't remember who wrote it but I sure love it)

[homoe]

I am proud to be female. I am also proud to be all butch.

"Any woman that tries for equality with men, lacks ambition"

(I can't remember who wrote it but I sure love it)

Stone, I believe it was Timothy Leary "Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.“

Source: https://quotepark.com/quotes/866523-timothy-leary-women-who-seek-to-be-equal-with-men-lack-ambition/