Squirting

[Eddie]

Or female ejaculation, whichever saying you prefer.

Let's talk about it.

[MizzSabra]

All I have to say is once I figured out how to do it.....things haven't been the same. ;)

[Queerasfck]

Or female ejaculation, whichever saying you prefer.

Let's talk about it.

go ahead! ...*listening*

[Eddie]

It's like an addiction.

One night, before a show, this woman I was seeing came over and wanted me to fuck her. For some reason I left my shirt on while fucking her and when she came she squirted all over my shirt. I wanted to wear it as a badge of honor but she saw it and made me change my shirt.

[apretty]

It's like an addiction.

One night, before a show, this woman I was seeing came over and wanted me to fuck her. For some reason I left my shirt on while fucking her and when she came she squirted all over my shirt. I wanted to wear it as a badge of honor but she saw it and made me change my shirt.

oh i thought you were going to talk about *your* personal experience with female ejaculation.

[Eddie]

oh i thought you were going to talk about *your* personal experience with female ejaculation.

I can do it myself and there has only been a few others that can make me do it.

[Queerasfck]

This conversation has prompted me to watch some Cinemax "Co-ed Confidential 3" now.


Episode 2: "Spring Break Up"

The co-eds go wild as they try to out do each other in a Spring Break sex competition. Karen and Zack attempts to sabotage each other's sexual conquests may leave them both off the scoreboard. James' past secrets are revealed.

[foxyshaman]

I thought I would have to preform acrobatic movements with my hips and Kegals to get it. I read books and I watched videos and had a semi-committed partner...committed to ejaculation that is. And nope no luck.

Then life got in the way of my sexual fun and I left the above noted individual.

Enter new GF :cheer:

My first experience was when she ejaculated after a wonderfully long love making sesssion. And then she progressed from there. It took less and less time each LMS to get her to that place.

Me...still no luck.

Then... in walked Tantra.

Nothing has been the same since.

I have come to see my G-spot as a door. Sometimes that door holds experiences behind it... like assault or poor love image or hurt... then came the G-spot massages. Now if you have taken tantra you will know what I mean. They are hard work, both for your partner and you. But it worked wonders healing my sexual doorway.

Next... ejaculation. Now after having worked on my kegals, done hours and hours of yoga and pilates. Working the mulha banda really helped. My first time I squirted right off the end of the bed and left a large puddle on the floor. Yeah squirt muscles.

So I :kissy: ejaculation. We have worked energetically and both have been able to do it without any physical stimulation, but rather by running the energy through our bodies collectively and individually.

Now I must add that I find the orgasm AFTER ejaculation to be the one that leaves my finger nails in the ceiling.

Walking away wondering if I have been way too personal... :eyebrow:

[Softly]

CAN I JUST SAY THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME CRINGE!

I had a partner once upon a time who tried to get me to do this and I think my cervix got a dang beating.

ouch!

[MizzSabra]

CAN I JUST SAY THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME CRINGE!

I had a partner once upon a time who tried to get me to do this and I think my cervix got a dang beating.

ouch!


If your cervix was hurting, it wasn't being done right...has nothing to do with your cervix.

[Apocalipstic]

CAN I JUST SAY THIS WHOLE THING MAKES ME CRINGE!

I had a partner once upon a time who tried to get me to do this and I think my cervix got a dang beating.

ouch!


Are you sure you don't have endometriosis or something else that made your cervix hurt? May be worth checking on.

[Softly]

Are you sure you don't have endometriosis or something else that made your cervix hurt? May be worth checking on.


I am sure.
It runs in the family and I am OK so far! ;)
Thank you though xoxo

[Gemme]

I haven't done it and am not sure if I care one way or the other if I do. It's just one of those things that's good if you do and not bad if you don't.

I have had a few people try to get me there and, in the process, beat the crap out of my innards. So, I know how Softly feels. Some people are just designed differently, I suppose.

I wonder if other Tiltawhirl girls have issues squirting....*pondering*....

[foxyshaman]

I haven't done it and am not sure if I care one way or the other if I do. It's just one of those things that's good if you do and not bad if you don't.

I have had a few people try to get me there and, in the process, beat the crap out of my innards. So, I know how Softly feels. Some people are just designed differently, I suppose.

I wonder if other Tiltawhirl girls have issues squirting....*pondering*....

I remember that particular thread and wondered what the titlawhirl would affect. I know that at times my g-spot hurts to be touched. I continue to think of it as my door. Then I try to reflect on what has been going on for me that week. Anyway... not the point of my post.

It was no big deal to me one way or the other, but I was delightedly surprised when it did.

On a side note I have spoken to more gay women who ejaculate than hetro/bi women. I have theories on that, but again not the reason for this post.

Tiltawhirl... that made me giggle.

[christie]

We like to call it "baptism".... :sermon:

I am sure I have a first class ticket to hell.

[foxyshaman]

We like to call it "baptism".... :sermon:

I am sure I have a first class ticket to hell.

Hey I got a nice Pinot Noir for the ride, where's your glass?? :danceparty:

[IrishGrrl]

I haven't done it and am not sure if I care one way or the other if I do. It's just one of those things that's good if you do and not bad if you don't.

I have had a few people try to get me there and, in the process, beat the crap out of my innards. So, I know how Softly feels. Some people are just designed differently, I suppose.

I wonder if other Tiltawhirl girls have issues squirting....*pondering*....

Tiltawhirl sisters unite!!!


Well, I"ve done it a few times, but that was years ago. I wonder if I still can?
Hmmm..

[Diva]

I thought I would have to preform acrobatic movements with my hips and Kegals to get it. I read books and I watched videos and had a semi-committed partner...committed to ejaculation that is. And nope no luck.

Then life got in the way of my sexual fun and I left the above noted individual.

Enter new GF :cheer:

My first experience was when she ejaculated after a wonderfully long love making sesssion. And then she progressed from there. It took less and less time each LMS to get her to that place.

Me...still no luck.

Then... in walked Tantra.

Nothing has been the same since.

I have come to see my G-spot as a door. Sometimes that door holds experiences behind it... like assault or poor love image or hurt... then came the G-spot massages. Now if you have taken tantra you will know what I mean. They are hard work, both for your partner and you. But it worked wonders healing my sexual doorway.

Next... ejaculation. Now after having worked on my kegals, done hours and hours of yoga and pilates. Working the mulha banda really helped. My first time I squirted right off the end of the bed and left a large puddle on the floor. Yeah squirt muscles.

So I :kissy: ejaculation. We have worked energetically and both have been able to do it without any physical stimulation, but rather by running the energy through our bodies collectively and individually.

Now I must add that I find the orgasm AFTER ejaculation to be the one that leaves my finger nails in the ceiling.

Walking away wondering if I have been way too personal... :eyebrow:


May I say, please, that this was one of the most erotic things I have ever read?

Thank You......

[Jess]

We like to call it "baptism".... :sermon:

I am sure I have a first class ticket to hell.

http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y155/supersonic2118/Valve/Team%20Fortress%202/Achievements/Pyro/baptism_by_fire.png[/IMG]

jus sayin... save me a seat baby!!

[Gemme]

Tiltawhirl sisters unite!!!


Well, I"ve done it a few times, but that was years ago. I wonder if I still can?
Hmmm..

Take a whirl on the tiltawhirl? Just remember to build up enough speed to get a good rotation going and then.....oh, that's not what we're discussing, huh? :admin:

[Sam]

I was told, that only 5% of women really know how to "squirt"

googled it

[christie]

I was told, that only 5% of women really know how to "squirt"

googled it

Gotta love some google...

I don't know that I would describe my experiences as a "squirt" - the fire hydrant picture Jess posted above is rather accurate for the most part, and inadequate for those really special days!
:rainsing:

[Petal Soft]

MMMmmm.....

How come its so popular now, women have had bodies built the same way for...well a few years now......and I `ve not heard it mentioned much in the past. Now its the in thing to do it seems. Dont think I have, not sure I need to but will be open to it if and when it comes along though I`m more than satisfied now so its not something I long for.Hope I`m not missing the point!!

~~~Petal~~~

[Sweet]

MMMmmm.....

How come its so popular now, women have had bodies built the same way for...well a few years now......and I `ve not heard it mentioned much in the past. Now its the in thing to do it seems. Dont think I have, not sure I need to but will be open to it if and when it comes along though I`m more than satisfied now so its not something I long for.Hope I`m not missing the point!!

~~~Petal~~~

...just an idea... maybe it wasn't mentioned much in the past because of all things "taboo" to talk about (at least where I grew up, sex and our bodies were NEVER to be discussed) and many women thought "something was wrong with them" or that they were too ashamed to speak up? ...I wonder if it's so popular now because we are more empowered and more educated about our bodies (or not felt it's "taboo" to educate or enjoy ourselves?)??... Some women may have had the other person react in such a negative manner, that it made her ashamed?

on a side note...(*blushing*) I prefer the term "gushing" or "Wow Baby! That was like Niagara Falls!...

However, even though my partner is AMAZING in all aspects of our relationship and truly helps me feel empowered (and sexy as hell!), I still find myself wondering (because of my inhibitions and "up-bringing") if there isn't something wrong with me? I made the mistake of telling my mom one day when "Doctor Oz" was talking about the G spot on TV, she looked at me like I was totally defective and "you should see a doctor, are you sure you didn't lose your bladder?" In the not-so-distant-past, there has been far too much "taboo" around discussions of sex and our bodies, educating ourselves about our bodies and what feels good to us...also, some may feel it's taboo to "explore" their bodies or "try to find" what feels good to them??

Maybe it seems like the thing to do now... or seems we are hearing more about it, because those like me are more empowered and more (for lack of a better word) "in control" of their own pleasure and their self-confidence about their bodies??

[Words]

I've read and time again that most womyn, if they could get over the fear of peeing when they ejaculate, would be able to squirt just fine. Bearing down, even a little, is usually kind of necessary for the squirt/gush to happen so yep, there's always that fear that you're going to get more than you bargained for. Thing is, female ejaculate is similar to urine - but without the urine smell - so you're going to have to change the sheets anyway.

Also, for the benefit of those who don't ejaculate and feel like they're missing out on something. (This is my experience, and I'm by no means implying that the same thing applies to everyone.) The orgasm that comes with squirting is unique and yes, there is something incredibly erotic about ejaculating. BUT...it's been my experience that as great as G spot orgasms accompanied by ejaculation are, they're not as 'physically' intense as clitoral orgasms. Mentally? Perhaps. But physically? No. (Again, only speaking for me here.) STILL great, but different.

But, if you're still determined to get it to happen, something else you might want to bear in mind is that what works for one woman might not necessarily work for another AND what works in one place might not necessarily work in another. Meaning, someone I know, who shall remain nameless for fear of being punished for sharing TMI;), has at least 3 areas which, if stimulated properly, will result in her ejaculating, only one of which is where the G spot is 'traditionally' located if we're to believe everything we read in books (and one of which is way, way up there, right next to her cervix). Each of these areas responds differently to different types of stimulation and whereas a rougher type of stimulation works well for 'Area A,' it doesn't do a thing for 'Areas B or C'. Likewise, whereas a gentle stroking will work well for 'Area B,' it won't do a thing for 'Areas A and C', and so on, and so forth. So what I'm getting at is that just because someone you know can ejaculate by having a particular area stimulated in a certain way, it doesn't necessarily mean that that would work for you.

And one more thing (can you tell this is a topic close to my heart?). I don't know about anyone else but my 'friend' doesn't ejaculate so easily when on her back - bit like having a baby I guess, it's harder to bear down when you're on your back - and finds that being on her side (or better still, on her knees or even standing up, preferably hanging from the rafters) helps facilitate a really good 'gush'. Or so she says;)

And so ends today's lesson from Dr. Ruth.

Words

[Jess]

For those who do the "niagra falls" baptismal type gushing... I know it can certainly feel awkward sometimes or embarrassing or at least take some extra planning.
We've found these:
http://www.medicaldepartmentstore.com/Reuseable-Underpads-p/msc013000.htm
to be a god send when you don't want to get up and change the sheets before snuggling up for sleepy time. They work great and cost effective since they can be tossed in washer.

I agree, the more we take the taboo out of talking about our sexuality, the better our sex can be :)

http://i298.photobucket.com/albums/mm261/irockzz4eva/marilyn_monroe2.jpg

[Sweet]

......... The orgasm that comes with squirting is unique and yes, there is something incredibly erotic about ejaculating. BUT...it's been my experience that as great as G spot orgasms accompanied by ejaculation are, they're not as 'physically' intense as clitoral orgasms. Mentally? Perhaps. But physically? No. (Again, only speaking for me here.) STILL great, but different. spoken on my behalf as well, thank you. Both very erotic for me, but very different as far as sensations and intensity. Both give a nice "after glow", but clitoral seriously makes my legs tingle and toes curl! (...feels like "all my nerves come ALIVE") I'm not sure yet if I have a favorite, but enjoy the differences and certainly enjoy feeling free enough and self confident enough to "lay back and enjoy what ever comes" (no pun intended :winky:) letting go of my inhibitions.

Words

You whole post was wonderful and very appreciated! And helped me to get over my shyness about posting and expressing what I feel. I speak as someone who NEVER used to have orgasms of any kind, who never enjoyed sex or even being touched intimately and was so afraid to explore things that I would enjoy. Now, finding a partner that I am truly comfortable with and share such an amazing connection with, I often get to enjoy my after-glow and say "WOW!! Did the earth just quake honey? That's what I've been missing all these years?!!" ....part of my enjoyment comes from letting go of inhibitions, including the "bearing down" sensations and results you speak of.

[Sweet]

I've read and time again that most womyn, if they could get over the fear of peeing when they ejaculate, would be able to squirt just fine. Bearing down, even a little, is usually kind of necessary for the squirt/gush to happen so yep, there's always that fear that you're going to get more than you bargained for. Thing is, female ejaculate is similar to urine - but without the urine smell - so you're going to have to change the sheets anyway.................

And so ends today's lesson from Dr. Ruth.

Words

My partner and I just discussed this delightful subject... Where I went to school and in my family, we were not truly educated about our bodies beyond what was taught in mundane health classes for the "birds and the bees" talk. The basics of our anatomy was conveyed, but nothing as intimate or detailed as our G spot, particular glands, the "mechanics" (lack of a better word) of orgasms, or truly how everything is connected "down there". After I discovered gushing, I found an online article that mentioned: when [most] women have sex or are aroused, their bodies "down there" respond by swelling inside and cutting off the urethra and therefore not allowing us to pee. I thought about how that article relates to the above mention of bearing down and getting past the fear of peeing... in health class, we were only taught that bio-males experience the inability to urinate when aroused. That article really helped open my eyes and truly educate me about my body and subjects that were overlooked in health class. I wish I could find that old article...but if our bodies truly do cut off the flow of urine (for some of us, not all..as everyone is different and unique), that may help someone get past the fear of peeing? Just a thought... if one knows that one's body won't let one pee, then one may be less inhibited to bear down? (sorry to be so long winded, found it hard to explain..)

Yes, agreed, female ejaculate is similar to urine...but from what I've read, it doesn't come from our bladders. That's why that article made so much sense to me.


PS: I got such a tickle from "so you're gonna have to change the sheets anyway..."

[foxyshaman]

May I say, please, that this was one of the most erotic things I have ever read?

Thank You......



Thank you Miss Diva, you compliment made me blush.

[Sweet]

It's like an addiction.

One night, before a show, this woman I was seeing came over and wanted me to fuck her. For some reason I left my shirt on while fucking her and when she came she squirted all over my shirt. I wanted to wear it as a badge of honor but she saw it and made me change my shirt.

Hi Eddie, I hope you don't mind me asking? ...
After giving it some thought and re-reading your initial posts... is it possible I misunderstood your intentions for this thread? Did I inadvertently (without giving it a thought before posting, sorry to say) lead the conversation in a direction or way you didn't intend or wish to hear responses? If so, I'm sorry I barged in. I'm just checking, to make sure I didn't miss something...

I tend not to post often, because at the "other site" I got the feeling I might get "jumped" for posting my view on things. So, I'd sit back and read very interesting threads and posts, but didn't feel comfortable enough to post a response. Just wanted to make sure I didn't offend or mislead the conversation.

With respect,
S&C

[Eddie]

Hi Eddie, I hope you don't mind me asking? ...
After giving it some thought and re-reading your initial posts... is it possible I misunderstood your intentions for this thread? Did I inadvertently (without giving it a thought before posting, sorry to say) lead the conversation in a direction or way you didn't intend or wish to hear responses? If so, I'm sorry I barged in. I'm just checking, to make sure I didn't miss something...

I tend not to post often, because at the "other site" I got the feeling I might get "jumped" for posting my view on things. So, I'd sit back and read very interesting threads and posts, but didn't feel comfortable enough to post a response. Just wanted to make sure I didn't offend or mislead the conversation.

With respect,
S&C

It's all good. I didn't really have any intentions with this thread other than to talk about experiences and possibly educate others who have never done it or for those who have and may feel ashamed or embarrassed by it.

[Sweet]

It's all good. I didn't really have any intentions with this thread other than to talk about experiences and possibly educate others who have never done it or for those who have and may feel ashamed or embarrassed by it.

Thank you kindly. I do often feel ashamed or embarrassed by it. But after reading the thread this morning and one particular post...I built up the courage to post. Thanks for helping me get over some embarrassment and double thanks to Jess for the helpful website link :innocent:

[Turino]

The first time a woman did this while I was having sex with her was when I was 19...I totally freaked out...thought I did something wrong...I was really embarrassed that I was a failed lover...and it kind of grossed me out..

Now, 31 years later, I want them to squirt my initials onto the wall on the other side of the room.

I am not embarrassed anymore..Are you?

[Sweet]

The first time a woman did this while I was having sex with her was when I was 19...I totally freaked out...thought I did something wrong...I was really embarrassed that I was a failed lover...and it kind of grossed me out..

Now, 31 years later, I want them to squirt my initials onto the wall on the other side of the room.

I am not embarrassed anymore..Are you?


*blushing* :winky: :winky:

[tiggs]

I have to say that I really had no understanding of what it was or what was happening when it first happened to me. Like many others I did not grow up in an environment where your body or anything sexual was up for discussion.

Needless to say that at first I was very embarrassed when it happen, I thought that somehow I had peed.:eek:

It was only through reading a thread on another site and having someone describe their experience (very similar to mine) that I thought "hey is that what it is?". :deepthoughts: I was still pretty embarrassed because I wasn't 100% sure so I asked, and sometime after the laughter and OMG you are so cutes' stopped, I was assured that indeed this is what it was.

I have to say that it is a very amazing experience, now that I know what it is :awww:

[Darth Denkay]

Love it love it love it when my partner squirts!!!

[Jess]

The first time a woman did this while I was having sex with her was when I was 19...I totally freaked out...thought I did something wrong...I was really embarrassed that I was a failed lover...and it kind of grossed me out..

Now, 31 years later, I want them to squirt my initials onto the wall on the other side of the room.

I am not embarrassed anymore..Are you?


OK.. This brought up a fond "first" memory with my wonderful girl. The first time I got her to really "let go" I had jokingly ( in my head it was no joke , though) said to her "imagine a bullseye right in the center of my chest"! LMAO.. she did! She was then quite amazed when she found her ankles soaked , which at her six ft height was quite a distance!
Loved the initials idea... she does have pretty handwriting :rainsing:

[Words]

OK.. This brought up a fond "first" memory with my wonderful girl. The first time I got her to really "let go" I had jokingly ( in my head it was no joke , though) said to her "imagine a bullseye right in the center of my chest"! LMAO.. she did! She was then quite amazed when she found her ankles soaked , which at her six ft height was quite a distance!
Loved the initials idea... she does have pretty handwriting :rainsing:

I always aim for the eye.

Why do you think Hy wears Hys glasses to bed?;)

[Jess]

I always aim for the eye.

Why do you think Hy wears Hys glasses to bed?;)

LMMFAO! I am going to purchase a welders shield to go with my headlamp!!!

That was priceless! TY! :cracked:

[Sweet]

OK.. This brought up a fond "first" memory with my wonderful girl. The first time I got her to really "let go" I had jokingly ( in my head it was no joke , though) said to her "imagine a bullseye right in the center of my chest"! LMAO.. she did! She was then quite amazed when she found her ankles soaked , which at her six ft height was quite a distance!
Loved the initials idea... she does have pretty handwriting :rainsing:

So...she enjoyed wading at Niagara Falls :winky:
http://travel.sulekha.com/united-states/new-york/niagara-falls/photos/700/niagara-falls-rainbow-1-1.jpg helps to have your rain coat and galoshes handy next time?

[Sweet]

Or female ejaculation, whichever saying you prefer.

Let's talk about it.

bump...

...has anyone ever been made to feel "defective"? -either by a partner, family member or a doctor you thought you could trust to share such intimate questions about your body and gushing, or a friend who learned you do and said "you're weird, there's got to be something wrong with you" - If so, how did you respond to them or process/come to terms with those feelings? Also, being "made to feel defective" doesn't just happen with gushing...so if you have EVER been made to feel this way - especially by a doctor - no matter what the subject pertained to, please feel free to share your experiences (if you feel comfortable enough to do so). I'd really like to learn what other individuals felt when they were made to feel defective (your mental state and self-confidence, etc) and how it affected them and/or processed those feelings...which can sometimes be very negative, hurtful feelings.

I had one bio-male doctor talk down to me and treat me very badly when I asked questions about gushing (when I first discovered I could gush, but didn't know what happened.) I trusted him to talk scientifically and medically to me, not impose his opinions or judgments upon me. He treated me like I was some disgusting medically-defective freak and refused to talk about how my female body and anatomy works and what may have caused my gushing...instead, he insisted I liked rough sex too much (which I NEVER EVER told him I liked it rough) and that I must have "voided" my bladder. He treated me with such disrespect and no compassion that I switched doctors ASAP.

My mother told me I was defective...actually used that word. Yet, my "other mother" (X-in-law, who I LOVE dearly and is a WONDERFUL dear friend to this day) said I'm "SO LUCKY and one of few women who can do that". But sadly, between my doctor and mom, I still have mental hang-ups and wonder.... Am I? Especially when I can't control it and it interrupts me & everything else. To be honest, I would rather that I not do it at all... it seems I enjoy myself more if I'm not interrupted and later inconvenienced with the clean-up.

So please, if anyone would like to share and help me out...please do so. I would SO APPRECIATE you and your support!! Sincerely.

Much TLC
S&C

[Words]

bump...

He treated me like I was some disgusting medically-defective freak and refused to talk about how my female body and anatomy works and what may have caused my gushing...instead, he insisted I liked rough sex too much (which I NEVER EVER told him I liked it rough) and that I must have "voided" my bladder. He treated me with such disrespect and no compassion that I switched doctors ASAP.



A lot of men can't get past the fact that their dicks aren't the be all and end all when it comes to the female orgasm. Add to that the fact that a lot of men can't find a woman's clitoris - or have no desire to find her clitoris - let alone her G-spot, then it stands to reason that the mere idea of a woman being satisfied to such an extent that she's able to orgasm and ne'er a 'real' dick in site, well, it kind of makes sense, no?

Seriously though. Female ejaculation (and ejaculate) has been a subject of debate amongst Western medical professionals for years and even today there are those who refuse to accept that it exists. Which I actually find quite amusing considering that there are references to it writings belonging to other cultures dating back hundreds (thousands even) of years.

Anyway, I'm sorry you had such a crappy experience.

Words

[christie]

bump...

...has anyone ever been made to feel "defective"? -either by a partner, family member or a doctor you thought you could trust to share such intimate questions about your body and gushing, or a friend who learned you do and said "you're weird, there's got to be something wrong with you" - If so, how did you respond to them or process/come to terms with those feelings? Also, being "made to feel defective" doesn't just happen with gushing...so if you have EVER been made to feel this way - especially by a doctor - no matter what the subject pertained to, please feel free to share your experiences (if you feel comfortable enough to do so). I'd really like to learn what other individuals felt when they were made to feel defective (your mental state and self-confidence, etc) and how it affected them and/or processed those feelings...which can sometimes be very negative, hurtful feelings.

I had one bio-male doctor talk down to me and treat me very badly when I asked questions about gushing (when I first discovered I could gush, but didn't know what happened.) I trusted him to talk scientifically and medically to me, not impose his opinions or judgments upon me. He treated me like I was some disgusting medically-defective freak and refused to talk about how my female body and anatomy works and what may have caused my gushing...instead, he insisted I liked rough sex too much (which I NEVER EVER told him I liked it rough) and that I must have "voided" my bladder. He treated me with such disrespect and no compassion that I switched doctors ASAP.

My mother told me I was defective...actually used that word. Yet, my "other mother" (X-in-law, who I LOVE dearly and is a WONDERFUL dear friend to this day) said I'm "SO LUCKY and one of few women who can do that". But sadly, between my doctor and mom, I still have mental hang-ups and wonder.... Am I? Especially when I can't control it and it interrupts me & everything else. To be honest, I would rather that I not do it at all... it seems I enjoy myself more if I'm not interrupted and later inconvenienced with the clean-up.

So please, if anyone would like to share and help me out...please do so. I would SO APPRECIATE you and your support!! Sincerely.

Much TLC
S&C


I am so sorry you have experienced such negativity and feel uncomfortable.

My mother's idea of sex education was to hand me a book when I was 12. To this day, sex is a "dirty, awful thing to be endured by women." ENDURED?!?!? WTF?

I guarantee she has never had an orgasm or even heard of female ejaculation. I might have to bring it up during our visit Christmas just to watch the meltdown... :nyahnyah:

It took a good number of years for me to "reprogram" my inhibitions/taboos about sex.

Today, I subscribe to the "if it feels good, do it" philosophy. I claim my sexuality and my desires. If sucking on your elbow on a blue moon odd numbered Tuesday in an even month is what feels good, so be it!

I know a great number of women who would love to be so attuned to their own bodies that they can be comfortable enough to experience ejaculation. I am blessed to not be among them.

I embrace it, Jess encourages it (much like a new father who thinks he is the only one to ever impregnate a woman) and we practice it! Cover the world with "chucks", get out the lube and assorted sundries and "water the world." :cheer::cheer::cheer::cheer:

You are so not alone, you are not defective... if anything, its probably projection by the ones who told you these untruths. Jealousy is never a pretty thing.

Embrace it, find the "power" in being attuned with your body. Celebrate it. Celebrate you.

Christie

[Sweet]

Words, Christie... from the bottom of my heart, sincerely, thank you for such nice, supportive responses. I agree with everything you share.

On days I start to wonder if what the doctor and mom said were true...I will certainly reflect on your advice and wisdom. Your kind words & support will go a long way for me. After feeling defective for so long, I have much rebuilding to do of my self-confidence and self-worth... but I promise you that I'm working hard on "reprogramming" myself. To let someone like that affect me so, is allowing them to abuse me again and again. You both give me much to ponder. I hope that very few others out there have been made to feel as I did, especially from their doctor.

[Locutus]

I've only been with two girls who ejaculate/gush. One was self-conscious about it, the other reveled in it. I personally think it's one of the hottest things evar! I can almost say it's kind of a fetish at this point....

[suebee]

Honestly? If a lovemaking session is anywhere NEAR hot I have a hard time making my Sweetie NOT ejaculate! :blink: I attribute this much more to her kegeling than to my skill in the bedroom, but in any case I'm not complaining! :cheesy:

[Kast]

It is so easy to figure out... you hear "myths" about angles of approach... blah, blah... just pay attention, guys! lol

[Kast]

I've never experienced it with myself... I have studied it...tho'

Ok, ok... if you like this and want it to happen and it's not happening and she's capable of preforming this wonderful feat... are you on the inside or outside when it happens?... gone from inside to outside? outside to inside? solely on the outside or inside? or mixing it up?

Is this really the same as an orgasm for them... or a different feeling? Is there an 'aching' build up of pressure if it doesn't happen with some regularity and they are used to this type of release?

[Darth Denkay]

When it happens I am fucking her, hand moving in and out, but am being sure to stroke her G spot. There is some thought that's what causes ejaculation. Ok, now to find her G spot. Insert your fingers such that you are looking at the palm of your hand. Bend your first two fingers, a little like a fish-hook. If you thrust this way you've got a really good chance of stroking her G spot.

This is the technique that has always worked for me. All of my last 3 girlfriends had never ejaculated until they were with me <smug grin> so I know I'm doing something right. By their report, the sensation is different from an orgasm, but equally as pleasurable.

Wicket, squirting enthusiast

I've never experienced it with myself... I have studied it...tho'

Ok, ok... if you like this and want it to happen and it's not happening and she's capable of preforming this wonderful feat... are you on the inside or outside when it happens?... gone from inside to outside? outside to inside? solely on the outside or inside? or mixing it up?

Is this really the same as an orgasm for them... or a different feeling? Is there an 'aching' build up of pressure if it doesn't happen with some regularity and they are used to this type of release?

[Julien]

I find that "ejaculating" or "squirting" is an amazing thing for women to do and for her partner to witness and be part of. My girlfriend is one of those who can do it and I feel so lucky to be part of the experience. She tells me that the orgasm she has during or after ejaculating is different as mentioned before. It is intense and satisfying for her and for me. It is such an erotic and arousing thing for me and her. When she told me she could ejaculate I was all for it. Since she is the first woman I'd been with who could do this I didn't know what to expect. I feel it is a matter of trusting me with her body and her emotions. I am honored. It is an important part of our intimate lives. For those women who are able to ejaculate and their partners, it is an wonderful thing to share and I feel you become even that much more intimate with one another.

[Sweet]

I find that "ejaculating" or "squirting" is an amazing thing for women to do and for her partner to witness and be part of. My girlfriend is one of those who can do it and I feel so lucky to be part of the experience. She tells me that the orgasm she has during or after ejaculating is different as mentioned before. It is intense and satisfying for her and for me. It is such an erotic and arousing thing for me and her. When she told me she could ejaculate I was all for it. Since she is the first woman I'd been with who could do this I didn't know what to expect. I feel it is a matter of trusting me with her body and her emotions. I am honored. It is an important part of our intimate lives. For those women who are able to ejaculate and their partners, it is an wonderful thing to share and I feel you become even that much more intimate with one another.

Thank you for sharing Graphiteta...
Although, now that this thread got bumped... it made me re-read my old posts and think of something that's been on my mind alot lately. I wish I could go back and edit many of my posts within this thread. For personal reasons, and the fact that I have since then become comfortable and at ease with saying "I don't like it when this happens to me." However, I don't wish to edit my notes where I mention about how important and empowering it is to be educated about our bodies... At the time I posted, I was desperately trying to understand how my body has changed as the years pass and why certain things were happening internally (being that sex education and body education were seriously lacking in my younger years) and also trying to come to terms with how I felt about this happening to me.

I mentioned that I had been labeled "defective". I've overcome that stigma. BUT, I have also decided that I don't like it at all and that it doesn't feel good to me. Pardon the pun, I guess I was trying to "go with the flow" because the person I was with was so excited and happy my body responded this way.

In the past few years, I often get the impression that if my body responds this way, then the person I am with wears a "badge of honor" and goes around thumping their chest. Like the first person I broke my 12 year dry spell with a few years ago... After ROCKING my world SEVERAL times and the sunrise peaking through the curtains, she cuddles up beside me and said "but you didn't cum"... I told her "I DID many many times, so many my legs are too weak to stand! What do you mean? ...then she proceeds to TRY to make me gush... I had been MORE than satisfied before she started again and she KNEW I wasn't faking it... but when she made me gush, it was just like she wore a badge of honor and that was the only thing that satisfied her. I felt "not good enough" for her unless I did that... and as if my favorite way of orgasm was "less than" to her. Even if she thought that gushing was the ULTIMATE orgasm and being a giver is very important to her, it just didn't feel good to me and is NOT as intense or pleasurable as the "other, less than, way".

As Opra once said MANY years ago, even a rape victim's body can respond with an orgasm.... but my words are "This DOES NOT mean they enjoyed what happened." "Manual manipulation" of a woman's body... no matter the circumstance... will some times result in an orgasm. It does not mean that mentally, emotionally and physically did she enjoy what happened.

I am not trying to offend ANYONE and am very happy for those who love to have this happen.

I personally don't like it and hope it never happens to me again. I don't like the "bearing down" feeling, the mess to clean up, the hassle of being interrupted because you are laying in a cold, wet LAKE...I don't like that my body tenses up so hard that I "push" my partner out (but there are no pleasurable "tingles") ...I seriously don't like being worried that I will have to call for a lifeguard to save my lover during oral sex!! "SAVE ME SAVE ME!! I'm DROWNING!!" :blink: :| :| (I HATE being interrupted during that "BIG event" to find a towel and life preserver or water wings! I don't get "that" kind of attention enough as it is! LMAO!! *blushing big time!*) ...The feeling it causes for me, is like I'm trying to push and my abdomen tightens up...NOT the mind-blowing, multiple, tingling, blood-rushing, "make ya light headed", legs-go-weak, stimulating, exhilarating, ROCK MY WORLD, orgasms I can have from clitoral that leave me breathless, leave my legs tingling, toes curled, my blood on fire and snuggled up tight to my lover, catching my breath.

Again, I am not trying to offend anyone... but I am now more empowered to say...It's more of an inconvenience to me than a pleasurable thing. Many of the sensations it causes, I can do without and don't get near the same orgasmic, delightful, intoxicating sensations as with clitoral orgasms.

I'd really like to find a doctor that can do some kind of surgery to remove that glad that produces too much fluid. I just don't like it and I don't like my lover [or their actions like "you didn't cum yet"] making me feel that the way I enjoy making love is "less than" .

[BullDog]

Great post Graphita2s.

I have had several partners who ejaculate ("squirt"). It's an incredible feeling, very special to be a part of. I feel honored and lucky as Graphiteta2s describes. I certainly wouldn't ever go around pounding my chest over it or thinking it's a badge of honor. Some of my partners have responded that way, some haven't. All of our bodies respond differently. I think the various ways a woman responds to touch is beautiful. Squirting is one of them.

[Gemme]

Thank you for sharing Graphiteta...
Although, now that this thread got bumped... it made me re-read my old posts and think of something that's been on my mind alot lately. I wish I could go back and edit many of my posts within this thread. For personal reasons, and the fact that I have since then become comfortable and at ease with saying "I don't like it when this happens to me." However, I don't wish to edit my notes where I mention about how important and empowering it is to be educated about our bodies... At the time I posted, I was desperately trying to understand how my body has changed as the years pass and why certain things were happening internally (being that sex education and body education were seriously lacking in my younger years) and also trying to come to terms with how I felt about this happening to me.

I mentioned that I had been labeled "defective". I've overcome that stigma. BUT, I have also decided that I don't like it at all and that it doesn't feel good to me. Pardon the pun, I guess I was trying to "go with the flow" because the person I was with was so excited and happy my body responded this way.

In the past few years, I often get the impression that if my body responds this way, then the person I am with wears a "badge of honor" and goes around thumping their chest. Like the first person I broke my 12 year dry spell with a few years ago... After ROCKING my world SEVERAL times and the sunrise peaking through the curtains, she cuddles up beside me and said "but you didn't cum"... I told her "I DID many many times, so many my legs are too weak to stand! What do you mean? ...then she proceeds to TRY to make me gush... I had been MORE than satisfied before she started again and she KNEW I wasn't faking it... but when she made me gush, it was just like she wore a badge of honor and that was the only thing that satisfied her. I felt "not good enough" for her unless I did that... and as if my favorite way of orgasm was "less than" to her. Even if she thought that gushing was the ULTIMATE orgasm and being a giver is very important to her, it just didn't feel good to me and is NOT as intense or pleasurable as the "other, less than, way".

As Opra once said MANY years ago, even a rape victim's body can respond with an orgasm.... but my words are "This DOES NOT mean they enjoyed what happened." "Manual manipulation" of a woman's body... no matter the circumstance... will some times result in an orgasm. It does not mean that mentally, emotionally and physically did she enjoy what happened.

I am not trying to offend ANYONE and am very happy for those who love to have this happen.

I personally don't like it and hope it never happens to me again. I don't like the "bearing down" feeling, the mess to clean up, the hassle of being interrupted because you are laying in a cold, wet LAKE...I don't like that my body tenses up so hard that I "push" my partner out (but there are no pleasurable "tingles") ...I seriously don't like being worried that I will have to call for a lifeguard to save my lover during oral sex!! "SAVE ME SAVE ME!! I'm DROWNING!!" :blink: :| :| (I HATE being interrupted during that "BIG event" to find a towel and life preserver or water wings! I don't get "that" kind of attention enough as it is! LMAO!! *blushing big time!*) ...The feeling it causes for me, is like I'm trying to push and my abdomen tightens up...NOT the mind-blowing, multiple, tingling, blood-rushing, "make ya light headed", legs-go-weak, stimulating, exhilarating, ROCK MY WORLD, orgasms I can have from clitoral that leave me breathless, leave my legs tingling, toes curled, my blood on fire and snuggled up tight to my lover, catching my breath.

Again, I am not trying to offend anyone... but I am now more empowered to say...It's more of an inconvenience to me than a pleasurable thing. Many of the sensations it causes, I can do without and don't get near the same orgasmic, delightful, intoxicating sensations as with clitoral orgasms.

I'd really like to find a doctor that can do some kind of surgery to remove that glad that produces too much fluid. I just don't like it and I don't like my lover [or their actions like "you didn't cum yet"] making me feel that the way I enjoy making love is "less than" .

I think it's absolutely a joyous thing that you are confident within yourself to be able to say this now. For myself, I haven't done this and I'm not sure if it's a can't issue or a just hasn't happened issue. I'd like to have it happen once and see if I like it. Of course, if I do, this could turn into my Moby Dick, with me and my partners constantly chasing the great white whale and I don't want that. Maybe ignorance is bliss. :sigh:

[christie]

Thank you for sharing Graphiteta...
Although, now that this thread got bumped... it made me re-read my old posts and think of something that's been on my mind alot lately. I wish I could go back and edit many of my posts within this thread. For personal reasons, and the fact that I have since then become comfortable and at ease with saying "I don't like it when this happens to me." However, I don't wish to edit my notes where I mention about how important and empowering it is to be educated about our bodies... At the time I posted, I was desperately trying to understand how my body has changed as the years pass and why certain things were happening internally (being that sex education and body education were seriously lacking in my younger years) and also trying to come to terms with how I felt about this happening to me.

I mentioned that I had been labeled "defective". I've overcome that stigma. BUT, I have also decided that I don't like it at all and that it doesn't feel good to me. Pardon the pun, I guess I was trying to "go with the flow" because the person I was with was so excited and happy my body responded this way.

In the past few years, I often get the impression that if my body responds this way, then the person I am with wears a "badge of honor" and goes around thumping their chest. Like the first person I broke my 12 year dry spell with a few years ago... After ROCKING my world SEVERAL times and the sunrise peaking through the curtains, she cuddles up beside me and said "but you didn't cum"... I told her "I DID many many times, so many my legs are too weak to stand! What do you mean? ...then she proceeds to TRY to make me gush... I had been MORE than satisfied before she started again and she KNEW I wasn't faking it... but when she made me gush, it was just like she wore a badge of honor and that was the only thing that satisfied her. I felt "not good enough" for her unless I did that... and as if my favorite way of orgasm was "less than" to her. Even if she thought that gushing was the ULTIMATE orgasm and being a giver is very important to her, it just didn't feel good to me and is NOT as intense or pleasurable as the "other, less than, way".

As Opra once said MANY years ago, even a rape victim's body can respond with an orgasm.... but my words are "This DOES NOT mean they enjoyed what happened." "Manual manipulation" of a woman's body... no matter the circumstance... will some times result in an orgasm. It does not mean that mentally, emotionally and physically did she enjoy what happened.

I am not trying to offend ANYONE and am very happy for those who love to have this happen.

I personally don't like it and hope it never happens to me again. I don't like the "bearing down" feeling, the mess to clean up, the hassle of being interrupted because you are laying in a cold, wet LAKE...I don't like that my body tenses up so hard that I "push" my partner out (but there are no pleasurable "tingles") ...I seriously don't like being worried that I will have to call for a lifeguard to save my lover during oral sex!! "SAVE ME SAVE ME!! I'm DROWNING!!" :blink: :| :| (I HATE being interrupted during that "BIG event" to find a towel and life preserver or water wings! I don't get "that" kind of attention enough as it is! LMAO!! *blushing big time!*) ...The feeling it causes for me, is like I'm trying to push and my abdomen tightens up...NOT the mind-blowing, multiple, tingling, blood-rushing, "make ya light headed", legs-go-weak, stimulating, exhilarating, ROCK MY WORLD, orgasms I can have from clitoral that leave me breathless, leave my legs tingling, toes curled, my blood on fire and snuggled up tight to my lover, catching my breath.

Again, I am not trying to offend anyone... but I am now more empowered to say...It's more of an inconvenience to me than a pleasurable thing. Many of the sensations it causes, I can do without and don't get near the same orgasmic, delightful, intoxicating sensations as with clitoral orgasms.

I'd really like to find a doctor that can do some kind of surgery to remove that glad that produces too much fluid. I just don't like it and I don't like my lover [or their actions like "you didn't cum yet"] making me feel that the way I enjoy making love is "less than" .

Wow. Your words really touched me.

I think that the most glorious part of this post is how you have come from a position of "defective" to "no, I really don't like that and I don't have to engage in it."

For me, once the "dam" was opened, there has been no turning it off. I find that if I make a concerted effort NOT to water the world, I can never get out of my head and have any climax, much less the gush.

It causes issues - spontaneity is tossed RIGHT out the window and the effort in the preparedness - well, talk about a mood killer.

I often become frustrated (pun intended) when the pressures of our lives already make getting to that place of physical intimacy difficult - well, lets just really fuck it all up by having to take the spread off the bed, cover the sheets with the chucks - hell, finding the chucks can be effort enough, move the pillows to a safe place on the floor - send the voyeuristic schnauzers to their crates - is it nap time now????

On the other hand, since it is a regular thing with us, I have found that if the world has been impeding the happy adult fun time, I *need* to orgasm with squirting. For me, its that release of energy leaving my body. I literally feel drained after - much more so than through a clitoral orgasm.

I think I rambled in this - my original intent was to tell you, "Good for YOU!!! - Claim it, woman!!" and also to tell you that sometimes, the grass aint greener.

Christie

[Sweet]

Thank you Gemme and Christie!!

Your acknowledgment, acceptance and support mean sooooo much to me!!
At first, I didn't want to speak out, "set the record straight" about my previous posts or express such intimate things. I have seriously wanted to set my record straight, but kept quiet out of fear of posting. But something gave me the overwhelming feeling of sharing that maybe someone that CAN do this, may possibly not like it for valid, sincere reasons. And maybe, like myself, they are afraid to speak up because their partner or lover is SO thrilled they can gush... like Gemmie said, I don't like that they/we/my lover would start to constantly chase the great white whale. For me, there are so many more activities that can bring me intense, intoxicating pleasure. I don't need a great white whale mounted above my bed!! LOL!! I'm not speaking for anyone else, but it took me a long time to be confident enough to say I don't like it... and I hope that my [possible...far in the future] lover will understand that and not cross my boundaries?

Yes, that is now one of my boundaries... BUT, I do understand that I may not be able to control how my body responds this way. I do know that this may happen even if we don't try... but I don't want to be treated like I described above "but you didn't cum yet" and they try to make me do it after they know I don't like it.

I strongly believe in NOT crossing my lover's boundaries. I believe my lover is, and their boundaries are, valid and sincere. I give all people GREAT respect regarding their boundaries, likes/dislikes, and for who they are.

I have felt in the past that no one took my boundaries seriously.[read generalization here because in reference to a couple ppl over the course of many years that did this] This made me feel very unimportant to my lover...as if it was all about their pleasure and they could care less about my likes/dislikes. When I feel that they don't care, it drives a wedge into our relationship. I too have boundaries, valid ones, and am finally confident enough to say "don't TRY to make me do this, I don't like it." [again, generalization here, not intended to anyone specific.]

Thanks again Gemme and Christie!!
YOU ROCK!!
:rrose::rrose:

[Sweet]

:grindevil: :grindevil:

Like Gibbs does to Tony on NCIS, I might get smacked for doing this :cheesy: :cheesy: ... but all in good fun...

I don't want/need a... http://www.tonywublog.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/breach.jpg in my bed.

I want AND need a http://www.culturequest.us/truitt/creatures_files/2_tigers.jpg ;) ;)

[christie]

:grindevil: :grindevil:

Like Gibbs does to Tony on NCIS, I might get smacked for doing this :cheesy: :cheesy: ... but all in good fun...

I don't want/need a... http://www.tonywublog.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/breach.jpg in my bed.

I want AND need a http://www.culturequest.us/truitt/creatures_files/2_tigers.jpg ;) ;)



Rawrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, baby, rawrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[always2late]

I haven't read this thread in a while....but now I am glad I came back to it.

Thanks Sweet, for sharing. I am in the same boat (so to speak :) ). I don't mind when it happens...but its not something I necessarily need or want. I, too, have been in that position of feeling like I had to get there just to make my partner happy. Never mind that I'd already had multiple orgasms and that they obviously knew I had. Those orgasms were, I suppose, inferior.

I swear, there were times I just wanted to smack them and say "ENOUGH ALREADY! Just quit it and get off me!" Not the response one should be going for, just sayin :D

[Sweet]

I haven't read this thread in a while....but now I am glad I came back to it.

Thanks Sweet, for sharing. I am in the same boat (so to speak :) ). I don't mind when it happens...but its not something I necessarily need or want. I, too, have been in that position of feeling like I had to get there just to make my partner happy. Never mind that I'd already had multiple orgasms and that they obviously knew I had. Those orgasms were, I suppose, inferior.

I swear, there were times I just wanted to smack them and say "ENOUGH ALREADY! Just quit it and get off me!" Not the response one should be going for, just sayin :D


Just a quick note before I finally -said this 5 times already - shut down computer and pack it up for the trip...

WOW!!!! I can't express how happy and thrilled I am to find I am not alone!!!
YOU MADE MY DAY!! Seriously!! THANK YOU!! I was so scared to post... and hid my feelings for a long time. WOW!! I never expected to receive such wonderful, heartfelt support!! You said exactly what I feel, in a few short words. Sorry for my rambles... but thanks again!!

[redrose]

i think you would die for seconds...
and almost can't walk the next days...
(f)

[rawk]

only had one partner where we both baptized each other...she far more often than I.

and yeah, you don't have to beat the crap out of your bits to make it happen...my sexual partner had muscle control over it and could do it whenever she wanted...

I have to be taken there since I haven't really honed it as a talent yet;) Not as important for me to do it...but hot as hell when it happens "for" me:)

[waxnrope]

Same here, Rawk. Only immediately partner who squirted. She was bent over the bed, her feet on the floor, and she let loose ... my feet got wet and, at first didn't know what happened - she forgot to tell me about this. Initially, I thought she had urinated ... now, at least I know better!

I don't care if a woman squirt or not. Not a priority for me. But, I do like them, um, juicy, ya know. Just my druther

[TenderKnight]

OK, I'm about to run off to work but got to reading this thread and wanted to share a bit from my experience.. I have had a partner that would gush from time to time, but when it first happened, we had no clue what it was, cause it didn't smell like urine.. lol

After we figured out what it was, we took precautions.. lol

Now, from my me space.. I think that I may be able to ejactulate, but I always feel like I'm about to pee and then i get all embarressed and usually end up stopping.. I would like to experience it once and figure out if it is actually me having to pee or if it's ejactulation.. Is there a diffrent sensation that comes along with it? I may have not read something where this was already talked about, and I'm sorry if it's a rehash, just wanted to know.. Thanks :)

-Tony

[rawk]

sensation is similar to urination, with more of an orgasmic, good-burning pressure behind it...you have to just sort of get there and feel it I suppose. at least, that's what it feels like to me

[The_Lady_Snow]

DAMN YOU Ez!!!!

No


http://www.sodapopcentral.com/bottles/misc/A-Squirt-355-ml-glass.jpg


here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


:freak:

[SuperFemme]

DAMN YOU Ez!!!!

No


http://www.sodapopcentral.com/bottles/misc/A-Squirt-355-ml-glass.jpg


here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


:freak:




hell.
i drank it.
it's true.

[JinxdGirl]

That never had the "OMG I just did something terrible" reaction to her first ejaculation (known from this point forward by me as girl-jizz)?

I was a teen, she was a little older. I was very into what she was doing. And then .... wow. I cried a little, not embarrassment or fear or anything bad, it was the best feeling ever.

She kept her fingers firmly in place and leaned in close. Whispered softly, "I've never seen anything like that, but I hope that I can make you do that everyday until the end."

It wasn't everyday, but it was often. And in the ensuing years I've been with people that have never experienced their lover gushing.

Oh and there is no such thing as TOO wet. It isn't possible.

- Jinx whose cup runneth over.

[cougar_b8]

bringing this thread up towards the top cause :newbie: i ejaculate on occasion. i was extremely freaked out about it when it first happened and wouldn't even beat off for a few days afterward. yes it felt great but what WAS it? i got over the weird-out by taking a poll of my friends, 100% of whom said it was hot and not disgusting. And obviously i believe what my friends tell me, right :cheesy:
things that work for me, all in unison, are mister hitachi+being broken down physically/sm play first+hormones. The week before bleeding is PRIME ejaculation time, though it has happened random other times too.

[iamkeri1]

For me ejaculation came naturally starting with (I think) the first orgasm. It comes with clitoral stimulation or penetration and feels great, but it is messy, does require preparation before, or clean up after. Like a few others, I am really happy when I m able to climax without the flood. (Sadly this does require me to hold back somewhat - still GOOD though)

I have extemely sensitive skin and 1) if I fall asleep laying in the wetness, it burns my skin 2) I find towels too rough to lay on and also the wetness leaks through them as well, and 3) thicker materials, like blankets are sooo uncomfortable. Maybe that why I really like morning or afternoon sex, because there is time for a sheet change, and neither you nor your partner are expecting to stay in bed indefinetly following the interlude. I much prefer taking the time to put down the bed protectors even though it does initially slow down the flow a little.

Regarding feeling "bad" about it, I experienced that as well, but it was more internal negativity. The only one I ever talkied about it with was my husband, and he loved it. My mother was very open with me about sexual information and talk. She told me that she was not that flipped over sex (really Mom? - damn, I love it!). She also told me that she always took towels with her when she visited people, so she wouldn't mess their beds up. (Were you a gusher, Mom?)

I intensely dislike it if my partner asks me if I came, or makes any comment about it if they think I have not come. If I did have an orgasm, how could they not know it? (she thinks irritatedly to herself), and if I didn't, what do they expect me to do about it? LATER, after we're up and moving again, we can talk about it. But for me, talking about it "in the moment" kills whatever joy the moment provided.

Smooches,
Keri

PS if my partner "squirts" it is a major rush for me as well.

[claybaby]

bumpin'......just in case anyone is interested...smiles