Flirting by text

[lettertodaddy]

How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Ummm….I wish I could help you out here, other than saying just be yourself, which sounds such an obvious thing to say….

I once had a text message from a date which read: “I’m nervous, in Café. See you soon!”
I replied back with: “Hi nervous in Café, I’m Sammie, how are you today? I’ll be there in 10 minutes!” ….It worked! LOL! ;)

You could open the text message with: “Hey handsome!” Or “Hello Good looking!” …. To be honest, I’m really rubbish at this sort of thing…. I have a spectacular talent for just opening my mouth or letting my brain take control of my fingers, allowing the words to just fall out….usually, in unintentional innuendoes, or because I’ve a naturally chatty and bubbly personality, it comes across as me flirting, when in fact I’m nervous and shaking like a Jelly, lol! :cheesy:

Best of luck! :)

[macele]

if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL.

my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

[princessbelle]

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!

[UofMfan]

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

[starryeyes]

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

[Gemme]

Using lines via text is even cheesier than when it happens in bars.

Be natural. If they say something and a thought pops into your head...as long as it's not illegal...send it.

:)

[ruffryder]

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

[betenoire]

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

[lettertodaddy]

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it. :D

[Quintease]

I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol.

If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response.

[betenoire]

Direct and to the point. Love it. :D

Life is short and being coy is just way too time consuming.

[girl_dee]

*Is my kitchen pig done her chores yet?*




Gets me going every single time. :awww:

[apretty]

I flirt a lot, by accident.

[LaneyDoll]

I flirt a lot, by accident.

Me too!!! Most times, what I see as being "just me," others see as flirting.

:sparklyheart:

[LesboNascarFan]

I love to flirt via text. And it is nice to flirt text back and forth while working. Makes the day alot more interesting.

And as a lot of the responses has said just be yourself and just say what pops in your head...go with the flow of the conversation.

[Jett]

I once practiced my flirts in the mirror, and I immediately fell hard for my smooth charming ways... me've been happy together ever since ;)

[SweetJane]

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

[SugarFemme]

Oh yeah. Flirting via text messages can be fun, flirty and smoking hot. Innuendos and double entendres make for some pretty hot stuff. I personally enjoy that kind of flirting when done right:)

[princessbelle]

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Exactly. Without seeing the person it is hard to know IMO. That's why i say i text things that could be taken two different ways....WHEN it gets to the point of wondering.

Also, it's not a pick up line. I'm talking about texting with people you know or are getting to know as the OP says "flirting" and perhaps have been friends awhile. It's the transition to taking it to the next step that leaves many wondering what this or that means.

It's fun though and all part of the dance....

[SweetJane]

Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess.

Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

[Sassy]

The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past...

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Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words.

Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking :))"

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[HoustonHuny]

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[betenoire]

ummm UFO Man

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

[Hack]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

[HoustonHuny]

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose. :cheesy:

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

[princessbelle]

Speaking of flirting...

I personally see it like this..

It is individualized. Everyone does it his or her own way. No one is right or wrong when it comes to everyone's personal style. To each his/her own. Just go with the flow. Not only do people flirt differently but they may flirt differently with different people.

The question was about texting and IMO it's easy to read too much or not enough in what may seem to be a flirty text. Whether you text something out of the blue or plan it for just the right time, just like most things in life, if your interested, give it a shot.

Last i looked, there are no rules for such things.

It's pretty easy to figure out if it's working or not.....eventually.

[twist of lime]

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?


If it makes you blush, or you feel all tingly and giddy...

*I read my meter and thought I'd share ;)

[Rockinonahigh]

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

[apretty]

Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.

This.

(I'm not a fan of the contrived)

[apretty]

I hope this isn't your flirting.

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

[twist of lime]

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

how delicious, I feel a challenge brewing.

[princessbelle]

how delicious, I feel a challenge brewing.


Nope. Not from me. I didn't start it. Leave me out of this. I'm just an innocent bystander.

Unless of course money is involved.

:|

[UofMfan]

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble



Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

[kittygrrl]

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.





I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice

[Queerasfck]

I like the direct approach. I just texted my gf "I need to get my freeeek on."

Sweeping her off her feet again!

:|

[Kent]

I have never rehearsed or even thought of rehearsing to flirt with a beautiful woman. It just happens. We either feel each other's energy or we don't. I'm just not one to rehearse flirting. It flows or it doesn't.

So, go ahead and be yourself and take a chance. The world is at your fingertips and you might just get the girl or guy of your dreams.

I realize some may want to rehearse and go over all their moves before hand and that is perfectly okay. Do what you like. Do what feels good and right. Believe me the person on the other end of the text will either reciprocate or not. It's not the end of the world if they don't respond the way you want. The point is to at least try. Lighten up and flirt a little. It may just be the best thing you've ever done.

Let the flirting continue.. rehearsed or off the cuff...

[Random]

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

[betenoire]

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.


Stop flirting with me, UofMean!

[Library_girl]

How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

Leave to one of my favorite girls to start an awesome thread and get everyone all stirred up! Woo hoo!

I'm a much better flirt "in the moment" than any other time, but text flirts are fun! I'm not sure if I have a favorite to share. Although I will say that comedy and flirting go really well together. :) You could send a text that says "Wow! You look really hot today!" which I think is really funny. But then they might think you're a stalker. Ummmm use your own humor, not mine. Please!

[Wryly]

I cannot flirt at all - by text, online or in person.
When I do try to flirt either the femme doesn't "get" that I'm flirting or I sound really strange.

Once I spent quite a bit of time with someone - apparenlty she started dating and broke up with someone during that time. *sigh* No luck at all!


Everyone who says to be a good flirter you should be yourself obviously aren't me! :jester:

[kittygrrl]

Leave to one of my favorite girls to start an awesome thread and get everyone all stirred up! Woo hoo!

I'm a much better flirt "in the moment" than any other time, but text flirts are fun! I'm not sure if I have a favorite to share. Although I will say that comedy and flirting go really well together. :) You could send a text that says "Wow! You look really hot today!" which I think is really funny. But then they might think you're a stalker. Ummmm use your own humor, not mine. Please!

texting can now be considered stalking? geez:phonegab:

[SweetJane]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

[SweetJane]

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

Rockinonahigh, just relax and be yourself, hun.

[Hack]

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

It was never really a game of one upping. It was more like a script for an Irene Dunne-Cary Grant or Hepburn-Tracy film. Frankly, I am tempted to turn the whole premise into a screenplay, but I don't think it would translate well.

[SugarFemme]

I PROMISE I am not trying to derail.....I was sending flirty text messages to the woman I was dating at the time and they got a little racy. Well, I accidently forwarded one of the more racier ones to my ex-hubby :|. Good thing he has a great sense of humor. I got a text back asking me, " Can I watch"?? LMAO

[nicetgurl_30]

O my gosh I know what u mean! I'm soo corny and nerdy I always get a huh? Or one these 0_o faces! So I always go with the worst lines ever and that way they know I'm at least showing interest and hey if they keep textin back they must enjoy whatever it is ur doing or saying!!

If that doesn't work text from Bennett always makes
Me laugh! Good luck!!

Fav line ever: okay first text and be like omg! Are u okay and then she say yeah y? Then BAM "“You must be tired because you’ve been running through my head all night."

Pretty bad right! There are hundreds of bad lines and some good ones!

[BullDog]

LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

[Jett]

LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

FRESH! *slap*

... oh... I'm sorry buddy I thought you were flirting with me. I'll get some ice for that...


;)

[BullDog]

Will flirt for cupcakes. ;)

[smouldering]

I am a natural flirt, I like to make people feel good and even smile sometimes.. heck i even enjoy making people blush :D If i flirt it probably means i like ya, but don't worry it doesn't mean i want to marry you :P.

I think the one problem that i have from time to time, especially when it comes to online or via texting is my just being nice or supportive being confused with flirting.. :S

[LaneyDoll]

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

This is sooooooo me! A friend once referenced my flirting and I looked at him in absolute confusion because to me, I was just being me. So he asked, "Laney is there anytime that you do not flirt?" And I replied, "Yes, there is; I have to sleep don't I?"

:sparklyheart:

[JustJo]

I am severely flirting impaired....can't do it, rarely "get it" when it happens to me.

I can joke, be witty, be serious....but flirt? :blink:

Think I need to take a workshop or something.

[musicman]

Thinking of starting a flirting course just for Jo ;) I have been known on occasion to flirt. I have been told I am charming and I love women. So flirting comes natural for me.

Not sure if that is a good thing or bad.
Musicman

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I think the one problem that i have from time to time, especially when it comes to online or via texting is my just being nice or supportive being confused with flirting.. :S

This ALWAYS happens to me online…. I’m naturally supportive and caring of everyone in my life and that includes all the forums I’m a regular member off, too. It gets frustrating sometimes when rumours fly around by people who have never met me in person or even taken the time to get to know me online, yet, I’m pre-judged by my posts or the odd PM/Email.

If people really want to get to know the real me, then they will take the time too do so and not assume that I’m flirting with all and sundry just because I’m naturally chatty and friendly.

[HoustonHuny]

I hope this isn't your flirting.

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL

[HoustonHuny]

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.





*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine. :cheesy:

[girl_dee]

I get Hello Kitty pics by text when I am stressing about something.

Now that's love!

[Quintease]

I always plan my flirts, or not-flirts. By 'plan' I don't mean I write them down for days and analyse them, but I put some thought into what I say (by not-flirts I mean the flirts you're not doing because someone inappropriate is trying to flirt with you). I've flirted with everything from boys to girls and I don't feel the need to change my flirting style for identity, rather for the person.

[Sassy]

I almost understand significant others who get jealous about their person/partner flirting with others? But then, I only almost understand monogamy, so I know I'm out of the loop on that one. Jealousy just doesn't run deep in my bones.

But I definitely don't understand people/persons who get offended when an acquaintance or even a stranger flirts with them.

I've always thought of flirting as a fun past-time that mutually bolsters egos. Being flirted with means someone found you cute, or smart, or funny... it's like a verbal exchange offered in reward for your ability to interest another person or engage with them on whatever level.

It's the oldest game in the world. It's generally harmless. It's a compliment. Smile and fire back what you've got. If you're not interested, smile and say so and you or I will shrug and move on. Nothing lost. And at least two people shared a smile. :)

For my sake, by all means, should you ever meet a 5-foot something gal w/green cat eyes and freckles and think she is cute/smart/funny, say so -- it might be me and I might need cheering up that day! ;)

[UofMfan]

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL



I am not sure where you get the idea that you can do this.

I am going to kindly ask you to please stop.

[Lady Pamela]

*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine. :cheesy:

Ok, normally I shut my mouth and show true respect to everyone on the site.
But I must say, I truely seen alot of disrespect on this post and it is not needed.
Can't we all just post our own opinions out of respect? Without making it into a rivalry?
This isn't which person flirts the best. And surely is not ok to bring names not associated to the post into it.

Sorry just speaking MY POINT OF VIEW.

[princessbelle]

And if i may point out please....

I in no way dissed or starting this thing with UofMfan. I really wish my name had not been brought up at all. UofM and I are friends and have been for a long time. I would never diss anyone's opinion including UofM's, no matter what it is. And certainly not about something as personal as flirting.

This whole thing is disrespectful IMO and beginning to get out of hand.

To each his/her own way of looking at things.

I hope the convo can just carry on as it was intended because it is a great subject.

I'm outta.

[Hollylane]

To me, flirting by text can really be special. It can let me know that someone is thinking about me, or I can let someone know that I can't get them out of my mind. It depends on the place you are at with who you are dating.


If you're testing the waters with someone you're interested in:

"I was thinking about what you said last night, and laughing to myself about it, hope we get to talk again soon"

"I enjoyed our chat last night, hope we can pick it up where we left off soon"

"I enjoyed listening to your voice last night, looking forward to hearing it again"

"Thought about you at lunch today, would have enjoyed having you there with me."


If you're involved, have met, and spent time together it can get pretty hot and heavy with simple little phrases like:

"I can't stop thinking about your lips"

"I just got a whiff of you on my shirt"

"I keep thinking about how sexy you looked when I left this morning, with your tussled hair"

"Been thinking about last night, and I'm still there"

"I'd rather be kissing your neck right now, than in this meeting"

[Honey]

Yeah for SEXTING...Waay cheaper than the 1 900 number!!!

[Julie]

ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

Perhaps I should continue reading before I respond...
But that was a tad... a wee bit snarky -- aye?

I have to agree with UofManyFlirtations...

If one is to rehearse what one is to say, prior to the act of flirting? Where is the spontaneity? I wonder if certain people might rehearse how they will fuck when it comes time... Or perhaps if they might rehearse their screams or gasps or pants or hisses of ecstasy.

And google your flirt lines? Seriously? Is that a bit obvious? What if you and three others are googling the same bullshit?

I will never forget the time a butch used an obvious flirt line with me. NEXT!

:|

[Sassy]

"I'd rather be kissing your neck right now, than in this meeting"



... I texted my sweetie something like that once. A few minutes later I got a return text, similar sentiments, photo included. OMG, the dangers of smartphones. *laughs!* ;)

[girl_dee]

Aren't any of you afraid of a misfire?

I once sent my undying love to a dear friend, who I had to let down gently.

[kittygrrl]

Look, let's just say whatever works for you use that..if you get more gas using google as your "go to" for clever wit..that's amazing for you and no doubt you will attract people who enjoy your kind of flirting..on the other hand...

if you like to go with the flow and femmes/butches enjoy your spontaneous wittiness no doubt you willl have your share of admirers..

There is room in this world for both. So you are BOTH right so to speak.

Now let's get back to flirting! :hk18:

[clay]

hey dee.....I am not really worried about a misfie...and I do know of some accidentally to the wrong person....in fact I did so myself once...and I just laughed about it..and apologized...it isn't the end of the world...."shiff happens"...lol......

[apretty]

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL

It seems as though you're new to the site and possibly to the internet. I am going to give you some unsolicited advice--Most of us interact with each other as if we really do know one another because we really do, or as if we will meet or at least like we're a friend-of-a-friend because we really are: The degrees of separation are few.

So, I beg you consider the reader/s of your posts because there are many, even if no one responds--You're being read and it's a really good idea to not be mistaken for a lunatic (if humor is your aim and you find your attempts falling flat), if community is what you're after--And there's a really amazing community to be had here.

Luck to you.

[nicetgurl_30]

Okay i lOve banter and flirty text, but is it crossing line when person sends u nude pics? I mean I was being flirty but was hoping for wanting to work for it! Maybe I shouldn't complain and enjoy

[Martina]

this is not flirting, but texting gone awry. i have a good friend, a femme actually, whom i occasionally address in a friendly way as "slut" or "whore." Anyway, i once thought i had texted this friend, but instead sent "SLUT!" to my Ma'am. i got this as a reply "??"

i sent an immediate apology and oops text to Her. She has class. She didn't even mention it. But i have definitely had texting mishaps.

[HoustonHuny]

It seems as though you're new to the site and possibly to the internet. I am going to give you some unsolicited advice--Most of us interact with each other as if we really do know one another because we really do, or as if we will meet or at least like we're a friend-of-a-friend because we really are: The degrees of separation are few.

So, I beg you consider the reader/s of your posts because there are many, even if no one responds--You're being read and it's a really good idea to not be mistaken for a lunatic (if humor is your aim and you find your attempts falling flat), if community is what you're after--And there's a really amazing community to be had here.

Luck to you.

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.

[kittygrrl]

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.

Maybe you're being a little bit hasty?!? A difference of opinion is ok here, but U does not know you and so it may have come off as a little bit over the top..think about it, if someone came at you that you didnt know in the real world and said something you thought was kinda rude, you'd be a little shocked (since you don't know this person) and have to at least consider maybe you might want to clear any misunderstanding..and i rilly think that is all this is..no need to leave. Nobody is suggesting you do. :hk25:

[SnackTime]

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.


I personally would not consider a confrontation about a honest mishap in an open and public forum healthy.

[Tcountry]

hmmmm...
I think it is somewhat easy...I just say what I am thinkin...

I am thinkin bout u... ;)
Or I miss u

Great thing about txt...I can randomly make her smile no matter how busy she is

[SoNotHer]

A thought - one of the ways we can help keep people in the community and clarify any misunderstandings and assuage hurt feelings is to let people work out disagreements between themselves.

[jac]

Errr ummmm, I'm a text whore (so my close friends say). They all know when I am busy flirting in text... can't help but grin and blush...hehehe. I'm a flirt by nature and a very wordy kinda gy... I express myself well and I can be rather smooth to an eventual all out banter of playfulness. I can't help it... I won't help it. To me flirting is natural and healthy. It's fun!! However, it is still flirting. When I get more serious with someone, that person will truly know it... and know it for sure and certain. I guess we could say, I have levels of flirting? Yeh, we could definitely say that...
Worst flirt text moment, or rather funniest I guess... Sent a very VERY graphic flirt to my ex who was in the list of contacts right next to the person I was actually flirt texting. The response back, "OMG you're at it AGAIN!" Keeping those fingers limber are we?" LMAO :rofl: oops!! :cheesy:

[chai~]

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

I've spent several months flirting with someone online and in text, and wanted to keep the saucy little nuggets for late night reading at a later date!

So, I started a blog, totally dedicated to to such encounters. They are retyped, spelling and punctuation somewhat corrected. {I wanted to keep the rawness and organic~ness of the chats as close to the original as I could}

I occassionally re read these exchanges, smile, blush, and sometimes think, "oh my, I said that?"

Perhaps someday I will compile them into a debaucherous tome of erotica!

[Passionaria]

Yep, in my mind too the best flirty anything comes when you are relaxed and just having fun, it just comes out. And then evolves :lips:

I have never misfired a text, but I did have someone I was dating send a naughty email~~~> to my MOM. AYE! I could feel them squirm from miles away.*giggling* I had forgotten about that, thanks for the memory. LOL.

[GinaSofia]

Texting is a safer place to flirt how you want to/say what you feel without the secondhand ticking in your face for an immediate response.

I did go through a brief break up and found out that people do
use texting like they do the Internet..by that I mean scandalously,
without integrity, and to literally steal, literally. So, be smart & be aware.If people reach out to warn you,BELIEVE THEM.


My spouse & I have lived and worked together for over 23 years, texting
each other ( once she figured it out) became a whole new flirting tool &
just another way to let each other know that even if we're on
opposite ends of the building, we're still thinking of each other...in every way.

I absolutely LOVE text flirting.. With my spouse.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Okay i lOve banter and flirty text, but is it crossing line when person sends u nude pics? I mean I was being flirty but was hoping for wanting to work for it! Maybe I shouldn't complain and enjoy

Personally speaking, when I’m dating if nude photos are sent I will back off from the person….I’m by no means a prude, but, I do have standards of integrity that I feel should not be crossed until we have both agreed on the relationship being exclusive to each other. I enjoy the getting to know each other first, allowing the rest will follow naturally....:)

[lettertodaddy]

I
Everyone who says to be a good flirter you should be yourself obviously aren't me! :jester:

Well said! I'm terrible at flirting.

[smouldering]

Most of the posts here have made me smile, I think flirting is great, its fun and heck its even healthy if you ask me.. I like that little dance of just having fun and getting to know people on all different levels..
However if we've only just said hello and haven't really known each other long and you send me a naughty pic? Im probably not going to be able to take you seriously and will back off.. just sayin, why be so quick to send a stranger pics of your bits? I can't help but wonder how many other people are getting a peek at your goods at the same time and if you're just whoring for attention and nothing more.
I am definitely far from a prude, just ask anyone who knows me lol.. but I can't imagine sending photos of my unmentionables to someone I didn't know.. could you just imagine how many others they could be forwarding my "stuff" too? YIKES :blink:

[Vlasta]

Dear Apretty:

It's not my fault that "U"'s message landed in my box and not the intended box, but it did. I was surprised and I had no idea what it meant. However, what I learned from this is that people here cannot handle confrontation in a healthy way. It is back room gossip and crapola at it's finest. I had an "issue" with "U"s post and here I am discussing it with you and I don't even know who you are.

For you to imply that I am a "lunatic" is just unconsionable to me. This is not a community to which I want to belong...

So yes, here is my "golden flounce." I won't be back.



Huny ,

this it's the first time I am reading this thread . I haven't been here much lately . It sadness me that you gave up on this site so quickly . No , this it's not the boards we used to be on , laughing and making jokes of one or other .

It's too many people here , someone will get offended no matter what do you say . I am sorry to loosing you again since you are an intelligent woman and your sense of humor was misunderstood . One thing I would never do to PM butches which they are in a relationship . Even I know you , I find that disrespectful, I am sorry .

I am wishing you the best , hopefully you will find community where you will feel comfortable .

much love

Vlasta

[Point~Of~No~Return]

*smiles*

nothing is better than flirt texting

right before you're going to see someone it gives you the visual of their facial expressions, based of course on what you're texting them the shock that part that draws you in and lures you deep like you're looking into the persons eyes and watching their smile you can visualize the biting of the lip the heart beat quickening the butterflies and the nervousness build from just the excitement alone

but it's a good nervous which draws you back for more with more excitement and newer horizons to challenge each other allowing true inner desires you wouldn't normally be comfortable talking about

the tease

you know what is being felt on the other side and you feel it with in you too

flirt texting is a good ice breaker and it keeps things fresh and new

:wine:

[Wryly]

what is this flirting you speak of?

*sigh* It's been so long since I've even attempted to text anyone! Once I was told that her phone wasn't able to sent texts to Canada.
I never even had luck with IM! very hopeless indeed!

[TimilDeeps]

i'm in favor of it

[Ciaran]

what is this flirting you speak of?

*sigh* It's been so long since I've even attempted to text anyone! Once I was told that her phone wasn't able to sent texts to Canada.
I never even had luck with IM! very hopeless indeed!

Any texts I send are functional only - I couldn't flirt by text even if I wanted to. I flirt with my eyes so any attempt at flirting via text or online just wouldn't work for me.

[-Red-Flag-]

Huge fan of the flirty text ... Makes things a wee bit interesting !

[boobookitty]

I am a complusive flirt... but I don't text. Have text blocked on my phone. I will flirt in email or on a web post, but I also give the warning that I mean nothing more than friendly fun! :angel:

[Leigh]

I will flirt both via text and IM/private messages :)

[ruffryder]

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

[ButchEire]

My opinion is that it is emotional infidelity and speaks to a much larger problem within the relationship, or both relationships if two people are participating. No different than real-time infidelity and again, because it speaks volumes about problems going on within a relationship and an externalizing of coping with them.

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

[Ciaran]

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Surely it will depend on the exact context. Much flirting can be fun and have no intention of leading anywhere - I don't view flirting, in and of itself, as being unfaithful or disrespectful to a partner.

[boobookitty]

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Everyone who knows me ...knows I flirt... I am honest about it.
If someone is sneeking around about it, it would be cheating.

[Gemme]

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

I just am curious to thoughts of all on this.. thanks in advance!

Like booboo, I'm very flirty. I make sure my partners know and understand that that won't stop once we become a couple. Most of the time, that's part of what attracted them to me in the first place. Sometimes, though, what attracts someone to me will become a point of contention later on.

If a partner feels that my actions are inappropriate, we'll discuss it. If I see it the same way, I'll adapt my behavior.

In the specific case of flirting by text, I wouldn't do it. You know when it comes close to the line and I just don't like to toe that closely. Yes, I feel it's a form of emotional cheating.

The kind of flirting I do, via text or in person, I would happily do with my partner next to me.

[*Anya*]

Question: If you or someone you know is in a relationship and you flirt by text with them, is that considered cheating? Could it be cheating? Is it different in person? .. as the saying goes, If you wouldn't do it with your partner beside you then don't do it.

For me personally: I would not flirt with someone else, either by text or in person, while in a committed, monogamous relationship (which I am) nor would I involve myself in someone else's relationship.

I think it is a form of emotional infidelity and I will not go there. I think flirting elsewhere indicates some sort of problem within the primary relationship.

This is an important value, which my partner and I both share.

I think that one can be friendly without flirting.

For a couple that is not monogamous-different rules and expectations, of course.

[bkisbutchenuff]

I love text flirting! It can be really sensual and hot!

[ruby_woo]

I like flirting via text message because I'm a gigantic dork in real life, but over text message I at least have a moment to come up with clever to say.

Yup.

[Bèsame*]

flirting...not going so well for me. I need practice....volunteers? ......huge smile....

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[Random]

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

Nine years later and it still working...

:|

[FireSignFemme]

Nine years later and it still working...:|

Happy nine years later.

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[girl_dee]

my beau and i are both natural flirts so we sure make texting fun....

:drool::eyebat: