The Butch Femme Dance (literally)

[Metro]

i absolutely l.o.v.e. this video:

butch femme - YouTube

social dancing can be so intimate -- this video makes me long for the time when i guided a femme around the dance floor on a regular basis...

:fireworks:

if anybody else has links to similar videos please post & share!

[Apocalipstic]

How beautiful! I love social dancing and would love to take lessons with a Butch partner some day :)

I can do some basic steps,but would love to learn more dances.

[Apocalipstic]

Third Coast as in Nashville?

[Princess]

I love this <3 ty so much for sharing! Totally puts a smile to my face :)

[Metro]

glad my new bff and everyone else enjoyed this post!


:)

[SweetJane]

SweetUrbaneBoi,thank you for this thread.

There is a studio here that offers women's partnered dance and a monthly women's dance. Unfortunately I only see a couple of what I would consider B-F couples there. They're mostly feminist lesbians.

But there is such a wonderful exquisiteness to dance with a good lead butch who knows how to guide a femme around the room. I did experience that for the first time last month.....I absolutely loved it---waltz, salsa, two-step..

[deedarino]

It has been WAY too long since I danced...

[Leigh]

I would love to learn to dance someday with a partner :)

[Medusa]

Love this!!

[Rockinonahigh]

This is great,I wish I could still dance like that but for some reason my brain knows the steps but my feet forgot,somhow I need to change that before the reunion if possable.

[tiggs]

The feeling of being guided around the floor is so amazing, I love the feeling of a strong butch hand at the small of my back. It seems though that there are never enough opportunities to go out dancing.

[clay]

This is great,I wish I could still dance like that but for some reason my brain knows the steps but my feet forgot,somhow I need to change that before the reunion if possable.

yep u better buddy...Mys Hawtness is going to be expecting that dance...so get moving buddy..lol

[Toughy]

I'm surprised AtLast has not been in here as she is a dancing fool.

The Bay Area has tons and tons of partner dancing (including lessons for free) opportunities.......everything from ballroom to jitterbug to tango to salsa to cheek/cheek slow dancing to pick a genre.

When ButchFemme Socials does our annual big dance (in May this year) we always have a variety of music that includes most of what I listed above plus house & hipho & country western. The local DJs consider us a HUGE challenge. Lucky for us DJ Luna loves spinning for us.

[DapperButch]

I would love to take ballroom dance classes with TF, but around here there are no lesbian classes (not surprisingly). I am not too sure that all of the women in a hetero class would want me to lead (and probably not too many of their husbands/boyfriends). Maybe they have some "couple only" classes around here where you don't have to switch partners, but I haven't heard of any.

Private classes would just be too costly.

[Hollylane]

I've seen this video before, it has the same effect on me every time...It makes me remember the feeling I had the first time I danced with a butch, and realized that I finally knew what all of Mom's smut books were beating around the bush about...Just yum!

[Trey339]

Also a personal interest of mine,,,

[easygoingfemme]

We have a great mostly gbltq etc dominated ballroom dance school here. Straight folks go there too but it's pretty balanced. I'm just waiting for that butch who wants to take me there!

[lusciouskiwi]

It has been WAY too long since I danced...

The last time I danced was with my ex's mum at a YMCA senior citizens celebration :|

[-Red-Flag-]

Sign me up .. I'd love to learn a few steps to get around the dance floor..

[*Anya*]

I absolutely love to dance and slow dancing is my favorite. I think it can be so hot.

I can pretty much follow anyone but have to watch my tendency to lead.

I find butches don't like that much...

[Scuba]

I, like others, would love to learn. Also like others, not much is offered around here. There's also the dilemma of finding someone to learn with....even if it's just a friend.

[gaea]

several years ago there was a class being taught in my community...it was held every friday and offered up something for those of us that do not enjoy the bar scene. I took this class so i could dance at my daughter's wedding, suffice it to say, i had no one to dance with at her wedding so the classes i think were more for me ...i learned a lot.

just dance :)

partner dancing is beautiful :)

[Dance-with-me]

Needless to say, I LOVE dancing, couples dancing with a strong lead in particular. Once my life settles just a bit I'm going to start taking lessons even if I don't have a regular partner - Dancing has saved my life more than once and it still nourishes my soul in ways that nothing else can, even if I'm just dancing by myself.

There is a dance festival in NY every year that is very gay-friendly that I've wanted to go to for years. One of these days I'll make it there!

[easygoingfemme]

DWM. Which festival are you thinking of?
The one I've talked to you about before?

We have a large traditional dance community here and one of the cool parts of it is a lot of gender bending. Not necessarily about being attracted to the same sex, but that it's a place where the even some of the most traditional men bust out their skirts and dresses and dance with each other and the women dance with each other wearing whatever they want and taking turns leading how they please.

One of my closest friends and I were both partnered for years to soft butches who would not go dancing with us. We both loved the OFOS atmosphere at the traditional dances here, and would leave our partners at home and go dance with the men, snickering about it a lot, but having fun with the dancing part of it all. Too bad we never had any of the OFOS butches come to the dances but maybe someday there will be an infusion!

[Chancie]

I love to lead my beautiful handsome Pete around the dance floor. :stillheart:

[The_Lady_Snow]

I love to lead my beautiful handsome Pete around the dance floor. :stillheart:

I'm so GLAD you said this, I tend to lead rather well in dance, I can follow but it's rare to find anyone who can dance salsa who can lead. Boy of beer takes great mental, vocal, and beat direction so we flow quite nice onna dance floor, if needed during a cumbia hy's secure enough to let me lead till he gets it.

[The_Lady_Snow]

I absolutely love to dance and slow dancing is my favorite. I think it can be so hot.

I can pretty much follow anyone but have to watch my tendency to lead.

I find butches don't like that much...



OMG this too!!!

[stargazingboi]

Believe it or not there are allot of dance studios that teach same sex couples:

Locations: New York, Ohio, Mass, Many along the coast of California, Dallas, Chicago, Baltimore, DC, FL, CT, RI, PA, KS and many more.

some don't even require you to bring a partner*shrugs* seems its a growing thing here in the states...and more and more competitions are popping up every year.

of course for me it's just about dancing and having fun

[*Anya*]

I absolutely love to dance and slow dancing is my favorite. I think it can be so hot.

I can pretty much follow anyone but have to watch my tendency to lead.

I find butches don't like that much...

Oh and I love west coast swing and lead during that too!

My first girl-friend, the femme (pre-butches), always had me lead and it is tough to let that go!

It is always my first inclination.

:)

[christie]

Dancing is a beautiful expression...I'm sure I would be the one leading. Lol

[SleepyButch]

I love love love to dance. I have always wanted to take lessons as well. I basically learned how to two-step and waltz at the local bars here and in TX. I wonder if at one of the reunions, they could have some dance lessons pre party or something like that. It would be fun for sure. Plenty of Butches and femmes around there to have a partner or two.

[Dutch Leonard]

I'd be very willing to pay a lot of money to learn to do this. I expect I would have to make do with a partner and videos in my living room.

[femmsational]

Oh, I miss dancing with a partner!!

When I lived in Texas there were all sorts of places to go to dance. Now here in lower Alabama, not so much. Wish we could find a place that the Brutal One could go learn, but they don't welcome his 'type.' LOL!!!!

I'm also one that tends to forget and try and lead. Drives people crazy:-)

[Ginger]

Now if there were only lessons that could teach single butches and femmes not to be too shy to ask each other to dance. I was fine asking femmes to dance with me but didn't have the nerve to ask any butches to dance :| Lessons before the dance would make people feel less shy once they got to the actual dance, IMO

[Dance-with-me]

DWM. Which festival are you thinking of?
The one I've talked to you about before?
Yes that one! Though I think it's always just as my classes are starting in August?

[easygoingfemme]

It's mid-February. Come!

[easygoingfemme]

Heck, let's have a reunion right there?

[Dance-with-me]

Heck, let's have a reunion right there?
Heck yeah! I've been wanting to go for years, send me the dates and let's make it happen!

[easygoingfemme]

It's all here.

http://www.flurryfestival.org/

Yes, DWM, haven't you and I been talking about this for a few years now? It's time.

[StoneOne]

Thanks for this
It just hit Me that I have forgotten to dance
I need to remedy that
It looks as tho alot of us have forgotten to dance
Two souls become

[BrutalDaddy]

Oh, I miss dancing with a partner!!

When I lived in Texas there were all sorts of places to go to dance. Now here in lower Alabama, not so much. Wish we could find a place that the Brutal One could go learn, but they don't welcome his 'type.' LOL!!!!

I'm also one that tends to forget and try and lead. Drives people crazy:-)

Which type would that be, the two left foot kind or the whole FTM kind? Or both? Lol. Believe me, you won't be leading when we dance missy.


Totally Leading,
Brute.

[Mtn]

Sylvie and I discovered this summer that we have a LOT of fun dancing together. On our list of things to do is taking some dancing lessons. I would love to be a strong "swing dance" lead. She has incredible rhythm and moves, I dance with heart, rhythm and moves are questionable, heh.

[sylvie]

Sylvie and I discovered this summer that we have a LOT of fun dancing together. On our list of things to do is taking some dancing lessons. I would love to be a strong "swing dance" lead. She has incredible rhythm and moves, I dance with heart, rhythm and moves are questionable, heh.

You have some serious moves Daddy.. ♥
i had much fun dancing with You, and love that You would get up with me like that.. We laughed so much, and i so love being held by You so close.. Dancing lessons with You would be so lovely, i can't wait! & am so happy they'll play at Our wedding too.. i love You so much.

[Dance-with-me]

SO excited that I found a local woman who is apparently as dance-obsessed as I am: Apparently she used to organize women's two-stepping lessons at a local gym but they stopped letting her use that room, so now that she's just had her basement remodeled she is starting to offer them there on Thursday evenings - for free - with plans to buy a portable dance floor if enough people come regularly. She's also found someone to come in two Saturdays in a row to teach some western Swing lessons.

Plus when I told her about my desire to organize an LGBT dance lesson weekend here, she said she'd like to talk to me about helping to make that happen.

I can't begin to tell you how happy this makes me! I have to tell you, if I was forced to choose, right now I'd choose dancing regularly with a good lead over dating. Fortunately, no one is forcing me to choose so I'm free to pursue both. ;)

[cinnamongrrl]

funny i found this thread today. i met a lovely lady who teaches social dance. she says she can help me with my inability to be led....id like teddy and i have to have a fun activity we can do together...especially with winter coming ....:bunchflowers:

[easygoingfemme]

SO excited that I found a local woman who is apparently as dance-obsessed as I am: Apparently she used to organize women's two-stepping lessons at a local gym but they stopped letting her use that room, so now that she's just had her basement remodeled she is starting to offer them there on Thursday evenings - for free - with plans to buy a portable dance floor if enough people come regularly. She's also found someone to come in two Saturdays in a row to teach some western Swing lessons.

Plus when I told her about my desire to organize an LGBT dance lesson weekend here, she said she'd like to talk to me about helping to make that happen.

I can't begin to tell you how happy this makes me! I have to tell you, if I was forced to choose, right now I'd choose dancing regularly with a good lead over dating. Fortunately, no one is forcing me to choose so I'm free to pursue both. ;)

AWESOME!!!

[easygoingfemme]

funny i found this thread today. i met a lovely lady who teaches social dance. she says she can help me with my inability to be led....id like teddy and i have to have a fun activity we can do together...especially with winter coming ....:bunchflowers:

and more AWESOME!!!

[Dance-with-me]

Please allow me to sidetrack this thread for a moment with a bit of fretting and perhaps a touch of whining:

I haven't two-stepped (or danced regularly) in years, so when a friend needed to borrow my dancing boots years ago, I gave her mine and decided to let her keep them since I was never wearing them.

Now I start two-stepping again on Thursday and realized that I have nothing even remotely resembling good dancing shoes, no budget to buy some good dancing boots, and no place around here to buy some anyway (I have wide flat feet and it's almost impossible for me to buy shoes online without trying them on first).

Now I'm fretting about what to wear: Sneakers just don't cut it for two-stepping - too sticky. The shoes that I do have that would have the right sole wouldn't necessarily stay on well enough for dancing backwards and in heels. ;)

Whaaa whaaa whaaaaaaaaaaa. What to do, what to do...

[/whiningaboutfirstworldproblem]

[Metro]

Please allow me to sidetrack this thread for a moment with a bit of fretting and perhaps a touch of whining:

I haven't two-stepped (or danced regularly) in years, so when a friend needed to borrow my dancing boots years ago, I gave her mine and decided to let her keep them since I was never wearing them.

Now I start two-stepping again on Thursday and realized that I have nothing even remotely resembling good dancing shoes, no budget to buy some good dancing boots, and no place around here to buy some anyway (I have wide flat feet and it's almost impossible for me to buy shoes online without trying them on first).

Now I'm fretting about what to wear: Sneakers just don't cut it for two-stepping - too sticky. The shoes that I do have that would have the right sole wouldn't necessarily stay on well enough for dancing backwards and in heels. ;)

Whaaa whaaa whaaaaaaaaaaa. What to do, what to do...

[/whiningaboutfirstworldproblem]

Bueller? Bueller? Bueller?

Well, since nobody else replied as yet I can suggest just coating the heck out of the soles of your shoes with dance wax before stepping on the floor. I've had success with this method for at at least a dance or two when I've been someplace w/out my leather soled cowboy boots.... provided dance wax is available where you will be dancing (often scattered in the corner of the floor -- kinda looks like sawdust).

Good luck!

[easygoingfemme]

Is this a local friend you could borrow the shoes back from temporarily?

Do you have an in-between shoe that would work if waxed as suggested?

[Dance-with-me]

The lessons are in someone's basement so the chance of dance wax being available are slim.

Is this a local friend you could borrow the shoes back from temporarily?

Do you have an in-between shoe that would work if waxed as suggested?
Nah, friend is in Philadelphia and I'm pretty sure that the boots were eaten by a dog at some point.

My only leather-soled shoes that might actually stay on my feet are quite dressy, and not entirely broken in. I may have to find a way to go shoe shopping today - I don't really have the budget but if I recategorize this from "entertainment/fun" into the same budget category as "medical/therapy," I could possibly justify it - especially if instead of buying cowboy boots I buy some shoes that could do double-time as work shoes. That makes sense and is completely justified, right?!?

What I'm REALLY thankful for is knowing that some people will be reading this who GET that you sometimes just need the right dancing shoes, AND who will get that it's very rational to categorize dance expenses as therapy. :)

[Dance-with-me]

::ahem:: These should arrive by the end of the week. Brown. They're from a company that specializes in dance shoes - they make them, not just resell them - and they have wide widths in almost all of their styles. They're no boots but they're dance shoes that will do just fine with my jeans, thankyouverymuch.

http://www.tictactoes.com/dance/images/anna968large.jpg

[tiaras-and-books]

I've taken a few social dance classes here and there, and oooh, I love it. A love who's game to lead? Yes please. :)

[legally_b10nde]

It's always a plus if your partner knows how to dance.... especially a slow dance. :blush:

[cathexis]

It's always a plus if your partner knows how to dance.... especially a slow dance. :blush:

Really is difficult finding a partner, especially one who knows how to lead properly.

[deeds]

Really is difficult finding a partner, especially one who knows how to lead properly.

Remember the song slow dancing? :)


"Slow dancing
swaying to the music
there's no else
in the whole wide world
just me and my girl"

[Stone-Butch]

My ex of 22 yrs and I use to dance every weekend at the club. I Miss that terribly. I LOVE to dance. Fast, slow and two step was our best moves. I need a new dance partner LOL.

[JDeere]

I feel bad for my current partner, I have two left feet when it comes to dancing, I however can slow dance like there is no tomorrow, but my Lord can that woman dance!

I love just sitting there and watching her dance the wobble, cupid shuffle, then slow dance with me!

[legally_b10nde]

My ex of 22 yrs and I use to dance every weekend at the club. I Miss that terribly. I LOVE to dance. Fast, slow and two step was our best moves. I need a new dance partner LOL.

I am terrible at two step dancing but I can still rock it wearing my pink snip toe cowgirl boots and denim short skirt hehehe

[pamela]

i absolutely l.o.v.e. this video:

butch femme - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bu3nYLdbQfI)

social dancing can be so intimate -- this video makes me long for the time when i guided a femme around the dance floor on a regular basis...

:fireworks:

if anybody else has links to similar videos please post & share!


very nice and very evocative

[legally_b10nde]

It's cool as long as dance partner is having fun and willing to try something new moves without stepping on my toes! *ouch

[knight]

i miss the dance

[~ocean]

with the right partner the "dance" can start b4 the first step ~

[knight]

with the right partner the "dance" can start b4 the first step ~

you are absolutely right!

[legally_b10nde]

I'm just curious, what kinda dance or dance move do you all enjoy the most?

[homoe]

I'm just curious, what kinda dance or dance move do you all enjoy the most?

I prefer slow dancing and leading :bluesbrothers:

[Gemme]

I'm just curious, what kinda dance or dance move do you all enjoy the most?

I would say this depends on what I want out of it. Sometimes a good, hard sweaty and wild dance on the floor is exactly what I need but when I'm in a snuggling kind of mood, I'm with homoe, I love slow dancing close and tucking my face into my partner's neck. Sometimes our heartbeats align and beat together when that happens.

[Stone-Butch]

I enjoy a slow dance but my fav. is two-step. I also like the emotional dance very much. Yes I lead in both cases LOL.

[*Anya*]

I miss slow dancing.

Really, really, good slow dancing.

The kind that you can have with a sensuously hot person, when both of your bodies just meld together and your partner moves with you as if you were almost one person.

Good slow dancing is foreplay.

*Fans self*

Is it hot in here or is it just me?

:thud:

[easygoingfemme]

If I'm out with my friends then we're just grooving together and doing our thing.

Partnered dancing... oh I wish for a good slow dance partner leading me around!

I do some partner dancing around here, contra, swing, sometimes waltzing. But I never really have a dance partner I feel like I want to be that close to for stuff like swing and waltzing or any other slow close dance. There are a lot of big dances around here where you just partner swap all night but it's largely hetero and hetero or not, I'm not the kind of person who can/wants to dance like that with just anybody.

*stands here with my dance card looking around...

[Ratcrazy]

I miss slow dancing.

Really, really, good slow dancing.

The kind that you can have with a sensuously hot person, when both of your bodies just meld together and your partner moves with you as if you were almost one person.

Good slow dancing is foreplay.

*Fans self*

Is it hot in here or is it just me?

:thud:
*sigh*. I agree.

[Ratcrazy]

If I'm out with my friends then we're just grooving together and doing our thing.

Partnered dancing... oh I wish for a good slow dance partner leading me around!

I do some partner dancing around here, contra, swing, sometimes waltzing. But I never really have a dance partner I feel like I want to be that close to for stuff like swing and waltzing or any other slow close dance. There are a lot of big dances around here where you just partner swap all night but it's largely hetero and hetero or not, I'm not the kind of person who can/wants to dance like that with just anybody.

*stands here with my dance card looking around...
where's that card?

[cathexis]

I enjoy a slow dance but my fav. is two-step. I also like the emotional dance very much. Yes I lead in both cases LOL.

Oh, to go dancing. Slow dancing with my head in the hollow of Her shoulder.

Miss all sorts of dancing...the grind...also a good Cotton-eyed Joe. Used to

be, when the fiddle came out, my feet would start to fidget. Where have all

those good dyke bars gone? Places where we didn't feel self conscious

getting up to dance!