What do you want?

[Waldo]

Seems like people have a fairly good grasp on what they don't want but often times fail to address the things they really do want in a partner and/or relationship.

Think about it, put it out there - what DO you want?

[SuperFemme]

I want trust and loyalty. I want to be able to be my quirky self always. I want my friends and lovers to not run away from my different-abilities. I want to live voraciously TODAY and know that when my illness wins, those that love me will continue to love me and my Adele-isms.

Lucky for me I have these things. I am always open for applications. I promise to not ask for that which I am not willing to give. I promise to love you back for eternity. Be it mine or yours.

[Waldo]

I want trust and loyalty. I want to be able to be my quirky self always. I want my friends and lovers to not run away from my different-abilities. I want to live voraciously TODAY and know that when my illness wins, those that love me will continue to love me and my Adele-isms.

Lucky for me I have these things. I am always open for applications. I promise to not ask for that which I am not willing to give. I promise to love you back for eternity. Be it mine or yours.


Nice SF. Wouldn't it be grand that no one should ever need to start off a list of "want" with two things that should be standard - trust and loyalty.

[Gemme]

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

[Waldo]

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

Great. Now I have that dang I Want A Hero song in my head.

Sounds great otherwise.

[SuperFemme]

Nice SF. Wouldn't it be grand that no one should ever need to start off a list of "want" with two things that should be standard - trust and loyalty.


The thing is this. I have falsely assumed that I had those things. Until it became glaringly clear that I didn't. I have never in my life felt so *safe* (in a non boring way) before I married Cal (Plato on this site).

I have also forged friendships amongst Femmes that make me feel equally safe. I cherish that. Having people travel across the country whilst I am in the ICU rambling feverishly at them about utterly non-sensical things restored my faith in Femme Alliances that I needed/wanted but was scared to death of after walking away from psuedo friendships that left scars so deep I thought I'd never let another penetrate. Loyalty and Trust are oft espoused by people in theory, but in practice the selfish "what's in it for me?" mode seems to win out.

I married somebody who knows my quirks, past history, familial strife and doesn't judge me. Instead this person is my rock and my anchor. We are a team. Silly perhaps, but I've not had that before. I cherish it.

[Gemme]

Great. Now I have that dang I Want A Hero song in my head.

Sounds great otherwise.

Any time I can help! :princess:

[Bit]

I want respect and trust and faith in me and us as a cohesive unit. I want freedom to be myself and understanding during the times that I am not so wonderful. I want laughter and wit and brilliance. I want the patience of a saint and the integrity of a hero. Hell, I want a hero. And I want to be his heroine.

Oh. My. Gawd. :stillheart: I've never seen a better description of Gryph, and our relationship.

I'm betting Ryan is very much like him... May you have what you want, Gemme. It's totally worth the wait!

*and here I thought I wouldn't have anything to say in this thread!*

[always2late]

I want to know that in their eyes, I am the best girl in the room, no matter who else is in it. I want to be able to always look into their eyes and see love there, even when those eyes have faded. I want someone I can depend on, because they will always be able to depend on me. I want someone who can love me despite my flaws, its in my flaws that you can see me for who I am, and who does not expect me to be perfect. I want someone who can accept being loved in return. I want someone who will hold me when I cry and not mock my tears, stand with me when my back is against the wall, calm me when I rage, rejoice with me when I laugh, and dance with me in the rain. I want honesty, and truth, and respect, and the freedom to love, and be loved, unconditionally.

[Gemme]

Oh. My. Gawd. :stillheart: I've never seen a better description of Gryph, and our relationship.

I'm betting Ryan is very much like him... May you have what you want, Gemme. It's totally worth the wait!

*and here I thought I wouldn't have anything to say in this thread!*



I think you may be right about Gryph and Ryan being cut from the same cloth. :awww:

[Sachita]

This morning I was thinking about my past pursuits in finding a relationship. I don't really look, per se but I do open myself up to it. In the past I'd post these lengthy online personals and when ask what I wanted I's have this long list.

I've learned over the years that no matter your list there are always exceptions to the rule and your needs change based on circumstances. I know that what I want today is different then what I thought I wanted 5 years ago.

We all want honesty, trust and loyalty. They shouldn't even have to go in a list. Funny how often we all put them there any way.

I'm a little torn right now. On one had I want to open myself up to the universe and let whatever happens happen. To trust that if I love myself, trust that they best circumstance will happen that the right partner will come into my life.

On the other hand maybe I should be more proactive and constructive with finding a partner. That if I want to manifest this reality I need to know exactly what I'm asking for but can I really do this? Do I even know what i really want? lol

I am an attractive woman- strong, independent, intelligent, articulate and a loyal partner. I think there are many of us here with these same qualities. I often wonder why so many are single. I know its not easy when you're a subculture within a subculture- BF, but damn, it just seems like the biggest mountain, at least for me.

[Stitch]

- Someone who no matter how busy their live is, makes time for me in some way or another
- Honesty and respect
- Someone who realize that "success" doesn't always have to have a monetary value.

[msW8ing]

All the things everyone else has listed..and..someone who understands that friends/family/debt/trials and tribulations of all sorts will always come and go..but in the end bottom line is when the dust settles it will always be them and I left standing side by side to take on any and all challenges...when all is said and done it is "us against the world" Doesn't sound complicated does it? You would be amazed. A 100/100 relationship..I give 100% and they give 100%.

[Stitch]

I wish my most recent ex could have realized that. :(

[boitanner]

This says it all

http://youtu.be/05qcA4KPI0k

[Sachita]

ok a year later and a lot wiser...

I want an intelligent, conscious human being who knows who they are without getting caught up in labels. Someone that enjoys the dynamic and makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. Someone that LOVES gardening and cooking. Someone's who's idea of a perfect day is sitting on the porch watching our fur babies play, watching and teaching grandkids about life. Someone that doesn't have to think about doing the right thing.. it just happens. Someone who wants to work at being healthy and strong enough to spend the rest of our golden years together.

[Random]

I want trust, honor, loyalty, honesty, intellegence and laughter.

I want someone who sees me for who I am... beautiful, ugly, strong, weak.. Might not like all of me, but loves all of me and wouldn't change a thing.

I want conversations that last for days
I want to like someone so much that I have to go find them if I haven't seen them in twenty mins, just to see their face and say hi...
I want someone secure enought to know that one day I will miss them and then the next day tell them to go away...

I want the security of knowing that if I'm alive in twenty years, they are going to be charging up my rascal and finding my other shoe...

I got lucky... or did I? Did I luck out or did I say what I wanted and get it?

[Stitch]

wants someone who loves cuddling as much as I do

[Stud_puppy1991]

In my journey to find the love of my life. (And yes, i'm still searching.) I have noticed that I want trust. I want us to keep no secrets from each other, as honesty creates some stability. I want her to be able to look at my flaws, and i look at hers and know the person hiding behind this wall of them is the person that is who they are in love with. Also, I want someone real. I've had way to many girls use me as a pawn in their game, or they were just fake. I want someone who has true emotions, and when she says them, it's what she really feels, and it's not a script. I want someone who is going to love me uncondtionally and love me for who I am. I refuse to be someone's mold. And, whenever possible and just when they need me to, I want to be their hero.

[Gemme]

I want more time in the day, but that's something I need to work on.

:blink:

[MissPriss]

I want someone that can be with me just as I am, and not even think about wanting me to change one thing.

[clay]

Well put, Always!!!I want to know that in their eyes, I am the best girl in the room, no matter who else is in it. I want to be able to always look into their eyes and see love there, even when those eyes have faded. I want someone I can depend on, because they will always be able to depend on me. I want someone who can love me despite my flaws, its in my flaws that you can see me for who I am, and who does not expect me to be perfect. I want someone who can accept being loved in return. I want someone who will hold me when I cry and not mock my tears, stand with me when my back is against the wall, calm me when I rage, rejoice with me when I laugh, and dance with me in the rain. I want honesty, and truth, and respect, and the freedom to love, and be loved, unconditionally.

[clay]

Great post, Sachita!!!ok a year later and a lot wiser...

I want an intelligent, conscious human being who knows who they are without getting caught up in labels. Someone that enjoys the dynamic and makes me feel like I'm the only girl in the world. Someone that LOVES gardening and cooking. Someone's who's idea of a perfect day is sitting on the porch watching our fur babies play, watching and teaching grandkids about life. Someone that doesn't have to think about doing the right thing.. it just happens. Someone who wants to work at being healthy and strong enough to spend the rest of our golden years together.

[proximitywithoutintimacy]

I want someone who's honest, genuine, and old-fashioned. A woman who values love and communication above materialism and sex.

I want someone who is patient, kind, and respectful. Who doesn't smoke or use drugs, and either doesn't drink or only does so sporadically. Who will always be herself, despite what others think or say, and will never allow someone else to change them.

I want someone who has morals and values, who will hold me when I cry, and never fail to make me laugh. Someone who appreciates the little things in life.

I want someone who is intelligent, passionate, gentle, and beautiful on the inside.

I want someone who will love me for who I am, and catch me when I fall.

I want someone to come home to.

[clay]

Great posts, peeps...ALL of you!!!! Most of the things are qualities, traits, and attributes we are all looking for! As well as all the things listed in most of the posts here, at least for me, what is single most important is to believe in me, have faith, and when "issues" arise...be kind enough to talk with me....either by phone or in person, if possible....but at least talk with me....don't get mad and pull away! Or if you do need space & time....say so.....but to just dispel me....as if I am like yesterday's garbage....my feelings, my heart, my love, and my friendship shouldn't be so easily dispensable. I do wear my heart on my sleeve, I am sensitive, and I have feelings.....just my 2 cents!!! Carry on, peeps.....hugs to you all!!!

[Holly.88]

I want someone....


- who can kick my ass in Scrabble
- who is confident in herself
- I can have fun with
- who will call me an idiot for wanting to go sky diving, but will be there to watch me
- who respects herself and others
- who thinks I'm their knight in shining armour
- who likes porch swings and southern accents
- who values manners in others
- who loves the butch-femme dynamic as much as I do
- I can bring home to mama

[MissPriss]

I want someone....


- who can kick my ass in Scrabble
- who is confident in herself
- I can have fun with
- who will call me an idiot for wanting to go sky diving, but will be there to watch me
- who respects herself and others
- who thinks I'm their knight in shining armour
- who likes porch swings and southern accents
- who values manners in others
- who loves the butch-femme dynamic as much as I do
- I can bring home to mama

southern accents and porch swings.....two of the finer things in life!

[Holly.88]

southern accents and porch swings.....two of the finer things in life!

I knew I forgot something on my list! I also want someone with good taste ;)

[clay]

Ditto, Holly!!!I want someone....


- who can kick my ass in Scrabble
- who is confident in herself
- I can have fun with
- who will call me an idiot for wanting to go sky diving, but will be there to watch me
- who respects herself and others
- who thinks I'm their knight in shining armour
- who likes porch swings and southern accents
- who values manners in others
- who loves the butch-femme dynamic as much as I do
- I can bring home to mama

[MissPriss]

I knew I forgot something on my list! I also want someone with good taste ;)

great taste and southern charm also important!

[clay]

Hey MissPriss:
I am a True Southerner....born & raised in SC! You would be surprised at how much razzing I get for my Southern accent!!! And yes, porch swings....big enough to stretch out in and swing your troubles away in....a tall glass of Southern Iced (sweet) tea with lemon...Nothing could be finer than to be in Carolina, in the moooorrrniinnnggggg! Yeehaw!!![/southern accents and porch swings.....two of the finer things in life!
Nothing could be finer than to be in Carolina, in the moooorrrniinnnggggg! Yeehaw!!!

[Holly.88]

great taste and southern charm also important!

There's a lot to be said for a good southern romancin'

[MissPriss]

Hey MissPriss:
I am a True Southerner....born & raised in SC! You would be surprised at how much razzing I get for my Southern accent!!! And yes, porch swings....big enough to stretch out in and swing your troubles away in....a tall glass of Southern Iced (sweet) tea with lemon...Nothing could be finer than to be in Carolina, in the moooorrrniinnnggggg! Yeehaw!!![/


Yummmy, Sweet Tea!! Southern Sweet that is, the color of molasses now thats good drinkin! I am always teased about my accent! My porch swing is 60 yrs old, my grandfather made it when he and my grandmother were married for their first home. Only thing even close to a porch swing is a hammock!

[clay]

Yes, ma'am.....ain't nothin' like Southern Sweet Tea.....awesome porch swing there, missy!!! You n your sweetie will enjoy that swing!!!Yummmy, Sweet Tea!! Southern Sweet that is, the color of molasses now thats good drinkin! I am always teased about my accent! My porch swing is 60 yrs old, my grandfather made it when he and my grandmother were married for their first home. Only thing even close to a porch swing is a hammock!

[MissPriss]

Yes, ma'am.....ain;t nothin' like Southern Sweet Tea.....awesome porch swing there, missy!!! You n your sweetie will enjoy that swing!!!

Now if I had a sweetie to enjoy it with, I would be in there!

[clay]

oops, my bad, ma'am....I was just going by your status...sowwy!! Bowing gracefully, and asking you to pardon my assumptions!:praying:Now if I had a sweetie to enjoy it with, I would be in there!

[T4Texas]

I know that what I want today is different then what I thought I wanted 5 years ago.

.


I feel the same way. I think we all change as we get older as to how much we are willing to tolerate, expect in a person or desire in a partner. I have had to come to terms with how much I gave back as a partner and sadly it often wasnt enough and the reasons for at least two breakups. It's hard to be honest with yourself, but necessary if you intend to keep moving forward.

[MissPriss]

oops, my bad, ma'am....I was just going by your status...sowwy!! Bowing gracefully, and asking you to pardon my assumptions!:praying:


Ah, yes I just changed that today. I thought that I was going to be seeing someone. However, it was another savior type, that decided to make it official that I would have to walk away from my job of course, and Im just not made that way. Take me as I am or not at all.

[clay]

awww, so sorry! Yes, I can't blame you there!!! I agree! Well who knows when the heavens will open up and drop someone in your swing....lol..Ah, yes I just changed that today. I thought that I was going to be seeing someone. However, it was another savior type, that decided to make it official that I would have to walk away from my job of course, and Im just not made that way. Take me as I am or not at all.

[MissPriss]

awww, so sorry! Yes, I can't blame you there!!! I agree! Well who knows when the heavens will open up and drop someone in your swing....lol..


lol true! If not soon, I will have to take a refresher course! Na... femmes never forget!

[clay]

Great sense of humor there Prissy! Hey I recall you saying sometime back that you own your own biz...what is it if I may ask? lol true! If not soon, I will have to take a refresher course! Na... femmes never forget!

[MissPriss]

Great sense of humor there Prissy! Hey I recall you saying sometime back that you own your own biz...what is it if I may ask?

bail bonding...........

[bigbutchmistie]

I Want :

To have the one woman in the world who loves and accepts me for me and doesnt try to change me.

I want to live happily ever after with that person

I wanna give her full body massages and foot rubs after she's had a long day

I wanna put a smile on her face and her laughter

I wanna be the strong arms she needs when her world falls apart and be there for her.

I want "happily ever after" and damn it I WILL have it! LOL



I want my ice cream headache to go away lol

I want my old position back with my salary

I want to feel valued as an employee again

I want my baby boy Simon to have a backyard

I want Mexican Food



I guess Im in a "wanting" mood tonight LOL :)

[Gaige]

right now i could use a nice long vacation

[clay]

swell....tanks! Hey do I get a "get out of jail" free card....if I turn on my southern charm? lolbail bonding...........

[MissPriss]

swell....tanks! Hey do I get a "get out of jail" free card....if I turn on my southern charm? lol

I actually had a butch try that on me recently lol.........didnt work for her, but I never say never lol

[JAGG]

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful. :wine:

[MissPriss]

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful. :wine:

me too skinning a buck is a must!!! I fell like singing "Im just a guy" to every butch I have dated, and Im such a girl. Its strange!

[Apocalipstic]

I really vary....

What I want right now, is not what I want soon and definitely not what I want for ever.

Right now, I want to get my space and life together and think, read self help books, go to therapy extra and maybe try accupuncture. lol.

Soon, however I will be looking for someone extremely cool, laid back, kind, funny, 420 friendly, laid back, calm, without anger, low maintenace, smart confident, laid back, positive, kinky, sexy, Toppy Butch who is polyamorous and not looking to take hostages. (and is really really cool and laid back) (and is not treatened by baby)

Some day? Who knows what the future will bring? Life is ever changing. I can see trying settling down again some day.

[atomiczombie]

If I don't think about what I want, then I won't miss it, right? That's my philosophy.

[Apocalipstic]

If I don't think about what I want, then I won't miss it, right? That's my philosophy.

True, expectations lead to disspointment and resentment.

[FlowerFem]

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful. :wine:

Sharks ? I am a pretty good tennis player, but the rest of your desires, I have no experience with. Quite a range of different things, for sure. Were you joking about sharks?

[MissPriss]

At the moment...........

a tall galss of Jose
huge plate of chilli cheese fries
green skittles

[ReDo]

for hym to kiss my soul

[ReDo]

What I want…

I know that somewhere in the world is the perfect person for everyone. I truly do believe this and I know somewhere in this world there is the most handsome, kind, loving, understand, firm, myn who will love me for all of me.

Hy may have parts of me that are not perfect in hys eyes however hy will know that those parts make me who I am.

Hy will accept me, love me, and cherish me for the woman I am. Hy will laugh with me and hold me as I cry. Hy will dance with me in our socks in the middle of the kitchen just to be close. When the music stops we will continue to dance and not even notice.

On a cool winter morning hy will want to snuggle close instead of worrying about putting more wood on the fire. When the spunky side of me peeks out a pillow fight with feathers flying along with laughter will fill the room.

Hy will know when I need his help and when to allow me to take the steps needed while standing back and watching. Hy will be proud of my accomplishments and there to encourage me during my failures.

Hy will know every secret about me and love me just the same. Hy will see my scars and ask about them. Hy will want to know why they are there and then gently kiss each one as if to erase the pain from years gone by. Hy will encourage me to be a better person and make better choices.

Hy will be a person who loves being happy and sees the world as half full even on its worst days.

Hy will be my defender, lover, partner in life.
Most of all…
Hy will kiss my soul.

[bigbutchmistie]

I Want :

Chicken Fajitas and Margaritas

A Good Nights Rest

To Be Moved Already

To Meet A Quality Femme I have Amazing Chemistry and Connection with :)

[bigbutchmistie]

I Want :

Chicken Fajitas and Margaritas

A Good Nights Rest

To Be Moved Already

To Meet A Quality Femme I have Amazing Chemistry and Connection with :)

Oh and she has to have the most amazing eyes :)

[MissPriss]

I want.........

to be sang to
strawberries
olives
and to be cuddled

[Holly.88]

I want.........

to be sang to
strawberries
olives
and to be cuddled

I want....

- To sing you Conway

[MissPriss]

I want....

- To sing you Conway


I want........

You to start singing......which song?

[Holly.88]

How about Meant to Be or Slow Hand?

[MissPriss]

Slow Hand.........please!

[luv2luvgirls]

hmmmm... I want a lot of things but whats a must is for her to want attention and be able to give attention. I want someone who is easy going but likes to be pampered a lil after we get to that place lol. I want someone who is happy to hear from or see me everytime not just when they are in the mood for me. thats what I want..

[SweetJane]

I realize it's a tall order. I want someone who can pick figs by the time they are 3, and put them neatly in a zip lock bag, in case someone might want to take a picture. Some one who could skin a buck and scale a fish. Or remove a countertop, sink and all and toss it outside for the trash. Someone who could rip all the peach fuzz off my face with some over priced duct tape. Some one with crazy skills in basketball or tennis. Someone who's destiny is to be eaten by sharks. That really narrows my list, but I'm hopeful. :wine:

Yep that's a tall order. I've done demo and can do maintenance on my own car, but never skinned a buck yet I can clean fish---and I even bait my own hook. I'm an independent femme but will ask for help when I need to. Hmmmm sharks.... I don't swim that well so being eaten by a shark is possible.....grins.

[tapu]

open borders

[starryeyes]

I want to pay off my house!!!


:aslIloveyou:
Starry

[foxyshaman]

Mad Tantra skills
Laughter from the deep belly
Tall enough I can stand under her chin (cause I am super tall at 5' f*ck all)
A good enough wrestler she can let me believe I pinned her

That's all for now...

[Soft*Silver]

more financial security

a horse (if I get the first one, I get the second one)

to go to the reunion...at least once

go to the Mermaid Festival at Coney Park

go to Burning Man

see the Grand Canyon

go to Chincateague Island to see the ponies

go to the Kentucky Derby

[BugsAndKisses]

I want someone who can keep up with me, someone who can take the full force of my little hurricane of energy. When I am on the edge and afraid to jump I don't want to be comforted I want to be pushed. I want to get so good and muddy we don't come clean for days!

I want someone to help me teach my son baseball, I want someone who is just as proud of him as I am when he hits his first home run. I want to sit around a dinner table and talk about the day.

I want someone to keep me up all night biting my lip. I want someone to wind their hand in my hair when I lay my head on their chest.

I defiantly want someone to put this damn big wheels together cause my temper has just about hit the roof! It is my firm belief that you can do anything if you can read and that the words "I don't know" should always be followed with "but I can find out".....having such beliefs I have a pretty firm grip on "some assembly required" but F*CK if I know how to get this damn little piece of metal to stay on this bloody axle:readfineprint:...GRRRRR!

[Scuba]

"I want a brand new house
On an episode of Cribs
And a bathroom I can play baseball in
And a king size tub big enough
For ten plus me"

I just don't want to be a rock star...just sayin ;)

[clay]

lmao@scubes....it COULD happen, right!"I want a brand new house
On an episode of Cribs
And a bathroom I can play baseball in
And a king size tub big enough
For ten plus me"

I just don't want to be a rock star...just sayin ;)

[clay]

I want someone who is emotionally/physically/spiritually/realistically available. I want someone to share my coffee and bagels with cream cheese in the mornings with.
I want someone who is heart ready to connect hers with mine...the "baggage" we will handle with TLC!
I want someone who is ready to love fiercely, with wild abandon, to play all night..sleep all day Sundays...wink..
I want someone who wants to join our lives, pool our resources, and dance into tomorrow under the stars, live with me in a 1 bedroom and LOVE it!
I want someone who is emotionally able to give..and receive....and have a very high libido....to match mine!
I want someone who will allow for our individualities to shine above our oneness...
I want someone who is not afraid to trust..to give her heart..to join my hand..to walk this fight I am in with me..
I want someone who is not about the material things in life but is about the love, the laughter, the life we can have..if we become one....the million tiny little things that matter...not the big stuff...
I want someone who isn't afraid to walk into my arms and heart..and join ourselves..to "be there" for one another...
I want someone who is strong, fierce, loving, compassionate, and with our minor flaws, we accept and have the big picture in mind...I have very little as far as material BUT I have a heart the size of the universe..with so much love to give...can you give that back...apply within if you do!! I deserve this, and so do YOU!

[Scuba]

lmao@scubes....it COULD happen, right!

It could AND...

:harley: <~~...so could this :)

[Scuba]

What I really want right now...is for this beef stew to make itself.

[imperfect_cupcake]

easy:

adventurous, spontaneous, cheeky, cocky but not arrogant, assertive, able to talk till their lips fall off, can take the piss (and have the piss taken), likes a bit of a tussle, likes feisty, able to be silly/random, loves to try new things, travel and loves being out in nature.

needs to be blunt, very very honest, loyal, very communicative (about daily life, about emotions and about sex) and kind.

and a completely dirty letch with me.

rest is give and take and learning.

[Passionaria]

I want a grant, so I can get my PhD. in Classical Chinese Medicine, and be able to teach. There is a fabulous program designed by a man who I think is the best (Classical) Doctor in the country. He is also a Taoist Priest, and gets all esoteric and stuff...... Most Chinese doctors have had to trade the Spiritual side of the medicine for "Science" in the name of saving their necks from the Communist Government in China. This country is actually a place where the essence of the medicine can flourish. I am proud of us for that :) This is my official proclamation : I want it, want it!!!!

:wine: Pashi

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I want a fantastic woman for my English cousin who will compliment him.

For myself; I want a Butch who is comfortable, secure and mentally/emotionally strong enough to handle me; a passionate, intense, free-spirited, independent, naturally feminine and happy Femme; capable of being self-sufficient, resourceful, determined and energetic, at the same time as being vulnerable, sensitive and emotional sometimes.

I want a Butch who is comfortable just allowing me to ‘Just be’ me and not expect me to ‘Just be’ something….I already am! Who is comfortable talking openly and intimately with me about their hopes, dreams, fears and needs.... who is equally as comfoerable with me talking intimately about mine.

I want a Butch who is willing to take the time to get to know ME and allow me to get to know hym/her!

....Oh! I want a Butch who has hys/her own tool kit....I'm not sharing my power tools! LOL!

I’m happy to wait for hym/her…. :)

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I want a fantastic woman for my English cousin who will compliment him.

For myself; I want a Butch who is comfortable, secure and mentally/emotionally strong enough to handle me; a passionate, intense, free-spirited, independent, naturally feminine and happy Femme; capable of being self-sufficient, resourceful, determined and energetic, at the same time as being vulnerable, sensitive and emotional sometimes.

I want a Butch who is comfortable just allowing me to ‘Just be’ me and not expect me to ‘Just be’ something….I already am! Who is comfortable talking openly and intimately with me about their hopes, dreams, fears and needs.... who is equally as comfoerable with me talking intimately about mine.

I want a Butch who is willing to take the time to get to know ME and allow me to get to know hym/her!

....Oh! I want a Butch who has hys/her own tool kit....I'm not sharing my power tools! LOL!

I’m happy to wait for hym/her…. :)




Adding….

I want a Butch who can captivate my mind as well as my heart….

I want a Butch who can make me laugh ‘til I’m nearly falling off my chair, my face hurts and my sides are splitting….

I want a Butch who can keep up with me mentally and energetically….

….Crikey! ....Maybe I am asking for too much?! LOL! :|

[Gemme]

I want a nap.

I must fight it.

:weightlifter:

[Soft*Silver]

I want my chihuahua to stop licking himself!!!

[twist of lime]

I want everything complicated, apparently : /

[atomiczombie]

I want everyone to post a picture so I can see what you all look like!

[Skittlesluver]

I want:

http://i1105.photobucket.com/albums/h350/immabme/2012_Ducati_Diavel_Cromo_1.jpg

[girl_dee]

I want my puppy to get tired so I can crawl in bed with Daddi!

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I want everyone to post a picture so I can see what you all look like!

I'm only a basic member and I don't know how to upload even one photo to my gallery....am I able too?

I would post a link to a photo of me, but....I'm scared of breaking peoples computer screens! :cheesy:

[Kenna]

I wantto stay cuddled up right here with the pup for another day off... but alas, duty calls and I must go back to work...

[Daktari]

I want it to stop being so windy and/or rainy...please, thanks.

[1QuirkyKiwi]

I want everyone to post a picture so I can see what you all look like!

I'm only a basic member and I don't know how to upload even one photo to my gallery....am I able too?

I would post a link to a photo of me, but....I'm scared of breaking peoples computer screens! :cheesy:

Thanks to a PM very kindly sent from a wonderfully helpful soul, I've uploaded a photo in the Gallery....I'm may not be the most attractive person, sooooo, I will apologise now for scarying anyone! ;) :jester:

[StrongButch]

Another date with her.

[sara-bera]

A longer summer.

[Blade]

Two weeks off in the mountains in a cabin in October

[Fatale]

Right now, French toast and bacon!

[Gentle Tiger]

The soundtrack for The King's Speech

[ferret]

What I cannot have.

Sue

[AnnRkey]

For it to be Tuesday instead of Monday so my paycheck will be available in my bank account

[Mrs Arcstriker]

For it to be Tuesday instead of Monday so my paycheck will be available in my bank account

Not too much longer to go!

What I want is for my Yorkie to stop going into the litter box and stealing cat poopies to hide all over the house. I can't scoop quick enough and this dog is so cute that I cannot even scold her!

[AnnRkey]

Hahaha yorkies are cuties!! But random poop around the house isn't!!!

[Abigail Crabby]

The soundtrack from Forrest Gump ....

[girl_dee]

World domination.

[ONLY]

Pizza that has 0 calories :thumbsup:

[Daktari]

Serenity and freedom from the tyranny of self.

[tazz]

my next relationship... I Am Ready

[Fatale]

To be able to sculpt words in such a way as to leave some breathless, have others drop to their knees and others still made to shout "Hallelujah!" upon having read them.

[chefhmboyrd]

a nice hot washing......

[girl_dee]

a MEERKAT....

[morningstar55]

what I want ???
a million bucks.. lol lol

ok ...
someone whom is
honest
mature
loyal
knows who they are
knows what they want
knowss where they are going
stable
is secure with themselves
has a job or retired
great sense of humor
has hobbies
enjoys life
is outgoing

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

something that actually looks like a relationship and not the first part of high who are you....in other words how about lets get past the hi My name is Alix My favorite color is....and your name....your favorite color is....

I am ready for something REAL and when we meet I believe we will eventually know if it is real right?

[sierragirrl]

I would like to have dental insurance.
i miss being able to eat raw veggies.

[calibri]

I've found that quite a good way of finding the kind of person you want is online dating (badoo.com/en-ca/). Yes, I know, it has its downfalls, but really it's just a mixed bag like with meeting people in person. The beauty is that you get to know a lot about people (and have a good guess at whether they're suitable for you or not) just based on what they say on their profile. You don't have to waste time on entire dates screening people when a quick glance of their profile gives you a good indication of compatibility.

[*Anya*]

I've found that quite a good way of finding the kind of person you want is online dating (badoo.com/en-ca/). Yes, I know, it has its downfalls, but really it's just a mixed bag like with meeting people in person. The beauty is that you get to know a lot about people (and have a good guess at whether they're suitable for you or not) just based on what they say on their profile. You don't have to waste time on entire dates screening people when a quick glance of their profile gives you a good indication of compatibility.

I agree completely. I am very honest with what I am looking for in my profile. I am looking for a life partner at this stage of my life and dating is the only way I know of to possibly meet "the one". As stressful as dating can be, I also find it fun and interesting to meet bright women with such varied backgrounds and occupations.

I believe that chemistry is everything. It can't be manufactured or wished to happen; it either is there or not. Unfortunately, there is no way to know if it is present or not, without meeting someone in person!

There really, for me, is no way to know without that meeting. Once you know if there is chemistry, you still have to find out if values, beliefs, outlook on life matches or meshes with yours. That takes a lot more time and energy but I feel it is totally worth it unless one wants to spend the rest of ones life alone.

I do not.

[Leigh]

I want someone who wants a real relationship; no games or excuses ~ someone genuine who will love me for me and actually is willing to take the time to create a long lasting relationship ~ I'm ready, are you? :)

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

I want total
Honesty
Loyalty
Trust
Communication

[Bèsame*]

I just want a honeymoon! Lol

[lusciouskiwi]

hands
kisses
skin
a cave under the covers away from the world
love in a cocoon
protection
devotion

[Miss Scarlett]

I want the kind of love my parents had for each other...their nearly 50 year marriage had its challenges but through good times and bad (actually through everything contained in wedding vows) they remained steadfast, deeply devoted to each other, were best friends, talked endlessly with each other and shared a beautiful, loving companionship until the day Mom passed away...

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

I want to stop searching...

[diamondrose]

I want a wintery christmas

[FemGirlNikki]

I want someone that truly knows me. Someone that through my smile can see the pain and tears I'm hiding. I want someone that makes my worries go away just being near me. I want someone who not only is excited to teach me how to fix things but has the patience to let me do it myself while guiding me.

I want someone who will make me feel like I'm the only one for them like i will them. I want someone who isn't afraid to show their desire. If you're thinking damn you look sexy then say it. If you're thinking damn i want you right now then grab me pushing me up against the wall or over the table and show me how bad you want me.

[LadyLike]

Someday I would like to find a partner that excepts me for what and who I am ....someone that doesn't say "oh your perfect now change" !Someone I can get to know the true "being" of them and they get to know the true "being" of me. Someone who together we can have conversations with and pillow talk and not feel like we have to silence ourselves. Someone who we together can play and have fun and support one another and feel safe with. Someone that together through the thick and thin of life supports each other .... cry's...feels...and learns together.Someone that we together can grow old and live a beautiful life with..... this is a tall order but it's what I am looking for ...not settling anymore.

[VintageFemme]

I want a dream to come true. Just one would be okay. I only have the two so it won't be that difficult.

[*Anya*]

I've found that quite a good way of finding the kind of person you want is online dating (badoo.com/en-ca/). Yes, I know, it has its downfalls, but really it's just a mixed bag like with meeting people in person. The beauty is that you get to know a lot about people (and have a good guess at whether they're suitable for you or not) just based on what they say on their profile. You don't have to waste time on entire dates screening people when a quick glance of their profile gives you a good indication of compatibility.

I agree completely. I am very honest with what I am looking for in my profile. I am looking for a life partner at this stage of my life and dating is the only way I know of to possibly meet "the one". As stressful as dating can be, I also find it fun and interesting to meet bright women with such varied backgrounds and occupations.

I believe that chemistry is everything. It can't be manufactured or wished to happen; it either is there or not. Unfortunately, there is no way to know if it is present or not, without meeting someone in person!

There really, for me, is no way to know without that meeting. Once you know if there is chemistry, you still have to find out if values, beliefs, outlook on life matches or meshes with yours. That takes a lot more time and energy but I feel it is totally worth it unless one wants to spend the rest of ones life alone.

I do not.

Shortly after I wrote this I did find "the one". The one I laugh with ( sometimes at) cry with, act like a silly, goofy girl, talk with about everything under the sun and listen to her own hopes, fears, dreams and joyful moments and dry her eyes when her butch eyes leak and the most special and life-affirming of all: we make love, every glorious chance that we get.

Sometimes I have to pinch my self that I am so lucky. What did I want?

What I have found: a brainy, sharp, attractive, funny, loving butch who loves me, thinks I am really funny and laughs at all of my jokes (even the groaners)!

[girl_dee]

to not feel like half of me is missing no matter where i go

[TheMerryFairy]

I want these cramps to go away, to watch a movie with company, a coffee milkshake and more lunch.

[imperfect_cupcake]

well I finally think I'm ready to be able to have a relationship. I'm actually pretty open to many things but there are things I *need* not want:

they can't be hung up on "being a gentleman" or we'll never get anywhere. I do need someone who isn't sexually shy. who can talk filth. who is t going to hold back because they think they need to act to some bizarre code. we'll be waiting forever if they wait more me to get dirty first. I can talk filth to peel paint off a wall but I am reactive and I bounce off of another's desire for me. being lusted after gets me going. I will respond very well but they have to start the engine.

I need a sense of humour that can take teasing/taking the piss. this is how I flirt. banter. I need someone able to tease and take the piss back so we can flirt with humour/sex. then get dirty. talking to me about flowers and chocolates and kittens and the colour of my eyes is not going to turn me on. think burlesque humour. naughty. nasty. slightly vulgar.

I'm still old fashioned in many ways but not in "protecting my honour" stuff. my honour doesn't need saving/protecting, it needs ravaging

I need someone who is a bedroom dominant rather than a top. I go weak kneed for someone who wants to use me for their own pleasure, not someone whos main concern is my pleasure. if their pleasure is to force me to orgasm 15 times then do it, don't ask me in bed what I want. I'm not a bottom, I'm a submissive. I there to be thiers. to do/take whatever they want. if the onus is in me to decide or say... doesn't work well for me.

I need someone who loves to talk. or converse. ever since coming home I dated a string of lone wolf/string silent types and it just doesn't work. if you can't laze about with me and talk about yourself and your life or how you see things or what you want to be doing... I'll get bored and lonely. I want to go to the natural history museum and sit on the floor by the butterfly case and talk about what the things you see makes you think of or remember. we'll have a great shag in the morning, have coffee and brekkie, then head out for a day of exploring and conversation.

and a submarine. I'd like someone to have a submarine.

[cinnamongrrl]

I want a pony...it's long over due....

Oh...and time to magically elapse me past this uber boring unit in school...blah

AND

For ice cream to be health food...with advertisements saying... Eat More Ice Cream!

and world peace

That is all for now....

[Venus]

I want a pony...it's long over due....

Oh...and time to magically elapse me past this uber boring unit in school...blah

AND

For ice cream to be health food...with advertisements saying... Eat More Ice Cream!

and world peace

That is all for now....

TOTALLY agree on the icecream part. Wish I had some right now! Coffee flavored! I also want to be one of those people who manage to sleep during the day since I worked over 12 hours last night...

[Soon]

...more time together...

[DaddyNik12]

what I want is , life , to be okay and not have to stress ,

I want peace inside of myself , and peace again with a few others , theres more wants that I wanna post but don't think I can do it yet

[RockOn]

For a drunk to get honest, clean and sober. Then come back to me. She and I could have it all. It would take a very dedicated commitment and loads of hard work for things to level out to the good part but I have seen others do this and become very happy. The key is total honesty and total sobriety. She is gaming hard now, running on ego. I hope she will be okay.

I am not stupid. Chances of her getting honest, cleaning up and returning to me are a billion to one.

I love her.
Always will.
That is all.

[Helena_Handbasket]

I want someone who has the same definition of love that I do. Someone who is capable of commitment and a meaningful relationship. Someone who is responsible and intelligent. Someone who wont cheat and lie.

I'd like to have a better filter. :)

[Bad_boi]

A cup of tea

For this virus cold thingy to be done

No more anxiety

All of my friends and family to be healthy, happy and successful in their lives.

[selty]

I want someone who enjoys being doted on

[selty]

wait change my last note, I shouldn't be so personel..... I want cookies.... ohhh and some milk to dip them

[ONLY]

For it to be quicker and easier to get my girl (f) home for good, no more seeing each other every 2 - 3 months for 5-7 days.
I want her home so we can share our lives together as it is meant to be.
I want her happy.

[ONLY]

Was thinking how much I want to dance with my girl (f) right now, hold her nice and close, my lips right my her ear, my hands moving slowly up and down her back........
most likely won't get to do this until Christmas *sigh*

[SimpleAlaskanBoy]

Some rugelach & a nice big couch to cuddle on, instead of these stupid recliners.


~SAB

[ConCrtAnge1]

I just want to be loved without any fears!

[RockOn]

Woke up about 2:30 a.m. ... Been eating brownie cookies and playing on the Internet for the past hour.

I need to go back to sleep now ... won't happen though. My butt will be dragging late afternoon. :(

*pulling another cookie out of the bag, accepting my fate*

[Kimpooh]

I just want to be loved, wholeheartedly & unconditionally... The way I love

[kittygrrl]

ripe strawberries & peace

[Trev]

.... I'm feeling pretty blessed these days. Thanks for asking, though :)

[Barb42]

I want... Honesty..faithfulness..communication...to hold her hand.

[Charmingbutch21]

I want a woman to share my life with (I know I ended a sentence with a preposition, ugh). I'm happy with where I am and who I am in life. I don't need someone to save me or complete me. I've been single for three years and recently started dating again. I have no baggage. I've worked through most things that kept me from being emotionally available from dating. I wanted to be completely sure that I was ready to genuinely give dating a chance again. I want to share the happiness, sadness, love, fear, and all the ups and downs of a relationship with a woman who is at the same (or near) place as me in life. I'm ready. Now, where is she? :)

[EnchantedNightDweller]

I think I only want what I can't have. And that if I get it, I really won't want it anymore.

[Teddybear]

I think I only want what I can't have. And that if I get it, I really won't want it anymore.

I think most ppl want this. We chase what we cant have faster and harder then anything else. If we put that kind of energy into other things just think of what we could accomplish

[Charmingbutch21]

I think I only want what I can't have. And that if I get it, I really won't want it anymore.

I've found that when I want what I can't have that it's actually me that's not ready for a relationship. May not be applicable to you though. :)

[Jayce]

A quart of milk.....

[EnchantedNightDweller]

I totally just got my hearts desire. :hk14:

[cinnamongrrl]

I want....

absolute certainty

and

peace on earth and good will towards men (and women)

[JDeere]

I want....

Honesty

Respect

Communication

[Robyn08]

I want to let it all out....

[Femmadian]

I just want to be holed up somewhere in the middle of nowhere alongside someone who has an insatiable libido... with nothing to do but each other. :sunglass:

http://miphone-wallpapers.com/backgrounds/late-night-cabin.png

http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/d7/9b/44/d79b448a56f6a1ef1f81d50d0a08a84c.jpg

http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/6c/13/1e/6c131eb2981edea27dd61b85a2315e60.jpg

http://www.bonnielmorrisrealty.com/images/mirror%20lake.jpg

[JDeere]

I forgot to add to my list:

LOYALTY, if you don't have that, don't bother with me

[Contessa]

1. Someone enduring; not someone I have to endure.

2. She always has my "back".. no matter what.

3. Pillow princesses need not apply (not into that, sorry)

4. Intelligence

5. Honesty

6. Not a Uhauler

7. Respectful & polite

8. Well mannered

9. Loves Aminals (but doesn't have 12 cats)

10. General love for man/womankind

11. Not lazy

12. Has empathy for others.

13, Is able to communicate and gets along well with others

14. Not evil or vindictive

15. Solid self esteem without being full of herself

[Sweet Bliss]

Not a darn thing. :cheer: Really... not a thing.

If I don't already have it.... don't need it. Simple.

[EnchantedNightDweller]

Someone with computer and automotive knowledge willing to help a girl out. Lol :bow:

[bobbi46]

right now i want strawberry ice cream and a chocolate bar chaser...
if have these things apply ________!! :eatinghersheybar: LOL

[TimilDeeps]

right now i want strawberry ice cream and a chocolate bar chaser...
if have these things apply ________!! :eatinghersheybar: LOL

Strawberry ice cream is of the devil!!!!

[TimilDeeps]

Cheese. Something cheesy. A cheesy something. And crunchy, I want something crunchy too.

[JDeere]

A nice ice cold big can of miller lite

[Crow]

Comfort in the knowing.

Passion in the discovery.

Never ending curiosity...

[Mel C.]

Good sense of humor (meaning we can laugh together)
Intelligent
Has a career, not just a job...unless she is wealthy in which case none of the other "wants" apply (kidding)
Affectionate...I like physical contact
Good communicator...able to talk about her needs and understand mine
Sets aside time for "us" but is comfortable doing her own thing and with me doing my own thing
Reassures me from time to time that she is "in" the relationship and committed to making it work
Must love dogs (not really, but I liked the movie)

I'm guessing that I will post more later. Sometimes I don't realize what I want until I notice it is missing.

[~ocean]

~ more time ~

[Gemme]

One pain free day would be nice.

[BestButchBoy]

"I just want to give it all up and become a handsome billionaire."

[JDeere]

True unconditional love

Someone who can spend hours on the phone at night, talking trying to get to know each other

[diamondrose]

A vacation

[storyofmylife]

Good night sleep ...

[Gemme]

I wanted a nighty set with sugar skulls on it, so I bought it.

I want for nothing right now.

[EnchantedNightDweller]

A knight in shining armor. :knighthorse::princess:

[Katniss]

A knight in shining armor. :knighthorse::princess:

I used to want that. Then I found out it meant I was the one who had to polish the shit. Enough so they could admire their reflection for rescuing me. I decided it was much easier to slay my own dragons and not put up with the perpetual sound of clinking armor. Besides, dragons make rather nice pets......

Katniss~~ (a self-rescuing princess)

[EnchantedNightDweller]

I used to want that. Then I found out it meant I was the one who had to polish the shit. Enough so they could admire their reflection for rescuing me. I decided it was much easier to slay my own dragons and not put up with the perpetual sound of clinking armor. Besides, dragons make rather nice pets......

Katniss~~ (a self-rescuing princess)

I know, I know! I'm just a romantic at heart! Just got done watching an old, romantic movie, does it to me every time! Lol But a girl can still dream!

[JDeere]

A HUGE GIGANTIC HERSHEY BAR

[Bèsame*]

a distraction..lol

[JDeere]

a distraction..lol

Distractions aren't always bad!

Hands you a :eatinghersheybar:

[Bèsame*]

Distractions aren't always bad!

Hands you a :eatinghersheybar:

Chocolate is a good distraction..

It feels like Sunday and there should be football!

[JDeere]

Chocolate is a good distraction..

It feels like Sunday and there should be football!

Yes indeed on both accounts! I am trying to be patient for the regular season to start but I am finding that I am not patient.

[VintageFemme]

Butterflies in my heart.

A cold face & warm hands.

Kisses in the snow.

A puppy.

[JDeere]

A redo of parts of my life!

[Blaze]

To not have to answer useless questions.
I want this time to heal peacefully
no chemo.... to enjoy a stress free time.
To let my inner child a pass to come out and play.

[Strappie]

IN love....

To love her and her love me.

Simple but oh so complex.

[fever]

I am so happy for you Strappin. Wonderful news. But, I hope she wont mind me drooling just a little when I watch you and G dance still. Keep us posted please.

:bunchflowers:

IN love....

To love her and her love me.

Simple but oh so complex.

[Ender]

What do I want?
I want someone I can have an intellectual conversation with; someone who will argue their point while I argue mine. I want someone who will challenge me intellectually. I want someone to make me think about things from a different perspective, and vice versa.

The love and lust is great and all, but that's not all a relationship is about.

[~ocean]

I want harmony for the holidays all moody people stay away lolol

[jools66]

To dance and sing the night away with Kylie Minogue.
That's the plan for tonight, shes touring, YESSSSSS

[Reach *BANNED*]

For My balance (internal) to come back.

[homoe]

I want harmony for the holidays all moody people stay away lolol


AMEN...........:hangloose:


I love the holidays and I detest any quarreling, squabbling, bickering, or fighting around them!

I know some people suffer from the holiday "blues", and for those I will often times go out of my way to do something especially nice for them when possible.

[Reach *BANNED*]

Right now? An expresso with cream/sugar AND a boston creme donut!!!

[FireSignFemme]

:chef:.........

[JDeere]

As a single person, I just really want a date, to take someone out and show them a fun time.

[PlatinumPearl]

What do I want?
I want someone I can have an intellectual conversation with; someone who will argue their point while I argue mine. I want someone who will challenge me intellectually. I want someone to make me think about things from a different perspective, and vice versa.

The love and lust is great and all, but that's not all a relationship is about.


Yes!! to the above ^^ :clap::thumbsup:

[JDeere]

4 days away from the city, with the bestie and some crawfish!

[JDeere]

For just one female to not give up on me!