How romantic are you?

[ValentineTomboy]

How romantic are you? Are you the sweep them off their feet hopeless romantic type or are you the I don't have to say it, she's knows I love her type?

Personally.....I am the hopeless romantic type. I can't help myself really. I love doing romantic things as well as being very chivalrous. I hold doors, hold hands, give you my coat if your cold, walk on the inside of the sidewalk to protect you from traffic, send flowers for no reason, leave love notes around the house, plan surprise picnics and getaways. I always remember anniversaries and birthdays. I keep mental notes of little things you say you like so I can surprise you with them at random moments. I give hugs and kisses just because I simply can't keep my hands off you.......

[CXanderRun]

Mm I like to think I am the hopeless romantic type. I enjoy surprising women with breakfast in bed. I do silly things like make homemade chocolate covered strawberries and play guitar while singing to you as you eat them. I will give you my coat and freeze if you're cold. I always walk on the outer part of the sidewalk..

[Heavenleahangel]

Ooooh La La! Romance! I am the epitomy of the hopeless romantic! I love doing the "little" things that really aren't so little. I strategically plan the little love notes in pockets/ briefcases/lunches/sun visors in the vehicles; leave lil pictures (pics used for shock value only) with notes like "This is what I am wearing waiting for you to get home, etc); send special treats in lunches; special meals; the list goes on and on....
I am very touchy-feely as well. I love holding hands, gentle back scratches, nails ran around the neckliine and ears, and I give a heck of a body rub!
Unfortunately, it's been a long time since I have had someone to bring out my romantic side. I have not forgotten the things that make me so happy doing...just had no reason to dwell on them....

[Hollylane]

Gaige and I are both romantics.


Gaige puts a lot of thought into significant moments in our relationship. She makes sure they're memorable. One example I can give of her romantic nature, happened the first time that we met in person, in Virginia Beach.

We had visited an aquarium there, and we were outside following a path alongside an estuary, and she kept walking way ahead of me. I couldn't figure out what she was up to. What she was doing, was scouting ahead, for the perfect spot, to share our first kiss. It was a beautiful shady spot, under some gorgeous trees with plants all around us. Our first kiss was amazing, and the memory is picture perfect. I love that it was so important to her.

I'm the yin to her yang. I am a spontaneous romantic. I'm the first to steal a kiss (sometimes dozens), link my arm with hers and entangle our fingers, rest a hand on her thigh, or hook a finger through her belt loop. When we were at reunion, in the middle of the night, I dragged her across a somewhat busy street, down to the waterfront, where we kissed in abandon next to the moonlit river. I love leaving spontaneous little notes for her, wherever I can, just to let her know that I'm thinking about her.


I truly love that we express our romantic sides differently.

[CherryBlonde]

Personally.....I am the hopeless romantic type. I can't help myself really. I love doing romantic things as well as being very chivalrous. I hold doors, hold hands, give you my coat if your cold, walk on the inside of the sidewalk to protect you from traffic, send flowers for no reason, leave love notes around the house, plan surprise picnics and getaways. I always remember anniversaries and birthdays. I keep mental notes of little things you say you like so I can surprise you with them at random moments. I give hugs and kisses just because I simply can't keep my hands off you.......

*Swooning over VT....... I am the hopeless romantic type. I love love love romance. Little surprises, sexy texts, waiting for you when you get home dressed just the way you like........

[Sweet Bliss]

Romance me and find out for yourself....:jester:

[Words]

Nine years down the line, the most frequent romantic thing that Blue does for me is make me a surprise cup of tea when Hy sees that I'm stressed or weary.

A simple act of love, but one that always fills my heart to the brim.

Words

[Ascot]

I am a hopeful romantic. Nothing hopeless about it for me.

[VintageFemme]

Romance is truly the only way to my heart. I'm an old fashioned romantic too. I'm not a practical girl whatsoever. I would much rather be given flowers than a plant any day. And I love reading poetry to someone of my affections and having it read to me as well. Or better still, writing poetry for someone and vice versa. Love songs and 'our song' and secrets between only each other that no one else 'gets', flirting, love letters handwritten, oh the list goes on forever! There is nothing as romantic as chivalry either. Not to me at least.

Some of the most romantic moments in my life have been first kisses. I love when that first kiss is asked for. "May I kiss you?" Good goddess is there anything sweeter? I don't think so. Once it was standing in a parking lot in the rain. That might be the most romantic kiss I've ever had.

And then once, on a first date while waiting for her to show up, she calls and asks if I'm ready and when I tell her I am, she tells me to go my balcony. I lived on the third floor and of course it was dark. I do and it's Winter and very cold but all of a sudden I hear her below me on the ground starting to play her guitar and sing, "Wild Thing" LOL! to me!!! I about fell over laughing and my heart was just jumping all around in my chest. It was so adorable and when she was through, all of these other people from other balconies started applauding LoL... needless to say, a very romantic date ensued. And then once someone played Happy Birthday to me on their harmonica naked for my birthday, and still another time a midnight picnic under the stars, and and and...

Mhmmm there is absolutely NOTHING better than romance.

[JAGG]

I am very romantic but I don't kiss and tell so you just have to find out on your own.

[TheMerryFairy]

*Smiles* Well, I am very romantic but it isn't always done in a traditional sense. It really depends on the situation and the person

I always keep the romance burning . Sometimes it is intense and other times it is a soft, slow burn. I believe that with the right person I can and WILL sweep them off their feet.

I don't necessarily expect anything from anyone else but chilvary goes a long way.

[WolfyOne]

I thought this was going to be a poll...imagine my disappointment :(

And like JAGG, I don't kiss and tell
There are ways of finding out...one would be to ask :|

[MsTinkerbelly]

When I get in the car at o dark thirty in the morning and find a full tank of gas...yep, I get all squishy.

I'm the letter sending, leave love notes on the windshield, give her a massage kind of girl, but do something to simply make my life easier and I'm a puddle at her feet.

[Daktari]

May I ask what is it about displaying good manners (ie. holding doors open) that makes them a romantic gesture instead of normal behaviour with everyone?

Romance, like most things, is subjective. I'm with you Words, a simple act merely to please is as romantic as the traditional grand gestures.

[WolfyOne]

May I ask what is it about displaying good manners (ie. holding doors open) that makes them a romantic gesture instead of normal behaviour with everyone?

Romance, like most things, is subjective. I'm with you Words, a simple act merely to please is as romantic as the traditional grand gestures.


I will open a car door or any door I can get to before she gets to it, to let a femme in and you're right, it is about good manners.
Are you telling me, it's not normal behavior for everyone :|
That's something I learned young.

[Daktari]

I will open a car door or any door I can get to before she gets to it, to let a femme in and you're right, it is about good manners.
Are you telling me, it's not normal behavior for everyone :|
That's something I learned young.


I'm saying it is normal behaviour, like you I was brought up that way. I was wondering why treating women (men and children too) with good manners is considered chivalrous and romantic.

[Apocalipstic]

I'm not romantic.
But I want to be.
Someday.

[VintageFemme]

May I ask what is it about displaying good manners (ie. holding doors open) that makes them a romantic gesture instead of normal behaviour with everyone?


I couldn't agree with you more. Case in point:

Years ago a coworker asked me if I was gay. Have you seen me? I am so femme and rarely if ever, does anyone think I'm gay much less ask me and so in shock I looked at her and asked her, "why would you ask me that?" and she proceeded to tell me that straight women don't hold the door open for other women nor do they light each others cigarettes. I was appalled at her comment. I don't do those things because I am gay, I do them because it is the right thing to do. Our society has become so self involved that we have forgotten common courtesies and manners.

And re: Chivalry? Again, I couldn't agree more. Opening car doors and walking on the outside of a sidewalk is not chivalrous however... again, case in point:

Years ago when I was in a relationship, my son, my partner and myself were sightseeing. I was completely oblivious to my surroundings and taking pictures not paying any attention to who was around me or what was going on. My partner and son both came and removed me from the situation quietly and calmly without my even being aware of what was going on and afterthefact I discovered I was in the middle of a very questionable environment and my safety could have been very much in question. That... was chivalry.

[wahya]

In a sentence my ex gf used to call me Pe Pe le pew, Unfortunetly she was penelope. lol

[Daktari]

In a sentence my ex gf used to call me Pe Pe le pew, Unfortunetly she was penelope. lol

Was that because you smelled when stressed and called her 'my petit cabbage'? :raspberry:

[wahya]

Was that because you smelled when stressed and called her 'my petit cabbage'? :raspberry:

Yeah..I think that had to be it! Wow that's what it had to be. Well I better cancel my therapy appt now. lol

[Talon]

Honestly, I don't think that I am a romantic...hopeless or otherwise...at least not in the traditional sense of the word.

[thedivahrrrself]

I think I am too much of a klutz to pull off romance. LOL And I'm a terrible liar so keeping surprises to myself is very hard for me.

I do make very sweet mix tapes :) And I do special things for the person I love. I just don't pull them off in a way that screams "romance". It's more likely to be like, "Look! I made you heart-shaped cookies," and then I drop the tray all over the floor.

I don't find the traditional "romantic" things to be all that romantic. I wish I had seen the flowers in South America, though, before I made a blanket statement about hating flowers. As it turns out, I just hate roses...and carnations.

I like to be romanced a little. Too much can be kind of awkward I think. But it's nice to know the person you love appreciates you and cares about the things you enjoy. There are few things more romantic than watching stars together, in my opinion, so U planning a surprise trip to the planetarium was a super sweet gesture. Sending his friends back to buy and then secretly transport a drum I fell in love with at a craft fair probably tops my list of the most romantic things anyone's ever done for me. I was completely surprised. Spontaneity definitely adds to the romance.

[Metro]

I am very romantic but I don't kiss and tell so you just have to find out on your own.

My thoughts exactly...

[KCBUTCH]

I would say I am not romantic- but passionate and sensual, direct...I can be romantic but I would not say I myself am...

[CherryBlonde]

May I ask what is it about displaying good manners (ie. holding doors open) that makes them a romantic gesture instead of normal behaviour with everyone?

Romance, like most things, is subjective. I'm with you Words, a simple act merely to please is as romantic as the traditional grand gestures.

What makes it romantic and chivalrous is the fact that not everyone does do it. In fact a lot of people dont do it. It says something about a person that treats me and others like that all the time. It says they care and are caring. It also says they care enough to make me feel special and make me feel safe and protected. Everything doesnt have to be a grand gesture. It's the little things that count too but to say that opening doors and walking on the outside of the sidewalk is not romantic and chivalrous is in itself an unromantic comment.

[Semantics]

I think unromantic comments do it for me.

Questioning the norm is true chivalry. I'm pretty sure I read that once in Andreas Capellanus's The Art of Courtly Love, but then again my Latin is a bit rusty.

[wahya]

@ Daktari..No not offended at all, Actually not only was my ex gf Penelope. But my daughter is too. So I got teased by both! lol But my romantic ways I like to add a little humor in the mix. Cause if it fails..Well at least I get a laugh out of it. ha ha.

[princessbelle]

I'm a die-hard romantic.

Romance, to me, is knowing another's needs before they have to ask for things and doing extra things that they would never expect just to make someone happy.

Come to think of it, i even romance myself. Being good to "ourselves" is just as important.

I buy myself flowers, i take myself out to eat with candle-light dinners. I give myself "days off" and just veg out and read a good book and then take a long bath.

Romance is a place in the mind that is safe and calm and peaceful and more than that, and if i'm being romantic with someone or just alone, it makes my feelers happy. :)

[PaPa]

I have been told many times that I am a romantic at heart. A friend recently reminded me of one Valentine's Day when I bought my partner an item from every letter of the alphabet and put it into a basket and called it my alphabet of love for you. It had everything imaginable in it. She said the only reason she remembered that was because she always wished she could find a partner who put so much love and care into a present for her. That is just one example. I can also remember doing treasure hunts with clues of things we would know from within or outside our home or places where we visited often as a couple. The next clue would be in that spot. All in fun. It helps keep the relationship alive. I miss it sometimes.

[Enchantress]

I'm the kind of girl who believes in fairy tales. Wants the prince and longs for chivalry.

I believe in lovers, soulful communication, breathtaking moments, and deep abiding intimacy. I want to be wooed, tantalized and taken.

But, in return, I will bake you cookies just because, write you letters filled with sweet nothings and salacious bits. Cook your favorite meal and serve it with a kiss and a caress and sweep you off your feet as well. I believe in equal opportunity romantic gestures. Because, isn't that the beauty of love?

So am I romantic? Quite.

[Daktari]

What makes it romantic and chivalrous is the fact that not everyone does do it. In fact a lot of people dont do it. It says something about a person that treats me and others like that all the time. It says they care and are caring. It also says they care enough to make me feel special and make me feel safe and protected. Everything doesnt have to be a grand gesture. It's the little things that count too but to say that opening doors and walking on the outside of the sidewalk is not romantic and chivalrous is in itself an unromantic comment.

Let me clarify please; You're saying believing that good manners is everyday, normal behaviour and not chivalrous is being unromantic?

I'll own that!

I prefer to treat all the folks around me in that courteous, polite way. It's part of my personal code of ethics and I understand that not everyone thinks such behaviour to be the norm. Maybe it's a generational thing?
I can do plenty of other things that make a women feel special, protected and thoroughly 'romanticated'.

:chaplin:

[SuddenlyWestFemme]

My ex was neither romantic nor polite (but I was in love anyway). I stopped thinking about romance as important. And then the first date I went on after we broke up (way before I was ready to date) was with a very polite and romantic Butch and it just felt so wonderful. For me, it is like a light switch... turn it on and I light up. When off, I don't remember how great the light feels.

And in regards to manners versus romance. Personally, I consider holding the car door open as romantic and not just polite. Where I grew up, this was not done in general--so it is not a 'back in my day' kind of thing. Car door opening was ONLY done in dating situations (well... or if someone's hands were full and they couldn't do it themselves). Maybe it is different geographically? So I associate it with the excitement of dating and do consider it romantic. Now, not letting the house door slam on, or holding open the building door is just being polite (in my book).

I do agree with Dakarti in general. Being polite is not romantic--it is just the right thing to do. But polite can mean different things culturally... so I classify things as romantic that others may think are just basic manners and visa versa.

I am a spontaneous romantic (in the way Hollylane mentioned earlier-- stealing a kiss, being the first to link arms, making last minute decisions to take a walk in the moonlight, and other little spontaneous things).

Question on romance (that was coincidentally bought up at work yesterday): If someone brings flowers to every girl they've ever dated on the 2nd date... well... is it romance or dating routine? If someone gives every person they've ever dated a handmade picture album, filled with pictures of the two of you, for Christmas... is it romantic or dating routine? Any thoughts on the difference between romance and dating routines...or if they are the same thing. Does it even matter?

[Heavenleahangel]

I would love to give new meaning to the words "Romancing the Stone!" Ohhhhh the possibilities!!!! ***I have been known for bad jokes***

[ValentineTomboy]

Let me clarify please; You're saying believing that good manners is everyday, normal behaviour and not chivalrous is being unromantic?

I'll own that!

I prefer to treat all the folks around me in that courteous, polite way. It's part of my personal code of ethics and I understand that not everyone thinks such behaviour to be the norm. Maybe it's a generational thing?
I can do plenty of other things that make a women feel special, protected and thoroughly 'romanticated'.

Being courteous, polite, and just plain using manners in general is not the norm anymore. I wish it was but it isnt. We all SHOULD be treating each other with kindness and respect but we dont. If we we did the world certianly not be in the state it is right now. Why is it chivlrous and romantic to use manners and be polite you ask. Because not everyone does it anymore. It's a lost art of a sort. Besides that what is romantic and chivlrous to one person and between two people is between them and not for anyone else to judge whether it is or is not romantic and chivlrous. You do your thing and I'll do mine. The topic of this thread is "How romantic are you", it's not "Pass judgement on other people's definition of romance".

[TenderDaddy]

Being courteous, polite, and just plain using manners in general is not the norm anymore. I wish it was but it isnt. We all SHOULD be treating each other with kindness and respect but we dont. If we we did the world certianly not be in the state it is right now. Why is it chivlrous and romantic to use manners and be polite you ask. Because not everyone does it anymore. It's a lost art of a sort. Besides that what is romantic and chivlrous to one person and between two people is between them and not for anyone else to judge whether it is or is not romantic and chivlrous. You do your thing and I'll do mine. The topic of this thread is "How romantic are you", it's not "Pass judgement on other people's definition of romance".

Well said VT. I couldn't agree more.

[Chancie]

<snip>

If someone brings flowers to every girl they've ever dated on the 2nd date... well... is it romance or dating routine? If someone gives every person they've ever dated a handmade picture album, filled with pictures of the two of you, for Christmas... is it romantic or dating routine? Any thoughts on the difference between romance and dating routines...or if they are the same thing. Does it even matter?

This is a great question!

Years ago, before I met my beautiful handsome Pete,

I dated a bit more than I expected.

One particular butch was courting me, and quite deftly.

She charmed my pants off, but

It became clear that her gallant ways were well practiced.

She was a lovely person, truly, but

I prefer Pete's slightly awkward attempts to impress me.

[VeganDebbie]

I'm not romantic.
But I want to be.
Someday.

You and me both.....

[Daktari]

Being courteous, polite, and just plain using manners in general is not the norm anymore. I wish it was but it isnt. We all SHOULD be treating each other with kindness and respect but we dont. If we we did the world certianly not be in the state it is right now. Why is it chivlrous and romantic to use manners and be polite you ask. Because not everyone does it anymore. It's a lost art of a sort. Besides that what is romantic and chivlrous to one person and between two people is between them and not for anyone else to judge whether it is or is not romantic and chivlrous. You do your thing and I'll do mine. The topic of this thread is "How romantic are you", it's not "Pass judgement on other people's definition of romance".

Maybe it's a cultural thing. In my experience most folks are generally polite and courteous.

I asked a question. What is it that makes manners and perceived chivalry romantic? I have your answer. I'm sorry you live somewhere that folks aren't polite and courteous in every day life. Thanks for taking the time and trouble to explain.
:chaplin:

[Bard]

I would say I am romantic however I should defer to my beautiful wife as to weather or not I am

[Bèsame*]

I made a small pan of brownies and cut a heart out of the middle and left it in the counter.

[ONLY]

You have to ask my girl (f) if I am romantic or not but I do what I can to make sure she is happy and surprise her at times.

I will be seeing her in a couple of hours (she is flying in) and I always have flowers waiting in the bedroom for her. Today I bought carnations for our bedroom.....bunch of daisies all kinds of colours in the kitchen.....a rose for the bedroom along with a bottle of wine and 2 wine glasses ready for when we get home.....along with a card......
and some fruit and veggies cuz I know she like that :)

[Blade]

Yeah...well sometimes....ummm maybe. I guess it just depends on what a femme's expectations of romantic are.

[little_ms_sunshyne]

Romantic to a fault!

[Library_girl]

I would say that I'm very romantic....I like to give little surprise gifts, hide love notes, make candlelit dinners, grab Hym for spontaneous slow dances, things like that. But I would also say that Hy may be more romantic than I..... (lucky me!!!!)

[GraffitiBoi]

I am definitely on the romantic side.

The last kind of romantic thing I did was when I was leaving my gf's place one night I pretended that I forgot something in the bedroom. When I went there and made sure she didn't follow me I slipped a cute and sweet card with a handwritten note out of my hoodie pocket and left it on her pillow. She messaged me after she went to bed for the night to thank me for the wonderful evening and the card. She said it was really sweet of me and that I'm just really a romantic softie. She melts my heart.

[deb0670]

Candle light dinners with soft music playing, walks along the beach in the moonlight, holding hands while walking the mall or grocery store, singing that special song, writing love notes and poems just because, wearing His favorite perfume, sensual massages, slow dancing to only the music in your head.. etc etc.
yeah, i think i am a romantic..:rrose:

[sis]

I don't really think of myself as being romantic. I don't 'need' flowers and candles, but I do like them. I prefer sweet surprises that let me know I'm being thought of .....

a handwritten note expressing :stillheart: tucked into my purse .....

:tea: on the nightstand when I wake up in the morning .....

a spontaneous :carride: down my favourite country road .....

coming home to find :laundryday: all taken care of!

Everyday things done with me in mind are precious to me!

Deb

[Bèsame*]

if its your birthday, I will fill the cab of the truck up with balloons. (I've always dated those who had trucks? hmmmmm...)

[KCBUTCH]

Well I recently posted I was not very romantic and got some rebuttal...
Apparently I am quite romantic, considerate and thoughtful...So OK..

[Angeltoes]

I'm into romance. A gesture of loyalty is romantic, small self sacrifices are romantic, really listening is romantic. I want to know will this person defend me or betray me if it was the easier thing to do? As the practical Virgo I am I think cut flowers really just end up making a mess. I want words or gestures that I can believe aren't part of a routine. To me, romance is when your date remembers something you said casually 5 dates ago, cooking dinner together, talking and laughing together and knowing that person always has your back. I guess romance has to grow, but to me romance happens when someone shows from the beginning that they could be that person.

[Daktari]

I'm told that getting a guitar out and singing a girls favourite songs for her is romantic. I just think it's fun.

I'm told being polite, considerate and courteous is romantic. I just call it normal behaviour with everyone.

I'm told bringing flowers and chocolates is romantic. Until I met a lactose intolerant girl with loads of allergies.

Romance me? Nah! :cheesy:

[Bèsame*]

Romance...

The extra effort you both put into the relationship, situation , the moment. Hopefully it does not go unnoticed :)

[StrongButch]

There are days I am romantic. Then there are days that I just want to use her for my pleasure!

[justanolecowboy]

I’ve read this thread with some interest – how some think they are – others think they are not – based on - how they feel or react or things they do – romance is very much an individual thing...I think some people think they aren’t “romantic” because they don’t fit the “hallmark” version of what we’ve been told romance is - meaning if you show up for a special date with a dozen long stem roses – a box of “Whitman sampler” chocolates and a bottle of sparkling “whatever” (oh and let’s not forget the giant stuffed teddy bear with a big red heart on it) – you are romantic and if you don’t – you are not...

Me, personally – I don’t think “hallmark” has done “romance” any favors – there is nothing “romantic” about crowding in the local pharmacy around a card rack with 14 other guys – on the day of “any” land mark occasion – stepping on dropped envelopes – or not finding one at all – and then just “picking one” – because you are in a hurry – and simply scrawling – “love, ____” at the end of a pre-written verse – that 2,364 other women are reading at the same time your loved one might be – (but) – on the other hand – I realize that even the very act of evening “thinking” about buying a card – is “romantic” to some – so, again – it is an individual thing.

I think we fellas and ladies too – put too much pressure on ourselves and have self-debate about “if” we are being romantic – because some magazine has written a list of the “10 Most Romantic Things to do for your Lover” – and you read them – and say – oh, well wow – no, I’ve never actually taken my wife on a romantic cruise – renewed our wows on the white sandy beaches of “wherever” …(OK – you know I exaggerate on these things by now) – but seriously – I’ve been guilty of it – I “read” those things sometimes – we all do … and I’m scratching my head thinking – “yeah…I don’t do any of that” – but does that mean I’m not “romantic” – because the Editor at Romance Weekly says I’m not because I didn’t do “x y or z” – and seriously – how do you know your partner or loved one isn’t reading the same list on “girls night out” - and they are laughing because the list is usually so out of perspective with what most view everyday romance might even be.


Being romantic to me – isn’t some sweeping grand gesture once a year on a special occasion like a birthday/anniversary or the “biggie” Valentine’s day...not that I don’t like to do “special” things I do – but I don’t necessarily consider them “romantic” I guess.


To me? Romantic is part of the whole package of “romance” itself – it’s not a “once in a while kind of thing” – and if you love someone deeply – and unconditionally – I think “romance” is just part of that “love” – so what some consider ordinary perhaps is romantic to me…part of what makes (her) romantic to me – even if she doesn’t realize it – is who she is – the essence of who she is - how she conducts her everyday life and around other people – how she makes them feel – when I see how they react to her – and appreciate her words or kindness – and the fact that it isn’t even something she “thinks” about – she just does – because it is “part of her” –and I smile inside because she has such a grace and elegance about her and I’m so proud of who she is as a person - or to me it’s romantic that she knows I hate meatloaf and that I love Dutch Apple pie – that she always remembers to have lots of milk in the refrigerator – or that she no matter how busy her day might be - stops always at some point to give me that special smile – or text or phone call that makes me know in that moment – nothing or no one else was more important to her than me…now – (that) to me is romantic – but you don’t see that in a magazine or on a list or inside a hallmark card…I think there are those that can be “romantic” without actually truly “loving someone” – but for me – it is all tied in together – the flowers that I might give her as a “grand gesture” means nothing – if I don’t love her enough or pay attention enough to do the small things – like take out the garbage without being asked – or fix the door – or mow the grass without being reminded…yeah – it’s in the everyday.


But, now – you know– I ramble…lol! – These threads just get me to thinking about topics in general but the question was do I see myself as romantic. Do I like to think that I weave daily romance into the way that I simply love her the best way I know how every day? – yes.



Is that romantic – hopeless or otherwise? No – I don’t think so –



it just means - I.simply.love.her.

[RNguy]

My wife thinks its romantic when i wash my Glass instead of leaving it dirty in the sink for her to deal with .
She thinks its even more romantic when i wash it without breaking it :)

[DamonK]

I try to let her sleep in and not wake her up until I have to.
If I wake her up, I try to wake her up with kisses.
If she is sleeping and I need to work downstairs, I leave her a note telling her where I am.
I leave her visitor reps.
I talk to her, and often.
I make sure she knows I love her by my words and deeds.

This is just normal behavior to me...

[imperfect_cupcake]

I can be, but not in the usual recognition of the word.
I hate poetry, flowers, hearing someone is honoured to make my acquaintance, I loath flowery speech and "othering" me into a Lady of the Castle type bullshit.
I like people taking the piss, teasing, being a smart ass, offering to do things for me (like fix my computer/website/bike/pick up groceries/take me to an appointment) and maybe insisting a bit as I'll likely say no first round because I don't want to be seen as weak and I have to know that they are sincere in their offer.

I like people that do things to help me out, rather than buy me gifts or say shit. Make me laugh, buy me a drink and hang out, make me laugh some more, don't treat me with gentle gloves, treat me like a real friend. An equal with different talents. Ask me to help you too.

a romantic friendship with emphasis on friendship. Not on romance.

Some people like touch, words and gifts. That's not me. I like actions and laughter. See me for me. See me as capable enough to take a hard ribbing. If you see me wearing my reading glasses, which I HATE then tease me about them "hey four eyes how about a blow job, now that you can tell the difference between my leg and my dick?"

I love ice cream. take me for one when I'm really stressed out. shag me in an ally while making me hold it. Or something.

I dunno, things that just make me laugh and enjoy making me laugh. That really is a big part of it.

[imperfect_cupcake]

As for me being romantic towards other... I've heard my vagina is very romantic.

[Bèsame*]

as I leave you to go home, I pass by your truck and leave a lip print on your driver door window.

It will make you smile later

[Breezy]

I am a romantic. We write notes to each other back and forth when he is doing homework. We keep them in a notebook to have them to look back on in the future. We hold each other very close to talk, about most everything, it is the most romantic gesture I've ever experienced. We post music for each other. We dance spontaneously when hugging sometimes. We hold hands. He takes my arm when walking at night, and most everywhere, but especially at night. We never part or go to sleep without saying I love you. We talk and each of us listens to the other. We are considerate of the other.

He wakes me with love and kisses. He tells me oh how I love you with so much emotion behind it I tear up every single time. He tell me he has me always. His eyes shine with such enthusiasm when he looks at me and speaks to me. He uses such loving tones and if he thinks his tone was, off as he says, he will tell me he didn't mean it that way. He tells me, and means it, that he will love me no matter what comes our way and that after waiting 12 years he is not about to give up...gawd I love this man! He is a loving, kind and gentle soul without guile.

He cooks and cleans up after himself, too! I have it all!

[s0litude]

I love ice cream. take me for one when I'm really stressed out. shag me in an ally while making me hold it. Or something. I dunno, things that just make me laugh and enjoy making me laugh. That really is a big part of it.

OMG! Laughed so hard reading this! A friend of mine in Dallas, our usual hello to each other was, "Hey, Cutie, wanna fuck?" No matter how bad the day's events were, it was great for a smile.

[Diablo]

sometimes...i think of being romantic and then....well....i stop thinking...and go back to reading the obituaries.

[imperfect_cupcake]

sometimes...i think of being romantic and then....well....i stop thinking...and go back to reading the obituaries.

that's very sweet. Do you read them to people in the tub?

[Diablo]

that's very sweet. Do you read them to people in the tub?


Im not sure..that sounds awfully close to being romantic!!!

[imperfect_cupcake]

I dunno, what if there's no water in it and they are fully dressed and drinking a cocktail with one heel on your shoulder?

[~baby~doll~]

I live for romance. My favorite is the twenty-four hour love affair when I find hints of love and detailed plans for the evening. It starts with crimson lip prints on the mirrors. Then I find a menu of desired dishes for dinner with wines. :wine: I get red :rose: 's delivered.
The best is a hand written description of our love making. I am so romanced by this point I can hardly fulfill my plans for the day.

[wahya]

I am a 100% romantic but not that great of romantic novelist. But when I do something romantic it has to be something special & something I have put a lot of thought into.That's where listening to your partner comes in because they think the little things slip by me but that's where it starts, knowing what they are about and what they like.

[Gráinne]

Not in any traditional form, flowers/chocolates and all (although I do like chocolate). What's romantic to me is my date and I sharing something of who we are, something about wherever we are, in intimacy and vulnerability. Sometimes that translates later into physical cuddling and holding. That to me is perfect.

[Gemme]

Nope. Used to be. The whole flowery drawn out novel kind of way too. But not any more.

My poor guy.

:blink:

[Cid]

I used to be romantic but now I'm more cynical.
Kinda hard being romantic when you got that going on.
Aside from cynical, I'm not into staring into anyone's eyes
and the little kissy face winky crap just gets on my nerves.

[RockOn]

used to be very much so ... probably way too much

buried all that silly nonsense when I let go of the unattainable one ... she is slowly drowning in a bottle of wine and cannot see it ...

[Katniss]

I am quite romantic. I always put a towel down so they never have to sleep on the wet spot.


Katniss~~

[Ginger]

That whole chemical experience of falling in love is so deliciously intense for me, physiologically. I feel high. Really high. It's pheromones, it's my brain's juiciness at work, but who cares. It's great. And yeah, when it kicks in, I'm extremely romantic; swooning, daydreaming, the works.

[EnderD_503]

I didn't use to be but in my current relationship, yes. We're not always romantic in the traditional ways (though sometimes we are). Often we're both just incredibly silly and it turns out being romantic in our heads :p Which is great because I can sometimes suck at the "formal" stuff lol

[SaltyButch]

I've been told I'm romantic, I think being Old School helps alot with that, the opening of doors, walking on the outside closest to the street etc. I think paying attention to things she tells you and just listening sometimes goes a long way in endearing yourself to someone. I don't believe showering her with material things is something one has to do, taking her to your favourite place, sharing things that are special to you, things from the heart. I like to let her know I'm thinking of her in various ways and if she's up for surprises then one or two may come her way.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

I have been told that I am. I like to believe that I am even after it is not new anymore. I know as the years have gone by the way I am romantic has changed and that it is definitely not on the traditional expected kind of way. After all I am anything but expected. Besides my grannie would come back and haunt me if I wasn't romantic to some degree. I love the smile I get when I am being romantic.

[fatallyblonde]

I am romantic for sure... I love giving and receiving romance... nothing too hackneyed... though a flower or two is always a beautiful gesture... especially if someone picks them for you on the way to meeting you... love letters... surprising your loved one with a special treat or just doing them a favour even can be very romantic...

[MysticOceansFL]

I am very Romantic towards that special femme.

[C0LLETTE]

Not even a bit. Just leave the money on the night table. ( Oh I'm just kidding).

[Julie]

I am not romantic at all... I try to be in my mind, but when it comes to the call for action. It just isn't me. Dreamer however, is a hopeless (sappy & sweet) romantic.

[Martina]

I am not at all, but I was recently given a lovely necklace that the person bought to reference a poem that she had written in response, in part, to the grief I have had about losing my father. It was so thoughtful, so specific, that I was seriously touched.

Usually when people do things like that, it falls a bit flat because I just don't feel it that much. I don't care about things and am hard to reach on a sentimental level. I am much easier to reach through humor. Anyway.

This gift got to me. It felt great. We were also having a lovely lunch by the sea. The whole thing was perfect.

[-Red-Flag-]

I am not. I fall short every time.

I need to get on the stick and quick.

-looks around for the romantic manual for dummies-

[JAGG]

I have my moments. With the right femme. :)

[C0LLETTE]

I live for romance. My favorite is the twenty-four hour love affair when I find hints of love and detailed plans for the evening. It starts with crimson lip prints on the mirrors. Then I find a menu of desired dishes for dinner with wines. :wine: I get red :rose: 's delivered.
The best is a hand written description of our love making. I am so romanced by this point I can hardly fulfill my plans for the day.

Not to be too pragmatic but how do you get lipstick off a mirror?

[JAGG]

Not to be too pragmatic but how do you get lipstick off a mirror?

Comes right off with window cleaner.

[DMW]

Not to be too pragmatic but how do you get lipstick off a mirror?


Mmmmmmm...well, let me count the ways...kiss it...lick it...suck it...or
rub it off; action dependent upon certain variables.
Number one...whose lips left it there?

[~ocean]

~ passion brings out the romance in me, wich stimulates my seduction side ~

[MysticOceansFL]

~ passion brings out the romance in me, wich stimulates my seduction side ~



Passion, Desire, Attraction, Connection, "many things" for me at least.:glasses:

[Leigh]

i am a very romantic girl and i love my butch to be romantic too :)

[Butterbean]

Not very. To make matters worse, I'm too old for daily sex. All I'm left with is my sunny disposition....

(I am slapping my leg, I'm laughing so hard)

[mountainbikedyke]

Pretty damn......:awww:

[starryeyes]

I definitely am not very romantic... But Justin makes up for it.

[little_ms_sunshyne]

Hopelessly:awww:

[DaddyNik12]

is there such thing as being to damn romantic or hopeless romantic ?
*is guilty as charged look*

[ONLY]

Not something I can answer ......... SS, my beautiful (f) lady, how romantic am I? :)

*might be awhile, since she doesn't log on much* (because of her job)....(had to put that in there in case it makes me look unromantic if she doesn't respond lol)

[stargazingboi]

I have my moments...I can do the whole typical romantic things like write notes or poems (poems come and go as sometimes life can give me writers block). I can do little things throughout the day and create a romantic night from a story book. However, love and romance can be shown in many ways...in everyday things that sometime folks over look. There are many love languages and its always important to know which language your partner speaks.

For me it is in the daily living and love shown. The touches when she passes by..the daily things done for one another that makes life easier..the stolen kisses...the looks across the room..the cards given out of the blue for no reason outside of saying I love you...etc. That to me is the real romance. So, am I romantic? Yeah, I think so.

[Greco]

a bit...sonriendo...

Greco

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

In 4th grade, the girl sitting in front of me was just fitted with braces. The other kids made fun of her, called her "brace face", "railroad mouth" and other names unbecoming. I remember trying to make them stop with the name-calling and bullying.

After a few weeks, she realized I was her friend and we began spending more and more time together. We would meet at the skating rink, attend birthday parties, have pizza on a Friday night. She was my world, her brown-hazel speckled eyes mesmerized. School year went so fast, I couldn't get enough of her. She was the face I saw of when I slept, her face is what I saw of when I awakened.

My mom had a jewelry box full of necklaces, bracelets, rings....I thought it would be a good idea emptying said box and offer them as a gift to my dream girl. I was so nervous she would not accept them...but she DID! To this day, the look on her face as she was putting on her new necklace makes me smile just a little bit.

When my mom realized what happened to her jewelry box, she never said anything.

[Breezy]

I am not. I fall short every time.

I need to get on the stick and quick.

-looks around for the romantic manual for dummies-

1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Now Completely Revised and More Romantic Than Ever by Gregory Godek

[Daktari]

Yeah but not good at maintaining it for more than 7yrs :|

[C0LLETTE]

I'm ok if you find cash romantic.

[stargazingboi]

I'm ok if you find cash romantic.

I just spit my drink out over this one

[Rolo]

I think I use to be, and could be with the right person (the last too we're not right) I'm rusty and should probably work on it. Lacking in romance but not in passion.

[JAGG]

I'm ok if you find cash romantic.

I find cash very romantic !!!!! hahaha A femme with cash would be romantic past my wildest dreams. lol

[Okiebug61]

Hmm Romantic! I can empty the dishwasher, make the bed, mop the floor, do any number of everyday chores and Red smiles and says that's why I love you!

[MasterfulButch]

I'm an innovative romantic. It's important to me to make my lady feel special but I don't like to run with the crowd. I may produce the traditional bouquet of red roses once but then it's been done.

Seeking ways to surprise and delight my girl in ways that are unique and meaningful to her gives me much satisfaction.

I would even extend it out to say that romance is a part of my identity. It came with the Butch Chivalry pack and is a facet of myself I feel honoured to have the chance to use.

[grenade]

I am usually a hormone driven romantic. There are occasions when I surprise myself and wonder where that came from.

[silkepus]

I'm very romantic in my own way. I dont really go for the whole hollywood romantic stuff, that kind of seems a bit put on. But I love to cook for someone and I love giving massages and hugs and kisses and snuggles. Thats my version of romantic. And occasionally let the other person choose whats on tv, it doesnt get more romantic than that:p Now if only I had someone to be romantic with...

[imperfect_cupcake]

I've thought about this a bit more. I don't like formulaic romance. I like goofy, sarcastic and yet sincere under the humour.

The reason I don't like chivalry type romance is because that is what that person does for *everyone* they have been on a date with.

And I don't like that. I like original, humour based, cocky/selfdepricating sweet jokes. Like for instance on butch I really liked, when we played truth or dare, I dared her to put a cucumber down her trousers and take a pic of it. Her response was to get a mate to go out to the cherry trees that were snowing pink petals, lay in a big lawn of them, and pulled out said cucumber out of her fly, hanging out, while posing in a cocky, yet self silly way, rolling around in cherry blossoms.

That, is fucking brilliant. And it made me totally soften.

Or, when I was very down, talking to one of my partners on skype, she was naked from the waist up, wrapped in Saran Wrap to heal a scarification on her diaphragm area, she grabbed her motorcycle helmet, stuck it on her head and moved the camera In front of a giant painting she had of the moon and pretended to float around half naked in Saran Wrap yelling "I'm a space maasaaaaan!"

That totally made me fall in love with her on the spot.

When I met my exwife, came up to me at a party and told me I should try some flats she had stolen out of her mates closet as my feet looked sore. I told her flats give me a rash and she should wear them. So she did. She put on these gold ballet slipper and pioretted around the kitchen in front of everyone, then danced down the hallway. I thought "what an arse! I like her!" Then she came back and curtseyd in front of me. Sarcastically.
"Great." I said "now do that in these." And kicked my stilettos off in front of her. She picked up one of my shoes, stuck her face in it, inhaled deeply (I grinned and laughed) then She pulled all kinds of ass out Betty Grable style poses and generally acted like a clown.
I went to a squat rave with her after the party and bought her beer. She teased the fuck out of me/was a smart ass. Then escorted me to the bathroom every time I wanted to go because it was fucking vile in there and she had to help me keep my balance in my heels so I didn't fall in the pile of crap that was all over the toilet.

When we did finally go on a date, three months later after hanging out as friends, she showed up at my house at 8am with salmon locks, strawberries and champagne. She came in, crawled into my bed without invite (I loved her balls, loved it!!) and patted the quilt and said "here's the bed picnic!" (I had said I loved them). I happily coseid up with her. We drank all the champers and ate the food and got a bottle of pimms and went to the Hamstead Heath women's swimming pond, took off our clothes (we had to keep our underpants on, rules) and swam to the far end. She then attacked me in the water, wrestled my underwear off me, stuck it in her teeth, and swam about hooting. I beat the crap out of her when we got out. We then curled up and took a nap after a drink of pimms.

Those things, to me, are romantic.


So when someone picks me up, treats me formally like a princess all night, walk me to the door and maybe give me a kiss on the cheek and refer to me being a lady, I wind up not heaving a sigh after I close my door, but getting depressed and missing my exes.

But then oodles of people may find my version of a fun day together traumatic.

[Aud]

Yes, I think I'm very romantic, but I don't like to show it. If I'm smitten, I'm going to be writing you poetry and songs that I'll NEVER show you, lest you know how lame I am. I'm just way too protective of my charred lil damaged heart to risk a stomping, until I'm certain I'm loved & appreciated in return. Even then, I do need to remind myself that I should verbalize those feelings/people need to hear the I love you's, because I do think talk's cheap --I would rather show my love in consideration and sacrifice.

[Sweet Bliss]

Me ROMANTIC???

:rofl: after casting my pearls to swine for all these years,

Hell freaking no.

No more catering to ya.

No more meals made with homemade love.

No more secret trips to the store to surprise you with the perfect birthday gift.

No more fussing over you when you are not well or just cranky.

No more homemade cookies.

No more cooking awesome breakfast, lunch and dinners.

No more cleaning, laundry, ironing, mending, sewing, etc.

No more back scrubbing in the shower.

No more of the hundreds of things I do everyday to make this house a home to come to after a long stressful day at work, where your needs are met and then some.

Me romantic???:fart: Now that's romantic. (said with your head under the covers)

[Sweet Bliss]

I've thought about this a bit more. I don't like formulaic romance. I like goofy, sarcastic and yet sincere under the humour.

So when someone picks me up, treats me formally like a princess all night, walk me to the door and maybe give me a kiss on the cheek and refer to me being a lady, I wind up not heaving a sigh after I close my door, but getting depressed and missing my exes.

But then oodles of people may find my version of a fun day together traumatic.


Gawd Ms HoneyB, you are the luckiest woman in the world, Honestly.

now that's real romancing the pants off ya kinda stuff.

thanks for the visuals, it made my day! xoxoxo

[deedarino]

Note to self: Add romance to my "to do" list...

[deedarino]

Note to self: Add romance to my "to do" list...

A friend reminded me that romance is not a "to do" it is a "to be". So I will change lists :)

Honestly, I am with honeybarbara. If it doesn't come naturally, from the heart, spontaneously, it doesn't do much for me. Try too hard, buy me flowers, run around the car like a Olympic sprinter to open the door and I will smile and think how sweet. But give me a rock you found on the ground in the shape of a heart and I melt. One of the most romantic gestures I ever received was a hand drawn, crayon pic of two stick people holding hands with little hearts floating all around them. I framed it.

Romance to me just says; I am thinking of you not I am trying to impress you.

[Bard]

My darling wife is a romantic something I had never experience before I was always the romantic BUT she leaves me love notes surprises me with flowers sweet words soft kisses.. she cares for me tenderly when I have been sick or injured she is the ying to my yang :moonstars:

I love her to the moon and back :wine:

[mountainbikedyke]

Very! Ha! :passinggas:

[Jet]

I happened to think of you today,
for the first time in a long time.

I remembered that spring
spending hours getting to know you,
crossing your years and mine;
across the continuum
it seemed, drawing closer
to you with each passing day
until I knew I wanted you with
everything that I am.

To me, that's everything...

I had never met anyone like you,
and I was so carried away
by your presence
and grace and your voice
and words and...

You took me by storm
and off to that place of
of wanting you to be the one
who kissed me goodbye
for the last time.

Oh, the thought of you.

I was so sure.

And I had fallen so deeply
in love with you that

"The very thought of you
and I forget to do
the ordinary things
that I ought to do..."

which was to see
and to know that
you never once
loved me until it was
too late in that old dance.

But I have let go of you
a thousand times,
a thousand ways.

And this writing,
is to express my closure
in the smallest way really,
and only because

tonight

I had a very rare thought of you.
—J


_GhkwYSj_-I

[Ginger]

Romantic for me, isn't the big gestures. It's something that quietly surprises me. Someone bought a bicycle for me, once. She didn't say it was for me, and I assumed it was another one she'd bought for herself, since she kind of collected them. She assembled it in the dining room, in the middle of winter, and I helped a little, but it was really her thing. Then, when she was done, she kind of presented it to me. I was confused at first, then I realized, she was giving it to me. It's that kind of quiet gesture, that seems most romantic to me.

[meridiantoo]

Romance to me just says; I am thinking of you not I am trying to impress you.

That's the best definition of romance I've come across.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Totally. I love little things. Personable and individual. Things just for me.
My exwife used to carry the bags home on the bike after grocery shopping, not because she wanted to be a gentleman, but because she didn't want my front tire to wobble and thus possibly get smucked by a car.
She would find me a seat at an event 30 min in not because that's the chiverlrous thing to do, but because she knew 30 min was the time limit of my sore feet in heels.
Probably the most romantic thing she ever did was when I had food poisoning in her sisters bed in the middle of the night. On a brand new super expensive mattress. I knew how freaked out and upset her sister would be. I was in a state. What did she do? She woke up her sister and told her she had done it because she drank too much. Even though she caught the wrath of her sister for three days over it.

That's love. That is romance. Someone taking the shit for you because they can't bare seeing you sick and upset. Fuck flowers and poetry. Cleaning up my puke while I'm crying, lying to your own family and going out to get carpet cleaner to wash the mattress with is stellar romance.

[bokster]

This got me thinking as I don't do any of the usual romantic things like leaving notes, though, once, I had a bunch of flowers delivered to a special friend on her birthday - she lived in another country and I ordered a floral arrangement online of I-don't-know-what flowers they were (they looked pretty).

I agree with what I've read so far about not trying too hard. But I'll open doors for you if you don't beat me to it. And I'll bring a small cooler of ice cold beer when I pick you up from the airport. Save some for me.

[ForeverMe]

I am absolutely a romantic. I feel that romance is best when both parties are on the same page. I enjoy being romanced and also I also love to do some romancing.

The fastest way to my heart is to hold my door, gently touch my hand, planning little outings, or numerous other thoughtful, romantic moves. A little creativity will carry you a long ways. :rrose:

[Femmadian]

I used to think that I was not very romantic. Then I had two long term relationships in a row with people who weren't romantic at all (after getting used to dating people who would be romantic once in a blue moon) and I came to realize that no, actually, I really am and it's something that's important to me in a relationship... After voicing my desires to no avail, in the end those relationships made me feel like I just wasn't worth the effort. I won't ever allow that to happen again.

Maybe it's not very hip to admit to wanting flowers and poetry and the whole nine yards (at least in certain circles), but damn it, I do, and I'm so sick of being made to feel somehow defective, a bad feminist, or hopelessly old fashioned for wanting it (not by anyone here - just generally). For me personally, it used to be something I would deny about myself and try desperately to ignore or downplay (along with most of the traditionally "feminine" aspects of my personality) and now it's something I embrace after years of struggling with it.

Some of the stuff we derisively peg as romantic or Hallmark-y, I think it's because it's just really overdone or it's because it's done insincerely or indiscriminately. I don't think that there is anything inherently cheesy or impersonal about flowers, poetry, or any of the things we sometimes roll our eyes at. I think the key is the intent, sincerity of the persons involved, and communication. If you bring me red roses on a date because that's "just something you do" as opposed to putting thought into it and finding out what I actually like (or if I like them at all), then yeah, kinda formulaic, though I would still find it sweet and appreciate the effort (and also the novelty of it as it would be a first for me). If, however, you make the effort to discover that I like white roses, lilacs, and pink carnations (don't judge me :p) and whip out one of those, to me that is super romantic. Likewise, if I invite you over for a home cooked meal and some snuggling while we watch a movie, it could be considered formulaic and impersonal if I just put something together like pasta or lasagna, light a few candles, and have a random recent release ready for you. Instead, maybe you prefer Indian food and would appreciate a dish of roghan josh, incense over candles, and maybe you have a thing for retro kung-fu movies or really obscure and slightly depressing French films. :p I think most anything can be romantic, even the things that seem overplayed at first glance, if done right.

Romance is also important for me to just keep the relationship alive and sparking and so that I don't end up feeling like I have a glorified roommate who I also sleep with when the mood strikes.

I want to be with someone who wants to lay out on the grass in a field and look at the stars.
I want to be with someone who enjoys reading poetry/prose/whatever out loud to each other while snuggled up in bed.
I want to be with someone who thinks little love notes and surprises "just because" are sweet and not corny.
I want to be with someone who understands the importance of physical affection outside of the bedroom and the sweetness of an unexpectedly gentle touch.
I want to be swept off my feet just once so I can know what it feels like.
I want to be with someone who is comfortable with both receiving and giving romantic gestures and who understands it doesn't diminish them or their masculinity in any way to be "caught" doing so.
Basically, I want someone who speaks the same "language" and understands that in a relationship this stuff is the good stuff. :) :heartbeat:

[VintageFemme]

This is one of my most favourite threads on BFP. I love reading how others perceive and welcome romance into their relationships. It's such a special effort that means so much and lingers forever. I remember each and every romantic notion ever showered upon me.

That birthday you played Happy Birthday on your harmonica to me naked.
The midnight picnic in an empty field under the stars as well as all of the floor picnics in your apt.
When you learned to play Imagine on your keyboard because you knew I loved it.
The love letters mailed to me when you lived in the same city & all the creative romance they said to me [including the sexy drawings!].
Writing me poetry.
All of the hours you worked to buy me that puppy.
Serenading me on my balcony, with your guitar from the lawn.
Kissing me in the parking lot in the rain.
Taking my photo with you so faraway after we had just met.
Getting into the bath with me in your clothes.
Handmade gifts from your heart, working overtime to earn the money to come see me, going through all kinds of drama & hell to come see me, and the poetry. All of the poetry.
When you dug up an entire rose bush & left it on my door.
When you left a candy bar & greeting card on my car windshield.
When you walked on the streetside of the sidewalk to protect me.

These are just a few of the things that have sent my heart and head into a spinning whirlwind of romance over the years and in those alone moments when I feel a little 'less than' - I remember them and remember when I was 'more than'. Mhmm, romance is very important and that one gesture, that one handpicked wildflower, that one mix tape will mean more and linger longer than you can ever imagine. Do it.

Love.

[Femmadian]

« snip »
When you dug up an entire rose bush & left it on my door.


:shocking:

Holy shit. That's super romantic (and maybe a bit illegal depending on where the bush originally came from, hahaha). What a great twist on a traditional idea. Love it! What a lucky lady! :awww: :heartbeat:

[VintageFemme]

:shocking:

Holy shit. That's super romantic (and maybe a bit illegal depending on where the bush originally came from, hahaha). What a great twist on a traditional idea. Love it! What a lucky lady! :awww: :heartbeat:
It was a very long time ago & yeah, I opened the door to go to work and saw this ginormous rose bush, roots and all LoL just leaning on my doorstep! I laughed out loud and my heart jumped like mad crazy. It was super romantic and precious. Yep, I have to say I've been very lucky in having so much romance in my life. And I don't take one memory, one moment for granted - they were all so special to me.

[Happy_Go_Lucky]

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[*Anya*]

I'm a back-rubbing, massaging all over her body, kind of romantic.

I am a take a shower with her, wash her hair, wash her back and her other important parts kind of romantic.

I'm a take off the mattress pad and wash and dry it and the sheets and remake the bed, leaving a romantic card propped up against her pillow; kind of romantic.

I'm a sexy negligee-wearing femme, because it is a turn-on for her and it also feels romantic to me.

She will be home in two days from her trip...she has not yet seen the raspberry-pink baby doll nighty that I will be wearing to greet her at the door.

Is it hot in here or is it just me?

[MsTinkerbelly]

I was feeling down, so Kasey took me and our dessert to the patio, put on some dreamy music, and danced with me in the moonlight.

Sighhhhhhh

[BounceBounceBabyBoi]

Maybe it's not very hip to admit to wanting flowers and poetry and the whole nine yards (at least in certain circles), but damn it, I do, and I'm so sick of being made to feel somehow defective, a bad feminist, or hopelessly old fashioned for wanting it (not by anyone here - just generally). For me personally, it used to be something I would deny about myself and try desperately to ignore or downplay (along with most of the traditionally "feminine" aspects of my personality) and now it's something I embrace after years of struggling with it.



there is absolutely NOTHING
about wanting a mate who will make
you swoon and feel romanced that could ever
possibly make you a bad feminist.
I solemnly promise.
*crosses my heart*


oh, and I'm a will-make-sure-to-grab-
you-choclate-before-you-even-
think-to-ask kind of romantic ;)

[RockOn]

How romantic am I?

Very with the right woman. ;)

[Vincent]

I never knew I was very romantic till my last relationship,when I fell head over heals in love,I sent flowers from Sydney to the States,A ticket to Australia,we danced to Etta James "at last"on the steps of the opera house,the happiest moment in my life was seeing here at the airport for the first time,and her beauty took my breathe away,I recorded songs for her,and for the first time,I gave my heart to her.

[VintageFemme]

I love when someone bumps this thread and it's active again. It's one of my favourites on BFP.

So as anyone and everyone who knows me, knows how incredibly stupid romantic I am but I find as I age, romance becomes less and less a part of my life and I'm really not okay with that. I'm actually very sad about that. And I wonder if it has something to do with aging and that we get jaded with our years of romantic experience and just don't have the energy for the effort anymore or.... if it's me and I don't inspire that kind of romance anymore. Either of those answers are unacceptable to me. When I look at my post to this thread above^ a few ago, I wonder even moreso if those moments and gestures are gone forever now. With all my heart and soul, I hope not.

[Vincent]

I love when someone bumps this thread and it's active again. It's one of my favourites on BFP.

So as anyone and everyone who knows me, knows how incredibly stupid romantic I am but I find as I age, romance becomes less and less a part of my life and I'm really not okay with that. I'm actually very sad about that. And I wonder if it has something to do with aging and that we get jaded with our years of romantic experience and just don't have the energy for the effort anymore or.... if it's me and I don't inspire that kind of romance anymore. Either of those answers are unacceptable to me. When I look at my post to this thread above^ a few ago, I wonder even moreso if those moments and gestures are gone forever now. With all my heart and soul, I hope not.

I dont know if its age,for me I was 53 and felt like I was 16,of course I'm only talking about myself,and really,that's what I'm looking for again,if lightening can strike twice,I don't want to settle,I cant believe I sent her books of poetry,:)I was never romantic before,so maybe it takes the right chemistry,I dont really know..................But it sure felt amazing.

[Tuff Stuff]

I give flowers,back/neck//hand/feet rubs..rubs,all kinds are good.Cooking for her..although eating out is better.Taking her out in the woods and..well.I won't get too mushy.

Miss you,baby :popcorn:

[VintageFemme]

Taking her out in the woods and..

That's what I'm talking about!

[~SweetCheeks~]

I can be pretty mushy.. Love long walks by the water, surprise picnics, cooking for my partner, slow dancing just because, little texts throughout the day to let them know they are on my mind. Just some of that...

[Bèsame*]

The lipstick kisses I left on the bathroom mirror and on the refrigerator door, months ago....are still there.



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[Kätzchen]

I like the idea of romance but I don't subscribe to motions of romantic endeavors most people consider romantic.

And I guess I will leave it at that for now because I keep things of that nature fairly private, nowadays.

But I do enjoy romance, I really do. : )

[JDeere]

Lol no romantic bone in my body.

[Orema]

Lol no romantic bone in my body.

Really?

Aren't you the one who suggested dancing in the living room with your honey even if you can't dance (see the "What TO DO in a relationship" thread)?

Methinks there's a romantic bone or two in you, JD.

[storyspinner70]

I am very affectionate, extremely solicitous, very tactile and loving...but the gifts and candlelight dinners with lots of meaningful stares and frought silences kind of romance just puts me on edge. Soooo uncomfortable for me. I'll actually take a passionate debate over that kind of romance any day. lol

[homoe]

I'd say I'm fairly romantic:bunchflowers:

[JDeere]

Really?

Aren't you the one who suggested dancing in the living room with your honey even if you can't dance (see the "What TO DO in a relationship" thread)?

Methinks there's a romantic bone or two in you, JD.

Might be one but I think that's about it lol

[Vincent]

Might be one but I think that's about it lol

J Deere
I was totally like that too,I was in a band in the 80's and flatly refused to do love songs,only political songs,the last relationship I used to joke that she had put a spell on me,coz I used to find that stuff BS.In my 30's I never celebrated valentines day,I used to say it was a capitalist plot,to get ppl,to spend $,they cant afford,on stuff that is double the price,on that day.

Guess who sent 2 doz red roses on a recent VD ????????

sheepishly putting my hand up.:)

[JDeere]

J Deere
I was totally like that too,I was in a band in the 80's and flatly refused to do love songs,only political songs,the last relationship I used to joke that she had put a spell on me,coz I used to find that stuff BS.In my 30's I never celebrated valentines day,I used to say it was a capitalist plot,to get ppl,to spend $,they cant afford,on stuff that is double the price,on that day.

Guess who sent 2 doz red roses on a recent VD ????????

sheepishly putting my hand up.:)

I have like one bone in my body that does the romance stuff and that bone isn't working lately LOL.

[Shystonefem]

Depends on what you think romance is....

If dancing is romantic, guilty

If sitting on the beach and talking is romantic.... guilty

If if is the fact that I love romantic proposals.... guilty again

I think that is as far as it goes with me and typical romance.

I don't like receiving flowers (unless from my kids for a mother's day, etc) or if they are hand picked - why waste money on something that is going to die?

What is romance? I think that something I would find romantic just might be something another would not find romantic.

For the most part, I like the simple things..... oh, plus gold and diamonds, I like gold and diamonds too.

[Jesse]

To me romance is about discovering those thing, both big and small that make your lover feel cherished and loved, and then doing them. What feels romantic to one person could feel like a complete bore to the next person, so taking the time and making the effort to truly get to know what romance means to your lover/partner is romantic in itself.

[BullDog]

I am not fussy about romantic gestures. If they come genuinely from the heart then I will love and appreciate them, whether they are more traditional or unconventional or unique things. My girl is an over the top romantic, so I get all kinds, all the time. I am very lucky. I also consider myself to be romantic and like expressing it in various ways, some of which are traditional and some of which come from my quirky self, but most of all what I think will resonate with her heart.

[Vincent]

To me romance is about discovering those thing, both big and small that make your lover feel cherished and loved, and then doing them. What feels romantic to one person could feel like a complete bore to the next person, so taking the time and making the effort to truly get to know what romance means to your lover/partner is romantic in itself.

I agree Jesse,I remember reading her revolutionary poetry,by El Salvadorian poet Roque Dalton,definitely not everyone's cup of tea.LOL

[JDeere]

I don't really know what romantic means but if you call bringing flowers, doing little things, etc, then yeah I am guilty. But I am a 2x4 trans guy so I gotta be told LOL.

[Tuff Stuff]

Romance works both ways.I like it when she helps me put on my tie and gives me a long kiss.Telling me she loves me and to be safe.Standing behind me in the bathroom,both of us looking into the mirror as she combs my hair back and kisses my neck..sometimes she'll pull my hair back and bite my neck.I love long hugs and surprise dinners.Making out in the backseat of a car.Getting flowers is nice..mushy,blah..moving on.

[JDeere]

Okay so I bought my girl a single pink rose, a card and candy she likes. She said that I was becoming more romantic. I just think it's cuz she puts up with me.

[Lecheloco]

I guess it would depend on what the person I am dating at the time felt was romantic. To me thinking of you and while I am out picking up some little thing I know you either like or something I see reminds me of you so I get it for them. to me the little thoughtful things I feel I do naturally are being romantic. but I doubt all women would think that ,like some may be the type that like the grand gestures periodically, maybe they think is romantic. I feel it's all in one's perception.

also a card in the mail to say hey I am thinking of you, for them to get out of the blue yeah that is being romantic

[ForestGirl88]

I tend to be overly practical. I clean the house, fix the faucet, make you a five course dinner and rock your body with things like drinking wine off your skin and letting you completely sit this one out (so to speak).

But......I have a very hard time talking about my feelings or being gushy and vulnerable. I should be butch, but I'm definately femme lol!

[ForestGirl88]

For the most part, I like the simple things..... oh, plus gold and diamonds, I like gold and diamonds too.

This last part made me laugh so hard! Love it ^_^

[boioboi]

Romance, to me, is the small things. Coming home to discover my spouse did all the dishes. Or a phone call halfway through my day when I've casually mentioned that I'm having a hard day. Surprising me with my favorite foods. Snuggling with me at night. It really is the little things.

Romance goes both ways. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. :tea:

[angelface]

Romance and thoughtfulness go hand in hand for me. They both symbolize that you're thinking about your partner's wants and needs, so wish to put those thoughts into actions whatever they may be. I agree it's a two way exchange but once you find the right partner it should be a natural expression of your love and not a false forced gesture that's cliché.
Running a hot bath, making a meal, going for a walk somewhere scenic or cuddling on the sofa watching a movie are all very romantic to me and not material things. Time is such a very precious gift so giving that to me and vice versa is also very romantic. :rose:

[imperfect_cupcake]

I tend to be overly practical. I clean the house, fix the faucet, make you a five course dinner and rock your body with things like drinking wine off your skin and letting you completely sit this one out (so to speak).

But......I have a very hard time talking about my feelings or being gushy and vulnerable. I should be butch, but I'm definately femme lol!

Absolutely romantic in the same way. Not fond of grand gestures, I find them embarrassing in a bad way and unpleasant. I throw up from stage fright so attracting a ton of attention is hideous to me.

I think it's romantic when someone makes me a cup of tea, fixes my bike, buys me a book I really want, takes me to see a lecture I've wanted to see, teases me /takes the piss, calls me semi-insulting terms of endearment, picks out shoes they'd like me to wear, ogles my boobs in the restaurant or park or supermarket, surprises me with a road trip to some place science geeky. Or surprises me with something very dark and pervy.

Flowers to me just mean "I've done something shitty and I'm trying to butter you up" and they just no longer have a pleasant link for me.

Like people doing things for me because they *know* me and know what I'd like. Not because "butches do _____ for femmes." Because it means they aren't paying attention to who I am, just my gender, and frankly it feels like I'm a number in a well trodden formula and I could be any femme, cause they did it for them too.

I prefer to tailor my romantic moves to the individual. My exwife loved me baking her favourite bread, picking her flowers and reading her to sleep. Another ex liked me wearing clothes she'd pick out for me, washing her hair and making roast lamb.

I'd prefer to do what others like. But I'm not good with words or being emotionally expressive. I'm good with humour and teasing endearments.

[JDeere]

BUMP BUMP!!!!

[catlady]

I thought I was romantic. But my SO told me I'm not very romantic :lol2: Guess I lean more on the silly side.

[Kätzchen]

I like the idea of romance but I don't subscribe to notions of romantic endeavors most people consider romantic.

And I guess I will leave it at that for now because I keep things of that nature fairly private, nowadays.

But I do enjoy romance, I really do. : )

I'm still this way. I'm not really interested in the typical notions most people deem as romantic. What's romantic to me is being level headed, slow to anger, sane, being able to carry yourself with diplomacy, having a wicked sense of humor during an exceptionally tense moment in life.. This caliber of personality is what I think is incredibly romantic (and sexy).

Flowers are nice, but what moves me romantically is generally not the flowery stuff in life.

[homoe]

Oh I'm a romantic Devil!

I am not the kiss and tell type, and I would never post anything on my profile, "not that there is anything wrong with that", Just isn't my style!

[Gayandgray]

Meh.....Not very. :deepthoughts::deepthoughts:

[IrishAmazon]

Romantic? What is that?

No I am not. My idea of romance is on the practical side the things you can only do if you know someone. Thing that needs to done but they have no time to do it. So I do so Little insignificant things, the laundry done, a favorite meal or a movie I don't love but that's okay, or washing the car. Those are the same things that mean something to me. Flowers are nice in my yard so make sure they can be planted, chocolates no unless you know my brand, Valentines day? Well just no, just don't. I am good with that.

I think it has to be individual for each person, My uncle made sure my Aunt never touched a gas pump from the day they married till the day she died. That was romantic and she damn well knew it. He never had to make a meal, or a snack, she made sure he was as well taken care of as she was. It wasn't expensive or elaborate but always considerate and thoughtful.

The whole of the family made fun of the connection they had but none of them ever had anything that could compare in the lives they lead.

[Logicaly]

Romance is indeed very different for everyone. I like to believe I am romantic in many different ways, both traditional and non-traditional.

When we are walking into a building, I open the door for her. If we are stepping off the train I let her go first. I show up at her work on my lunch break just to deliver surprise flowers to her for no reason other than to show her I appreciate her.

I do other things too, I buy her dinner. I buy her surprise random gifts like skirts, video games, and anything else I think she might like. I encourage her, support her and appreciate her.

I think everyone is romantic in some way, it's just a matter of how.

[girl_dee]

i've been told i am the least romantic person in the world.

however when i am with the right person, i love gestures that show each other you are appreciated.

[bright_arrow]

I would like to say I am romantic, but realistically I am not stereotypical romantic - I am more practical.

Instead of flowers I'll offer to buy you dinner from your favorite place beause it's Friday night and we don't want to cook. If I'm at the store on lunch to grab food, I might pick up your favorite drink or candy. If you've had a particularly bad day I will ask if you want to do something after dinner, even if it's just binge watching your favorite show on Netflix. If we are out and you mention something you want, I'm texting it to myself as a reminder to add to your Christmas list as soon as I can.

When I used to pack his lunch, I'd write down how many carbs he had to inject for. I pick all the pepperoni off my pizza and give it to him. Sometimes I order for him when we go out. It's the small things 🙂

[girl_dee]

i've been told i am the least romantic person in the world.

however when i am with the right person, i love gestures that show each other you are appreciated.


Yes i think i am a romantic devil now. :awww:

[Sweet Bliss]

i of course think i am very romantic, but maybe I'm more thoughtful.

I don't have to be in love with someone to be kind and thoughtful.

But when I do love ya.....

Like others have stated, I do little things that show I love you. I do "acts of service" and "quality time".... I would love to do a grand epic scene of 20th Century Cinema... like a Cleopatra type extravaganza.... lol

But I think a pan of epic double chocolate brownies is better, I won't make you share them... Or making your favorite dinner on Sunday ..... massaging your worn out feet after a long hard day.... or any number of kind acts.

or make you stop the truck so I can dance in the middle of the street to our song....

or scrub your back in the shower....

I'm that Girl.

[gotoseagrl]

I am ridiculously, pathetically so. But I'm that way about life in general, as a very passionate person. So guess my relationships are not excluded from that. But, like everyone else, what I find romantic varies. For me, it's things with meaning. A handwritten note, or any kind of note, or taking a walk ... or reading a book together. It's not about the generic mainstream idea of what is romantic to everyone else and girls in general. Knowing specific things, big or small, that I would find touching is being romantic to me. And that is what I enjoy doing for my partner as well. In lots of little ways, regularly. Not just once a year or on their birthday.

~ Journaling together
~ Letters & notes
~ Doing puzzles together
~ Sharing music & other forms of art
~ Admiring nature & other places together
~ Having home-cooked meals together
~ Movie binging
~ Nerding out over stuff together
~ Genuine affection, at random times too
~ Hands on things they need help with

Obviously my love languages are quality time & touch.

[2qt]

lol I wouldn't say I am romantic... I am just the I like to show them appreciation without the overkill.... I prefer the little simple things that make me go thud & hopefully they are the same...

[homoe]

I am ridiculously, pathetically so. But I'm that way about life in general, as a very passionate person. So guess my relationships are not excluded from that. But, like everyone else, what I find romantic varies. For me, it's things with meaning. A handwritten note, or any kind of note, or taking a walk ... or reading a book together. It's not about the generic mainstream idea of what is romantic to everyone else and girls in general. Knowing specific things, big or small, that I would find touching is being romantic to me. And that is what I enjoy doing for my partner as well. In lots of little ways, regularly. Not just once a year or on their birthday.

~ Journaling together
~ Letters & notes
~ Doing puzzles together
~ Sharing music & other forms of art
~ Admiring nature & other places together
~ Having home-cooked meals together
~ Movie binging
~ Nerding out over stuff together
~ Genuine affection, at random times too
~ Hands on things they need help with

Obviously my love languages are quality time & touch.



I too am the language of quality time! I think it's essential in getting to know one and another!

[AmazonDC]

I like to think I am very romantic but you would have to ask Gemme...:wine:

[Gemme]

I like to think I am very romantic but you would have to ask Gemme...:wine:

You are!!!!