Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

[fatallyblonde]

Starting my first new thread :nervous:

anyway, I am interested, my fellow femmes, in what makes you feel sexy. Not in a general sort of way... but what you find helps you come back to yourself when you feel run down, or frumpy, or rejected or out of touch (or all of the above!)... how do you get back to a feeling of sensuality and sexiness that gives you a morale boost and makes you feel strong once more?

For me, I find if I take the time to set my hair in curlers and then do a nice brush out, this really gives me a massive boost. My hair looks good, which means I feel a lot better about how I look and that gives me confidence. Without styling my hair really doesn't do anything and a lot of my self-esteem is attached to being well-presented so even just doing my hair can make me feel a lot more in control and therefore a lot more confident.

Another thing is, if I am really run down and stressed out and exhausted and don't feel like my body is properly mine anymore, if I can afford it I go and get an hour or two hour full body massage. Having my aches and pains soothed away and being coaxed into reconnecting with my physical self through touch really is restorative for me and again, it gives me confidence that makes me feel present in my body and that makes me feel sexy.

Of course, it isn't necessary or important to feel sexy all the time... sometimes I just want to slob around in my pajamas with a cup of tea and be a quiet little recluse and that, in its own way, can be just as restorative and soothing to me as feeling like a bombshell does.

What works for you?

[Femminator]

I usually go for a nice long run and then take a hot shower. I get all smelling girly, and dolled up and, that usually does it for me. Knowing my body can DO that, run for 3 miles and feel not out of breath or whatever, makes me feel really strong and sexy.

[Erryl]

Lingerie and makeup. :)

[~ocean]

my booty jeans ~

[LaneyDoll]

Two words...

My guy.

:sparklyheart:

[candy_coated_bitch]

Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Nice underwear and a nice bra.

A bubble bath.

Putting on nice lotion that smells and feels good.

Just a few.

[LaneyDoll]

Taking the time for the extra details. Even if I'm doing it just for myself, and sometimes it matters even more then. Instead of running out of the house dressed like crap--wearing a nice outfit, taking time to do make up, doing my hair. Make up is one that makes a big difference for me. Sometimes I will play with make up when I am home alone and not going anywhere and it makes me happy.

Damn I wish you lived closer! We could play make up together!!!

:sparklyheart:

[Venus007]

I love to do my make up, to play around with it. It always makes me feel good to paint my face, lol.

I also love dressing up, big black boots and a pencil skirt, fish nets, porn queen lips and going to some swanky bar and smoking a cigar and drinking a really fine bourbon. It reminds me that I am a woman to be reckoned with when I am feeling beat down.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Taking care of mysel and knowing I can. The thing that makes me feel better than anything is a sense of independence. That gives me the freedom to feel frumpy without feeling fear, without feeling crushed, without feeling that it will cause horrible things. Then being frumpy for a bit is just frumpy. It isn't loaded with all the other things that go with it.

A run. Some hot Thai soup. A spa bath. My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks. To gain control over how I feel about myself takes more than just a face pack. It means I need the independence and space to wrestle my own shit and to assert my abilities with only myself.

It was hell getting to that point though. And it felt deathly lonely, not looking after people, not being important to someone, not being so needed in someone's daily life.
Now I would not give my feeling of strength in my independence for anything. Not even falling in love. Jesus, especially not that. What makes me feel beautiful is knowledge and confidence in my own self. On my own. And that I am the one that is control of my own life.

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence. And the sense of peace and independence and capability I have in comparison to the fear and anxiety of being afraid of being found unworthy... I still get it sometimes, but when I see what's causing it, I change something. Sometimes it's leaving the environment that makes me feel that way.

Actually to be honest it's mostly that. I no longer have to put up with stressors I don't have to. I leave. I find that makes my life a lot easier and my self confidence a lot higher. :)

[Random]

What makes me feel sexy?

when I'm confident in myself and my own power..

for me.. it starts within and flows without..

[Venus007]

My own space, and a lot of it. Usually days or weeks.

For me that is not just feeling sexy that is necessary for my sanity. A lot of people get weird when they are alone too long, I am the exact opposite. Keep me around people and not alone, I get real twitchy and cranky.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Waking up in the morning, hair looks great, it's all tossed and flipped out, slipping on a sundress and flip flops and driving with the music on sunshine warming up my legs.. I love Sunday morning drive sexy...

[tantalizingfemme]

For me, feeling sexy involves self care, which I forget to do a lot as I get caught up in taking care of everything and everyone else. I love it when I allow myself the time to take a long hot shower, shave everywhere so I am nice and bare, and condition my hair with a deep conditioner. Putting a thick layer of lotion all over my body top's it off.

The feel of clothing brushing over my shaved skin is sensual to me....

[fatallyblonde]

I know that's probably not what you meant, but I read what gives me back my self confidence...

Actually that's exactly what I meant... what gives you back your sense of self, your own inner strength that makes you feel in control... and then makes you feel sexy.

I asked partly because this last two years has been very hard for me, I had a nervous breakdown and so I have spent a lot of time being 'frumpy'... not being dressed up, not going out, I stopped performing burlesque, I haven't been dating, I've been a quiet recluse... I learned that taking care of myself the way I need to is something that returns me to myself... that sexy isn't just putting on a tight dress... it's also self-possession and ownership...

I think all means and methods are valid! I've really enjoyed everyone's answers.

[RockOn]

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

[The_Lady_Snow]

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.


I don't believe that is why Femme's post their empowerment, to make others feel sexual, I think it's something we do that fuels us, charges our battery so we can take on the world in our Feminine shell.

[RockOn]

Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.

[tantalizingfemme]

I wanted to find out what makes the femmes feel sexy.
After reading all the posts, now I'm feeling sexual. ;)

Better duck out before I get into trouble for posting in here.

Personally this post makes me feel oogy about what I wrote in here.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Snowy, I knew that before you posted it. I am in a playful mood tonight.



I don't mean to be a cunt, or be mean, I am only trying to explain to you that when the women.femmes.feminine people of our community start exposing intimate things such as what makes *THEM* feel sexy and someone sexualizes it, it's ickie.


Look around your world, women get sexualized enough without consent.

I didn't share my intimate posting of a sundress on my skin after bed to take a drive for your enjoyment, I did it because I thought about it, for a long time, I examined deep within myself, asked myself what *MAKES ME* feel sexy.


It was like excavating, it always is for me as a Femme to do so cause in the back of my head I am wondering, who's gonna turn this into more than it is.


That's all I was trying to make you understand.

[RockOn]

Okay, let me make an apology to everyone for being offensive.

I am sorry.

No excuse for my initial post. I have been in a playful mood today and when I read about a bubble bath, it reminded me of someone. This very special someone is not anyone from BFP. I made a poor choice by posting in this femme forum and made matters worse with content that offended.

Hope everyone can forgive, forget and move on.
That's all I have
Out of here now.
Sincerely,
Brock

[Gemme]

Self care is high on my list, like most of you have posted. Regardless of what is done, taking the time to put into myself continues all the good juju and happy happy joy joy mentality. Happiness flows downhill, from the head to the toes.

[C0LLETTE]

Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.



I enjoy validation as well, I guess for some folks (like myself) the validation comes from within, self acknowledgement is a powerful thing, no one loves me or takes care of me like I do.. Therefore I set the foundation of how others see me that I want to see me.


Make sense?

[C0LLETTE]

Sure.
Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist".

[The_Lady_Snow]

Sure.
Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist".


Good for your Mom!!! Good thing she never let anyone dictate what she is or isn't!!

[Gráinne]

Self-care, not just of the physical but even more the intellectual. An afternoon reading, taking myself out for a good meal, recharges me. Taking care of my environment, not just the bedroom. Having balance with the physical, intellectual, and spiritual.

I don't know if feeling "sexy" is always about wanting sex per se, but I love feeling confident and more put-together and that makes me more apt to feel that little "woo" ;).

[GeeGina]

Lots of things make me feel sexy...from a new pair of shoes to feeling like I've taken very good care of myself.

Sometimes, it's the combination of the right pair of jeans and a favorite sweater while taking the subway into work...other times it's a snappy answer to a smart question.

Sometimes the most superficial things make me feel sexy...and other times it's the real stuff of substance.

Sometimes a look from a man makes me feel very sexy ("Look all you want, brother...'cause none of this is for you!" - haha) and other times a good, long stare from a woman across a bar or party. Validation - aka "independent confirmation" - does have its benefits. Plus. I'll be honest as there are some days and nights when I'm not just dressing for the weather...

I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual.

Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us.

[princessbelle]

There are many things that make me feel sexy. Here is just a few...

Getting a new outfit or new shoes.

A long hot bath with candles and bubble bath.

Getting a new mani and pedi.

New bedding, something cute to wear and cuddle up in the sheets.

One of the other things that come to mind is wearing "his" white dress shirt, nothing else, and puttzing around the house. If my partner likes it that is a bonus. If not, it's really not that much of a consequence. Heck, i do that when i'm totally alone. *I* feel sexy dressed that way and feeling sexy is definitely something that comes from within.

Nice thread.

[Random]

red toenail polish in peeptoes shoes

It makes me wiggle my toes and say *aren't they just so pretty*

[1TruFemme]

red toenail polish in peeptoes shoes

It makes me wiggle my toes and say *aren't they just so pretty*

Too funny, I was about to respond to say the same thing. I just had mine done Friday and it made me feel so much better after a really crappy week. I even had to take a pic.

[Candelion]

A sexy butch reaching over to push a strand of hair back from my face. :wine:

[Bèsame*]

All things lacy. Even more so with bows :)

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[Gemme]

I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual.

Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us.

To answer your first question, it's like free speech. Just because you CAN say something doesn't mean you SHOULD say something.

This is a thread for femmes, in the femme zone and it's reasonable to request that it be free of anything that may feel like leering or that our responses are somehow designed to turn someone else on. To me, the thread is just for us and we don't always get to allow ourselves to be sexy or show that we feel sexy because someone can and often will, turn that against us in a 'we said that just for them' kind of way. It's unsettling.

There's a certain vulnerability when you reveal someone personal to oneself and to have someone....even someone whose intention was not unkind....come in and say that what some of what we said turned them on, that feels unfair to me.

As Snowy said, we get this kind of behavior in the world on a regular basis. That doesn't make it right or okay here.

Brock, thank you for apologizing. We all speak before thinking at one time or another. It happens. How one handles it afterwards shows a lot about that person and their intentions and I don't think the intention was malicious. Just that what happened was inconsiderate.

As for your second question which I underlined, this question makes me feel uneasy because it's very close to 'she was wearing a short skirt and deserved it' in my head. I take ownership of that leap but I still feel that it's not unreasonable to expect to post in this thread, in this particular forum, without judgement or someone taking ownership of what is not theirs to take.

[1TruFemme]

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.

[lamuymuyfem]

Actually that's exactly what I meant... what gives you back your sense of self, your own inner strength that makes you feel in control... and then makes you feel sexy.

I asked partly because this last two years has been very hard for me, I had a nervous breakdown and so I have spent a lot of time being 'frumpy'... not being dressed up, not going out, I stopped performing burlesque, I haven't been dating, I've been a quiet recluse...

I have been a quiet recluse for about 8 years. My sweetie and I are just starting out, and I find that it is all so exciting but also strange to be in a relationship again. If you are healing from such a deep emotional crisis, take extra good care of yourself now. Continually seek out what pleases or feeds you and go toward it. And maybe some lipstick or cat eyes or something might help….lol….you never know…..

[lamuymuyfem]

Ay que pelao el puro pelao liking the post about the lace bra…..lol

[lamuymuyfem]

Touching a butch's buzz cut

Making my eyes up in a way that would make any drag queen proud

Wearing my lucky leopard print bra

All my tops that show a little cleavage

All my tops that show cleavage and maybe a hint of the leopard print bra

Music with a good beat or heavy duty congas

Having my 'femmeness' appreciated, i.e., complimented on a dress

Getting cruised

Being called 'mami'

K.D. Lang's voice
(OK, anything about K.D. Lang….)

FLIRTING!

When a butch stares at your lips for a second before kissing you

[Gemme]

When a butch stares at your lips for a second before kissing you

This doesn't necessarily make me feel sexy directly but I do feel powerful and strong when it happens with the right person and those feelings tend to lend toward my sexiness.

Good answer.

[lamuymuyfem]

She was trying to change a tire at the time so the pre-kiss look was definitely the sexiest thing going on…….lol

[Sweet Bliss]

:bellydancer:

oh yah ... drums beating... sexy outfit ... in my super happy place :)

[EmJay]

My butch <3 Makes me feel so many amazing things. Sexy is definitely near the top of the list.

It's important for me to be with someone who makes me feel sexy. I never would have thought this, but after being with someone who didn't make me feel that way, I am highly appreciative of someone who does.

Thank you xo

[nicegirl88]

That look. You know the look. It can be a stranger that watches from afar, or a lover that gazes at you during dinner. You can see the lust in their eyes, that need to lay their hands on you. This is what makes me feel sexy.

[Candelion]

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.


Yes! Yes!! YES!!!

[C0LLETTE]

A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.

If that's the case, I think I've made hundreds of women (and men) feel sexy...sometimes two at a time ... who knew that a herding impulse could be sexy lol

[Candelion]

If that's the case, I think I've made hundreds of women (and men) feel sexy...sometimes two at a time ... who knew that a herding impulse could be sexy lol


Lol. I'm sure you have, Collette. But seriously, it's about keeping the physical connection while making your way through a crowd. The raw physical need of your butch to keep some thread of connection. VERY sexy! (f)

[Katniss]

Competency. Mastering a sport or acitivity that was at the start physically or mentally challenging. I've been learning chess for the past year and if the game is well-matched and well played I can feel very hot to trot!

Having and maintaining a strong, healthy body to the best of my ability. Feeding my brain and spiritual side with good books, art and music.


Sailing. The physical demands, sunshine, wind, current, and blue sky all combine to an amazing endorphine rush. (I'll show you a 3 hour tour....):sunglass:

It's interesting to me what makes me feel sexy has nothing to do with having any input or even interaction with another. I guess it really is true that "self-love is never so great a sin as self-neglect."


Katniss~~

[The_Lady_Snow]

Dancing, the girating, vibrating, sweat, sex, salt, scents that mix during the right song in a smoke, drink filled dance floor right after morning bids a farewell to night...:::::

:moonstars:

[candy_coated_bitch]

There are lots of things that make me feel sexy that both are internal that I do just for me, but also absolutely others have the power to give me a jolt of sexy as well. I don't think that's a bad thing unless you rely soley on others to MAKE you feel sexy.

Some things others do that can make me feel sexy:

-give me *THAT* submissive look
-a hand on the small of my back, as well
-come up to me out of nowhere and give me a passionate kiss
-cook a nice meal for me
-give me a bath

[cinnamongrrl]

may sound strange but.....

wearing a men's button down dress shirt.. (and just the shirt).....with hys scent lingering on it....and then mingling with my own...

in my experience.....

they tend to like it a lot too..... :sunglass:

[Kenna]

Wearing my corset, with thigh high black hose, my (almost knee high) black leather boots, lace undies under my long dark purple silk robe... and the mental space this puts me in.

Mostly this "space" is very rare for me to feel or show...so when I do, I like to make it a very special treat and I relish in the experience of how silk and corset makes me FEEL ...

[Licious]

What makes me feel sexy? Lots of things... but for this post I will say:

Extra eye makeup, not my usual light routine but when I take time to do pussycat eyeliner, etc. for an evening look.

My best perfume.

A push up bra, not just the look of it but the feeling of it snugly holding my breasts....

Mastering a new skill, probably because it instills confidence and confidence seems to make my sense of sexy rise.

Great topic!

[Candelion]

may sound strange but.....

wearing a men's button down dress shirt.. (and just the shirt).....with hys scent lingering on it....and then mingling with my own...

in my experience.....

they tend to like it a lot too..... :sunglass:

VERY nice. For myself I would add wearing a pair of lace French-cut panties. I love the contrast of masculine clothing with the ultra feminine. ;)

[Venus007]

When I am feeling nervous about a meeting if I, under my suit, wear truly decadent well fitting under bits it replaces the nervous with sexy

[Candelion]

Coming home from work and immediately diving into an entertaining story about my day. Overwhelmed by my adorableness (what? I can be adorable), hy pushes me up against the wall and kisses me hard. Okay, okay, hy was probably just trying to shut me up. But still...very sexy.

[tiaras-and-books]

Dance classes make a big difference for me. I think it's partly that they help me let go of a lot of stress, plus endorphins, but I also think that it helps a lot in reconnecting me with my body. After a dance class I feel whole, engaged, and like my whole body is alive. I actually feel alive instead of just knowing it.

[Asari]

Ironically the same thing that made me feel ugly in the past: swimming (and wearing a bikini). Once I'm in the pool I feel so light and smooth and while gliding through the water I'm aware of my whole body. :stillheart:

Oh and skirts with over knee socks as well!

[Ginger]

Exercise and enough sleep.

[deedarino]

i feel the most sexy when I am doing something considered masculine...chopping wood, working outside, fixing something (uber simple) on my truck. Just a touch of dirt and sweat...

[Sweet Bliss]

Breathing....

[Femmadian]

Things I do for me:

-Smooth legs with a skirt and high quality heels to show them off
-New makeup, and the good stuff, too! Stila mascara does wonders!
-Freshly cut and straightened hair (after growing up with ringlets all of my life, being introduced to my first flat iron was magical! Being able to easily run my own fingers through my hair is such a luxury)
-Hearing the clinking sound of my own jewelry as I move
-Really nice and, er, supportive undergarments...
-Putting my giant sunglasses on, windows down in my Jeep, feeling the wind in my hair, and catching a glimpse of myself in the rear view mirror and truthfully liking what I see.
-Crossing my legs in a skirt. Sometimes it's the simple things.
-Going to an art gallery/theatre/highbrow university event and feeling like I both look the part and belong there. Growing up working class, this is something that is important to me and boosts my self-image in a really powerful way. It's hard to explain to those who haven't been there, but it's huge.
-Giving myself the perfect French manicure. What a feat! :-p


Things they can do for me:

-Hand on the small of my back or on my thigh while driving
-Gently moving my hair to the side before kissing my neck
-Nuzzling my neck to better enjoy my perfume
-Small, tasteful public displays of affection (back rub, quick peck, holding out my coat [yes, this counts], etc.). I think it's important to acknowledge your partner on a regular basis when appropriate and safe to do so.
-Spontaneous romantic gestures "just because."
-Cupping my face before/during a slow kiss. So sexy.
-The infamous butch smirk (or butch blush, depending on said butch). And to know that I caused that. Or the amused/devilish butch eyebrow-cocking. GAWD. How do you do that?
-Burying their face in my---WHAT? :-p

[SirenManda]

The acknowledgement of my own self worth. Seeing/hearing others confirm what I already know about myself can help self esteem and personal growth.

And reactions. Seeing someone affected by me gives me a natural high.

[starryeyes]

Heels, stockings, flirty dresses, eyebrow waxing, pedicures, Big Sexy Hair hairspray, feeling protected, feeling loved.

[Femmadian]

-That "fresh-out-of-the-shower" feeling
-The resounding, firm "click" of a really nice pair of heels in a relatively empty/quiet public place with hard floors. Makes me super aware of my own presence and feminine presentation
-Really close, intimate, long (30 seconds or more) hugs
-Those days you go shopping and everything fits! :-o
-Silk sheets, smooth legs, a window cracked open, and someone to warm me up...
-That heady, heavy-lidded expression on their face as you pull away from a kiss
-Leaning back into a deliciously hot bath while they sit on the edge of the tub...

[Venus007]

Exercising power in its many forms

[Shystonefem]

Getting noticed..... not for my house cleaning, not for my brain but just for me. Don't get mad at me if I spend a couple of hours per week on my appearance, it is who I am. I am also a professional so if I don't come home until 7, don't be mad --- let's go to dinner. After work, I am yours but.... if I am late coming home, know that I need that for me... and, while you are one of the most important people in my life, I am not less important. I am not jealous, I am not vindictive.... just let me be me and I'll let you be you but please, notice me.

[gotoseagrl]

~ Painting my natural nails that don't need acrylic
~ Cooking & baking for my Partner
~ Vintage styles
~ Classical music, depending on the circumstances
~ Wearing some makeup that is just enough, no extremes
~ Looking "pretty" specifically for That Person
~ The look between eyes say all that words don't need to
~ Handwriting letters
~ Being soft-spoken
~ Being the one carrying the purse
~ Long skirts at the beach, walking in the breeze barefoot
~ Wearing light, sweet scents that are not too strong (baby lotion, a little body spray)
~ my crazy socks at bedtimes (from Betty Boop to all colors of the rainbow)

[Gemme]

Lately, it's been taking better care of myself that has flipped my trigger. Exercise, maintenance, sleeping more, cooking for myself instead of nuking something and things of that nature. Oh, and pairing a tiny top that's kind of like a sports bra and a camisole had a baby with a darling pair of low-riding pajama pants. For some reason, the way these two items lay on my body makes me feel sexy.

[Femminator]

I love my sundresses. I feel so sexy and girly in them. My Butch gives me that special look when I have on one of my favorite sundress. Every year we have a carnival that sells bohemian sundresses and I get two. My Butch goes with me and and she helps me choose which ones I want. I have 6 now.

[grenade]

-jeans that hug my ass so tight they feel like a second skin.
-perfume. My 2 current faves are Jimmy Choo and Gucci- Guilty Black. Scents are intoxicating.
-when I let my hair down at the end of the day and strip down to almost nothing...the almost makes it sexy.
-slow, smooth hands, running over my curves.
-pantyhose, stockings, heels, boots.
-anything leather.
-dresses. That's why I own a few.
-showing skin. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist at times.
-freshly done nails. The way my feet and legs feel after a pedi.
-music you can slow dance to.
-a drink or three. lol

[Martina]

Sexy not as in ready to fuck but sexy as in still sorta bad-ass for an old lady --


Figuring out a thorny problem at work and seeing the positive outcome
Taking off and driving somewhere just because I've never been there before
Seeing my not insubstantial check show up in my bank account every month
Applying for some jobs just to gauge the market and having every single one call me for an interview.
Righteous acts of rebellion -- like supporting my union
Hard work outside
Getting whatever done without a lot of striving and fretting because I am old and have done it before -- many times.
Catching myself doing something that reminds me of my great aunts and the long line of strong women who came before me.

[nekohl]

I've found getting my legs waxed gives me that so sexy feeling. The warm wax, the snap and sting, and then the smoothness. Makes me walk around with a sexy inner smile for awhile.

[clodie]

Looking good in general gives me confidence, but there's nothing like a red lipstick. My lips are small and being able to slightly enlarge them with make up just makes me look so much more feminine, looking feminine is confidence for me... because that's who I am inside.

[MsTinkerbelly]

It's interesting that since i became so ill, i have a really hard time feeling sexy. My fighting with social security, the lack of energy, loss of focus toward a goal, my rapidly decreasing memory and just life in general are working together to make me feel worthless.

So for ME, sexy seems to be tied into how i feel, and how i feel about myself. My wife still thinks I'm sexy and shows it in many ways (thank God), but I'm hoping that i can get my "sexy" back soon.

[gotoseagrl]

A private request to read aloud. :nerd:

[FlaFem84]

Certain outfits.

From time to time I like to wear skirts.
Most of the times tho I'm much more of a jeans type. I love tight jeans that fit perfectly. I also like shirts that show a little cleavage but not with them falling out or over doing it. Tank tops of course. Shorts and bathing suit top. Hair being down. Having my nails done. Oh yeah I also love my boots.

Those are some of the things.

[bicentennialjenn]

Looking good in general gives me confidence, but there's nothing like a red lipstick. My lips are small and being able to slightly enlarge them with make up just makes me look so much more feminine, looking feminine is confidence for me... because that's who I am inside.

i adore red lipstick. don't see others wearing it much. i'm always on a quest for the best brand and shade of red. i feel instantly better once i'm wearing it.

[Shystonefem]

Those mornings when my hair is just the right kind of messy and it looks like a hot mess.

Right after a workout at the gym

My little black dress with my highest heels.

When I get that "look"

[thedreamerin]

To feel like I'm sexy? I'll give myself a full body scrub, scrub my face and everywhere else. Get myself nicely smooth shaven, and rub oil in my skin. Maybe if I am feeling particularly in the mood I put on my little negligee. I know I have no one to look at it, but I feel sexy with all that blue lace on me :).

[imperfect_cupcake]

These days it's very hard to feel sexy outside of the house. Student life of no time or money to look pretty - I have to cut my own hair (and I can't cut hair), massage oil stained gender neutral worn school clothes to do practical labs and study group in, Wearing just hand me downs from my moms friends in the praries (over sized potato sack shapeless clothing in very unflattering shades of brown and grey), no time for make up, wieght gain as the study intensity picks up, working in the clinic till 10pm then getting up at 6:45 and running to school to be there at 8:15 to start all over again, study groups all weekend long...

I feel the most worn out, ugly, unsexy, unattractive I have in four years (when my exwife and I were too poor to eat properly or have any money to even take the bus to socialise). I even had a group of people make fun of the way I look on the train coming home late from clinic the other night.

So it's hard to keep any kind of bodily self esteem up. Instead I am focusing on how much good I am doing for my career, how often I help people stop being in physical pain, how incredibly competent I feel about myself that in NO WAY has ANYTHING to do with what I look like. For the first time in my life as a feminine woman, my value is finally not associated with how I look. But my skills, intelligence and capability.

And I suddenly realise just how suffocating that cage can be - being valued for sex appeal - since I'm no longer in it. Yes, I feel a loss because it's what our value is intrinsically based on: first be pretty and sexy. THEN you can be smart, capable and skilled. But when you arent pretty/sexy *first*?

You have very little social value as a feminine gal. And I FEEL that lack of social value, quite hard.

At least, this is my epiphany. And one I've been told over and over and didn't emotionally understand it till now.

So I'm trying to just be here. And absorb this lesson.

[Kätzchen]

When a person expresses how much pleasure they experience when involved in an intelligent conversation with me. This makes me feel entirely sexy, to be appreciated for my intelligence.

[catlady]

I like to play my violin or any other instruments when I feel icky. Something about playing music helps me feel connected and sexy again.

[grenade]

I'm bringing sexy back. (Bump)

[Gemme]

Right now, in this moment? I'm sweaty.

Not sticky sweaty but half evaporated sweat from a good workout sweaty. Part of it is endorphins but there's something slightly erotic about seeing a fine sheen upon my body and feeling strong and powerful from the effort I made to get there. It plays to the raw, disheveled porno sexy part of me.

[TL1]

Right now, in this moment? I'm sweaty.

Not sticky sweaty but half evaporated sweat from a good workout sweaty. Part of it is endorphins but there's something slightly erotic about seeing a fine sheen upon my body and feeling strong and powerful from the effort I made to get there. It plays to the raw, disheveled porno sexy part of me.


Yup, that's sexy :)

[Zimmeh]

Having someone respect me for being a quirky girl that likes to talk a lot about my pup and family.

Zimmeh

[Gráinne]

Returning to this thread:

On a purely physical sexy level, it would be taking a long swim and soaking in the hot tub. Then I like to scrub myself down and shave. Wow!

But the rest didn't change that much; taking care of my environment, solving problems, feeling in control of myself and that no matter what, I can take care of myself. Confidence is sexy.

[Genesis]

What a fantastic thread idea!
What brings me back to my center and makes me feel sexy....

Spending a day with my Beloved the ocean
Walking on the grass or on the sand near the coast and being present...
Pampering myself with a good book, writing, dancing, and learning
A facial will do wonders!
Taking me time to nourish all my levels: heart, mind, soul, spirit and self...

[Talon]

Taking a hot bath, slipping on a silky nightgown, and then sitting outside in the evening, in front of a bonfire.

[Arden]

walking tall in heels with head held high wearing "that" dress

noticing that a cute butch is noticing you....

[l'Cie]

What makes me feel sexy? Doing my hair and make-up definitely. Can't leave the house without doing that. Even if I'm just grabbing some milk and cheese at the store.

Feeling strong and awesome after a workout, knowing that my body is capable of amazing things.

My favorite perfume...really really makes me feel sexy when I'm wearing it

[CherylNYC]

If I'm wearing revealing outfit and high heels, and then I notice the definition in the muscles of my arms and shoulders. I feel sexy when I feel physically powerful.

[grenade]

Wearing my hair down. I wear it up a lot because it's quick, professional and much cooler. I always feel dowdy with my hair up, though.

[Gemme]

Wearing my hair down. I wear it up a lot because it's quick, professional and much cooler. I always feel dowdy with my hair up, though.

Because of the heat and the length and weight of my hair (to my waist), I have to put mine up all the time in summer too and it's never a chic bun or trendy style....just an old school marm bun so I get this. I prefer my hair down as well, it's just not feasible above 70 degrees.

[dark_crystal]

Right now? Not being sweaty

[Bèsame*]

Because of the heat and the length and weight of my hair (to my waist), I have to put mine up all the time in summer too and it's never a chic bun or trendy style....just an old school marm bun so I get this. I prefer my hair down as well, it's just not feasible above 70 degrees.

oh yeah, the hair in Texas, what to do?

My hair is so thick, it feels like a turtleneck or scarf, the heat is on. I usually twist it up , but make it cute with swirls, puffs, and accessories!

When the weather cools down, I'll forget what my hair length really is, and it will be LONG...lol

[grenade]

Because of the heat and the length and weight of my hair (to my waist), I have to put mine up all the time in summer too and it's never a chic bun or trendy style....just an old school marm bun so I get this. I prefer my hair down as well, it's just not feasible above 70 degrees.

Mine is to my waist, also. I am the queen of the messy bun. I get compliments but day after day, it's so old.

[Teaandroses3]

Getting my hair and nails done, wearing a new dress, and going out.

[Gayandgray]

Mine is to my waist, also. I am the queen of the messy bun. I get compliments but day after day, it's so old.

I'm a messy bun queen too!!!!

[imperfect_cupcake]

These days?
Being chatted to like my looks don't matter and my brain and sense of humour does.

Buying expensive sex toys for myself. Fun factory stronic line. Hello.

[legally_b10nde]

Trying on a new lingerie set with matching high heels on front of a full size mirror.

[homoe]

Trying on a new lingerie set with matching high heels on front of a full size mirror.

Who wouldn't find that sexy :sunglass:

[Gemme]

Who wouldn't find that sexy :sunglass:

Femmes that don't like or can't wear high heels or don't like or don't want to wear lingerie, for example.

:police:

Femmes are very individual.

For example, I feel my sexiest when I'm strong and I'm at my strongest when I'm getting a good workout and using my body with intent. Can't wear heels and lingerie in the gym and get a good workout in, plus it is against most gym decency or proper dress clauses.

[femmeandstrong]

When the combination of brains...love for nature..lazy Sunday mornings...appreciation for when I am all femmed up...
And love of good food .... photography....
Meets its match ....♡

[grenade]

Good eyebrow days make me feel sexy.

[Gemme]

Good eyebrow days make me feel sexy.

People underestimate a good eyebrow day.

[DapperButch]

People underestimate a good eyebrow day.

I actually have great respect for well done eyebrows on women. It's true. I notice them and comment on them. I think well done eyebrows are very important to the overall "look" to a woman's face. I think it is more common to see poorly done eyebrows than well shaped eyebrows. Of course, when I say shape I mean more than just the arch. But, I assume everyone knows this.

Anyway, it seems to me you have to have a good "eye" for it. Not every woman/man can do it well.

[TL1]

I feel singled out. I got told butches aren't supposed to post here and yet butches are posting here and the person who told me isn't saying anything. So wtf lol



Ok as you were........

[Gemme]

I actually have great respect for well done eyebrows on women. It's true. I notice them and comment on them. I think well done eyebrows are very important to the overall "look" to a woman's face. I think it is more common to see poorly done eyebrows than well shaped eyebrows. Of course, when I say shape I mean more than just the arch. But, I assume everyone knows this.

Anyway, it seems to me you have to have a good "eye" for it. Not every woman/man can do it well.

Very nice. Thank you.

Now get out.

Said with love and affection, of course.

I feel singled out. I got told butches aren't supposed to post here and yet butches are posting here and the person who told me isn't saying anything. So wtf lol



Ok as you were........

You were not singled out. If you go back through the thread from the beginning, you would see that femmes have been pretty strict about this being a femme zone only and not being oogled or sexualized by butches or transguys that come in here.

Personally, I'm more receptive to messages like Dapper just posted versus posts that lean more towards viewing femmes in objectifying ways.

Also, not all messages are posted on the boards. Some are private.

[Bèsame*]

All things lacy....

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/25/ec/74/25ec74b8bd36a55d1f10896ff3aec8e7.jpg

[Bubala]

the way Hy looks at me... that subtle change in Hys voice...

[easygoingfemme]

Femmes that don't like or can't wear high heels or don't like or don't want to wear lingerie, for example.

:police:

Femmes are very individual.



Exactly. I'm an idiot in high heels and I don't have a body type that works with a lot of lingerie. I don't really like it anyway.

I'm at my best when I'm healthy, exercising, happy, and being valued.
Also new on my list of things is being on the back of my butches bike when she reaches back to hold my leg while we're cruising along. Yup. That's good stuff there.

[DapperButch]

I apologize to Gemme and the other femmes. I strongly support femme only space.

[introverted1]

Are butches really not allowed to post here? I welcome their input!

As an aside, I have seen femme posts in the Butch zone...

[introverted1]

I feel completely sexy when I put on lacy underthings...there's nothing like it!

[A. Spectre]

Are butches really not allowed to post here? I welcome their input!


My femme is so so sexy when she gets out her Makita and drives a screw, we give each other that look. A femme with power tools is extremely hot. When she talks about architecture, art, science, her Facebook friends. It's all hot.

[Gemme]

Are butches really not allowed to post here? I welcome their input!

As an aside, I have seen femme posts in the Butch zone...

It's in the femme zone and sometimes there are topics that femmes, in general, don't feel the need to get outside input for. Also, sometimes, people act like dipshits and post misogynistic or sexist crap or just come to ogle (although that's usually mostly in the lingerie thread), which we get enough of in the real world. It would take a bit of research but this has been rehashed a few times in some femme zone threads throughout the years.

Courteous posts usually aren't problematic but what kind of input do you need from a butch about what a femme thinks makes her feel sexy? Just curious because it's about the femme and for the femme and really doesn't have anything to do with butches or transguys unless you are thinking about the femmes that need a butch's look or touch to give them that sexy feeling. Is that what you are referring to? Those that seek outside appreciation or validation?

[deeds]

curtsy..lol

I won't come in here anymore.. I appreciate, understand and respect a Femme who keeps sacred and private places with themselves..tho I wanna know what turns her on so I can be all that and more for her in private places...

:byebye:

[candy_coated_bitch]

Painted nails!

[introverted1]

It's in the femme zone and sometimes there are topics that femmes, in general, don't feel the need to get outside input for. Also, sometimes, people act like dipshits and post misogynistic or sexist crap or just come to ogle (although that's usually mostly in the lingerie thread), which we get enough of in the real world. It would take a bit of research but this has been rehashed a few times in some femme zone threads throughout the years.

Courteous posts usually aren't problematic but what kind of input do you need from a butch about what a femme thinks makes her feel sexy? Just curious because it's about the femme and for the femme and really doesn't have anything to do with butches or transguys unless you are thinking about the femmes that need a butch's look or touch to give them that sexy feeling. Is that what you are referring to? Those that seek outside appreciation or validation?

Duly noted, Gemme...perhaps the butches will give me permission to post an all inclusive thread in their section.

Any butches who are interested in this, please give me a yea or a nay. And of course, I would expect respectful, yet HONEST opinions. ;)

[introverted1]

curtsy..lol

I won't come in here anymore.. I appreciate, understand and respect a Femme who keeps sacred and private places with themselves..tho I wanna know what turns her on so I can be all that and more for her in private places...

:byebye:

It was just this sort of honest communication I was looking for, deeds.

[Gemme]

curtsy..lol

I won't come in here anymore.. I appreciate, understand and respect a Femme who keeps sacred and private places with themselves..tho I wanna know what turns her on so I can be all that and more for her in private places...

:byebye:

But this isn't a 'what turns you on' thread. Feeling sexy or confident with one's body really has nothing to do with anyone but that person, in most cases. It's the feeling of satin on her skin or the smell of her favorite perfume or doing something that may be ordinary but it's just for her so that makes it special. It's not about sex, necessarily. One can feel sexy without having sex or feeling the need to do so.

There are 'what turns you on' threads on the site if you search for them but if you are that interested in someone, why not ask that person? The things that turns one person on is a turn off for the next.

[Gemme]

Starting my first new thread :nervous:

anyway, I am interested, my fellow femmes, in what makes you feel sexy. Not in a general sort of way... but what you find helps you come back to yourself when you feel run down, or frumpy, or rejected or out of touch (or all of the above!)... how do you get back to a feeling of sensuality and sexiness that gives you a morale boost and makes you feel strong once more?

For me, I find if I take the time to set my hair in curlers and then do a nice brush out, this really gives me a massive boost. My hair looks good, which means I feel a lot better about how I look and that gives me confidence. Without styling my hair really doesn't do anything and a lot of my self-esteem is attached to being well-presented so even just doing my hair can make me feel a lot more in control and therefore a lot more confident.

Another thing is, if I am really run down and stressed out and exhausted and don't feel like my body is properly mine anymore, if I can afford it I go and get an hour or two hour full body massage. Having my aches and pains soothed away and being coaxed into reconnecting with my physical self through touch really is restorative for me and again, it gives me confidence that makes me feel present in my body and that makes me feel sexy.

Of course, it isn't necessary or important to feel sexy all the time... sometimes I just want to slob around in my pajamas with a cup of tea and be a quiet little recluse and that, in its own way, can be just as restorative and soothing to me as feeling like a bombshell does.

What works for you?

For those who aren't sure, this is the OP's intention and desire for the thread.

[deeds]

For those who aren't sure, this is the OP's intention and desire for the thread.

*putting on my dress and hiking up my skirt*sneaking in..again..
I believe I understand you Gemme:| I do agree wholeheartedly that it is about you feeling sexy for and within your own body..This is not the "what turns me on thread"
And that's good advice if interested in someone just ask them,precisely because of femme uniqueness,but that could open up a whole new thread in and of itself.

[Sweet Bliss]

I don't mind if peeps other than Femme's read the posts, but this is a thread exclusively for Femme discussion, not the general public.

I think some folks just can't resist making comments about topics that don't pertain to them. Reading the first original post will tell us who the OP is addressing. Since this is a very personal and sometimes painful journey back to ourselves, I think I will refrain from posting in here about my journey back to wholeness.

It's not a lark or instructions on how to get a Femme's attention or get into her head so it will turn on "command". This is an example of how to piss me off when I'm exposing my vulnerable side in public. So not happening. Great question. It's a journey, a process, and for each Femme, unique. Be nice if we had Femme Sacred Centers to retreat to when we are raw and exposed. Fully funded and covered by insurance, lol. We could call it Sisters Inc.

[Medusa]

That thing where I'm making dinner, hair knotted up in a messy bun on top of my head, pots bubbling and steaming and I feel this presence behind me.

Maybe there are hands on my waist and hot breath on the back of my neck as I feel his inhale and the hairs on my neck stand at attention. Or maybe it's a quick kiss on the cheek or pat on the ass as he passes by to take the garbage out.

The affirmation of my way of being is sexy and if that is happening while I'm in the service of food prep (or any random home-making activity, really), it lets me know he is seeing me in my element and loving it. That's fucking sexy to be desired while doing what you love.

<3

[MsTinkerbelly]

I'm 55 and not in great health...so most days I struggle to even care what I look like when I leave the house.

What makes me feel sexy...that stretch your body, love the skin you're in feeling? I think the closest I come to that feeling is after I shower, shave, lotion and put on something soft and pretty. I know my Kasey likes that I smell yummy and feel good, but it's really for me.

[Soft*Silver]

Like Tinkerbelly, I am almost 60 (on Jan 15th), have had several major surgeries in the last few years and deal with chronic acute pain every day. I struggle to feel sexy. I try at best to feel good. However, my husband certainly has ways to help ease me into the sexy zone. And like Medusa said, it is the moments stolen out of context of the situation, that claws away the pain and allows me moments of femmeness once again.

My favorite is when he comes home from work(he works midnites) and steals in next to me and wakes me slowly to his hands over me, gently touching but Touching. I do not wake to pain. I wake to Him. I love that he helps me forgets, has found a way to get me back in my skin without pain, and feel my womanness.

[Kätzchen]

When ever my Sweetheart tells me "Whatever you want, baby" I feel so loved, so understood, and terribly sexy. When I recently made an Salted Caramel Apple pie, it was late at night and we were both hanging out in the kitchen, I fed him a spoon of the pie, and the look he gave me, while feeding him, just melted my heart and made me feel so sexy....

[Wh1ms1]

Hi. My name is Wh1ms1, I am a 54 yo femme. I have been a nurse and a massage therapist.
When I want to feel sexy I pamper myself. I talk a long hot bath with scented epsom salts. Aka magnesium sulfate. Magnesium is vital for the body and is best absorbed through the skin. It is a mild euphoric, helps relieve anxiety, tension, and pain. Oh, and it is a natural antidepressant.0 Then I use my favorite scented lotion, powder, and perfume. It always makes me feel sensual...like a tigress on the prowl...I also like to be clean shaven, soft, and smooth. I put on make up, and I too love to play with make up. It is an art form. Then I like to choose something lacy and sexy to wear under and something lacy and feminine over. I pick the jewelry that best matches my outfit for the day...and voila'! I am ready to go out and dance my heart out.

[Wh1ms1]

Hmmm...reading down...I see a lot of replies about your butch's reaction to you. I would have to look back...ok, wayyy back...in my memory to pull up one of those. Lol. It always made me feel sexy when my butch's eyes would go a little wide and light up when I made an appearance all dressed up. It made me feel sexy when they would put a warm hand on my back...or possibly a bit lower if we were in private. Simple courtesies never failed to make my heart stutter a bit, but I think what really made me feel special is when he/she (I like trans men as well) would do something or say something or give me something that showed they had spent time actually thinking about who I am and what I like. I'm not talking about expensive things. One of my lovers gave me a little book to write poetry in. I am still finding notes that she wrote to me, throughout the book. It still makes me feel special, even though we parted ways long ago. Because for that period of time she truly loved me and knew who I was.

[girl_dee]

my big fat juicy brain makes me feel sexy.

:glasses:

[candy_coated_bitch]

Wearing my bralette around the house with just a cardigan.

[introverted1]

Boots...really hot and sexy boots.

[Medusa]

I've always felt so sexy when I am luxuriating in my "get ready" process.

The extra-long soak in the tub where you exfoliate your entire body, shave and moisturize until your skin is buttery smooth, and take extra time bathing with luscious bath oils and candles. Then you step out and apply all manner of creams, lotions, and (LIGHT!) scent and slip into your silkiest unmentionables (or none!) before brushing out your hair and painting your face with your darkest of kohl eyeliner and your signature red lipstick.

Maybe you are burning a candle and playing sultry jazz in the background but your mind is on your lover and all manner of touching and kissing and caressing. I love taking extra time to choose clothing that highlights my hourglass shape and shoes that allow me a little extra firmness in my gams because I *know* he loves to watch my legs when I walk in heels.

At the end of the process of primping and preening, I always feel so tingly with excitement at how pleased my lover will be. But also? I love doing it for myself just as much. I love the anticipation and the buzz I get from the service of "put on your most beautiful self".

It's a happy place. :blueheels:

[girl_dee]

i have been thinking about this thread, its so super delicious. i do feel that this question is not for me, as i don't feel sexy is what i am.

Gosh i <3 all of you.

i realize that i do not think of myself as sexy at all. i DO think all of you are. Each one for different reasons. i love hearing about your sexy self.

i don't really *do* makeup very often. (is Burt's bees lip balm make up? It IS tinted), i don't do heels, lingerie or anything like it. Give me a white crew neck Tee to sleep in and i am in my comfy place (maybe that is sexy in itself?)

But if i did have to reach for something i would say when when my energy is confidence, assertiveness, boldness, almost to the point of cockiness, ..... in my favorite Levis, and leather clogs, on a low humidity day (BIG hair)

Femme Swagger.

[Gemme]

i have been thinking about this thread, its so super delicious. i do feel that this question is not for me, as i don't feel sexy is what i am.

Gosh i <3 all of you.

i realize that i do not think of myself as sexy at all. i DO think all of you are. Each one for different reasons. i love hearing about your sexy self.

i don't really *do* makeup very often. (is Burt's bees lip balm make up? It IS tinted), i don't do heels, lingerie or anything like it. Give me a white crew neck Tee to sleep in and i am in my comfy place (maybe that is sexy in itself?)

I disagree, dee. I do think you have sex appeal and I think it's absolutely sexy for you to be comfy in your white tee. I actually like that look for us girls anyway.

But if i did have to reach for something i would say when when my energy is confidence, assertiveness, boldness, almost to the point of cockiness, ..... in my favorite Levis, and leather clogs, on a low humidity day (BIG hair)

Femme Swagger.


Ooooh, Levis. See? That's exactly what we mean and is most definitely femme swagger! Good on you!

[Gemme]

The day's certainly nowhere near over but I can tell you that I felt extraordinarily sexy when I left the gym this morning. My hair was up in a bun, I was sweaty and my face red but damn, did I feel good. Confident, strong and totally capable of kicking ass. When I feel those things, I am sexy.

[Gayandgray]

Like MsTinkerbelly and Soft*Silver, my spouse is not in good health at all. She is 74 and struggles everyday just to get up and do basic tasks. I'm going to be 48 in June and I'm so busy working fulltime and caring for her that I have pretty much forgotten how to feel sexy! I used to be very feminine when we first got together, always all made up, nails done, super ladies my hair, etc. yet I always had my tomboy side. Ever since my butch became disabled it seems like the feminine side of me sort of slipped into the background. Here lately though, I'm trying to get more in touch with my inner femme.
I've lost a little weight and I now feel sexy when I'm fresh from the shower, lotioned up, smelling lightly of coconut, wearing a teeshirt dress around the house. Or when I paint my toenails a baby pink or baby blue and my hair is up in a ridiculously high messy bun. Then I feel very sexy.

[Medusa]

Sometimes it's my own bedhead that does it for me!

Padding to the coffeepot in bare feet with my ever-present red toes and that crazy mass of red hair billowing all huge and wild and wavy, I feel really sexy yawning and stretching the sleep away and greeting the day as a ferocious and wildly-satisfied thing.

I guess you could say that satisfying sleep (even if short) and bedhead are a sexy feeling!

[Soft*Silver]

you know...feeling powerful IS amazingly sexy for me. When I would ride my 1200 lb mare and she was all full of herself and yet listened to ME, and the sweat on the inside of my thighs against the saddle warmed me, and the sweat coming down off my helmet burnt my raw cheeks, DAMN I felt sexy. When I would slide off her, and feel the thud of my boots hit the ground and she would bow her head and rub against me, DAMN I felt sexy.

Its all in feeling in control of your own power...I do love that feeling

The day's certainly nowhere near over but I can tell you that I felt extraordinarily sexy when I left the gym this morning. My hair was up in a bun, I was sweaty and my face red but damn, did I feel good. Confident, strong and totally capable of kicking ass. When I feel those things, I am sexy.

[Medusa]

Service is sexy.

I know it's not for everyone but I love that thing where you brush your teeth again and reapply lipstick and fuss with your hair one last time before they get home from work.
And then you take off his shoes for him and maybe bring something to drink while you list off what is happening for dinner.

I love the feeling of "you relax now because I've got you". <3

[candy_coated_bitch]

Today it was just the right amount of bright green eye shadow. Really perked me up.

[indigo]

I feel sexy when I spend some time to pamper myself or put on clothes I feel comfortable in, also when I receive positive vipes from my friends, when accomplishing something, when facing fears - something in that direction. Thinking about it, maybe "sexy" is not the right expression then, better ones might be "awesome" or "appreciated"...

[girl_dee]

Wearing my LBDs........ feels good to feel more feminine sometimes....

[Medusa]

That feeling of being freshly-showered, smooth-skinned, moisturized, lips painted blood red, hair jacked to Jesus, and wearing that perfect little strappy dress that does all the right things for the curves.

Even better when all of this is happening as you wait for your dinner date. YUM!

[girl_dee]

hearing " you are beautiful "....

also my cordless drill! .

[candy_coated_bitch]

Gold eye liner.

[Medusa]

Brick-red lipstick prints on my wine glass.

[girl_dee]

LBD! even if they fit like pajamas.

[lisa93]

When I get some new lingerie.

[Medusa]

I guess I'm a bit of a geek because I feel super sexy when I am speaking my mind or outlining my ideas on something and they say, "God, you're smart."

:glasses:

[gotoseagrl]

Random things:

~ Seeing that certain reaction ... or when you sense they are looking at you &
think you don't notice.
~ Letting my hair down at the end of the day
~ Being in a moment when I am fully myself ... peaceful, quiet, soft-spoken,
subservient
~ Cooking & baking - when it comes out really good
~ Being of help
~ Vintage styles & old-fashioned ways
~ Handwriting a letter or note
~ Classical music

[girl_dee]

When i feel in command of myself! Confidence is sexy!

[Contradictor]

When I know I *can* be in control, but she won't let me.

When we are getting ready to go out and I get ready and she gasps when she sees me

When I playfight with her

When she does things for me.. Anything I am capable of myself but she wants to do because I'm me and she's her.

When I've looked after myself and feel healthy :)

When I'm making money and being successful.

(NB some of these feel like distant memories but they'll also happen again soon)! :)

[Medusa]

When I am commanding a conference room full of men and they *know* not to talk over me, mansplain, or dismiss my ideas.

[Medusa]

Maybe not sexy, but definitely sassy...

When people comment that they can hear me click-clacking out an email while on a conference call with, "That's just Angie and her 5-inch talons destroying a keyboard at 100 words per minute..."

:byebye:

[Medusa]

Water, candles, and time with the Hunk = SEXY.

[Breathless]

Water, candles, and time with the Hunk = SEXY.

Some how this draws a whole different picture for me today.. Girl you got Guts and THAT is SEXY!

What you get when you cross a head lamp, some hotter than hot wax, and 2 sexy peeps..

[girl_dee]

something new i am enjoying is keeping my nails done. i keep imaging them running across my butches skin.......... :blush:

[Medusa]

Some how this draws a whole different picture for me today.. Girl you got Guts and THAT is SEXY!

What you get when you cross a head lamp, some hotter than hot wax, and 2 sexy peeps..


HAHHAHAHAHAHAH!!!

OMG! Breathless! I am STILL cackling about this!

Hey, I might be a tiny bit of an exhibitionist...but just a *tiny* bit. :perv:

[PlatinumPearl]

I guess I'm a bit of a geek because I feel super sexy when I am speaking my mind or outlining my ideas on something and they say, "God, you're smart."

:glasses:



Yes! I can most definitely resonate with your post.

Naturally I feel sexy when wearing clothing that fits well and makes me feel like a million bucks but even more so when I am complimented on my ability to effectively communicate my thoughts so that it resonates with others. Hearing "God, you're smart." will always make me feel sexier than any article of clothing, heels, or makeup can.

[Medusa]

Dresses like this:
(this is me doing my best not to shop!)


https://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/vintage-style-inspired-clothing/retro-dresses/traci-lords-traci-dress-black.html

https://cdn.pinupgirlclothing.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/1000x/040ec09b1e35df139433887a97daa66f/w/e/web_7289.jpg

[girl_dee]

just got my nails done in a rich deep color..... i’m feeling it!

[CherylNYC]

Dresses like this:
(this is me doing my best not to shop!)


https://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/vintage-style-inspired-clothing/retro-dresses/traci-lords-traci-dress-black.html

https://cdn.pinupgirlclothing.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/1000x/040ec09b1e35df139433887a97daa66f/w/e/web_7289.jpg

Damn! That's super sexy. I LOVE that look.

[Medusa]

Damn! That's super sexy. I LOVE that look.

RIGHT??? I love that vampy pinup vibe! I love that it's not super short too because seriously, you don't have to show everything to be sexy. A little mystery is hot!

:drool:

[Medusa]

Sexy feelings = Knowing my value. <3

[Medusa]

Sassy new haircut, new skincare routine having my face glowing and smooth, feeling myself, hope.

[Signmypapyrus]

Doing my nails and pampering myself with a facial, but also getting stinky at the barn. Doing hard work outside, hiking, and then going home, showering, and getting cleaned up. Mmmm yes.

[kittygrrl]

dancing with or for my spouse

[Esme nha Maire]

Knowing that I'm carrying off my look well, and that some folk that see me are thinking "damn, I wish I could wear stuff like that!"*

*They can, and my figure isn't great these days, and I look rather Steampunky tomboyish in tanktop and jeans with brimmed hat and huge long black coat. I simply have the nerve to look different.

[Kenna]

When I allow someone to know my true comfort zone and they never violate my trust.

[Amulette]

Self-expression. Feelings arise, sometimes out of nowhere, unexpected. Sometimes deliberate like tapping an inner well. The power of expressing what I feel unscripted, pure improvisation, passion in the moment is magic for me. Words, movement: a pure indulgence in the moment. Delicious and alive. But only for the deserving, who understand how to worship goddesses.. <3

[kittygrrl]

being confident, happy, wearing an apron with flour in my hair feels very sexy

[Silk]

When I glance over and Galahad has that admiring and hungry look in her eyes, there is a catch in her breathing, she swallows hard and then notices me noticing her watching me. Dayum!

[Orema]

My new salt and pepper short haircut. I'm really diggin' this.

[Medusa]

I am feeling decidely UNsexy today due to exhaustion, the need for a manicure, and my skin revolting because of all the stress of late.

Tonight calls for a long hot bath with good products, a woody red wine, a mask for skin and hair, and reading something delicious.
Sometimes just scrubbing and shaving until glassy smooth is enough to jumpstart the good feelings.

And I NEED it after the last several weeks of poor sleep!

#workingonthesexyvibes

[Breathless]

Buying new undies out of nessessity as my old ones don't fit anymore.. sexy new undergarments a few sizes smaller ... yeah .. trying to NOT be the grinning fool at the till.. you know the one that just se me a little TOO happy .. that's me! Lmao

[Medusa]

Feeling MUCH sexier (and sassier) today!

I came home and did my process but had a shower instead of a bath because I was feeling motivated to clean and organize. My hair is all soft and shiny this morning and my skin definitely feels more dewy. I still need to drink a lot more water for the next few days to help with the puffiness but I'm on my way.

Today's plans for being a Goddess: Get 10k steps on my Fitbit, vacuum my car from the 45 pounds of Bella-hair residing there, get a massage from the pay-by-the-minute guy at work, and eat good stuff.

This weekend I'll get back to my yoga and do some strength training.

#workingit

[candy_coated_bitch]

Walking around in the heat wearing nothing but my bra and panties.

[Medusa]

Sexy Geek Alert: I feel super sexy when I get all of my geek-tasks done like site backup, membership approvals, bill paying for my various servers, research on some social media tools, and writing up a contract on a new side hustle.

[Kätzchen]

I feel incredibly sexy when my skin is so soft, hydrated and translucent.

I spoiled myself today and bought some amazing beauty products for my face and skin all over my body.

Have you ever heard of LUSH???

I bought three items: Skin's Shangri La, Magical Moringa, and Feeling Younger Skin Tint (it makes your skin sparkly).

Lush headquarters are in England, but the beauty products I bought today were made in British Vancouver, Canada. Their products are hand made, Vegan and it's an real person who painstakingly makes each beauty product you might buy from their business. Marlon made two items Magical Moringa and Feeling Younger Skin Tint; and Luis made the Shangri La (face moisturizer). The beauty products are pretty spendy, but I think I'm worth it.

http://img.makeupalley.com/2/3/1/0/1378996.JPG


https://cdn1.skinsafeproducts.com/photo/C1D8BF1BD98AC8/medium_1522715698.jpegjpg?1522715698


http://img.allw.mn/content/2014/01/15155531_0577.jpg


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[Bèsame*]

When I have a nice tan with no strap marks, and I put on a white crochet cami top. Such a nice end of summer look :)

[MaddieRobbie]

A new dress, hair done, good mani/pedi...always work.

But I feel at my sexiest when someone else reacts to those things I do naturally - laughing, sipping wine, dressing casually in a big shirt or some comfortable clothes, singing around the house (badly)...

I feel sexy in the those moments most of all. Like Christmas and the Grinch "..it came without boxes, it came without bulbs" (haha)

[Kätzchen]

I feel sexy when my natural nails are looking their best. I use professional nail polish by Essie: base coat, a light iridescent pink shade, then a coat of sparkles, then top it off with the final coat of Platinum grade top coat finishing polish.

I love using Essie nail products for the sexiest look in polished nails. :stillheart:


https://www.superdrug.com/medias/sys_master/front-prd/front-prd/h49/h9b/10083370860574/Essie-Glitter-Nail-Polish-Unicorn-A-Cut-Above-750057.jpg

Pink Unicorn A Cut Above (pink sparkly polish)

https://luxclout.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/41bnFbZ9CzL.jpg

:cherry: :cherry: :cherry:

[Gráinne]

I feel sexy (but not necessarily wanting to have sex) when I've done my dancing exercises (www.bodygroove.com) or yoga stretching. This makes me feel looser and more energized.

[Happyfemme]

Wearing my work clothes - black dress pants, some sort of dress top, black blazer or cardigan, and black heels.

Highlights in my hair.

Mini dresses with jeans.

Bronzing moisturizer.

Victoria Secret Vanilla body spray.

Big sunglasses.

[Happyfemme]

Curled up in my bed with my hair all over the pillow.

Black bra and panty set.

My new black jeans.

My new light blue dress.

[Kätzchen]

Wearing a short, sexy & sassy haircut or creating short, sexy haircuts for Femmes.

zXtXrJb3vqI

:hk20:

[Gemme]

Today, I dug out a sweater and a pair of jeans I haven't touched in almost a year and then a pair of heeled flip flops. The shoes because I had an appointment at the salon for a gel pedicure (and because they are super cute and it's not like there's snow on the ground or anything). The jeans because, frankly, they fit and look great on me. I've relocated a few of the lbs I lost so some of my smaller, tighter ones are currently off limits. But it was the sweater that was the catalyst for my moment of sexiness.

It's simple...thin...black...hooded with thin ties that I kept taught at the base of my throat...the sleeves extend just beyond my wrist to my first set of knuckles...there's a small kangaroo pocket...and a deep V neck. I didn't realize exactly how deep because I usually put a camisole or tee under it but today I went out into the world, girls blazing.

The main benefit of those lbs that I found are my breasts. They are the first to gain and lose volume as the needle slides up and down the scale. I just so happened to have chosen a deep V bra as well, so....if I may say so myself....the girls looked gooooood today. That made me very happy and yes, I felt a wee bit sexy too.

A little extra color on the lips and wearing my hair down added to the feeling.

With my job, it's hard to feel feminine and I'm so tired when I get home and then it's just me, so I don't get dolled up any more. Today was really nice.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Wearing a short, sexy & sassy haircut or creating short, sexy haircuts for Femmes.

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:hk20:

I love my new undercut. It is definitely sassy.

When I started growing my hair out after the cancer, I decided to try out a series of shorter and medium-length hairstyles along the way. I love this undercut so much that I've kept it through 3 salon visits, and I'm not ready to give it up yet.

[Bèsame*]

Quite the opposite for me. I get so many compliments on my long hair. Especially when it's down and you can see the pretty highlights. Makes me smile when I get noticed.

[Kätzchen]

I love my new undercut. It is definitely sassy.

When I started growing my hair out after the cancer, I decided to try out a series of shorter and medium-length hairstyles along the way. I love this undercut so much that I've kept it through 3 salon visits, and I'm not ready to give it up yet.

Hello my friend,

I’m so glad you have a short and sassy undercut!

My hair is never longer than just above my shoulders. It won’t grow long, lol.
I think of my hair as a “bush” because it takes tons of conditioning treatments to make my hair look lovely. I, too, wear a short and sassy haircut. :)

I think of those of us who cannot grow out our hair, due to whatever reason it is, but it makes my heart smile when we can make the best of our situations and feel good about ourselves. That is Sexiness, to me.

Thanks for sharing Georgia. ☺️❤️👍