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Do not make fun of and laugh at others behind their back and enjoy how "bad" you are being. Especially when you were with these people not five minutes ago and acted as though they were your best friend.
And don't tell me such personal details about you and your exes sex life, making fun of them and how they "performed". Because, I will know right then and there that you can never be trusted. And a good relationship is all about trust. |
don't ignore the red flags, they mean STOPRIGHTNOW!!!!!!
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I know a LOT of people will not agree with me on this one. BUT for ~ME~
What I have learned not to do in a relationship: Combine finances. Apply for joint ownership of any debt. |
what NOT to do in a relationship.............
get into one!!!
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Unless it is the ONLY electrical outlet in the house, don't put your phone on the charger in another room and then get so engrossed watching music videos on You Tube that you fail to notice that several hours have passed since you should have received a call from someone.
Don't act like it was no big deal - especially since it was NOT the first time it happened. Don't fail to apologize. |
This one I learned the hard way-
Dont agree to monogamy, when you are really wanting polyamoury. And Vice Versa!!! The resentments that built on this choice had me doing 4th step work for m o n t h s. UGH. |
don't try to hide or cover up for something.
own up to it and apologize, then work on not letting it happen again. nobody is perfect, but we can strive |
If I am totally engrossed in something that requires a lot of concentration, please do not interrupt me at 9am to ask me what I want for lunch. :|
Warning, football season starts Thursday night. Need I say more? |
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don't flippin keep lying to me then expect me to believe anything you tell me later. and don't get all bent when I remind you of the above either! if we argue, don't throw it out there that someone else would treat you better- really, if that's the case- then get your ass out and go get her. and don't expect me to sit idly while you make up your mind about the above, or while you play around with different versions of ME. if you can.... then so will I. don't take me for granted.... ever. and for cripes sake.... don't eat all but 1 of the oreo's. that's uncalled for. :fastdraq: |
Don't go knockin' my pop tarts!:annoyed:
Ok seriously, don't yack my ear off as soon as I come through the door. I need a few minutes to breathe, go to the bathroom or whatever before I am ready to engage and listen. |
Dont make me your option and everything and everyone else your priority... I will walk every time
Dont get denfensive when I try and talk to you about problems. Never ever hold affection or sex over my head as a form of punishment cause you are mad at me... When I try and be affectionate with you never ever turn me away. Dont ever get jealous of my femme friends. They were here before you got here and will always be around. I do however know how to make YOU priority as my girl. And you will never feel less than MOST important in my life. Do not physically or emotionally abuse me or attempt to make me feel less than in any way. Talk down to me or scream at me too and I will walk away in a heartbeat Dont white lie or lie. Tell me straight up. If you are my best friend and Im with you there should be no lies or white lies between us. I should trust you without reservation or question Dont cheat emotionally or physically. |
dont play me as a fool. Dont misjudge how many brain cells I have active...or rely on how much leeway your charm will buy you. The days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do either with me
dont tell me what to say or do or wear. I let one person in my life do that. And looking back, he wore stained clothes, smelled like manure and spouted hateful things against minorities most of the time. Again, the days are long gone where I abide to be with someone who will do this to me again. |
make her earn your trust...
for goddess sake... listen to your fukn guts... they dont lie... most times.... if you think it... it will be so... unless of course you might be a paranoiac... then... ignore this message... |
message to self.....
always remember and never forget: ~ trust your instincts. Call it womens intuition, gut feeling, the voice of experience....if you feel it, there is a good reason for it. Ignore it at your own peril. ~ never get drawn into gimmicks, personas, images and the like. Reality is a lot more satisfying than fantasy. ~ differences may attract, be exciting for a bit, invigorating for a while but it is sameness and similarity which brings peace and harmony. ~ seek that which will surround you with peace and positivity. Not difficult. Just choose the opposite of your initial impression. Sorry, private joke. ~ if it makes you think too much, rationalize at all, makes you unsettled, makes you uncomfortable, makes you question "can I live with this?" - turn and walk in the other direction. Good things seldom require that much effort. |
For pete's sake dont drink all of my dr pepper :)
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Do not:
Believe everything you are told Trust too quickly Rush into something blindly ...it takes a long time to really know who someone really is....true colors do shine through if you give it time. |
Don't overanalyze or overthink.
Don't expect me to feed your insecurities. Don't say, "You know what your problem is...?" Don't tell me what to eat or how to spend my money. |
do not..
Do NOT say sh*t that you know you don't mean.
Say "yes" when you mean yes and "no" when you mean no, anything else is misleading. Don't play games, be REAL for f**ks sake! Don't discuss Private matters with outsiders. Don't lose your identity, and don't ask them to become somehting else other than what they are. Don't take them for granted. Don't become their Personal Jesus. Don't put expectations on them, that you yourself aren't willing to meet. Don't abuse them in any way. If you no longer love them, let them go...don't keep playing games for your own benefit. It's wrong!! Don't cheat, if ya ain't happy with her/him...get the hell out!! and....do not think that you are "ALL THAT"....you ain't! |
Don't expect the other party to be a mindreader. Fully disclose who/what you are, what your intentions are and most importantly what your expectations are of the other party.
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Speaking only from my experiences...Don't become lovers before you become friends. Like someone alot before you fall in love.
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Don't take your partner for granted - let them know you appreciate all that they do for you. <3
Don't stop dating one another even if, you know, they're stuck with you. xosqueak |
DO NOT get with someone thinking you can help them "change"!
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dont lay all your shit out at once in the beginning. Because then if it doesnt work out they have it all....build into it...slowly......then as you build into something, they have it all....
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The long explanation: Don't get into a relationship with the hopes it will fill something inside of you. Instead take care of your own emotional stuff, expect the other person to take care of theirs as well. Then see what each of you has to bring to the table, so to speak.
The short version: Don't agree to be a baggage handler for others! |
Don't ignore the voices that speak to you. Well, let me say that differently. :blink:
Listen to your gut and listen to the Universe, even when they are telling you something that you don't understand or you can't see. Don't ignore your gut and the Universe. |
dont think you are taking my side of the bed
dont complain about my dog. She stays. You wont. she can pee on the floor. Dont even think of it. dont leave dishes in the LR for me to pick up ditto for the bedroom if you raise your voice to me you best be sitting down. If you stand up, and yell, its intimidating and I will not respond well. Fair warning. I dont care which way you put the TP on, just put it on when it runs out on your shift if you go into the dryer to get something out, take them all out AND FOLD THEM. dont leave one swig of anything in the fridge and not tell me or not pick it up yourself at the store. pet food, milk for coffee and TP are the three things this house must never run out of. And I am not the only responsible adult in this relationship. Remember this. dont not clean the sex toys. Nasty dirty bad in a not good way |
Do not be mean to my son. Simon... He is the cutest sweetest puppy in the whole world.
Do not ever ask me to get rid of my son. Wont happen I will walk away from you so fast. Do not be non chalant in regards to my moms death. It had a huge impact on my life and its made me who I am today. I miss her daily every day. Understand that I am closterphobic. I will not sleep on the inside of my bed by the wall. So please dont ask me to move my spot in the bed Do not ask me to do the dishes and then complain when I do them. Or any household chores for that matter... Never introduce me as a friend to your ex's or friends when we are together And last but not least. You know the chocolate ho ho's in my pantry? DO NOT touch one of them. (Joking) And for the love of God dont touch anything of mine chocolate... :) |
don't talk about a future with me if you're not serious about it
don't make a promise to me, break it, promise it again and then get huffy when i'm wary and remind you of the first time you broke it don't swear tooth&nail you're not into someone else when you're involved with them the whole time - fucking own up to it and let me know you're not interested don't agree to something or tell me what i want to hear just to make me happy - it's extremely misleading don't expect me to put my life on hold for you to get over your issues and come around. i will walk away realize that sometimes the words you don't say speak louder than the actions you're doing don't break the trust i have in you and expect to gain it back so freely. it will take a lot |
And above all (for me) be honest and up front always and treat me the way you would want to be treated!!!
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never tell everyone all your secrets and fears right away
Never try to help someone with depression if they arent showing any interest in you wanting to help them never ignore your gut instincts never let someone send you money even when you tell them not to because eventually they will might rub it into your face never back down on your opinions or feelings because that is your right in this world |
relationship no no's
Don't date someone who is in a "dead end relationship' and is now ready to leave it because you came along. You're not that wonderful, they weren't born to love you. It just means they are too afraid to be alone, or not grown up enough to make it on their own, and when they get bored or mad or scared ( insert any reason here)they will leave you for someone else, actually anyone else. Any old port in a storm.
Don't date someone who is ready and willing to move in with you in less than 2 months. Heck less than 6 months even. This can only mean one thing. They are very bad at managing their money and will be more than happy to spend yours for you. Another clue they are bad with money and deep in debt, they move around alot. If they have moved like 5 times in 5 years, better grab your purse and run. |
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- don't say things just because you know i want/like it... be YOU.. be honest, i'm well aware everyone is different and will respect you more for honesty!
- don't push everything at high speed.. i've learned that time, and getting to know each other should be at a pace - so everything can develop because we want it to, not because we feel we have to ... |
never accept someone who doesnt accept your child(ren) no matter how old they are. PERIOD.
dont accept when they say they have no money to spend on you but spend lots of money with or on their best friend. Never ever take second fiddle in a relationship and never ever listen to their long list of playing you a fool.... its not ok to be left an empty tank most or all of the time. again, being played...he isnt a big kid who can take advantage of you its not ok to be drunk all the time to make love. Huge issues there. More than issues. Its a subscription! its not ok to be lied to. Lies are never ok. |
never allow your partner make you feel less a person then you are
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Never, settle!
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never pay for everything... all the time
never lie |
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