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Even when you're angry at your partner, maintain the relationship rituals. In other words, if it's your "job" to make coffee in the morning, make it even if you're still pissed off from the argument you had the night before. Don't take out your anger by undermining the rituals that reinforce the relationship. (easier said than done sometimes, I know...lord, do I know.)
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Do something physical together other than sex. Dance, wrestle, build something, do partner yoga, anything that connects you physically as a team or even as adversaries. This well help energize your physical connection.
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Be kind.
No matter how angry you are, this person is not your enemy. Remember that you're an essential part of his or her life and your moods and behaviour DO matter. |
be careful with your words, you can't take them back.
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Yeah, eventually it comes out because how could it not? i guess i know that some people are on best behavior for a long time and some develop new interests. But no one could really pull this off. It's not to the rest of our credit that we do not. Making the attempt is immature at best. And success is simply impossible unless one is Chauncey Gardiner.
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Take the time to enjoy one another. (Quality time may be a cliche, but it's a true one.) It helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place, and helps keep those feelings fresh.
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Be present in all manner and matter.
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i want to be heard, and to hear. |
learn from mistakes from the past
have a picnic together, that was awesome see the world together! |
if you want it, make it happen.If you don't let it go.
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Ask questions... lots...
Communicate with each other in all forms... little notes, text messages, emails... you get the point... As always... little things... |
be individuals!
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Always fight fair...don't allow your emotions to rule you, rule them.
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~speak out the minute you start to have a problem. Don't wait until it's big and you're fuming about it to bring it up. Remember they can't read minds. ~take your partner at their word. Don't read too much into their actions. Trust that they mean what they say. ~get out of the relationship if the trust is gone. Sometimes it's damaged and can be rebuilt, but when it's gone, it's GONE. ~laugh, a lot, together. ~get out of the house. One of you is bound to go stir crazy. ~have separate activities and interests and friends, but have some together too. ~be clear about what you want out of life, and life together. People who care will live up to reasonable expectations, and if you care, you will too. ~think before you speak or write about your partner. Assume they can hear you at all times, even if they're not there. ~buy/make small thoughtful gifts for no reason, doesn't matter if you're butch or femme. Everyone likes to know they're being though of |
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this is quite a nice list, thank you! we all forget to do these things! |
trust but not blindly
live in the real world be careful of what you intertwine don't do things you may regret one day don't be naive |
Communication that is honest and open,
to give love freely because life is too short not to, listen to what your love has to say, be there for them in all things whether they want you there or not, |
don't always assume their anger/hurt/moodiness is all about you, sometimes it's something else entirely :)
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Let them help you.
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be happy for them when they are happy, even after the relationship ends
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If you can't accept what you can't change, leave.
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be physical
make love
to her mind her body her Spirit often. Greco |
Kiss like its your first date and never stop looking at each other with love like you did in the beginning, the romance never needs to end.
Appreciate each other and what each other has to bring and offer to the relationship. Its like a puzzle that works together and even if there may be a few pieces missing (lets face it none of us are perfect in a relationship) you can still see the beautiful picture that only the two of you make together. Remember you are on the same team and work together not against each other. Always try to forgive the little things and remember why you are together. Support each other through the good times and the bad. But most of all be loving and kind to each other, and if you cant then respect each other enough to walk away. |
tell her everyday how beautiful she is
never let her forget what she means to you...even when things arent perfect let her know she is never far from your thoughts and as Greco said so well... be physical make love to her mind her body her Spirit often. physical |
Throw them over your knee for a good spanking if they are into that!
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Hold hands, be silly, laugh, experiment, be forgiving, be loyal, be appreciative, be humble and always kiss each other goodnight!! <3
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When all heck breaks loose and the turds are flying:
1. plan to run away together but don't really. Instead support the heck out of each other. 2. Joke about cheesecake and have a beverage and some cookies together 3. swoon over the bite marks you left on each other and get all touchy feely! |
Turn off the computer/TV/games/cellphone and enjoy some time together!
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For me loyalty and respect goes a long way, the alternative is not even considered. :rrose:
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Remind her when she forgets what makes the woes of the world go away and gives her a sense of restored grounding... :heartbeat:
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Tell your loved on when you need some extra care and don't know what to do. Trust them to help you get a grip and love you mightily!
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appreciate them and don't take them for granted!
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