I have learned that no matter how much you want something with another if they aren't there they ARE NOT there. Walk away.

Sometimes you just have to remember what you had and live with that and know that they is someone out there for you.

Loving someone is never wrong maybe just the wrong time in your life.

I'm learning to be better and more quick at trusting my gut and taking action in the way it directs me.

I have learned
 

Intelligent people have something to say. Others just have to say something.

I have learned that sometimes life ain't always greener on the other side.

I've also learned that sometimes you just have to take a chance, no matter how scared you are of failing.

That being obsessive can be a negative and positive thing.

I've learned that when you make major mistakes in life, you just have to suck it up and start all over again, sometimes from the bottom.:jester:

Learned
 

I am researching storm surge structures and I ran across a report about an aqua duct that was above grade and crossed over a river. Imagine a road bridge that crosses over a river only it was full of water and used as a shipping channel. It is located in Germany. It was awesome I have never seen anything like that before. If I knew how to upload photos in a thread I would.

That your heart can be a safe harbor, a sanctuary of sorts, of all your loves, failures, disappointments, broken dreams, hopes for the future that you have and have had, if you just are still and let things be and cherish every special person and moment you have experienced in your life. To just hold it all in your mind and heart at the same time.

I really hope this hard headed butch has learned this and it isn't just a temporary epiphany.

Life isn't fair, at all, but you live and continue to learn.

I think I am at my best when I am alone. :thinking:

I often feel the same...

control your thoughts-this is always where the trouble starts:tea:

Learned
 

All work and no play makes me grumpy.
I need some fun.

My wish list
:knighthorse::bbq::flying::theisland::movieguy:
:fishingboot::sailing::fishing::party:

That sometimes life just ain't fair. It is what it is. Move on.

I have hardly any patience left.

It is way easier for me to be compassionate than to carry resentment around about the small everyday irritations.

learned -
 

“Trust, Like The Soul, Never Returns Once It Is Gone” (anon)

Agree
 

I agree with kittygrrl on the point that once trust is gone then it is gone forever to me.

I am always headed forward.

:cowboy:

That a positive attitude goes a long way!!!!!! Life ain't that bad, seriously. Sometimes we tend to complicate things way too much. We make it hard when it doesn't have to be. I'm learning to go with the flow....:hangloose:

Instead of immediately judging somebody who is being rude or brusque with me, I wonder what they might be going through personally to cause them to be that way.

If we are stressed, we might not always be on our best behavior.

I have learned that it takes awhile for me to truly get over a heartbreak.

I'm an avid crossword puzzle solver type of woman....I've been solving puzzles since I was ten years of age, maybe??

Anyhooo.... I've just learned, in a round about way, or rather it came to me while thinking about annoying pet peeves about puzzles, that most all editions of puzzle books seem to be authored by politically minded conservatives. It dawned on me that this must be the reason why I sometimes see hidden clues to the author's inner biases that seem hardly noticed by the casual puzzle solver, but this epiphany came to me while saying to myself the other day: "WTF is wrong with this person's thinking process?" , when the clue given to solve for the term used was most often a conflation of the term-proper, but also reveals rather toxic types of personal beliefs that go strictly against the grain, as far reaching as women's rights or unclever, well hidden views toward the LGBTQ, or even straight out, laugh in your face -- 'haha, I support the fucker elected to national office."

Now that I see this issue more clearly, I have resolved to never buy a puzzle book that has even one whiff of biased conservatism.

I'm guessing there is a niché market for puzzle books that do not favor biased political process?

That being couth doesn't always work in my favor.

To be more mindful of the depth of my relationship with my Partner, and how seemingly simple actions or words effect Her self confidence or frame of mind.

My actions and words become deeply integrated in Her view of life and Her determination.

How deeply I effect Her life and Her mine, how deep our connection is.

That sometimes I need to step up, being assertive, to defend my own and other's issues no matter how uncomfortable it may feel.

v & a
 

I learned several years ago the difference
between being liked and admired
and being valued and appreciated
in any form of relationship...family,
friends, patrons, clients, colleagues.

It was quite a learning.


Greco

......That Steel Magnolia's is simply a timeless, classic movie.

i've learned every day is a treasure-don't waste it:rrose:

i have learned that blood doesn't always make people family surprise!

i've learned-
 

same sh*t, different day-always applies. Period

I have learned that at this point in my life I really, really need to simplify things. I'm gonna be 48 in a few weeks and I have to do what is best for me and my butch. We are not getting any younger, and her health is declining, and it's up to me to take care of things. Well meaning family/friends can voice their opinions all they want, but they are not doing the work and they are not offering any help either.

Learned
 

Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are tired.
Otherwise, run as fast as you can and slam into life.

Make everyday a happy day.


:cowboy:

Learned a while back...
 

Holding a constant grudge against anyone is an incredible waste of your own energy and happiness. Let that shit go.