Gemme, no one has told you how to have a relationship.

No one.

It is very dangerous to white wash history. We are about to have a Presidential election where our rights could take us back to the 1950s and earlier. I am never going to ignore any of that. I didn't take issue with anyone's relationship. What I have issue with is white washing history.

And if people want to make male the superior in their relationship they can, but if people are going to tie that to some wonderful mystical past when things were so much better I will challenge that. And I will continue to challenge male being superior as the default in society.

Gemme you can PM me anytime but you can't just come in here and say a bunch of stuff and then tell us to take it to private.

Moderating
 

Here's what needs to happen, folks:

1. This thread appears to have meandered into a completely different area than "What attracts you to FtMs...". While threads will do that, I think that the discussion being had here is valuable enough to warrant it's own thread so that folks can continue teasing this apart without derailing the folks who would like to engage in more light-hearted banter.

2. This discussion feels very similar to me as the one did when the whole "Gor-Daddy" thing came up. Much like that conversation, I want to remind folks that you do not get to police other people's kink. You don't get to label what someone else finds sexy as "wrong". It may indeed *be* wrong but this is where we have to accept that desire is a really convoluted thing and that its intersections are often going to bump up against things that are made of -isms.

3. I think it is super valuable to dismantle desire for ourselves. If you want to tease apart why something doesn't work for you, then do that with language that is thoughtful and sincere. Refrain from jabs that make you look like an asshole because the conversation cannot happen if people keep trying to "win" rather than listen.

4. The very nature of the Butch/Femme dynamic is seen as sexist, racist, and homophobic by many folks. Think back to discussions in your Feminism circles where you may have heard those shitty diatribes about how Butches "just want to be men" or how Femmes "are really straight women looking to get their pussy licked". Does it feel at all familiar to folks that we are now turning inward on other dynamics that feel "wrong" to us but that other people have found shelter in?
I'm not saying that there aren't dynamics out there that are really fucked up. There are. There are dynamics out there that deserve a ton of discussion. My point is that I would like to see that discussion happen thoughtfully without all the other bullshit. (you know, that bullshit where we waggle our fingers at someone else's way of doing their desire).

5. As far as individual desire goes, I'm a huge fan of the motto "If you aren't fucking me, paying my bills, or living in my house, you don't get to have an opinion on what I do."

6. With the above being said, if you are up on a Feminist website spouting some bullshit about Gor-Daddies and how awesome it is when Femmes turn into Stepford Pussies or Butches are only Butch when they are climbing the "Machismo Dick Tower", expect to have that shit dragged out into the daylight and picked at.

The point of all this is y'all need to treat each other better.
Make your point as if the person you are talking to is across the table from you at the Reunion.

And in the immortal words of Ozzy, "I love you all but you're all fucking mad."

Thanks,
Angie

I just love these two. I hope that the honeymooners are not considered x-rated or something.. Also, people can choose whether or not they wanna watch the show. Just a link. Heck Alice is awesome. Crazy Ralph says..."Baby, you're the greatest" and also, to the moon Alice...when he doesn't understand her.
[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frbp2O6I2go"]The Honeymooners "A womans work is never done" - Part 1/3 - YouTube[/nomedia]

[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vI8Elpu18uU"]The Honeymooners "A womans work is never done" - Part 2/3 - YouTube[/nomedia]

[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRG62QFGcKM"]The Honeymooners "A womans work is never done" - Part 3/3 - YouTube[/nomedia]

This is when Alice goes and gets a job and Ralph can't deal with her not at home. He has no idea how much work it is for her to do all that she does.
It is great. I think the women that have known me...eh...would probably say...i can be a little too much like Ralph sometimes.
Probably sometimes too much. Hell, maybe i am giving myself too much credit. Would have to ask the women that have lived with me really to get a real idea. Would be nice to hear them critique this post ....from a distance...and in bits.
Damn he is like a child...i don't think i was that bad????

thank you.

my politics and my personal life preferences/kinks do not necessarily reflect one another. i'm what happens when you mix the DNA of an intellectual, a housewife and a porn star to create a whole new person. anyone who doesn't like my love of submission and sexual engagement via housework, cooking, baking, grocery shopping, budgeting, errand running, managing a home and spreading my legs for my One Person can suck my dick. (she said in a very genteel fashion)

**EDIT**

my apologies for not reading the moderation that Medusa posted or recognizing that i was further derailing the thread. that said, my post stands undeleted because i'm selfish that way.

Times have changed. Just my opinion ....I actually think that life now demands an awful lot(i think more demand than that of the past) from women...especially mothers with jobs and a home to take care of. (Maybe i feel this way because i have not experienced any other time or way of life.) I believe that there should be a balance of work within a home from a family.
Never ok to hit a woman in my opinion. I didn't realize that it was ever ok or perfectly acceptable to hit a woman back then. I don't think i ever will realize that. I disagree with it so much that it would not matter what context or time period.

And as far as the Honeymooners goes...if it has to be deleted or taken out from this forum..if the show offends anyone...then i would understand. I wouldn't take it personally. I just like the show.

back on track
 

i'm attracted to FtMs in part because i love people who live from a place of extreme authenticity. as a cis-gendered person i've not ever had to demand space for myself. i can only imagine (and i expect i aprobably couldnt come close to imagining even half) what it might be take to demand that kind of room in the world or what it would feel like to have the stones to do it. that kind of honesty bunches my knickers.

i feel the compelled to write the following disclaimer so i dont get bent over for not acknowledging that non-transgendered folks also do exactly what i've just described. please accept this paragraph as my acknowledgement of that fact now. lots of people do that who are not transgendered have to create space for themselves in this narrow world. many (if not most) of the people on this website do that very thing every day. in my post i am merely responding to the topic (what attracts you to FtMs) in a personal and honest way. in addition, this is only PART of what attracts me to FtMs. the rest of what attracts me to them (or to anyone, for that matter) is often a mystery to me. it just is what it is. [/I]

What attracts you to FtMs???
 

Bumping to get us back on this trail..

I love you for this....thank you !
 

Thank you !

Clearing my throat....
 

I'd like to hear again.....why is it you femmes love/ are attracted to us ?????.......

<smile>....

Jonathan

quoting cause I'm lazy like that...
 

disclaimer...please note I am posting in a thread about FTM's in the Trans Zone. I do realize that the above could apply to pretty much.....everybody.