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DO NOT!!!! use my credit card to buy your other girlfriend a present

That's what poly is for.... So we allllllllll know

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Originally Posted by Tranzman (Post 164858)

Don't expect your partner to read your mind. Communicate your needs and desires. Statements such as, "Well if you don't know why I am angry, then I certainly am not going to tell you", will not be given attention by me.

For fucking real.

And when I ask what your problem is, absolutely don't say "Forget it. I am stupid and wrong anyway." Because we have never had a conversation in which I told you that you were stupid and wrong - maybe you've had that conversation with some other girl, but don't put that shit on me.

And, plus. You know. If you refuse to tell me what your problem is I am not going to sweet-talk it out of you. All you're doing is pissing me off.

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!
:mohawk:

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

:innocent:

When relationships go bad....

Don't fail to examine the role you may have played in the doo-doo. Maybe you chose to overlook those little red flags that had popped up, or maybe you decided 'unconsciously on purpose' that the relo wasn't good for you and you did stuff to get out of it, in order to preserve your self-hood.

I can't tolerate feeling buffeted about by forces beyond my control. I need to know that I made decisions - unconsciously or not - what those decisions were, and why I made them. Then, I get to decide what to do about it. In doing so, I return my power to me.

AMEN!!! AMEN!!!! AMEN!!!!

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Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme (Post 164933)

Rule Number 1: Do NOT ever let me TOP You -- It will be over!

:innocent:

forget to apologise-

I am not your ex , don't compare Me to them in any way shape or form :) I am My own person and I make mistakes from time to ...And I am NOT a disabled midget , I can take care of Myself just fine thank you ! :) Just sayin :sunglass:

And if you have been in jail for printing checks or you are the gate keeper to the aliens , or the crazy cat lady , or you can drink a keg by yourself befor dinner and then some please SEE THE DOOR !

I DID NOT BECOME THE CRAZY CAT LADY INTENTIONALLY, BILLY! REPORTED!
:jester:

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Originally Posted by betenoire (Post 164952)

I DID NOT BECOME THE CRAZY CAT LADY INTENTIONALLY, BILLY! REPORTED!
:jester:

Oh I didn't know there was more then one :sunglass:

Billy..who are you talking too? How many cats do you have?? snort*

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Originally Posted by IrishGrrl (Post 164954)

Billy..who are you talking too? How many cats do you have?? snort*

Hey I will be the first to admit I love animals and I love mine ! :) Perhaps crazy cat lady was not the proper term or name for her , I was trying to be nice :) But she was crazy ! She would call every 5 freakin minutes ! Wake Me up all the time ! And changed who and what she wanted to be on a daily basis :| Oh and I am NOT a Lady ! :):sunglass:

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Originally Posted by Billy (Post 164974)

I have a pregnant stray cat locked in my bathroom right now Billy. Want her? She's going to make KITTENS and I promise they will be cute!

I'd keep her, but I really want my bathroom back.

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Originally Posted by betenoire (Post 164977)

I have a pregnant stray cat locked in my bathroom right now Billy. Want her? She's going to make KITTENS and I promise they will be cute!

I'd keep her, but I really want my bathroom back.

Oh thank you ! But I believe I have more then My share right now ...lol I have a kitten that was saved in the flood here , and she likes to take a shower with Me :|

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 164766)

DO NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell me how I need to be more demure.

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Originally Posted by June (Post 164834)

Don't ask the Femme who brought the Delicious Peach Cobbler to the picnic to marry you in front of your partner. Trust me, it can cause a lot of problems later that evening.

:readfineprint:

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Originally Posted by softness (Post 164843)

dont take better care of an ex than you do me. If you are in a relationship with me, dont tell me I need to be self sufficient but an ex needs your help. I will resent the hell out of both of you...

Dont tell me I cant have a horse. Seriously, dont. It will be one of the straws that break the camel's back...

dont make fun of my family. God help you. There is nobody perfect in this world and we all have our issues but if you amplify my family's issues into a good set of jokes around the table with friends, you will be served shit on your plate the next day...

ooo...does that count as scat???

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Originally Posted by softness (Post 164851)

dont invite your friends over to meet your new girlfriend, then get angry after they leave and tell her you KNOW she was flirting with them....thats really stupid and qualifies you technically as a first class jerk....

when in a supposed committed relationship, dont leave your ex your power of attorney because she has more of a history with you. It makes the new GF feel like she is just on loan....

ditto for whose name is on your checks....

and as beneficiary on your insurance policies

and lets not talk about the will...

and when your new gf tells you that your ex wanted to know if her name was still on all of these, dont turn it around and say your new GF is just jealous when what she really is, is concerned...for you

dont introduce your gf to your family on Christmas as your friend. Especially if you are very out....

the xmas stocking for your ex needs to be sent to her or put in the trash, not back in the xmas box

DONT show people the face your gf makes when she is coming...you might not ever see that face again...

Its really scarey that you would have to even think of telling someone these things.

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 164863)

DO NOT!!! think you can use me as a sushi table....

Killjoy!!

DO NOT!!! Stop all communication with me because your dog passed away, and expect that after a month of you not communicating that all will be ok.

:blink:

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Originally Posted by weatherboi (Post 164926)

please do not flush my marijuana down the toilet!!!
it will do no one any good!!!
:mohawk:

OMG say it ain't soooooooooooo!!!!

There is more than one crazy cat lady. So far, I've known two and I don't think Billy and I have anyone in common.

Please do not give me a detailed run down about the amazing shit you just took.

Do not rush me to orgasm while fucking me

If I say I need time to think, please dont follow me around the house.

I dont mind harmless flirting, but DO NOT oggle other women all night

Please do not call me to talk, then go on a 20 minute spiel about something ADORABLE your cat did. Then go on for another 20 min's about your OTHER cats!

Never, EVER lie to me, even if it's gonna hurt.

If you are pissed off, or upset about something, talk about it. Passive agressive behavior will get you the boot.

Dont do the running man on the dance floor while we are out with our friends.

If you burp or fart say excuse me.

I may not act like a lady, but dont forget that I am one, and treat me accordingly