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Tell her you love her for her intellect whilst not taking yer eyes off her rack! :|
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Do not ignore someone's past. It's the best prediction of the future.
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don't ignore your past failed relationships by engaging with the same person with a different name, you will get the same results
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You cannot buy Real love and attraction. It cannot be bought or sold.
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I actually heard this one on a podcast about successful and happy long-term marriages -
Don't forget to create opportunities to laugh together. According to the interviewee, regular laughter alleviates tensions and strengthens the bond. The guy claimed laughter produces oxytocin (the "bonding" or "trust" hormone also involved in labor/birth) but I haven't verified that. Anyway, it's good advice for me because I get so very serious so very often. |
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Don't throw out sexual innuendos in our first couple of conversations. Show me your sense of humor and what kind of human you are. If we gel, laugh and can connect in a playful way then we'll move forward. If it's too much work going in then no doubt there will be a struggle later. |
Don't shutdown.......keep the communication open
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don't tell all your private hardstuff unless you are absolutely sure it's ok.
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A brief disclaimer .... this post is in NO way reflective of Desd if anything she shows me the what you should do and I am forever grateful she took a chance on this Cowboi
DON'T ever use our child as a pawn or for that matter make fun of me in front of her.. she thinks the world of BOTH of us and when you laugh at me call me names infer that I am dumb it HURTS her Make fun or belittle my Military service yes I know I signed up for it but it was not my vacation from you or the child it broke me to be away from her don't go through my phone or email I will flipp and it ain't gonna be purddy don't try to change me I ain't broken flawed yes scared hell yeah Lastly and this is for me DON"T EVER take her for granted :cigar2: |
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Don't make me a yo-yo, meaning push me away then draw me back in with your loving, caring behavior. Make your mind up already! :wtf:
If you decide we're no longer compatible, let me know! Don't just stop talking to me! :phonegab: Don't take that which I've shared with you and spread rumors against me. :| |
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dont expect miracles out of the new person in your life. They are not the second coming of the messiah here to absolve your world of all the past sins of your past lovers. They are just another person who has a chance to love you. Dont screw it up by expecting too much out of them.
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We should try not to react without thinking first.
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Aretha said it best..R-E-S-P-E-C-T. ie..Even if thier wrong do not correct them in front of others..Never degrade or demean them..Open communication..Never let a day pass that you don't tell them how much they are loved, appreciated and admired, one key a counselor friend of mine said was to hug and kiss for at least 3 minutes when you get home...Grams said it best, think before you speak, you can't take back words.
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Don't keep talking about your ex for Goddess sake! I would like to respect that relationship but if you keeping bringing them up it no longer appears you are over it!
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Don't take advantage, nor take for granted.
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Remember that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. If you have emotions tied up with the ex, and can't be indifferent to their actions....then you aren't really over them yet. |
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YES!!! Nobody wants to live with the "ghosts of relationships past" or hear constantly about how and what your ex did. I am NOT them nor do I wish to be compared to them.
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Don't cheat or play people. The shit will eventually hit the fan.:seeingstars:
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I have done so many "NOTS" that I am still looking for the "what TO do in a relationship" thread...
The only thing I know for sure NOT to do, is... Do NOT think for a minute that anything is the same as any past relationship. Every day and every event is new and just because past experiences had (A) result, this new one is completely different and may have (B) result. Trying open-mindedness is always the best answer for me regarding relationships. That... and faith. Good luck folks! |
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dont be in a relationship with two women at the same time. I dont care who the other woman is. If its your mother, your coworker, an actress, an infactuation, an ex, or yourself...make sure your GF knows she is your one and only girl in your life, at least the only girl in the relationship with you....
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Don't make her be your 'everything', it's too much responsibility for one person. Have a life away from the relationship too.
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Don't !
Dont' make promises you will not be able to keep throughout the relationship. (Don't make promises - no one can live up to them, not even you). Don't say; "OH Honey you shouldn't have spent so much money on flowers, candy, dinner, jewelry, perfume, etc." - they will stop buying these things anyway as time goes by - so enjoy it while you can. No matter how hard you try - you can't keep the happy beginnings! And there are no happy endings. Play and be happy while you can! Enjoy the love while it is there! Then move on with your life - always stay *you*. The true you.
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Don't pretend to have a life threatening disease!!
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Could you elaborate on what you mean by this? What I'm reading is that your partner needs to come before yourself? I'm just wondering, because the way that I look at it.. Making any relationship more important than the relationship you have with yourself doesn't sound very healthy. People can come and go... You always have yourself. |
Don't tell me how much you LOVE me :awww:
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Don't buy things for him/her then that against him/her. Ouch.
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If you decided to be with me, fell in love with me, whatever....because I'm me...then why would you want me to be different? We all have to make some little adjustments to accomodate the one we love....but if we're talking fundamental changes, then I'm thinking I was a convenient warm body, not "the one" for you. |
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P.S. These are all past, not present lessons. :) And, amazingly enough, they apply to my friendships as well. |
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