I spent many years doing what was best for my kids, my family, staying in relationships I shouldn't have and putting others needs before my own. And then I met someone who made me look at things differently. I wasn't completely true to myself, but was learning how to be. They taught me how to be, both with their life and their death.

I was widowed 2 years ago and spent the first year grieving and the next year really being happy about being single. I only started dating again this Summer. I am perfectly happy being single as long as I am not celibate and I don't need a relationship to take care of that so I was very happy in my single life.

However, recently that changed and I am beginning to think that being with another person who has the same life goals, who has the same desires who is connected to me in ways I didn't think were possible is something that I desire. Something that I believe is possible.

So, yes as I get older I am very comfortable alone, but I look forward to a life with the partner that I deserve.

I am very comfortable alone, But...
 

That sounds wonderful Taino,
My best wishes for you and your lady, and your wished-for future together.
Smooches,
Keri

Bedtime Story for Morningstar
 

Once upon a time there was this great big truck, driven by a star of the morning, that traveled allllll over the place. It parked long enough to catch some WiFi time and some shut eye. And when she awoke one day, her painting of a t-shirt was on display on BFPlanet in the Raffle Thread. She checked out the post, and said ,,,yep Tommi, that's right. :goodluck:

Good morning everyone. Some interesting posts in here. I like exploring issues and feelings in more depth.

Wolfy you asked if once you have that big love, does that mean you will never have one like it again? I am paraphrasing your question but that is the essence of it I believe, yes?

I think those of us that have reached "a certain age" have all had one big love. It might have been a healthy, positive good love or an unhealthy one. I believe that when you fall in love in your 20's, as I did with my 19-year relationship; one is still positive, optimistic and unscarred much by life or that love.

For me, I became less positive, less hopeful as the years went by and a bit of that open, trusting heart left and I became more self-protective. When I ended it, I took self-protection to the extreme and did not risk at all (ie, no dating at all for the next 10 years).

When I decided life was too short, came out of my shell and began to date again, it was difficult. I went on a few dates that had no chemistry but met some interesting people and learned that maybe it was not too
late for me.

I did fall madly in love, had a nearly 8-month relationship, which ended a month ago (not my choice) and I have spent some time grieving and healing. I know that I will not stay single again. Time is moving on for me and I do want to meet someone that will be there with me, through thick and thin, hard times as well as good; to spend the rest of my life with.

I love having a partner with a good brain, someone well-read and interesting and I love having frequent sex. I did not realize how much I liked it until I had it again! (Not to say I can't and don't take care of myself very well!)

The butch I mentioned earlier that is 15 years younger than I, sounds like fun for a casual, low-key date. She really wants to meet me so I just might do it. Why not? The age thing is a sticking point with me but I really never have butch dykes close to my age want to date me, it is usually younger ones. I can't figure that one out!

Wolfy, go for it. You never know which one will click for you and you might find a woman that is also a rescuer!

Hang in there everyone! Never give up, I still believe that there is someone for everyone but you have to take the bull by the horn and make a move. They don't knock on your door unless you hsve arranged a date ahead of time!

been going over the postings on the age and relationships topic...
im 57....
eveyone in my family have been on a long term relationship ... except me.. why?? what is my problem???
last time I gave my heart away and trust 200% .. i was soo soo content.happy , focusing on a home. a life with my other half ... well that got blown out of the water... some people just sometimes think the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence with no thoughts on how it may affect there partner i guess. *sigh* ....... that was the last time i gave my self to someone soo deeply. Im scared to go thru that again....
I tried having a couple more relationships after that but it has not been the same and it never will ....
im trying to get use to the idea of just dating now and then ... and dont get to serious with anyone anymore. at out age we are all set in our own ways ... although if i could just see someone steady ... would be nice.
I am a 1 person kinda girl... i am loyal , honest. down to earth , love life . can be a jokester.....
i was told by an X ... reason why i am alone is cause i only think of myself... hmmmm i dont get that.
all the friggin sacrafices i have made and still make... renting my bedroom out at home.. to a friend of my daughters cuz he was kickd out of his home ... when he came out to his family he was gay. driving the truck im hardly ever there anyways
whn i go home i sleep in the living room for now.. or my truck.
helping a lady out few yrs bk... that was homeless... living out of her car.
giving paintings away to friends and such... painting special post cards and sending them off... cuz i like giving out smiles.

id like to move... for 5 yrs now ... been planing on NC near Danville VA .. there i can get bk to messing with the horses and have thoughts of having a artist workshop biz as my retirement income...
i have a cousin whom is a professor in albany NY and helps write grant letters all the time...... soo this is going to take a lil time i guess...
mean while....... i will keep on trucking and doing my art when i can.
thats my story and im ahh sticking to it. hehe

Stopping by
 

Hola everyone

Taking a short break at work thought I would stop by and say hi.

Need some coffee. Weird weather here today. Downpour
and now bright sunshine. Life on an Island. Go figure.

rainning here too ~~ bright skys then down pours ~~ back to bright ~

Good morning all
 

Hello everyone, finally got my laptop re-imaged and now getting back into the swing of things! Is a beautiful day here in NC, feels like fall! Where in the world has this year gone to, my grandmother always said time flys by quicker the older one gets and she was so right.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!!

Ty electrocell 4 , letting me park at the Goode ranch.

Take care of yourself out there.

Hey All...wow what a day...It was my first day of school and I think it's gonna be an interesting semester. Challenging classes and favorite teachers, you can't get much better than that!!! Luck of the Irish keeps on trucking baby! :clover:

Thought you were Scottish? :)

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Love this song and video is cute

Yes, indeed...
 

How sweet it was...and will be. ;)