Had to learn this one the hard way:

• Don't try to talk about anything of substance while football is on. :tease:

Cute...and true **chuckling**

Yes learning that lesson helped me know.... next one wasn't going to be a football fanatic. I just couldn't help myself and no need to frustrate anyone needlessly.

The ironic thing about this is.... in this relationship I AM more of a football fanatic!! But we aren't home on Sundays anyhow....so it does no harm :)

we like 2 different teams. i havent lived close to a store that sells falcon things like she lives close to where damm near every store sells something with the patriots logo on it.

i have to remind her OFTEN that we are undefeated this yr.

i know that she loves her team so much and i really love how passionate she is about that. i hope that she gets her wish and they make it to the playoff however if they play us we will WIN

Dont let the relationship die by moving 2 slow

hey, don't forget the Feverrrrrrrr too!

:pirate-steer:<<<<<<<my costume tonight

Don't give up too soon, or stay too long.

(And just when you think you know where those two points of demarkation lie, the rules will change—so consider this advice useless!)

Don't avoid discussing difficult topics

Don't be a conflict avoider

Ha! You write SUCH truth within the parentheses!

it is so wonderful to hear someone back their partner in their passion about something like football - BIG hugs to both of you!

laughing hysterically
 

Really?...LOL.....amazing.......

Darbonaire-

You want to know what is really amazing? That I have advised you about this kind of behavior once before and warned you of the consequences and you still are unable or unwilling to control yourself.

Just to be clear, this type of post and following your ex around the site in order to fuck with her is patently against the Terms of Service.

You are now on a 30-day time-out.

During your time-out, you are not to access the site in any way or contact the Admins or Moderators. Failure to comply with this request will result in a permanent ban.

Thanks,
Medusa

And always hold her hand and tell her you love her....... 😊

Don't..
 

Make her feel like she's on the same level with every other chick that you know. Make her feel like she's a priority....special...and then she will likely return that to you. If you don't, then don't expect her to.

Dont talk about all the ex lovers (just the ones u need to discuss)
Dont make promises you cant keep
Always kiss eachother good night & good morning regardless what went down
Keep your appearence up .. being a frump is a turnoff
Let hym (her) talk .. listen

~ never let your past become your future ~

True, but at the same time, strike a balance and don't overanalyze and alienate.

"Relation SHIPS sink when they have too many passengers."

What not to do in a relationship:

This really holds true with any relationship... don't lie... really there is no point. The truth always comes out in the end at least that is what I believe.

Don't tell someone you love them if you don't mean it.

Don't forget that you are in the relationship for a reason, if you forget why, take a step back, analyze and see if it's right for you. Sometimes we forget what brought us to that person in the first place because we get too busy with everything else.

Don't forget to breath. It's important.

Don't forget to tell the one you love how you feel. Don't let that become habit. Make it mean something when you say it.

Don't settle for just anyone... life is too damn short!

Don't take each other for granted

Don't be a douche. It's pretty basic.

more don'ts
 

When you see a bill in your name for a magazine, don't assume the woman who loves you is "using your name to get stuff".... Because it may just mean that you got to the mail before she did.... and now your gift is spoiled by your ugly remark.

Jumping to conclusions is like jumping off a cliff, it's not gonna end pretty.

Refrain from saying 'all my exes.........' if you feel hurt, get some help. Assuming your current love is 'just like' your exes does both of you an injustice. It sets the stage for animosity.

For the love of God, please don't be clingy or needy. I get that you have needs. We all have needs. Express them as an adult, sans whingeing.

Dont assume that everyone has the same do's and don't as you do.

What one assume to be a rule breaker another might see as adorable.

OMGosh I am never going to be someone to give relationship advice on what to do however sadly *lol* in my experience, I am quite able to give advice on what NOT to do...

• Don't assume. Ever.
• Don't withdraw... you are a couple, that means two.
• Don't mistrust without a reason.
• Don't bring that third person [exes] into your bed. Ever.
• Don't let small problems become monsters. They will if you don't address them. You can't wish problems away & monsters will eat you.
• Don't let ego come before your heart.
• Don't forget the tiny things... they mean everything.

finally!!!! My kind of thread!!!

Don't ever underestimate me and I mean that in the non harmful way :)

Ascot-

This post was reported for being problematic.

Here's the thing, this is supposed to be woman-positive space and I'd like to think we can do a little deeper digging around language that has been used in ways that don't honor women.

I know that "douche bag" is popular vernacular right now but how about a word like "asshat" or "dumbass"? Those words don't hold the same kind of negativity in women's space that calling someone a "douche", a "twat", a "bitch", a "cunt", a "whore", a "slut", a "tampon", and "insert other words that are not woman positive unless consented to" tend to hold.

Thanks,
Admin

Before...
 

You are even in a relationship and find out what NOT to do...

Are you *available* to put the time into having and nurturing one?

Will it be or become one of your *priorities* to be in one?

LDR are not easy. Think long and hard if you are capable of *sustaining* one BEFORE you start having feelings for that awesome femme or butch. <that look out the window together on the phone in the morning and one has 6 feet of snow and the other is watching seagulls flying around and its 75 degrees outside at 8am and 11am for the other.> It took 3 hours to shovel and clean the car off:sunglass: This is where the "I wish you were here" begins. For the record I am not against LDR I have seen plenty work out wonderfully.

And the last one...
ARE YOU TRULY AVAILABLE mentally,emotionally, physically and spiritually TO EVEN BE IN A RELATIONSHIP???
What does *single* mean to you?
The time spent reflecting after your relationship has ended is when you *truly* learn what not to do in your next relationship. It hurts but its a gift:goodluck:

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Don't ignore the other persons needs.

Don't lose track of how much time you spend on online (e.g. connect with facebook friends, play games, groups etc)
Establish a healthy dose of time and stick to it