hahahahahahahahahahahaha

And, seriously...shoplifting? Do you come across this much, or just being funny?

Was an attempt at humour.

kind
thoughtful
unconditional

I always get hot and bothered when I see Canadian spellings.

- no games (I'm too old for that shit. Just be real in the way you talk and act. I do not like being confused as it makes me want to give up.)
- must be clean.
- likes to play and have fun but knows how to be serious. Can make me a priority as I would them. Otherwise don't bother.

To much drama
No jealousy
Must love day trips

Be nice to me! :shocking:

I got it, I just wanted to make sure...

Must be happy for the most part

Knows how to carry themselves in various situations and /or company.

Kind loving and compassionate

must not be judgemental ...

must be independent, have your own interests....

must not be clingy, smothering......

:rrose::rrose::rrose:

unwilling to step up without being asked

playing stupid

not taking care of my pets when I'm in the hospital.

Cheating
Lying
Lying about cheating

Trust me (and be trustable)
Respect me (and be respectable)
Know how to have fun and be happy

must be able to read me and respond appropriately as often as humanely possible

keep the drama on stage and what does come in our house, let it be from others, not from each other

faithfulness of committment. I am now in a poly marriage that allows other partners, sexual and otherwise. But our core relationship never falters.

Demonstrating:

1. Cruelty

2. Narcissism

3. Lack of empathy (see number 2)

4. Zero insight into self

Ok, 4 but I could keep on going

I posted the above almost exactly 5 years ago and it's pretty amazing that my top 3 musts haven't changed.

I'll expand a little as well.

1. On being a stable adult - I want to include emotional stability there as well. I want kindness, an ability to be introspective, the ability to take personal responsibility, an aversion to blaming everyone and everything around you for your behavior, and the ability to wake up with general gratitude every day. Basically, I don't expect my partner to be all kittens and rainbows but I expect them to know themselves, to know their own triggers, and to be able to cope in healthy ways.

2. On being hella smart - They must also be evolved in ways that allow them to dismantle any privilege they have, to be able to meet other people exactly where they are (or leave them where they are), and to be able to "big picture" when they need to. I want analytical thinking when needed punctuated by those moments where we are guffawing with hysterical laughter at the stupidest shit in the world. Oh, and must laugh at farts.

3. Honesty. Non-negotiable. Emotional honest as well as verbal honesty. Knowing that omitting a crucial fact is dishonest.