I should have specified: NOT demonstrating those negative character or personality traits (or disorders).

Do not be boring to me. My friends and I can sit around and talk about laundry, and I won't be bored. And there are some people who everyone seems to think fascinating, and are by objective measures, but who I can't wait to get away from. So who knows why some people are interesting to me and others aren't? But be one of those I find interesting.

Do not be one of those fabulous, performative, look-at-me kinda queers. That shit wears me out. Butches, femmes, and other genders can be like this. It can catch the eye and occasionally warm more southerly regions, but for day-to-day living, no thanks.

These are different, but I will lump them into one point. Be capable of empathy, be considerate, and have good manners. Basically, be someone I don't have to train like a stray dog. If you are old, which is likely, and haven't acquired these qualities by now, you are probably an asshole. So, I'll give that a miss.

1. Abusive - physically or verbally

2. Cheating - lying is part of cheating

3. Arrogance - cockiness or showing swagger is fine.

4. Have a great sense of humor

5. Must be good in the sack

Ooops, I've added two more..... oh well

6. Emotionally & financially stable, responsible

7. Minimum 5'8" or taller

8. Being deceptive with full of B.S and drama

Ooops, now I've added three more! So spank me!! LOL

I just basically want honesty, respect and no drama!

just (3)
 

-a dedication to your sweetheart, that makes you evaluate every issue's importance in the bigger picture of your life together....I think the realization makes you behave more reasonably and be more open to expansive resolutions to the glitches every deep relationship will have-if this doesn't occur to you early, you probably need to rethink whether you're ready for anything deeper

-to think of your sweetheart's needs as equal in value and importance to your own

-realizing goodness, faithfulness, kindness have to be part of what's important to you both

Three non-negotiable:

1) honesty

2) kindness

3) a good sense of humor

A good sense of humor never hurt anyone

JDeere, girls will think you have a good sense of humor if you wear Hello Kitty gear.

no they wont they will think I'm weird, not the good kind of weird either lol

3 or more
 

Honesty...Honesty...Honesty...did I say Honesty?!

and Intelligence/Creativity...glasses a plus...smiling...

loves family...Sensual...Multi-lingual...Compassionate...Loyal...Loyal...Loyal...

did I say...?...smiling...Passionate about her interests...knows that Love is

demonstrated in actions...Loves to move...dance...run...swim...walking...

oh yes and loves to...well, you see I could go on, but will stop here...and knows

that she finds similar and other qualities in me...including the glasses...smiling...

In 2017, may you be embraced by peace of mind, prosperity, and an honest, and

loyal, lovingly caring Beloved. (f) Happy New Year!

Greco

Ohh loyalty is another good one to have.

That is very hard to find these days.

i
 

Indeed, high level of discernment required for sure...actions speak louder than words.

Greco

Communication / Honesty / Fidelity

Very true, I prefer actions over words!

1) Independence, for both of us. If I do accept someone into my life, they have to compliment it. So they would have to love their own independence of life as much as I love my own. That's the only way it would work.

2) Similar sense of humour. Still on my bare essentials. If they don't have dark humour and love playful sarcasm/irreverent humour, wit, its probably not going anywhere physical.

3) Good Kinky Sex Life.


that they dont smell bad and don't lie is kind of a given. I take that as an unsaid baseline that is so understood by pretty much everyone, it doesn't need saying.

however, I don't care about fidelity, nor do I care if they have money or not. I am happy to pay for dates and holidays. I don't care if they like to fool around at parties, or have dates with long term fwbs they reall care about. As long as their feelings for me are sincere, without dramatics, they put some time aside for me especially, and they are honest/loyal.

You'd think this was a low bar. Apparently not low enough.

I'm flexible on the likes, as everyone is individual and that is interesting to me..
But the women I can't stand to be around are the ones with loud mouths, The ones who carry a chip on their shoulder from their past lovers.And the ones who think their own shit don't stink..

Women like Caroline...

• Honesty
• Loyalty
• Compatible sense of humor

Everything else is negotiable.

Non negotional desires: the basics
 

Chemistry creating that feeling of *please* come closer. (The healthy kind)
Devotion, passionately, heart to heart. We *love* our love.
Very loving and expressive, prone to impromptu acts of passion.
I adore purity of heart, and kind, honest expression.
Open-mindedness, free thinker, global spirit, adventurous.
Embodies finesse, a grace of spirit.

Someone who bothers to live an interesting life, unapologetically interesting.Then comes home and shares.