A beautiful, sunny Saturday here in Paradise.....
 

*looks around*
Is this where the single people hang out? :spruceup:

yeppers...welcome

Thanks! :P

Newly single *peeking in* Afternoon everyone.

Ageism/dateing ivisablity
 

Yeah that thing.Boy did it ever raise its ugly head tonigh,again,there is the really cute,sexy as all get outs college prof I have been hanging out with on and off for a while.When I met her she had no idea what my age was nor I hers,a fue monts ago I got carded at a night club and she was with me,the guy at the door made the comment that hell you dont look any where near your age..what ever you are doing keep it up...I said thanks and in we went.So in passing she ask,just how old are you???In a kidding way I told her old enough to vote a couple of times over anyway,then I told her my age(64)
She didn say much then but on the way home she said we could be friends but she just didnt date anyone seriously that was so much older than she was (50).I said no prob so we stayed friends,last night we went out for dinner and the blues club on the river frount,we had a good time till she had a drink to much then she desided we might be better than friends.Now If I wasnt the person I am I may have used this occasion to my advantage but I took her home got her in the house safely..then told her that we were friends and will stay that way cause unless she still though this way when she was sober a fue drinks wouldnt change things,then I said good night.When I got home there was a message on my phone that said she was sorry for haveing to much to drink,it wasnt something she normaly did(this I know already) end of message.I wish ageism didnt become an issue in the things we do in life,weather I see her again isnt he issue,I would like to atleast keep the friendship,its just theis thing about age sucks.

good morning everyone. FOOTBALL in a little over an hour. :) off to scrub my tub before the game. hope everyone has a good Sunday.

Rock, do I every hear you on this one!

I'm 62, but also don't look my age, and a femme. That means the entire dating pool is about the size of a thimble.

I don't understand your lady's objection to your age. Out there in the het world, an older guy is always desirable. I mean she's not 25!

But femmes are graded by their ages as if we're eggs or something that will go bad if we are over a certain date. Sheesh! We're just swinging into our prime. 50 is the new 30 so we're just mellowing.

Hang in there, Rock. There's got to be someone out there who appreciates fine wine.

Still single by choice. Haven't met the right one yet. Then again I haven't really been looking.

Ditto!

Zimmeh

Hello
 

I am a 38 year old single mother of 4 great kids. I love life and am pretty easy going for the most part. Most of my time is spent with my kids and going for walks, and other family things. I would like to make some new friends to just chat with. :hangloose:

I'll make anything for dinner. I can pretty much cook any cuisine around. :)

scampi included???

Coffee, hot tea, and hot chocolate is on I suppose since I'm awake.
I have a feeling its gonna be a long Monday! Enjoy peeps!

Is there any homemade buttermilk biscuits? I've been craving those damn things since 3am :)

Zimmeh

Time for me to get back to the books and concur another busy week. Hope everyone has a great week. :)

Midwest Warm
 

Happy Monday from Kansas City Missouri!

Been a while since I've been on this board, but it seems to be rolling along just fine :O)

It's been two years since the end of my 12 year partnership and I think I'm ready to date again. My sister wisely informed me, "You won't know if you're ready till you get back out there!" LOL.
Aside from not hurting anyone, dating real-time (not LDR)...any advise?

Commin right up,I've been told I make the best buttermilk bisquits this side of the mason dixion line.

Gotta love a butch who can cook!

Clay's right. Just get to know someone.

But get out there first. Mingle, mingle, mingle. I'm starting to do that. I'm going to as many dances as I can---because I love to dance!

And I'm trying to spend time with one or two of my butch friends in real time, just enjoying their company. If you haven't been in the dating world in a long time (like me--over three decades since I had a date), just being around your butch friends will let you relax and enjoy the banter that goes between folks. And it will keep you from losing your head when you date a real potential butch.

Just enjoy, hun.

Hi Bella,

I kinda agree with your sister. I broke up with my partner of 2 years in July. We broke up for very good reasons and we both knew it needed to happen but it had been a serious relationship and we were crazy about each other.

It's taken me 6 months but I now feel ready to re-enter dating land. In those 6 months I became really protective of my time and space and designated every Saturday as a self care day to hike with my pup, read, write, drink tea, take baths and most importantly talk to no one. That sounds extreme but it was just what my introverted self needed to become reacquainted with single me.

I knew I was ready when I got to the point of feeling happy and complete on my own and people (friends, co-workers, etc, not just potentially romantic interests) started to become gradually more drawn to me as I began to recover my energy, attitude and confidence.

As for dating real time...I like okcupid. I know that's online but their questions and detailed stats are really helpful. Their system streamlines the process of finding people who share your values and interests. All the questions are user generated so you can even create your own content according to your values and when you answer a question about your preferences you can assign that question a value to indicate how important it is to you. As in: I'd prefer a lover who can cook (though that's optional), but they absolutely MUST be a kinky bastard.

I've had 2 very good okcupid dates so far and there weren't any red flags (or even pink ones) in those dates because I had enough information from their profile, our compatibility ranking and our message exchange to feel confident deciding whether it would be worth the time and energy to meet in person.

Sorry, that was long. I hope it was helpful.

hey everyone..hope all are having a great monday!!
had a strees test on my heart today.. im in good shape!! lol better then last time when i ended up in icu!! walked out so it has been a great day for me bucnch of strees for nuthin!
havin chia tea latte' have plenty if anyone wants some.
windy an a little blowing snow here today.. got the fire going an my tea.. cozy with a smile

Congrats on your good health report, Cody!

Don't like chai but will take a cupa black tea or peppermint.

well i have some of that too be ready in a sec... guess your trip to south when well?

I should clarify this. I had a small space last year where I saw three butches after over three decades of not being in circulation. It's been a year now of being totally single, and I've started getting out and mingling and enjoying the company of one or two of my butch friends.