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Self care is high on my list, like most of you have posted. Regardless of what is done, taking the time to put into myself continues all the good juju and happy happy joy joy mentality. Happiness flows downhill, from the head to the toes.
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Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.
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Before going to bed..
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I enjoy validation as well, I guess for some folks (like myself) the validation comes from within, self acknowledgement is a powerful thing, no one loves me or takes care of me like I do.. Therefore I set the foundation of how others see me that I want to see me. Make sense? |
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Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist". |
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Good for your Mom!!! Good thing she never let anyone dictate what she is or isn't!! |
Self-care, not just of the physical but even more the intellectual. An afternoon reading, taking myself out for a good meal, recharges me. Taking care of my environment, not just the bedroom. Having balance with the physical, intellectual, and spiritual.
I don't know if feeling "sexy" is always about wanting sex per se, but I love feeling confident and more put-together and that makes me more apt to feel that little "woo" ;). |
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Lots of things make me feel sexy...from a new pair of shoes to feeling like I've taken very good care of myself.
Sometimes, it's the combination of the right pair of jeans and a favorite sweater while taking the subway into work...other times it's a snappy answer to a smart question. Sometimes the most superficial things make me feel sexy...and other times it's the real stuff of substance. Sometimes a look from a man makes me feel very sexy ("Look all you want, brother...'cause none of this is for you!" - haha) and other times a good, long stare from a woman across a bar or party. Validation - aka "independent confirmation" - does have its benefits. Plus. I'll be honest as there are some days and nights when I'm not just dressing for the weather... I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual. Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us. |
There are many things that make me feel sexy. Here is just a few...
Getting a new outfit or new shoes. A long hot bath with candles and bubble bath. Getting a new mani and pedi. New bedding, something cute to wear and cuddle up in the sheets. One of the other things that come to mind is wearing "his" white dress shirt, nothing else, and puttzing around the house. If my partner likes it that is a bonus. If not, it's really not that much of a consequence. Heck, i do that when i'm totally alone. *I* feel sexy dressed that way and feeling sexy is definitely something that comes from within. Nice thread. |
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red toenail polish in peeptoes shoes
It makes me wiggle my toes and say *aren't they just so pretty* |
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A sexy butch reaching over to push a strand of hair back from my face. :wine:
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This is a thread for femmes, in the femme zone and it's reasonable to request that it be free of anything that may feel like leering or that our responses are somehow designed to turn someone else on. To me, the thread is just for us and we don't always get to allow ourselves to be sexy or show that we feel sexy because someone can and often will, turn that against us in a 'we said that just for them' kind of way. It's unsettling. There's a certain vulnerability when you reveal someone personal to oneself and to have someone....even someone whose intention was not unkind....come in and say that what some of what we said turned them on, that feels unfair to me. As Snowy said, we get this kind of behavior in the world on a regular basis. That doesn't make it right or okay here. Brock, thank you for apologizing. We all speak before thinking at one time or another. It happens. How one handles it afterwards shows a lot about that person and their intentions and I don't think the intention was malicious. Just that what happened was inconsiderate. As for your second question which I underlined, this question makes me feel uneasy because it's very close to 'she was wearing a short skirt and deserved it' in my head. I take ownership of that leap but I still feel that it's not unreasonable to expect to post in this thread, in this particular forum, without judgement or someone taking ownership of what is not theirs to take. |
A reassuring hand in the small of my back guiding me through a room or a crowd.
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I can relate to being in a funk…..
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Ay que pelao el puro pelao liking the post about the lace bra…..lol
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What Makes Me Feel Sexy
Touching a butch's buzz cut
Making my eyes up in a way that would make any drag queen proud Wearing my lucky leopard print bra All my tops that show a little cleavage All my tops that show cleavage and maybe a hint of the leopard print bra Music with a good beat or heavy duty congas Having my 'femmeness' appreciated, i.e., complimented on a dress Getting cruised Being called 'mami' K.D. Lang's voice (OK, anything about K.D. Lang….) FLIRTING! When a butch stares at your lips for a second before kissing you |
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She was trying to change a tire at the time so the pre-kiss look was definitely the sexiest thing going on…….lol
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oh yah ... drums beating... sexy outfit ... in my super happy place :) |
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