Inki's idea of romance is a bit barmy so "regular" romantic gestures are a bit lost on her. For example, the way she showed me she liked me the first time we met was to come up behind me with a friend's top hat, stick it on my head and say "oh look, Guns and Roses" then removed it. then very slowly when I'd be talking, creep the hat up my back and stick it on my head and mouth the words "guns and roses" over and over while I was talking to people until I became so irritated I grabbed the hat and beat her into the fire place with it that was by the table. Which was the response she was looking for, I think. Some butches want you to beat them with a hat. It means a lot to them.

If hat beatings and Guns&Roses were the official definition of "romance" I might actually fancy myself somewhat of a romantic. It sounds far less awkward and much more amusing.

Oh, yeah... foot massage!

Something that I appreciate is a red rose for me once in awhile. Just one and red. On my pillow is a good place to leave it.

Receiving a card with some "talk" in it is great, too. Just left somewhere I will find it at some point during my day.

Because I usually have some of the "she isn't really flirting with me in THAT way," a hand on a knee might convince me that she is interested in a romantic way. Just a soft touch, not talking a big squeeze...

Have to add that I really do notice how a date dresses and I do think that this can be a way of figuring out if she accepted a date (or asked me for a date) with me because she does have some romantic inclination toward me. I do dress well for dates- my shirt and slackes will be ironed- and clean and go with each other!

OK, a silly one- if after we are dating a few times, she asks me if I want to go to a baseball game (especially if she really doesn't care for baseball very much) together- I can get some romance just in her thinking of doing this. To be honest, I love going to a ball game with someone I am seeing, but if she really would not have any kind of fun doing this, I say thank you (with a kiss) and let her off the hook. Yanno- that thought that counts!

My girlfriend in college used to come up to me on campus, around town, wherever she saw me, and say, "Hi, handsome." :o

Too much? That's crazy talk. The "boobs on the upper arm" move is a classic. It's right up there with the "lean forward when we are seated across from each other so you can have a good look at my cleavage" move femmes often do.

For me it would be to cook dinner. Something she put thought and time into with the anticipation of hoping it turned out well.

Thought put into anything where I am concerned is a huge turn on.

Like Hack and Goofy, I want acceptance. See me, not who you think I may be based on your previous life experiences before having met me. I like to be romanced with intelligence, spontanaity, your authenticity, femme mystique and a dash of passion about life.

adding to Sunshyne's list
 

Question!
 

This thread is one of my biggest questions :-)

If I was dating someone and wanted to know the answer to this question, what should I ask, or what should I pay attention to to find out?

Sometimes I am so nervous on dates I miss stuff! ah!

F x

For myself....
 

GMTA
 

In my opinion, you should be able to just simply ask your date straight out "what makes you feel special?". I think it'd be safe to say that most people regardless of their identity, really appreciate someone making the effort to reach out and find out what makes them feel appreciated/special!! :) :)

Just this femme's $.02....