Butch Femme Planet - On/off the market?

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They might say "Hi"
And I might say "Hey"
But you shouldn't worry about what they say
Cause they got nothin' on you baby

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Originally Posted by June (Post 319684)

I always know when I am "Off The Market" when the thought of anyone else touching me makes me feel icky in my tummy.

It's very scientific.

Love this!

I'm in a commited relationship with Ebon. We live together and have discussed, at length, our plans for our joint future together.

That would make me off the market.

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Originally Posted by June (Post 320221)

Yeah, but hypothetically speaking: What IF someone came along and offered Ebon say, $1,000,000.00 for you? Would that put you back on the market for resale? Could we get as much for you the next time? Or, is it like once you drive the new car off the lot, you lose some of your value?

Do we need a poll?

We always need a poll.

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Originally Posted by June (Post 320221)

Hypothetically speaking, if someone wants to pay a cool mil for me, then they need to pay ME (regardless of what the money would be in exchange for).

I'm no prize....ask Ebon. :blink:

If we get a poll, would it affect my asking price if I jammed it up someone's ass?

I don't think I've ever been out of the stockroom and on the shelf!

Seriously, I suppose I'm "on the market", but not seeking. I'm busy with school, my family, and a lot of personal issues right now. However, I'd make time for the right one.

"Off the market" within a relationship is when both people (or more) involved agree that it's an exclusive relationship.

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Originally Posted by Gemme (Post 320226)

Sounds kinky. You should definitely get a higher bid for that.

I am the market.

Er, Marketmaker?

Eh, whatever.

I've been off the market since 1996, seriously....and for MANY years, I was not interested in or even thought about dating or relationships. I didn't want a "revolving door" in my son's life; raising him without more upset from him getting attached to someone who might not be around for long, or might not accept him as a "package deal" was very important to me. A revolving door in a child's life can do much harm. I can prove that...

I stayed off the market for several reasons, that being the most important to me....

Then, once he was out of the house on his own, when I did decided to date "mom's neighbor" in the Summer of 2007 (a Soft Butch I'd had a minor crush on for 5 years) and come out at the same time.... I still considered myself off the market, but not because I was dating. (WOW!! 11+ years without "any"! :| no wonder I had a crush on Min!)

When I was/am single: I'm off the market because dating or the possibility of a relationship happens on my terms.... and I don't go looking for "it", nor am I open to "propositions". I don't like being pursued or someone being "aggressive" with their interest in dating me or other sexual attractions....(I certainly don't like an aggressor...it sends me into a "bad zone"...)....I am a loner, most often. I was never comfortable in the "dating scene" or actively pursuing a "mate" and I'm NEVER comfortable with someone "coming on to me"....it's just not in my comfort zone.

If/when I decide to become involved with someone, I am off the market... not solely because of monogamy, but because it has more to do with it takes a great deal of effort and a VERY special "place" for me to consider or be actively involved and/or intimate with any individual. Sharing that level of intimacy for me and of me is a VERY special place. I haven't found a comfort zone that allows me to share that place with "just anyone" that might peek my interest. ...I have dated some since 2007, but I must be in MY comfort zone to share "my all". Just because I date, look around or play the field, does not mean to me that I am "on the market".... maybe dating means to me that I am trying to see where that person or situation fits in "my zone"?

If a person does not appreciate, respect or honor my "special place" ... then I become mentally and sometimes physically off the market.... I might share intimate things/times with them.... but I become guarded and refuse to "give my all"; therefore, parts of me are off the market.

When I'm in a relationship, I'm off the market. If we both agree to be exclusive then it should be no less of a commitment than if we are married. For me, marriage (legal or in the heart) is about far more than exclusivity.

Although i am in service and have to ask permission, i would be looking to play with others if i felt well and were less busy. i like playing with others, people i have known a long time and new people. It is the spice of life. Or one of them. i am truly poly. i can safely say that i would never enter an exclusive relationship. For me, health and happiness are found in polyamory.

I am very happily long-term-dating someone but we have a relationship with negotiated non-monogamy, so I am not for sale on the market but I am for rent, and sometimes, if your lucky, you get a 2 for 1 bonus. (hubba hubba)

My gf and I have agreed to an exlusive relationship, which makes me OFF the market, just as if we were married. And I wouldn't be tempted by the $1,000,000 offer from someone else...and yes, we've talked about that!

i don't use on/off the market to describe my status. Either i'm looking/open to dating or not. if i'm taking time for myself or i'm in a committed and/or monogamous relationship, then i'm not looking/open to dating.