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I am really not afraid of dying, because in that it is like being recycled like an aluminum can. What I am afraid of is being terminally ill and having no support. After what I just experienced, I now know what to expect from my family. Nothing. I am on my own. And that is one bitter pill to take - like so many of us know first hand. :praying: |
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Yes, but I believe in constant forgiveness. I should always be forgiving. No matter what the situation is. Not for them, but for me. |
I don't think having a Chosen Family precludes the concept of forgiveness. :) But I agree that forgiving is a very healing thing to do for one's self.
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i am currently reading Pema Chodron's No Time to Lose, which is her explication of Shantideva's Way of the Bodhisattva. i recommend it.
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I love this thread. Thank you, Linus, for starting it and thanks to all who have contributed thus far. I look forward to more.
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I never thought of forgiveness as being for other people but for myself. It is like turning the other cheek. To some I am just a dormat for them to walk all over. I will never understand that. I think that after watching two people I loved dearly die horrible deaths from cancer recently, I don't take life for granite. Life is so short. People are people no matter where you go, online or in real life. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, and be proud of who and what you are, and have a faith that you can rely on no matter what it is. |
Daily Dharma from June 1st
I really liked this recent Daily Dharma as well ....
I like how these make me think. June 1, 2010 Tricycle's Daily Dharma Mindfulness Leads to Wisdom In a state of mindfulness, you see yourself exactly as you are. You see your own selfish behavlor. You see your own suffering. And you see how you create that suffering. You see how you hurt others. You pierce right through the layer of lies that you normally tell yourself, and you see what is really there. Mindfulness leads to wisdom. - Bhante Henepola Gunaratana, from “Mindfulness and Concentration,” Tricycle, Fall 1998 |
June 6, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Cultivate a Spacious mind When you do meditate on a specific object, such as the breath, that object will help you to develop concentration, and concentration will enable you to cultivate a quiet and spacious mind. But you must be careful not to focus your attention too narrowly on the object, as that can constrain your practice. You should keep your primary focus on the object of meditation, but try to do so with a wide-open awareness. As you follow the breath, for instance, allow yourself to also be aware of what is happening in and around you. Be conscious of sounds, thoughts, sensations, feelings - but without fixating on, grasping, or rejecting any of these things. -Martine Batchelor, "A Refuge into Being" (Winter 2002) I like this as a tool. It can be hard to maintain focus when meditating and there are exterior noises (phone ringing, kids chatting, tv on in another room, traffic, car bass going down the road lol etc). I find being able to allow the distractions to float by in your mind like clouds rather than trying to hold onto them. |
June 9, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Be Patient When you plant seeds in the garden, you don’t dig them up every day to see if they have sprouted yet. You simply water them and clear away the weeds; you know that the seeds will grow in time. Similarly, just do your daily practice and cultivate a kind heart. Abandon impatience and instead be content creating the causes for goodness; the results will come when they’re ready.” - Tibetan Buddhist nun and author Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, "Meditator's Toolbox" (Fall 2007) This one really gave me pause. I get really frustrated sometimes, with the work I am doing on myself. I have a LOT of samskaras that I want to replace. There are many that have been dug so deep into the ground, that the walls to even try to jump out of them seem impossibly high. These grooves, these tracks I've been running in for 30 years feel just as deep even after working on them for a while. So I liked the visual of the garden. No, one wouldn't dig up one's seeds to see if they'd sprouted... so why shouldn't I trust that my work... my process IS working... even when I don't always see instantaneous results? I just need to remember that this is a journey and I can't always see what things are going to look like around the next bend, but that doesn't mean I should stop walking the path. :praying: |
Tricycle Daily Dharma
June 10, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma What is Mindful Eating? Mindful eating is a practice that engages all parts of us—our body, our heart, and our mind—in choosing, preparing, and eating food. It immerses us in the colors, textures, scents, tastes, and even sounds of drinking and eating. It allows us to be curious and even playful as we investigate our responses to food and our inner cues to hunger and satisfaction. Mindful eating is not based on anxiety about the future but directed by the actual choices that are in front of you and by your direct experiences of health while eating and drinking. Mindful eating replaces self-criticism with self-nurturing. It replaces shame with respect for your own inner wisdom. - Jan Chozen Bays, "Mindful Eating" (Summer 2009) |
RE: 365 Tao: Taoist meditations
Prophets and Priests teach the form of Tao
Tao's essence cannot be taught It is latent and cannot be known by learning. "those who pursue learning lose something day by day those who pursue Tao are in fragrant grass" -Laozi, trans. Lady_Wu Lady_Wu |
Re: Taoist and Tibetan Buddhist here
I am a Taoist (first) and Tibetan Buddhist (second). I studying Alchemy and Immortality from my Taoist Master, and Tibetan Buddhist from a variety of sources. I am a Gelupta/Kagyu Buddhist. I am studying two courses from Ashoka, a Tibetan Buddhist University that offers free or nearly free courses. Right now I am studying The Heart Sutra and Ch'an Buddhism from Ashoka. If anyone is interested in Ashoka, the URL is:
ahokaedu.net Namaste, Lady_Wu |
For those that are fans and readers of Thich Nhat Hanh (and those that are not).... here is a link to his page on Amazon. I was introduced to Buddhism through his writings. Just amazing and peaceful works.
http://www.amazon.com/Thich-Nhat-Han...112&sr=1-2-ent |
June 11, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Getting Hooked In Tibetan there is a word that points to the root cause of aggression, the root cause also of craving. It points to a familiar experience that is at the root of all conflict, all cruelty, oppression, and greed. This word is shenpa. The usual translation is “attachment,” but this doesn’t adequately express the full meaning. I think of shenpa as “getting hooked.” Another definition, used by Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche, is the “charge”—the charge behind our thoughts and words and actions, the charge behind “like” and “don’t like.” Here’s an everyday example: Someone criticizes you. She criticizes your work or your appearance or your child. In moments like that, what is it you feel? It has a familiar taste, a familiar smell. Once you begin to notice it, you feel like this experience has been happening forever. That sticky feeling is shenpa. And it comes along with a very seductive urge to do something. Somebody says a harsh word and immediately you can feel a shift. There’s a tightening that rapidly spirals into mentally blaming this person, or wanting revenge, or blaming yourself. Then you speak or act. The charge behind the tightening, behind the urge, behind the story line or action is shenpa. - Pema Chödrön, "Don't Bite the Hook" (Summer 2009) |
Oblivia, thank you for posting this and including the URL. I've been doing a lot of reading on that site. It's very intriguing.
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Time-lapse mandala: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/0...ml?ir=Religion
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June 12, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Meditation is what you make it For the first two thousand years of its existence, Buddhism was mostly confined to monasteries with strict rules, timetables, and hierarchies. In contrast, Zen in America today finds the majority of its followers in the lay world, where most of us have families, jobs, and homes. Our zendos are places to visit, perhaps daily, but more likely once or twice a week: refuges, perhaps, from the “real world” of money and responsibility. Along with the “layification” of Zen has come a sharp distinction, for most of us, between meditation and the rest of life. While the monks of old lived and breathed, day in day out, year in year out, in an atmosphere of stillness and contemplation— their entire lives were one unbroken meditation!—we modern practitioners stop what we’re doing when we sit and restart our everyday lives when the bell signals that time’s up. The result of this is an apparent dichotomy: either I’m meditating (on my zafu, often in the zendo, sometimes at home), or I’m not meditating (the rest of the time). What’s lost in this either/or distinction is the idea that meditation can be anything I choose to make it. Sure, I can define meditation rather narrowly as the time spent on my cushion. But if I do so, I’m elevating sitting over everyday awareness and thus diluting the possibilities for all those other quotidian opportunities for mindfulness. - Barry Evans, "I Like it... but is it Meditation?" (Summer 2009) |
Accesibility
"As long as the sun rises
and your heart beats Tao is at hand" ---Deng Ming Tao Why do we look for Tao in mysterious and obscure places? Why must we sit in meditation for hours? As long as we breath, Tao is here within us. We might only be dimly aware of this, but that dim awareness does not change Tao. Being in nature will help; meditation will help:both help bring us to a better awareness of Tao. Even if we do neither of these things, Tao is right at hand. Do we feel, do we sense? Then we have direct access to Tao. Don't delay: feel for it, sense it! Tao is breath; Tao is now! Lady_Wu |
"Although the world's religions may differ fundamentally from one other in their metaphysical views, when it comes to their teachings on the actual practice of ethics, there is great convergence. All the faith traditions emphasize a virtuous way of being, the purification of the mind from negative thoughts and impulses, the doing of good deeds, and living a meaningful life." ~ Dalai Lama
I have the Dalai Lama friended on facebook. It amuses me to type that out. ;) But this lovely gem was on his wall today. "June 13, 2010 Tricycle Daily Dharma Stand on your own two feet When it's time for a child to start walking, a mother needs to let her child walk. She needs to let the child lose his or her balance, fall down, and then find balance once again. Alone, the child needs to get up and stand on his or her own two feet. Although children need protection, we need to have confidence in their potential to flourish. We don’t want to hold them captive by our own fears and doubts—this creates the unhealthy dependence we have been talking about. Letting children immerse themselves in a challenging situation or obstacle for a while gives the child confidence. It gives the mother confidence, too. It’s one of the early steps a mother takes in letting the child become a citizen of the world." - Dzigar Kongtrul, "Old Relationships, New Possibilities" (Winter 2008) Wow, this one was exactly what I needed to hear today - the message in the article in its entirety (linked above). Wow. So powerful. I will be thinking on Lenchak. |
June 15, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Watch Your Words Years ago, when I began traveling the Buddha’s path, I was surprised by the emphasis placed on the practice of skillful speech. The Buddha considered the way we communicate with each other to be so important that he taught the practice of skillful speech alongside such lofty teachings as skillful view, thinking, action, and mindfulness as a pillar of the Ennobling Eightfold Way. The Buddha saw that we are always engaged in relationships, starting with that most significant relationship: the one with ourselves. On the cushion we notice how we speak to ourselves—sometimes with compassion, sometimes with judgment or impatience. Our words are a powerful medium with which we can bring happiness or cause suffering. - Allan Lokos, "Skillful Speech" (Winter 2008) |
RE: Daode Jing, Verse 18
when people are rid of convention of how
to love, act and cherish then they will naturally hold their families dear rid of knowledge, they would be wise Lady_Wu |
June 16, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma Bad Meditation? No Such Thing The mind can do wonderful and unexpected things. Meditators who are having a difficult time achieving a peaceful state of mind sometimes start thinking, “Here we go again, another hour of frustration.” But often something strange happens; although they are anticipating failure, they reach a very peaceful meditative state. My first meditation teacher told me that there is no such thing as a bad meditation. He was right. During the difficult meditations you build up your strength, which creates meditation for peace. - Ajahn Brahm, "Stepping Towards Enlightenment," Fall 2006 |
Re: The Daily H.H.Dalai Lama
All forms of violence, esp. war, are totally unacceptable as a means to settle disputes between and among nations, groups, and persons.
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Re:the Daode Jing, Verse 20
stop thinking and end your your problems
what difference between yes and no what difference between success and failure must you value what others value avoid what others avoid what others avoid how ridiculous (Laozi) |
Re: The Daily H.H.Dalai Lama
Our ancestors viewed the earth as rich and bountiful, which it is. Many people in the past also saw the earth as inexhaustibly sustainable, which we know is the case only if we care for it. It is not difficult to forgive damage done in ignorance. Today,however,we have access to more information,and it is essential that we reexamine ethically what we have inherited,what we are responsible for,and what we will pass on to coming generations.
(H.H.The Dalai Lama) Just a comment unrelated to His Holiness' remarks but related to His Holiness. My one real wish to have happen before I die is to be in the presence of His Holiness, to hear Him give a Dharma talk or to teach upon a text. Many Tibetans see Him as Chenrezig (Avolakitsvara), The God of Compassion. I do, also. If He were to instruct me to stand in front of a speeding train, I would do so without hesitation. I would be convinced that would be some reason,unbeknownst to me that I should do so. Lady_Wu:) |
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Lady_Wu, Thank you for this post. Again so timely and so very true. Generations and generations... have treated the Earth is though it was a human "garbage can".. and in that thinking.. thought the Earth would sustain us.. and turn a blind eye. Mother Nature is tired. The Earth is tired. We as it's inhabitants have a responsibility to take care of it. .. and to take care of the other inhabitants that can not always take care of themselves, let alone their surroundings. On the "meeting" note. I had a chance to meet His Holiness when I lived out West. Alas, My work schedule did not afford Me the chance. However, I am with you on wanting that meeting.. it is on My "list". Peaceful evening to you. Namaste, Jake :candle: |
Re: The Daily Daode Jing=Tao Te Ching
the Tao never acts without force,
yet there is nothing it can not do. if rulers were to follow the way of the Tao then all of creation would willingly follow their example if selfish desires were to arise in me after my transformation i would erase them with the power of the Uncarved Block (Laozi=Lao-Tzu) |
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I want to explore the concept of the Uncarved Block by means of another small quote from the Daode Jing:
daily knowledge, daily gain daily Tao, daily loss (Laozi) The word translated as "Uncarved Block" in Chinese is P'u or P'o. Ir refers to the state of original simplicity, orginal being-as-it-is. The more knowledge I have about a tree, for, instance, the less I am able to experience the tree-as-it-is. My knowledge is wrapped around me until all I can see about the tree are my concepts of "leaves" "green" "bark" "brown", etc. All I can hear about the tree is"blowing in the wind" "branches rustling" "leaves falling" etc. I can not see or hear a tree in front of me as it is. The concept of P'u is very important in the Daode Jing. Returning to a state where one can experience the original state of the world, become like a babe is the aim of the Daode Jing. I am born into the world able to experience the world-as-it-is. The more I grow, the more I learn about the world. The greater and denser becomes the cloak of knowledge, or words,even, that obscures this world that I once knew. The less I am able to do without this cloak, this "action" about action (wu wei). The aim of Taoism is to unwrap this cloak, to become like a babe, to erase the carvings upon the block of wood. To, ultimately, learn how to be and do nothing. Lady_Wu This will put into my blog. For those of you who are interested: http://namelessgate-returntothewuchi.blogspot.com I THINK this will get you to the blog. So sorry about my typos last time. If it does NOT work, please PM me to let me know. In some ways, the computer is an "Uncarved Block" to me. |
Re: The Daily H.H.Dalai Lama
If one's life is simple, contentment has to come. Simplicity is extremely important for happiness. Having few desires, being content with you have is very vital: satisfaction with just enough food, clothing, and shelter to protect you from the elements. And finally there is an intense delight in abandoning faulty states of mind and in cultivating helpful ones in meditation.
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Re: The Daily Daode Jing=Tao Te Ching
when a superior person hears of the Tao
she diligently puts it into practice when an average person hears of the Tao she believes half of it and doubts the other half when a foolish person hears of the Tao she laughs aloud at the very idea if she didn't laugh it wouldn't be the Tao (Laozi) |
June 21, 2010
Tricycle Daily Dharma One Size Doesn't Fit All Nowadays, having become a teacher myself, I can see clearly that no practice can fit everyone. Generally I would say most practices suit sixty percent of the people who encounter them and try them out for a certain period of time. So I have become what could be called a pluralistic liberal in terms of Buddhist practice. - Martine Batchelor, "The Question" Summer 2008 |
Re: The Daily H.H,The Dalai Lama
From one point of view we can say we have human bodies and are practicing the Buddha's teaching and are therefore much better than insects. But we can also say that insects are innocent and free from guile, where as we often lie and misrepresent ourselves in devious ways in order to misrepresent or better ourselves. From this perspective, we are much worse than insects.
(H.H.The Dalai Lama) Traditionally in Buddhist teachings, to be human is the pinnacle of development on this world at least. Humans can become bodhisattvas and enlightened beings, where after one leaves the hell-realms, if one has had to go there, one moves up from insects to fish and birds, then to animals, unto one reaches the level of human being again. (I think I've got this correct, in a shortened fashion.) But I've often though in the fashion of H.H., and even wondered if, after achieving enlightenment, one might not become an insect or fish or bird or animal. They do not have the karmic consequences with which to deal that humans do. Just a though. But I agree with H.H. Lady_Wu:glasses: |
Re: the daily Daode Jing
the Tao gave birth to One
One gave birth to Two Two gave birth to Three Three gave birth to all of creation all things carry Yin yet embrace Yang they blend to blend their life's breaths in order to produce harmony. (Laozi) I have something to say about this but don't the time right now. I'll try to get back to you on it. Also, Linus, I have a question for you concerning The Tibetan Book of the Dead. Namaste, Lady_Wu:glasses: |
Re: The Daily H.H The Dalai Lama
When a problem first arises, try to be humble and maintain a sincere attitude,
and be concerned that the outcome is fair. (H.H. The Dalai Lama) |
Re: the daily Daode Jing
that which offers no resistance
overcomes the hardest substances that which offers no resistance can enter where there is no space few in the world can comprehend the teaching without words or understand the value of non-action (Laozi) |
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