6) I fight sleep like a child, afraid I will miss something

I have a lot of self-defeating behaviors.

One of these is that I tend to see the world in extreme black-and-white, which makes me very hard on myself and others, and perpetuates a bleak world view that makes it hard for me to feel hopeful.

Example: I quickly go to "never," as in, "It will never get better," and this makes it difficult to assess situations that really are hopeless—I don't trust my judgment and talk myself into giving it more time.

On the flip side of the same behavior, an extreme black-and-white perspective compromises my judgment when things are going great, and prevents me from being cautious when warranted.

It can also make me demonize or glorify people unwisely, though ironically, while I demonize myself, I rarely glorify myself.

I'm working on this one. Just being conscious of it, loosens its grip on me.

What are my faults? Well, I have some characteristic behaviors that I feel need improvement, and I have some characteristic behaviors that annoy others. The two sets of "faults" don't necessarily coincide. The "faults" that I've listed below apply only to personal relationships.

From my perspective, my "faults" (characteristics that I feel do not always contribute positively to my personal life) are
- I am too trusting, almost to the point of being naive. I take people at their word. I assume that people's intentions are good.
- I am too tolerant of other people's hurtful behavior and do not immediately call out them on their thoughtlessness.
- I am not assertive enough.

From the perspective of others, my "faults" are
- I avoid confrontation. (I agree that I do this, but I disagree that this is necessarily a fault.)
- I am too analytical and objective. (I slightly disagree.)
- I am not aggressive enough. (I slightly agree.)
- When I am angry, I react by withdrawing rather than expressing my anger and forcing immediate resolution. (I agree. I tend to stifle my anger and withdraw. When the cumulative anger reaches a certain level, I explode - which usually appears to be an over-reaction to the latest thing that angered me.)

I talk too much.

I have a lead foot...vroooommmmmmmm

When I love, I love completely and I will do anything to keep it safe and strong.

I think I get blinded by my own Love for someone, meaning I love so deeply I overlook my own needs at times by believing the story I tell myself about why they are not being met.

I am learning I have a real need to have my life undisturbed. with my Ex she was gone for years for work and I had what appeared to be the security of her Love but I was very content in my life living it with a great deal of independence since she was gone.
-I truly enjoyed when we were together too though, maybe I just got used to my own company being enough...

I think ALL THE TIME about EVERYTHING...

I think my way into and out of lots of things

I can be very impulse when I get excited about something or someone...

My faults are way too many to name. :(

My mantra is "I'm a Bitch, but I'm not YOUR Bitch" ...gives you some idea ;)

my first thought was : I'm a virgo , I don't have any. snort! ;]

I hate making mistakes.
I will double check things (sometimes) to the point of then making a mistake.
This happened today and I was so disgruntled with myself (eyeroll) there was really nothing left to do but laugh

I take people at their word. If they say they are your best friend I expect them to love me just the way I am faults and all.
I am a talker. I can keep a conversation going but sometimes I forget that it is better to stop and listen.
I get hurt easy. I need a stronger sheild over my heart.
I may forgive but I never forget.
When I become a friend I am there for the long haul.
I am not perfect.. just me!

Sometimes my instant reaction to things is to try to stop change from happening. I know better than this, my life is hardly ever easy and it's always intense.

This isn't very healthy behavior:

I don't want to talk for hours or at all sometimes.
I don't pick up the phone.
I can be in a quiet space for days.
I don't ask for help.
I will be take the offense and put you in defense.
I get bored easy and will create change just for the sake of change.
I am cheap. I am not talking about not willing to go out for a $200 dinner cheap, but CHEAP! I fix and repair and buy secondhand. Odd, no issues with buying a great gift for partners/friends/family or giving to charities, but its really hard to buy myself something nice and deserved.
I am not attractive, but don't work at doing anything different or care to change it. (this does not mean I don't shower or take care of my health, means I don't spend time with makeup etc).

My mind is constantly going. I am always thinking about 20 things all at once.
I refuse to settle. (this pointed out by another I call it being kind to me not a fault)
Im emotionless at times ( if I dont trust you then you are not worthy of knowing how I feel by the look on the face or my body language and I would sure never show you my tears)

What are your faults?
 

I'm very impatient.....

Where to begin...

I'm Moody. Vain. Pouty. Perpetually bored. Hard time focusing. Immature. Slightly meanish. Rarely satisfied. Shopaholic. Messy. Obsessive compulsion. Anxious. Cry baby. So much more.

How much time do you have?

Moody, insecure, untrusting, anti-social, immature, obsessive compulsive, spendthrift, spontaneous, crybaby... should I go on?

I have a few faults which have evolved over time. Some of my faults actually help me and other faults leave me in a state of emotional distress or impair my ability to act in immediate ways.

One “Fault” that can be helpful: I seem to have an ability to identify difficult-to-name behaviors. I have been told by others that I seem to have a ‘gift’ for identifying things of this nature, but what others may not realize is that it is not a gift: My ability to do this finds its roots in having suffered on-going issues of abuse in my own family (growing up) and also in a small handful of romantic relationships. I would say that the downside to this ‘gift’ or ‘fault’ is that it slows my ability to develop close relationships. In some cases of particular clusters of difficult-to-identify behaviors, I create an extremely wide berth of distance between myself and these particular individuals; because while their sets of behaviors can be very scary, I take great care to make sure that my personal sense of safety and well-being is least likely to be violated. But really, I see it as an upside to building safe and healthy relationships.

Faults of mine that are not so helpful: I can be rather quiet. I enjoy quietness within my own life at home, but I tend to temper the quiet side of life with random occasions of spur of the moment, over the top, loud and proud. But as I age, I seem to have to give more serious planning to the unquiet side of life. I tend to want it in small doses, repeatedly at times and I’ve been told that it’s annoying when I want to be quiet, rather than the opposite of quiet. I can be rather moody. Moody as in, I come across as rather a spoiled brat at times and if grapes are not peeled the right way with me, more than likely my spoiled side might get a bit out of control. My son’s have seen me this way before and usually call out my spoiled side; but also, depending on my mood, I have been known to make a mountain out of a mole hill and make it incredibly difficult to scale the precipice of my desires. If I experience fear, I will shut down immediately. And once this happens, it takes tremendous effort on my part to dislodge myself from what ever has caused me to become fearful. Sometimes I am able to help myself over come fear in a relatively fast way. Other times, it can be weeks to months – one time it was ten years; but time and distance helped in that particular case of fear.

problems with authority figures for $500 , please
 

when pulled over
I growl at :police:

just this week
<enter motorcycle cop with lights-a-blazing>

I said to myself " please , control your face "
and for the very first time evah
I got a warning without an enormous ticket

it's not an attitude problem
it's a face problem? ;]

Not being able to get out of my own head sometimes. Or the opposite, getting hung up that I can't figure out my own thoughts.

Impulsive
THINKS THINKS THINKS
can be too compromising
rationalizes others faults away

*Sometimes I expect too much from people.

*I lack a filter and find it hard to not say what I feel.

*Stubborn.

*Impulsive.

7) I'm a shopaholic. Pretty things that catch my eyes and products seducing me with promise of a younger appearance get me every time.

I'm an extremist and then I'm not

Hmmmm....

• I'm very literal
• I get confused easily
• I'm clumsy as all get out
• I'm extremely emotionally sensitive
• I either don't notice you or I imprint on you like a baby duck :blink: (I'm working on this)
• I shut down and "disappear" when frightened or overwhelmed
• I'm easy to agitate
• I don't heal, I scar (physically and emotionally)

I understand some of these are just sort of character traits but they can sometimes cause conflict with others and be perceived as faults.

~ I do know exactly what my fault is ~ gets me in trouble alot ~

Pondering
 

When I'm upset I lose all control and swear like a navvy. I get very foul mouthed and unladylike and launch into a tirade of insults, but it's just a front so no one will see what a soft little kitten wrapped around your finger I will be with the right word or a smile from you.

Basically if you get me swearing at you it means I REALLY like you lol

I realized in my counseling appointment today that given a situation in which I need to act, I'll get all convinced I'm right, have great insight into situations and what I should be doing, have determination...then start second-guessing, doubting, and wibbly. I started doing this a lot in my marriage, and it just became a bad habit.

It's probably first cousins with my dumbing myself down and clarifying every statement or action I take.

Sometimes I just can't say the things my heart wants to. My heart is more compassionate and forgiving but my head is stubborn and makes me put up a wall. I withdraw then. I could sit there and wrestle with my thoughts for what feels like hours. In the end, outcome is the same.I become temporarily mute and thus appearing as if though I am an ice princess. I really wish that was not the case.

1. Impatient
2. Capricious
3. Domineering (the boy says I'm dominant, not domineering. I say connotations aside I'm both)
4. I tend to want to reward myself with food. I'm not a dog, and that's a terrible habit. (almost done with this flaw, worked hard on it for 2 years now)
5. Vulgar
6. I expect too much of myself, and am then too hard on myself when I fail.

I tend to set pretty high standards for myself, and I am apt to let them slosh over on to other people. It's easy for me to lose sight of the fact that not everyone can or even should be expected to meet them.

In my excitement to share new ideas and knowledge it is quite possible that I sometimes come across as pedantic. What can I say? I was a Humanities major as an undergrad.

As someone else mentioned, there's my whole bouquet of issues with authority. No doubt they play a large role in my being self employed.

If I am at work and we are busy, I cannot turn the other way to go on lunch or my break until we have taken care of most of the customers. While this may be a good thing in most cases, it can sometimes result in my internal clock being thrown off.

I get hyper-focused as well. Made me hell-on-wheels when I was supervising in call centers because I was so dedicated, and it showed. BUT... I also learned that you'll get better results, perform better, feel better, etc. if you also tend to your own needs... oh, like EATING and take a moment to get some fresh air.

Just a thought. ;)