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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee (Post 545233)

see the world together!

Ah, yes... Travel together as often as you can. There is nothing like experiencing something new together!

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Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself (Post 563112)

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~speak out the minute you start to have a problem. Don't wait until it's big and you're fuming about it to bring it up. Remember they can't read minds.

~take your partner at their word. Don't read too much into their actions. Trust that they mean what they say.

~get out of the relationship if the trust is gone. Sometimes it's damaged and can be rebuilt, but when it's gone, it's GONE.

~laugh, a lot, together.

~get out of the house. One of you is bound to go stir crazy.

~have separate activities and interests and friends, but have some together too.

~be clear about what you want out of life, and life together. People who care will live up to reasonable expectations, and if you care, you will too.

~think before you speak or write about your partner. Assume they can hear you at all times, even if they're not there.

~buy/make small thoughtful gifts for no reason, doesn't matter if you're butch or femme. Everyone likes to know they're being though of

this is quite a nice list, thank you! we all forget to do these things!

trust but not blindly
live in the real world
be careful of what you intertwine
don't do things you may regret one day
don't be naive

Communication that is honest and open,
to give love freely because life is too short not to,
listen to what your love has to say,
be there for them in all things whether they want you there or not,

don't always assume their anger/hurt/moodiness is all about you, sometimes it's something else entirely :)

be happy for them when they are happy, even after the relationship ends

If you can't accept what you can't change, leave.

make love

to her mind

her body

her Spirit

often.

Greco

Kiss like its your first date and never stop looking at each other with love like you did in the beginning, the romance never needs to end.

Appreciate each other and what each other has to bring and offer to the relationship. Its like a puzzle that works together and even if there may be a few pieces missing (lets face it none of us are perfect in a relationship) you can still see the beautiful picture that only the two of you make together.

Remember you are on the same team and work together not against each other.

Always try to forgive the little things and remember why you are together.

Support each other through the good times and the bad.

But most of all be loving and kind to each other, and if you cant then respect each other enough to walk away.

tell her everyday how beautiful she is

never let her forget what she means to you...even when things arent perfect

let her know she is never far from your thoughts

and as Greco said so well...

be physical

make love

to her mind

her body

her Spirit

often.
physical

Throw them over your knee for a good spanking if they are into that!

Hold hands, be silly, laugh, experiment, be forgiving, be loyal, be appreciative, be humble and always kiss each other goodnight!! <3

When all heck breaks loose and the turds are flying:
1. plan to run away together but don't really. Instead support the heck out of each other.
2. Joke about cheesecake and have a beverage and some cookies together
3. swoon over the bite marks you left on each other and get all touchy feely!

Turn off the computer/TV/games/cellphone and enjoy some time together!

For me loyalty and respect goes a long way, the alternative is not even considered. :rrose:

Remind her when she forgets what makes the woes of the world go away and gives her a sense of restored grounding... :heartbeat:
:wine::bunchflowers::candle::phonegab:

Tell your loved on when you need some extra care and don't know what to do. Trust them to help you get a grip and love you mightily!

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Originally Posted by spritzerJ (Post 595963)

Tell your loved on when you need some extra care and don't know what to do. Trust them to help you get a grip and love you mightily!

Give that sweet someone a gentle reminder... :love1:

appreciate them and don't take them for granted!