That's a very positive way to look at it, very good! :)
That's pretty much how I see my weekends too,
happy to not be at work and happy to be able to have some time w/my daughter if she's around (LOL She's 17).

Let's see ... I'm not ready for the holidays at all. This will actually be my first one single and that's rather depressing, but I'm thankful for my family and friends that I will be able to see. I know I'm blessed, just wish I had ... Well ... Y'all know. :)

At one time I was on every singles site in existence, but just like you, not once did they give me a "match" that truly was. They gave me women, women that looked just like me. I don't need a twin. I don't need someone to share clothes with (but I will admit, I love having my honey's T-shirts, hoodies, sweatshirts and things to wear around, makes me feel close to them), or to share makeup tips with. I want someone that balances me, not is me. Similarities are good, differences are good ... So yes, like you, I will be doing my own footwork.

I keep reading how it's hard for y'all to tell when we are out there, and I know this to be true. Of course it is. Do me a favor, please just take the time to look around you. We are the ones trying to catch your eye. We are the ones really looking at you. And if you notice us looking, then we are the ones blushing (or at least I do) and grinning at you. That's us. We are there. We see you. We notice you. We appreciate you. If you just look around, maybe you just might see that appreciation from one of us.

I've already figured out it's not very appealing or handy to carry around a 2x4, so will just have to stick with hoping you will look up, unfocus from what you are doing, look around you and see that I am looking at you, hoping you will see, really see me. :praying: (my 2 cents)

Good Morning Singles!!!!!

Coming to you LIVE, from my sick bed!

Gonna be here ALL day, so feel free to do anything to help it pass faster.

If I have a good dream, I'll tell ya about it tomorrow. Good Night eveyone

awwww. thank you so much hun!!!

Afternoon all! Soon off to the dog park with my pooch. Poor guy, he is recovering from the other day, but off pain meds and..... he wants to go see his friends! me, too!

Hugs & kisses! Muzzle bumps, too!

See, I think that if I lived in a more populated area, I would have to get a dog... not only because I happen to LOVE dogs, but so we could go to the dog park and meet others. ;)

Good Evening Mountain,

I am not ready for the holidays...I haven't started Christmas shopping, and I am not sure when I will be able to...

I have a profile on Yahoo's dating site, but I haven't been on that in years.

How are you doing?

Zimmy

Foe awhile, I was on some of these sites and like you, not much luck with just being butch that likes femmes. Not that some very nice women contacted me, but it soon was obvious, they didn't care for my honoring this dynamic and that it matters to me. No real B-F put downs, really, mostly they were truthful about their own attraction variables. rather have them just be up front, anyway.

LOL, I don't know.... I'm glad that I did begin to date after the time I needed after my last relationship, but, now I seem to be in another stage in which I really don't want to date just to be dating (no, there is nothing wrong with that- I needed to try my own wings out, myself). I enjoy dates, themselves and put a lot of energy into figuring out what might be enjoyable as a date with a femme. LOL.. and I do fuss with getting ready!

What I find the most difficult is that I don't fit in well with most of the B-F oriented population here in the Bay Area of CA. in terms of dating and possible coupling again. Many great people, just not many I have met that would be a good match for me. Then, again..... it just isn't all that easy to find who clicks, maybe, in general- for everyone. My age is part of this, I think. Although, I have friends from many age groupings.

I am looking forward to the Planet dating site. Who knows!!!

I too have been on numerous dating sites, still am on a few actually. However, I too find them completely unhelpful. As a matter of fact, I am rarely contacted. Apparently there is something about me that is just... not what anyone wants... LOL!!

And where I live, there just are not BF folks... No matter what I am going to have to travel if I want to date. That being said, I have had it with long distance relationships and am currently trying to limit my potential interests to no more then 3 hours away!

YES!!! Really, I have met some great people at the dog park I go to (have for 10 years, almost every day). Ummm... I even met a femme there once that I dated a few times. We ended up realizing that we were not a match, but very good friend material. She's a very nice woman and her old hound dog is sort of like Frog Dog's Uncle.

For me, it is getting out for a walk (big park) for not only the pooch, but myself, too. There is a gay couple that have greyhounds that I have gotten to know and they always give Frog Dog new balls and treats. These guys have been together for about 30 years! Good dog Dad's, too!

LOL, my little pooch can be a "babe magnet," but what usually is going on is that these women don't get that I am female until I get closer and start talking if I am bundled up for the walk! Oh, well.... There are a lot of butches, some transguys, many andro-dykes that lean more toward just lesbian identity. Some femmes, but not as many as the others ( :(..).

I like many of the dog park "regulars"- I know, weird, but I do consider the dog park as part of my social network.

:sunglass:

Dating sites
 

This will be the first time I will ever spend thanksgiving alone... well, almost alone. My kids and I will be here, with my brother and his wife. Just the 5 of us. My parents are both leaving to visit relatives. My dad to Arkansas and my mom to Utah.

I did invite someone up for the holiday, but I don't think it will happen. I'm actually a little bothered by this. This holiday has always been about family for me. Spending time together playing games, watching movies... whatever it is, but always together. I don't even want to do it at all... but my mom is getting my kids all worked up about it with craft projects and talk of menus and such, which makes me feel worse.

I'll be heading to my parents as I do every year. I do have to work but I'll be getting off at 8 am and I took a vacation day for Friday so I won't have to go in at midnight Thanksgiving night. I know 2 of my brothers will be there with their family. My other brother may show if he doesn't have to work but his wife and children will be there even if he doesn't show. Not sure about my sister and her family. She may be flying down to FL to spend the holiday with her in laws. I'm planning on heading to my parents early so I can lend my Mom a hand with dinner. We always eat early...around 2 pm. That's just my parents usual dinner time. Then we clear the table, have coffee and play Scrabble. Lots of talk and laughter throughout the day. I'm looking forward to it.

its going to be a tuff holiday season for me.. lost my brother to cancer last month sept 20th, he was always a big thanksgiving guy. lost my mother a few years ago nov 20th...my partner to cancer 2yrs ago she always made a huge thanksgiving. it seems thanksgiving has turned into a day of rememberance for me. ill be spending it with some close friends, two straight couples that are always trying to set me up. shound be fun, but i do know what will be in the back of my mind.

anyway good morning to all the singles and have a great day!

yeah for friday!! i dont think stone has anything to do with it.. me personaly i think to many people have gotten umm .. for a loss of better word "lazy" in thier dating habits. i know i feel i have in the past. counting on the computer to do all the work for me instead of actually putting on my best getting out there and meeting people. i would instead toss a few things out on a dating site and wait for replies.. didnt work for me either.. met a few stalkers and some very strange ones. i feel there is no one "like me" within 100 miles of where i live. being stone and very close to male id'd i may end up falling back into dating straight women. in the past for me this has caused nothing but proplems, fights with hetro guys, being put down for who i am an what i love. i dont want to go to jail for fighting "again" so ill sit back in the "lazy" roll and hope someone comes my way putting me,my dog, my harley,my home and my truck befor dating.. usually keeps me busy an happy and i know eventuly if its meant to be for me it will happen when it should.

Mornin'.....

So, whoever wants to go to the dance tomorrow night here, meet at my house at about 6.

Geez..... wouldn't it be great to really have a "transporter" via Scottie! Would solve so many problems!

Just Beam Me!

Wishing all a great weekend!

I will spend Thanksgiving at our family ranch in Northern California. What is great about this is that there is room there for us to gather and it is pretty central for all of us to travel to.

If it turns out to be a nice day, all the kids can run and scream and just be kids outside. If not, they will do the same, inside! A football game will be blaring in one room with some that enjoy this and some kind of rivalry will most likely be going on. My sister’s grandchildren will make time to play checkers or just sit with her husband that has Alzheimer’s. Shit, they are starting to do some things like this with me because of my damn arthritis!

The Holidays are a time that I do get to see family and this means a lot to me. There is always reverence paid to those we have lost, lots of laughter, catching up, hugs, tears, arguing, and great food!

We all have things that have been passed down generationally that we cook for each other and family traditions passed on to children, like preparing and serving antipasto, using dishes from my parents and their parents. The basil used is still from seed my own father’s gardening produced that was from his Grandfather in Italy! Yes, one of my adult nephews has made certain that the seeds are preserved each year for this and he also produces olive oil and imported trees from the regions of Italy my Mom and Dad were from. Now, he is working on getting some from Chile as we have uncovered family “secrets” about a part of our family that was hidden from us. He is doing this as a way to combat the internal racism that surrounded this occurring in our family. You don’t have to let wrongs continue and this begins at home! We are hoping that new found family from the east coast will be at the table for Christmas.

I always talk about the "First Thanksgiving" in terms of how Native Americans were treated and continue to be treated. Education begins in all of our homes, within the family. Correcting what is left out in school curriculums is up to all of us.


Elders do sit at the head of the tables and I am proud to be given one of those seats. Younger members learn of the relatives they are too young to have known. We want them to have a sense of our family history, their culture. We bring favorite photos to share.

It is also a time that we reflect together on how much we do have to be thankful for as a family. Arguments over politics will run rampant! We have differences just like everyone, but, there has always been a deep love between us that transcends these differences. We do have each other's backs and always have.

I am very fortunate to have the family that I do and never take this for granted. So many other people just do not have this as a foundation and that makes me sad. Perfect, we are not, proud of our heritage and contributions as a family to our communities and each other, we are. I would not trade my deep love of family garnished with immigrant history for anything.


There will be many stories about those that we have lost and as usual, I will miss my parents, brother and one sister sitting with me and the “clan.” But they are with us.

No, it isn't just another day to me.

Hello Everyone! I will be working so I will be spending my first Thanksgiving alone (well ~ me & my 3 dogs). visited my family last week for a per-Thanksgiving gathering.

Hope you all have a really nice weekend! :)

When I was younger, my family and I would drive up to my greatgrandmother's house and have Thanksgiving and Christmas there. When my parents seperated and then divorced, my brothers and I would go to our mom's house on Christmas Eve <it is something we still do> and our dad's house on Christmas Day. After my dad passed away eight years ago, my middle brother decided not to join us and we respected his wishes. I just remember the fun we used to have and how we would do things afterwards once we were old enough to drive. Now we go to the movies after spending the day with my mom or we go bowling. That is something I missed while living in Orlando for seven years and now I am home on the East Coast and I am loving it...

Have a good night,

Zimmy

I will make you some homemade chicken marsala and Fed Ex it to you!

How are you doing?

Zimmy

That makes three of us. I will be alone for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, but I am thinking of doing some volunteering during this time.

I'm alone and I'm going to make myself a fabulous dinner.