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Lady Pamela 01-05-2013 12:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GreeneyedMe (Post 728990)
Honey....you are not alone...I could write the same words as you have here....I fight with myself every time I light up....I want and need to do it...my longest time recently was 71 hours...I call them my evil deadly friends and argue why I keep allowing them to keep their grip on me....sigh....we will get there....we will get there...we will!!

Of course you will. You both have what it takes. DESIRE to have somthing diffrent other than smoking .

Keep it up!

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Lofl 01-05-2013 10:01 PM

I had my last cigarette three months ago, then cut my chew down the beginning of December to 2 cans a week. After a few weeks I cut down to one can a week. Yesterday I finished my last can. Today to keep my mind off of not having what I want, I walked, I shoveled dirt, I cleaned the frig out (so unheard of..hehe) , and stacked enough fire wood for two winters. I so want to jump in the truck and fly down the dirt road to town. Yet here I set, just talking about it and not doing it. Maybe I have won half the battle. Tomorrow at this time I shall know if I won or not….here is to hope. :hangloose:

Scuba 01-05-2013 11:26 PM

Popping in to lend my support!!! Two and a half years smoke free and counting :) If I can do it so can you all!!

Keep at it even if today doesn't seem to be the day. Lady Pamela is right...desire counts for everything!!

Scoobs

Lucian 01-05-2013 11:47 PM

I've been trying to quit for years. I always fail at it. But i have really got to try and succeed. Because i notice the difference now days with physical activity. I don't want that to get even worse. I still have time to turn it around.

DapperButch 01-06-2013 09:20 AM

Good luck to those who are quit...keep it up...it CAN be done!

It was hellish hard for me to quit. I was a 2 pack smoker a day. Chantix was the answer. Yes, I had the shitty dreams and actually felt very nauseous for about 20 minutes every morning after taking the pill, but it was worth it.

The other key for me was using the Chatix for 6 months, rather than the recommended 3 months. I was glad my prescirber was willing to do this.

A bit over 3 years, here!

Keep it up, folks!

ahk 01-06-2013 12:21 PM

Today, marks my 5 years of smoke free. I would have to agree with Jesse on just knowing when its time to quit. I was just ready to quit, I was tired of the increase of prices, I was also tired of having to walk that extra mile to smoke at work, I was tired of smelling like smoke, and I was just tired of smoking.

Good luck to everyone who is trying to kick the habit-- you can do it!!

puddin' 01-06-2013 03:34 PM

i'd been quit about 15 years when mah daddy died. i started back. but have been quit again now fo' 2 years.

love bein' smoke free...

Lady Pamela 01-14-2013 07:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by puddin' (Post 729732)
i'd been quit about 15 years when mah daddy died. i started back. but have been quit again now fo' 2 years.

love bein' smoke free...

I quit for 2 years once also...but the fact that you quit again and have done that kick in the ass before..will save you from the next slide..atleast for me it has.

Way to go btw!






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funkyfemme 01-15-2013 12:48 PM

Today makes 155 days without a smoke!!!!! Goooooooooo ME!! :cheerleader:

Since August I've had a few rough patches but they seem to pass as quickly as they come. I feel pretty lucky that it's been this easy. Still not gonna get too cocky as I have a great failure rate lol!

Anyhoo, just wanted to say congrats to all the new quitters and to those with a few years under their belts, way to go!!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup:

Tommi 01-19-2013 08:56 PM

Congratualtions
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 728860)

Celebrated my 11th month smoke free today...smiles

I know to some it may be silly to do so but today I officially have not smoked aprox. 13,200 ciggarretts.

And have started to regenerate some damage I have done.


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CONGRATULATIONS TO THOSE WHO HAVE QUIT, AND THOSE THAT ARE STRUGGLING TOO...cuz it is on your agenda. :)
Congrats, and on your anniversary, it is on my birthday...We should have celebrated. I still am, I have decided it needs to be a birthday month.

WOW, I can see that image , of all those cigarettes.
Way to go. I have much respect for those that can do this, as I have been told it is harder than drugs and alcohol. My Mom and my ex were heavy smokers, then one day, it was time to put them away. My Mom kept a pack in the freezer.? Peggie kept one in the medicine cabinet.

Lady Pamela 01-20-2013 06:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by funkyfemme (Post 730716)
Today makes 155 days without a smoke!!!!! Goooooooooo ME!! :cheerleader:

Since August I've had a few rough patches but they seem to pass as quickly as they come. I feel pretty lucky that it's been this easy. Still not gonna get too cocky as I have a great failure rate lol!

Anyhoo, just wanted to say congrats to all the new quitters and to those with a few years under their belts, way to go!!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup:

Incredible isn't it...the strength we find within when we challenge what feels uncomfortable..at first!

Way to go and so very proud for you!

Keep it up!




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Lady Pamela 01-20-2013 06:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 733685)
CONGRATULATIONS TO THOSE WHO HAVE QUIT, AND THOSE THAT ARE STRUGGLING TOO...cuz it is on your agenda. :)
Congrats, and on your anniversary, it is on my birthday...We should have celebrated. I still am, I have decided it needs to be a birthday month.

WOW, I can see that image , of all those cigarettes.
Way to go. I have much respect for those that can do this, as I have been told it is harder than drugs and alcohol. My Mom and my ex were heavy smokers, then one day, it was time to put them away. My Mom kept a pack in the freezer.? Peggie kept one in the medicine cabinet.

Personally saying thank you for the kind words.
And yes celebrating with you would be an honor..smiles

I also kept some around as a crutch incase to show I had some to myself..I was recently able to dismiss those..ha

After recieving news of the emphysima/copd after I quit.
And enduring lack of air even when I did not smoke...I have deeper appreciation of living and air in my lungs.

Also an added true fear of the outcome...which I know from working in medical field for so long.

I am thankful for every second I am aware and breathe.


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dixie 01-27-2013 04:08 PM

594 hours: 04 minutes: 51 seconds
since my last cigarette


Still craving them pretty bad most of the time, but am determined not to smoke. I was on Chantix but I just could not handle the side effects, primarily the extreme nausea that would last about two hours after each pill. I decided to take myself off of it and just go it alone. (Am allergic to patches and not a fan of gum...had one of the e-cigs but it just makes me want a real one.) Now I carry around a lil box of tic tacs, and every time have a craving I pop one in my mouth. So far, so good! :)

Lady Pamela 01-27-2013 08:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dixie (Post 738611)
594 hours: 04 minutes: 51 seconds
since my last cigarette


Still craving them pretty bad most of the time, but am determined not to smoke. I was on Chantix but I just could not handle the side effects, primarily the extreme nausea that would last about two hours after each pill. I decided to take myself off of it and just go it alone. (Am allergic to patches and not a fan of gum...had one of the e-cigs but it just makes me want a real one.) Now I carry around a lil box of tic tacs, and every time have a craving I pop one in my mouth. So far, so good! :)

Way to go..so happy for you!
Keep it up..step through the hard moments..each nicci last 5 minutes ..remember that..it makes it easier..and don't forget to breath and take your moments still to re group.

Smiles...Again..CONGRAT!



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Dude 01-28-2013 06:22 PM

I am doing it with e cigs.
For two weeks I've been weaning myself down off the real shit.
If all goes well today will be my first day of no real ones.
I learned the hard way that I cant have emergency cigarettes around .Period.
That would be like quitting drinking and having an emergency
bottle up in the cupboard :| I would have never got sober like that.
But I had to try it, yes I did.


Sooo much harder than quitting drinking.
The e cigs are taking the edge off but
the emotional
( OMG Your best friend, your constant source of stuffing
emotions is fucking outta heah?!!!!REALLY?)
stuff is surfacing.

I am also worried about my personality changing
because I don't feel "right".... snort

dixie 01-28-2013 06:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude (Post 739207)
I am doing it with e cigs.
For two weeks I've been weaning myself down off the real shit.
If all goes well today will be my first day of no real ones.
I learned the hard way that I cant have emergency cigarettes around .Period.
That would be like quitting drinking and having an emergency
bottle up in the cupboard :| I would have never got sober like that.
But I had to try it, yes I did.


Sooo much harder than quitting drinking.
The e cigs are taking the edge off but
the emotional
( OMG Your best friend, your constant source of stuffing
emotions is fucking outta yeah?!!!!REALLY?)
stuff is surfacing.

I am also worried about my personality changing
because I don't feel "right".... snort

I am different with the "emergency" stash. I have the rest of the last pack of Marlboros I bought before the hospital (about 9 cigs) in my purse. My personality is a bit off. If I do not have any, then my mind tells me that the only reason I am not smoking is because I am out. Since I DO have some in my purse, my mind is telling me that I am not smoking because I CHOOSE not to smoke. (See? Odd mind I have lol)

As for personality, I understand about not feeling "right." I have been one cranky cruel bitch, and I still don't recommend looking at me the wrong way. LOL Needless to say, I am hoping it's just the lack of cigs and that I am not really this much of a bitch and just never noticed it before lol





Lady Pamela 01-28-2013 09:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude (Post 739207)
I am doing it with e cigs.
For two weeks I've been weaning myself down off the real shit.
If all goes well today will be my first day of no real ones.
I learned the hard way that I cant have emergency cigarettes around .Period.
That would be like quitting drinking and having an emergency
bottle up in the cupboard :| I would have never got sober like that.
But I had to try it, yes I did.


Sooo much harder than quitting drinking.
The e cigs are taking the edge off but
the emotional
( OMG Your best friend, your constant source of stuffing
emotions is fucking outta heah?!!!!REALLY?)
stuff is surfacing.

I am also worried about my personality changing
because I don't feel "right".... snort

Way to go!!!
Yes this is as hard or close to it as heroin..wow huh...but it is truely doable.

Keep it up and stay busy..but don't forget to breath.
Stay with your method don't stop it to early.
And I suggest reading all posts for great ideas.

Welcome to being a non smoker..smiles

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Loren_Q 01-29-2013 02:03 PM

e-cigs
 
Like Dude I'm using e-cigs.

Since I started with e-cigs (Dec 22nd) I've had 4 tobacco cigarettes total. So far so good.

Over the years I tried gum, patches, Zyban, Chantix. I'd quit for a period of time (as long as 8 years, as little as 6months) but the craving never really left. I'd not smoke by just force of will, often berating myself whether I gave in or not.

The e-cigs taught me a lot about my addiction. I'm not entirely sure it's the nicotine for me. When I smoked I was a 1/2 pack a day smoker, often less. So there wasn't much of a nicotine hit throughout the day.

What I did need was the goodies that came with smoking: the ritual of it, taking a break from work with smoking buddies, the feeling of heat in my mouth, the throat hit, the rolling of something in my fingers. There's also a psychological 'time out' for me as well.

Many times not smoking felt unkind, but then, so did smoking. It's very much a no-win.

With the e-cigs I don't feel like I'm punishing myself when not smoking, nor am I berating myself for 'giving in'.

I don't know if this will be the silver bullet for me, but I'm hoping. That and now I have a bunch of lighters for fire play ;)

Loren

Dude 01-30-2013 09:14 AM

triggers


triggers

I'm ok ...I'm ok

geezuz

mornings are hard
nighttime is hard

I'd like to just sleep through the next few weeks
wake me when it's all ovah please

dixie 01-30-2013 09:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude (Post 740228)
triggers


triggers

I'm ok ...I'm ok

geezuz

mornings are hard
nighttime is hard

I'd like to just sleep through the next few weeks
wake me when it's all ovah please

Mornings are hard
Nighttime is hard
After meals are hard
After chocolate is hard
Arguing with idiots is hard
Being bored is hard
Driving is hard
Tuesdays are hard
OMG-what-am-i-going-to-wear is hard
Seeing random strangers with cigarettes is hard
etc
etc
etc

I have discovered so many freakin triggers it drives me nutssss!

I stop, I take a few deep and calming breaths, I pop a tic tac or peppermint in my mouth, and I repeat my mantra of "damn it feels so good to breathe and not hack my lungs out every morning" LOL

I certainly hope it gets better, because I loved smoking and did not want to quit. BUT I've already discovered so many advantages to it, that I really hope I can stick with it.

You can too, my friend. It's worth it. Hell, just imagine...we don't stink no more LOL



Daktari 01-30-2013 10:13 AM

Another here flying by to give a little encouragement.

One day at a time. One half day at a time. An hour at a time. Five minutes at a time. You can do it.

A positive self talk and application of will-power; sorry no pill, patch or other replacement can substitute for the whole mind over matter, will-power thang and you'll succeed. The pills, patches and other stuffs do help immeasurably in those first weeks and months though.

This time I knew, just *knew* that something was different. There were no reservations, not even one tiny 'well maybe one day', left to thwart me yet again. The fear factor of having just nearly carked it from a humungous chest infection helped no end. Ex-Mrs.D didn't like watching me die in front of her eyes either. :|

Coming up to 3yrs without even a sneaky puff or lapse of any sort.

...and in that phrase made immortal by the ex smoker the smoker loves to hate. If I can do it, you can too. :cheesy:

:cheerleader:


365days giving up other harmful substances. It's a leap year so there's one more day to go.

Dude 01-30-2013 01:22 PM

food tastes sooooooo GOOD
I had peanut butter pancakes two days in a row
that was to die for!!!!
so many times I would smoke rather than eat
so I have to work on that too

I have strange little energy surges
its like coming out of a very thick fog

there is a stinky ashtray on the porch
to remind me Yes it does Indeed stink to high heaven

thank you cheerleaders

Loren_Q 02-01-2013 10:34 AM

hard times
 
I'm going through a hard time right now on a lot of different fronts. Not good, that's always a trigger for me to buy a pack.

But so far, the e-cig is keeping me away from the real thing. I do admit I'm puffing it a lot more than I had been, but frankly if it's keeping me from smoking I'm okay with puffing my vapor to high heaven.

Loren

not2shygrrl 02-02-2013 07:58 PM

the stench.....
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Dude (Post 740361)
food tastes sooooooo GOOD
I had peanut butter pancakes two days in a row
that was to die for!!!!
so many times I would smoke rather than eat
so I have to work on that too

I have strange little energy surges
its like coming out of a very thick fog

there is a stinky ashtray on the porch
to remind me Yes it does Indeed stink to high heaven

thank you cheerleaders


that stinky ashtray is a great idea !!

Lady Pamela 02-04-2013 07:23 AM

First off, sorry I have not checked in for a bit. I have been a little pre-consumed but I am here now.

I am so excited to see so many people on this path as well.
And so many supporters..how awesome is that?...WOW!

Congrats to all of you who have choesen your life over this habbit.
And a huge THANK YOU to all who are suppoting all who are struggling.

May you continue your journey and know you are not alone!

Sending out love and energy to all who need it.

Blessing's to you,
Pamela




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Lady Pamela 02-04-2013 08:33 AM

1 YEAR TODAY!!!!
 
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TODAY MAKES 1 YEAR SMOKE FREE FOR ME!!!

My mother and father would have been so pleased.
I can so feel them smiling today.

By family and friends, I was the last person they ever thought would quit smoking.
They are all so pleased and shocked as well.

I smoked anywhere from a pack and a half to 2 packs normally.
I want to thank each and every one of you for your continued support.
And for allowing me to ramble and carry on during this entire year.

Your words and time have most definately helped in the process.

Today I also come out for the first time about other struggles that smoking has created for me.
I have kept things very silent but I feel others need to know.
Also if my story can help even one..It will make my hard times worth it.



When I stopped smoking, I found out about 1 month afterwards that I had COPD/Emphysima.
That was very hard news to process for me, because I have had others with it.

I am a fighter when things get togh. I am not one to give in so to speak.
So COPD was just an obsticle I needed to get through. And day to day, I do what needs to be done to do just that.

Last week I hurt my rib so I had to go to E.R. to have it checked out.
They gave me a x-ray and cat scan to see what damage I had done. ( Or atleast I thought that was why.)

My daughter was with me as a team of doctors came into my room and shut the door.
They told me that they had found some marks. Left side it is 5mm in size and right side is 4mm.
And that the cat scan was to confirm the spots on the ex-ray were actual mass or nodules.

My mind was spinning. And quite honestly, scared to death at that moment.They set me a doctor appointment and said no matter what, do not miss it.
So I went home to process this day and get ready for whatever the doc would say.

On February 1st I went in to the doc.
They said they will send for my last years ex-rays to compare to which will take a few weeks.
They will also then be able to get all meds I haven't been able to have for other things I have. After they come and my medical gets on the go.

Also that no matter what, they will be very active as to my treatment.
And aiding in making me more comfortable with my other issues as well.

A part in my letter to medicade states this....
" Pamela was recently evaluated in E.R. and found to have had two nudules that are suspicious for cancer. The nodules should be compared to other medical records and also reevaluated and possibly biopsied. In order to determine whether or not they are malignant or not."

I would not wish having this type of scare for anyone.
It has made me tottally evauate my entire life and what I truely think that matters.

I am a strong soul and have endured alot in this life, including cancer years ago.
But this news took me by suprise even with the copd and smoking past.

I will update as I am updated as well.

I normally do not post stuff of this nature in public sites.
But like I said, If one person hears my story and it makes them stop, think and react before it happens to them..Then it is worth it!


Today I celebrate myself for making great choices.
I celebrate my life, and all I can do still due to stopping now.

I am deeply full of gratitude to those who have been there for me.
And to all of you who have listen and helped throuout this year.

Thank you so very very much. I value you all.
And can only hope I can and have been there for you as well.

May your day be full of beauty and dreams.
And may you see past moments that hard.

Blessings to you all,
Pamela






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Lady Pamela 02-04-2013 10:30 AM


Lady Pamela 02-06-2013 05:34 PM

Checking in to see how everyone is doing?

dixie 02-09-2013 10:38 PM

912 hours 34 minutes 13 seconds

The cravings are not as bad now but when they do hit, they hit hard. I'm making it work though. At one point today I had to stop, meditate a bit, and start again....simply because the "want" was so bad. I'm still making it though. Day by day.

Lady Pamela 02-10-2013 11:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dixie (Post 746106)
912 hours 34 minutes 13 seconds

The cravings are not as bad now but when they do hit, they hit hard. I'm making it work though. At one point today I had to stop, meditate a bit, and start again....simply because the "want" was so bad. I'm still making it though. Day by day.

Just remember to check in...your not alone!

Lady Pamela 02-10-2013 11:22 PM

Just wanted to thank everyone for the reps..also for all the kind words...thank you!






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GraffitiBoi 02-11-2013 01:10 AM

Hello all,

I thought I'd pop in here and join in. I'm going to need the support! Today is my 40th birthday and I'm quitting smoking! I'm not doing it because it's my b-day. It just happens to be time to quit. Finally. I've wanted to quit for a long time but never got up the resolve to go through with it. I tried to quit several times but I kept coming up with excuses and ended up picking up yet another pack. Well, I'm out of excuses. I have an ecig I used before. I have patches if the ecig doesn't seem to do it. I'm going to fill up my free time with working out, meditation, yoga and other physical activities. Might as well get in shape at the same time!

Lofl 02-11-2013 08:04 PM

on 1-5-13 I had posted that I had not smoked for 3 months. Great job me, I should say, but no. I had waited too long to stop to spare myself from some not needed pain. A few years ago I was diagnosed with COPD. Every day I had a reason why I could quit tomorrow. Will right after my post on the 5th I was put in CICU, and put into an induced coma for 10 days. A machine breathing for me, because I could not. Another 10 days in a sterile room, you know the kind I am talking about, where when you have a visitor they must wear gowns, cloves and slippers over their shoes.
I almost waited to long to stop, I will not make that mistake twice.
Peace Out!

Daktari 02-12-2013 09:25 AM

Me too Lofl; I was diagnosed with copd long before I gave up nicotine. The result? Significantly reduced lung function that won't ever get better. :|

I hope you're well on the way back to health.

dixie 03-04-2013 06:04 PM

It occurred to me today that 2 days ago marked my 2nd month of being smoke free. Time certainly seems to fly by these days. The cravings aren't bad at all anymore. I can handle it now. :)

Glenn 03-07-2013 07:41 PM

//////:praying:

meridiantoo 03-07-2013 08:03 PM

I just saw this thread bumped up and am working on quitting (not very successfully so far).

My question is, did any of you use vaping to quit?

:moonstars:

Elijah 03-07-2013 08:13 PM

I have 17 days clean today...I still have cravings, but mercifully they are short lived.

Congratulations and good luck to all!

Lady Pamela 03-07-2013 11:21 PM

Sorry for my lack in showing up..life has been a little fast paced lately..smiles

Congrats to all who have kept smoke free.
And congrats to all those just starting.

As I have said before, I suggest you read the entire thread.
People here have been very helpful in ideas.

As of the 4th of this month I am smoke free 13 months...and still going!


Keep it up peeps...grin
It is worth it.

meridiantoo 03-08-2013 01:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 763548)
Sorry for my lack in showing up..life has been a little fast paced lately..smiles

Congrats to all who have kept smoke free.
And congrats to all those just starting.

As I have said before, I suggest you read the entire thread.
People here have been very helpful in ideas.

As of the 4th of this month I am smoke free 13 months...and still going!


Keep it up peeps...grin
It is worth it.

The *gulp* ENTIRE thread? Oh boy...*Makes a pot of coffee and settles in for the night....

Thank you for your good wishes!


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