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Trying to write this without whining...
I love my job and my boss but...she seldom actually talks to me except for the following: "Going to lunch." "Going to court." "Going to DSS." "See you tomorrow." "Do you have the ___ file?" "Has ____ called?" Every morning I greet her with a "Good morning" and a smile. She seldom responds. Every evening I wish her a wonderful evening. She seldom responds. When I ask if she had a nice weekend, she says "Yes." Nothing more. When she doesn't feel well, I ask after her and if there is anything I can do. Her response is brief like "OK" and "NO." Some days she does not speak to me at all. I get no feedback except negative. When she does actually speak to me for more than a couple of words it's usually when something has gone wrong - an error on my part whether a genuine error by me, something that I have not done because I was not aware she wanted it done that way or something that was in no way my fault but I am hearing about it anyway as if it were. She speaks to me mostly through Post-Its and emails. Now she is capable of speaking to people and very pleasantly, and has done so to me in the past. But more often that not she will do that either on the phone or in person and as soon as that conversation is over she returns to the not speaking to me. It's wierd. I've talked about this with my counselor who recognized that she "holds her cards very close" and I try to remember this. But it is still difficult and at times upsetting for me. I know I am not there to be her friend or buddy but that does not make it any easier. She's one of those people that takes a very long time to get to know and I understand that too. Still some pleasant words or merely acknowledgement of my existence would be nice. She is the complete opposite of my previous employer who would never stop talking to me. But I have had an experience before where the attorney and the other assistant would go for days without talking to me but conversed heavily between each other. I've got some PTSD from those previous jobs and part of my current reaction is related to that. But still... OK, I'll shut up now. |
Veterans Day holiday tomorrow ...
Also, plotting (by calendar, it is innocent) which days I will be taking off work soon ... very soon. I told my supervisor I would be using some vacation days in November but not sure which days yet. If I make it around the two day Thanksgiving holidays we get, that will make it extended. You know, use three days personal leave and get nine days off in a row. Yes, I am liking this idea! :) |
Those are very real concerns Scarlett. It would bother just about anyone. I know it would bother me as well. She is not aware perhaps how rude her behavior is? Perhaps discuss this with your counselor about the best way to open the dialogue with your boss? These type of situations can make work unpleasant and can acutally lead to making errors! I wish you the best of luck with this!
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Agreeing with katsarecool about Miss Scarlett's supervisor. In fact, made a little comment in the rep earlier that I gave Miss Scarlett.
Miss Scarlett, it would sure be nice to have at least even minimal friendly dialog with this woman you have to interact with everyday but don't get your expectations up in the event it never happens. And keep reassuring yourself it is not you. We don't get to pick and chose the personalities we work with like we do the friends we hang with. Best wishes regarding this ordeal. |
My co worker still :( I havent heard anything. Hopefully I will find out about the babies today and how her recovery is going...
Its too early for me to be up. Its not even 7 yet. |
Where is the Neuro. Thread? |
the way she talks after emotion.
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Right Now On my mind is this..
The way things in life change so very quickly.. |
14 years ago...
I was a freshman in high school. I had just auditioned for the school musical, Fiddler on the Roof. I was in a new school and making new friends. I loved my choir class and I was enjoying living in the city for the first time. I shared a bedroom with my little sister... she was two years younger and such a "tag-a-long". Things were simpler then. |
-Writing a letter
-How much has happened in a year -This weekend -Foooooddd... |
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how much I miss having someone to kiss just because....
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I auditioned for The King and I my freshman year. I didn't have any business doing it, I can't sing worth a shit. But it was fun. All through high school I did plays—comedies and dramas and the absurd like Albee and Ionesco. I wanted to go to New York, but never made it. Such is life. |
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Are you asking for volunteers? :eyebat: |
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Well aren't you sly ;) |
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Of course. :cheesy: |
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The future & how bright its looking :)
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