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~ocean 09-13-2015 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel C. (Post 1014013)
I'm so tired! I volunteered at a fundraiser for at-risk youth, including homeless gay and lesbian teens. While I was happy to contribute to a worthy cause, I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot of couples AND that the average age was late 20's to early 30's. This is certainly not my demographic so I pose the following questions:

1) When you feel like you are the only single person, how do you deal with it (avoid the scenario, embrace your singleness, etc)?

2) Do you attend events if you know only 5-10% are in your age group?

(((( mel )))) start a funny ole lesbian meet up club 40+ ? lolol just an idea ~

Gemme 09-13-2015 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel C. (Post 1014013)
I'm so tired! I volunteered at a fundraiser for at-risk youth, including homeless gay and lesbian teens. While I was happy to contribute to a worthy cause, I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot of couples AND that the average age was late 20's to early 30's. This is certainly not my demographic so I pose the following questions:

1) When you feel like you are the only single person, how do you deal with it (avoid the scenario, embrace your singleness, etc)?

2) Do you attend events if you know only 5-10% are in your age group?

It depends on the circumstances. Using your example, I wouldn't care about demographics or singledom because it's not about me. If I were volunteering somewhere, it is about that cause and the people that it will help. I'm not a part of the equation and neither are the other volunteers.

If I'm attending something that is more entertainment than purpose, then those factors may come into play more. It would honestly depend on how I felt in that moment before I left for the event, if I would be the only person I knew there, et cetera. If I'm going somewhere and I've agreed to meet a friend, I wouldn't dream of canceling on them, no matter who else was there and how old they were or weren't.

Some events can be tough if you are basically the ONLY person outside of a particular age bracket or if you are the ONLY person there by yourself. When I decide whether to go to something, the other people are not really even part of the equation for me. Mostly, is the drive going to annoy me is what I think. Will someone try to kill me on the way there goes through my mind. Basically, personal safety trumps any other card in the deck when I decide whether to go out and attend a function.

Zimmeh 09-13-2015 07:16 PM

Hope everyone is having a great end to their Sunday! Leaving an assortment of fresh fruit and other goodies for the night. I had a great day at work. When I got off at 7p, my coworker kept messing with our supervisor. I was laughing so hard that I started to snort 😳 When I do leave Starbucks, I will miss my coworkers 😂

Zimmeh

JustLovelyJenn 09-13-2015 10:52 PM

I just got home from a trip to Utah for my grandmothers funeral... right now I hate being single... I want to be held...

*curls up on the couch*

JDeere 09-13-2015 10:54 PM

Hey Singles

anyone have any specific goodie requests for y'all?

Mormegil 09-15-2015 09:45 PM

Mel.C. , the lgbt church i attend has a varied congregation in more ways that one and that includes age. I notice most of the women , if notall around my age are married or in a relationship. And the rest are quite a bit older than me. The woman i was intrested in that turned me.down was in her 40s , im 31.

But i do feel very lonely when i go. Especially if she comes up and hugs me trying to be friendly. I would almost rather she just doesnt touch me at all which may sound weird . But its emotionally painful.

But i just sit and watch them all hugging and greeting eachother and its like im sitting still while the world spins around me. But i make myself socialize. It may hurt me to watch everyone else mingle. To watch couples hold hands or hug eachother. But if i didnt go out and atleast try i would just isolate alone at home. So no.matter what i do i hurt. But atleast out there maybe somebody will.notice me eventually

And yes i attend events where ages vary greatly. And when there are women my age they already have a girlfriend or wife.

Mel C. 09-20-2015 07:44 PM

bumping cause there are singles in da house...whoop whoop

JustLovelyJenn 09-20-2015 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mel C. (Post 1016253)
bumping cause there are singles in da house...whoop whoop

Really? Where??

Barb42 09-20-2015 08:43 PM

... Just dropping in to see how things are going... Ive been gone awhile but back now & ready to enjoy a new chapter of my life... :)

Wishing all a great night..

JustLovelyJenn 09-20-2015 10:46 PM

Welcome back Barb, nice to see you.

Barb42 09-21-2015 01:20 PM

Thank you Jenn. Glad to ne back..

Zimmeh 09-29-2015 06:04 PM

Good Evening to all of you!!! Since its kind of like Fall here in Florida, I'm leaving behind some yummy pumpkin spice treats!

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

homoe 09-29-2015 06:07 PM

Hi, I'm still single and sleepless NEAR Seattle..:sunglass:

LOQUI 09-29-2015 06:37 PM

Im kind of liking this place...there is always food!! :loveBFP:

randrum 09-29-2015 07:47 PM

The food is a nice touch. So are the comfy chairs. And good people.

Keep Smilin 09-29-2015 08:41 PM

Sweet Dreams everyone!! 😊

DanzAmazon 09-29-2015 09:51 PM

Good night.
 
Random drive-bye g'night. I'm gonna miss seeing everyone this weekend in LV. Have a blast for me!

JustLovelyJenn 09-29-2015 11:09 PM

Still here, still single...

Teddybear 09-30-2015 04:48 AM

Just want to wish all us singles a Good Morning

I have a :line cook: ready for breakfast orders and don't forget to get ur coffee.

Have a great day everyone

Zimmeh 09-30-2015 05:48 PM

Today has been a crazy day for me! I picked up a shift at our new Orange City, Florida Starbucks and I just got home! The best part about today, is spending a few hours with my mom. We went shopping for me a new pair of flats for work and grocery shopping. I found a few things to get my mom for Christmas ❤️😀

How was everyone else's day?

Leaving some nice hot tea and hot cocoa to help us relax 😀

Zimmeh

Mel C. 09-30-2015 07:05 PM

Thanks for the refreshments! Work has been stressful lately so I can use some help unwinding.

In other news, I will be in Vegas within the next 48 hours. Woot woot!

Zimmeh 09-30-2015 08:13 PM

Have a great time in Vegas!

Zimmeh

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Originally Posted by Mel C. (Post 1018311)
Thanks for the refreshments! Work has been stressful lately so I can use some help unwinding.

In other news, I will be in Vegas within the next 48 hours. Woot woot!


LOQUI 09-30-2015 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1018289)
Today has been a crazy day for me! I picked up a shift at our new Orange City, Florida Starbucks and I just got home! The best part about today, is spending a few hours with my mom. We went shopping for me a new pair of flats for work and grocery shopping. I found a few things to get my mom for Christmas ❤️😀

How was everyone else's day?

Leaving some nice hot tea and hot cocoa to help us relax 😀

Zimmeh

I will go with the hot cocoa tonight...Nice you got to spend some time with your mom.
My day was busyyyy...good and productive at work. Tomorrow seems to come with the same 'pronostic' :)

Christmas is at the corner! *Hanging my Christmas stocking here :sock: Come one singles help me to fill it!!

Be well everyone! :byebye:

Zimmeh 10-02-2015 09:39 PM

Hola Loqui! Buenos Noche, y como esta? I enjoy spending whatever time that I can with my mom. I learned s little of Spanish my from my old coworkers in Orlando. They were a crazy group of Hispanic ladies. They were from Puerto Rico, Columbia, Mexico and Domnican Republic. When they disagreed on something, it would become very loud 😜 I've decided to take tomorrow off from my job. I've been working close to three weeks straight with no day off and it's catching up to me. I'm thinking s movie is what I need!!

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

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Originally Posted by LOQUI (Post 1018347)
I will go with the hot cocoa tonight...Nice you got to spend some time with your mom.
My day was busyyyy...good and productive at work. Tomorrow seems to come with the same 'pronostic' :)

Christmas is at the corner! *Hanging my Christmas stocking here :sock: Come one singles help me to fill it!!

Be well everyone! :byebye:


Zimmeh 10-02-2015 09:44 PM

Good Evening to all of us! Hope everyone is having a great Friday. What are your plans for this weekend? I'm calling out tomorrow from my job so I can have a day off!!! While out shopping with my mom, I weighed myself. Since I gave up sugar and drinking cup after cup of foo foo drinks at Starbucks, I have lost ten pounds!! This is an accomplishment for me since I work at Starbucks �� Today at Starbucks, my supervisors had me on bar for eight hours and I killed it. As I was leaving, my supervisor stopped me, gave me a high five and complimented me on my bar skills. I came home to play with my Babygirl pup and treat myself to a brownie...What good movies are playing?

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

LOQUI 10-02-2015 11:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1018769)
Hola Loqui! Buenos Noche, y como esta? I enjoy spending whatever time that I can with my mom. I learned s little of Spanish my from my old coworkers in Orlando. They were a crazy group of Hispanic ladies. They were from Puerto Rico, Columbia, Mexico and Domnican Republic. When they disagreed on something, it would become very loud 😜 I've decided to take tomorrow off from my job. I've been working close to three weeks straight with no day off and it's catching up to me. I'm thinking s movie is what I need!!

Have a good night,

Zimmeh

Buenas noches Zimmeh! Its all good around here...just a little tired. I was going to say this was a long week but, after I read that you have been working close to three weeks non stop I decided to shut up! lol
That mix of countries you mentioned is indeed explosive!!! Pure energy I bet! Do they used to speak fast? Lots of hands 'talking'? I hope they dont just teach you the "necessary" words to curse :blink: And yes, disagreements among us can become verrrryyy loud...but fun!! lol
Enjoy your day off...the movie and the popcorn! I will be watching movies almost all day tomorrow at work (there will be a film festival...for real) Anyways, whatever you do, have fun!
:byebye:

Zimmeh 10-03-2015 07:20 AM

When they would talk, it would be at a fast pace with hand gestures and the loudest person out of the group, was my supervisor from Columbia. The one who was thr most stubborn was Conchi from Mexico. The girl I got along with the best was Jesi who is from Puerto Rico.

I'm going to see what movie is playing today and go watch it. I actually my two jobs. Out of the two of them, my job with a French company, L'Occitane en Provence allows me to be more creative. Starbucks also encouraged you to be creative and I have become pretty good at latte art.

Have a good day,

Zimmeh

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Originally Posted by LOQUI (Post 1018781)
Buenas noches Zimmeh! Its all good around here...just a little tired. I was going to say this was a long week but, after I read that you have been working close to three weeks non stop I decided to shut up! lol
That mix of countries you mentioned is indeed explosive!!! Pure energy I bet! Do they used to speak fast? Lots of hands 'talking'? I hope they dont just teach you the "necessary" words to curse :blink: And yes, disagreements among us can become verrrryyy loud...but fun!! lol
Enjoy your day off...the movie and the popcorn! I will be watching movies almost all day tomorrow at work (there will be a film festival...for real) Anyways, whatever you do, have fun!
:byebye:


Zimmeh 10-03-2015 12:10 PM

Have a good Saturday everyone! I'm at the movies by myself and I'm watching, "Hotel Transylvania 2".

Zimmeh

Shystonefem 10-03-2015 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by LOQUI (Post 1018347)
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Christmas is at the corner! *Hanging my Christmas stocking here :sock: Come one singles help me to fill it!!

Be well everyone! :byebye:



**** Grabs the coal and sticks it in Loqui's stocking. But, remember, coal turns into diamonds when compressed...............

Shystonefem 10-03-2015 03:32 PM

Honestly, I can say with every bit of sincerity that I am a great partner as long as you don't expect me to cook (because you will probably die from starvation or bad food).

I work hard, earn a decent living and am a really good person.


***** Hanging my Christmas stocking like Loqui did******

LOQUI 10-03-2015 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1018854)
Have a good Saturday everyone! I'm at the movies by myself and I'm watching, "Hotel Transylvania 2".

Zimmeh

How was the popcorn?! :jester:
I have never watch any of the Transylvania movies...so I stopped writing here to go and watch the trailer and, it seems fun! I hope you had a good time!:byebye:

LOQUI 10-03-2015 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Shystonefem (Post 1018870)
**** Grabs the coal and sticks it in Loqui's stocking. But, remember, coal turns into diamonds when compressed...............

*Running to the store to buy a diamonds making machine!! :byebye:

Pd. I was ready to get mad as soon as I read about the coal :fastdraq:...but then I saw the fact about diamonds...:cowboy:

Be well...Happy Sunday!

Shystonefem 10-04-2015 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by LOQUI (Post 1018950)
*Running to the store to buy a diamonds making machine!! :byebye:

Pd. I was ready to get mad as soon as I read about the coal :fastdraq:...but then I saw the fact about diamonds...:cowboy:

Be well...Happy Sunday!


I was kidding about the coal being turned into diamonds - the majority are not .... I put the diamonds side the coal. LOL Sometimes you have to look through the dark to find the brilliance.

Happy Sunday!!!!!!!

Zimmeh 10-04-2015 11:56 AM

The movie was great but the popcorn was stale! I ended my Saturday by going to watch my friend's daughter win her softball tournament. I also watched several episodes of Law & Order: SVU while giving myself a manicure.

How is your Sunday so far?

Zimmeh

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Originally Posted by LOQUI (Post 1018949)
How was the popcorn?! :jester:
I have never watch any of the Transylvania movies...so I stopped writing here to go and watch the trailer and, it seems fun! I hope you had a good time!:byebye:


Teddybear 10-04-2015 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1019073)
The movie was great but the popcorn was stale! I ended my Saturday by going to watch my friend's daughter win her softball tournament. I also watched several episodes of Law & Order: SVU while giving myself a manicure.

How is your Sunday so far?

Zimmeh


My Sunday is going great. Watching my team leading the game. Whoo hoo

Zimmeh 10-04-2015 04:06 PM

My brother is a die hard Dolphins fan and he's upset that they are losing. I feel bad for him!

Zimmeh

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Originally Posted by Teddybear (Post 1019078)
My Sunday is going great. Watching my team leading the game. Whoo hoo


Keep Smilin 10-04-2015 04:17 PM

Happy Sunday Everyone!

Hope you all had a great weekend and enjoy the rest of your night. I'm off to relax for a while!

Teddybear 10-04-2015 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1019114)
My brother is a die hard Dolphins fan and he's upset that they are losing. I feel bad for him!

Zimmeh

I think the dolphins had jet lag because they sure didnt play well

Now my FALCONS are 4-0 oh yeah.

LOQUI 10-04-2015 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Shystonefem (Post 1019001)
I was kidding about the coal being turned into diamonds - the majority are not .... I put the diamonds side the coal. LOL Sometimes you have to look through the dark to find the brilliance.

Happy Sunday!!!!!!!


Im one of The Few. The Proud...hmmmm ok, ok, Im not a marine but, I can certainly be a little diamond between the dark, right? :knighthorse:...and, yes I agree, it is necessary to intentionally observe, carefully listen and at times to open the heart to really see...

I hope your Sunday was a good one!

LOQUI 10-04-2015 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Zimmeh (Post 1019073)
The movie was great but the popcorn was stale! I ended my Saturday by going to watch my friend's daughter win her softball tournament. I also watched several episodes of Law & Order: SVU while giving myself a manicure.

How is your Sunday so far?

Zimmeh


My Sunday was busy and long because of work but full of satisfactions...
Im glad you enjoyed the movie and sorry that the popcorn wasnt bueno...:|
An Olivias fan? French manicure? square or rounded tips? :tease:
Happy new week!


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