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clay 05-05-2013 02:41 PM
YAY! for Dapper!!!

May 29, I will undergo a colonoscopy with a procedure being done for the bleeding as well as an endoscopy and a "stretching" of the esophagus to follow the colonoscopy! So, I am getting a "two for one".
My fiancee' will be here to go with, and being an RN is a HUGE relief for me to have her there....:).

mustangjeano 05-05-2013 11:11 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by clay (Post 793975)
YAY! for Dapper!!!

May 29, I will undergo a colonoscopy with a procedure being done for the bleeding as well as an endoscopy and a "stretching" of the esophagus to follow the colonoscopy! So, I am getting a "two for one".
My fiancee' will be here to go with, and being an RN is a HUGE relief for me to have her there....:).
Clay, my Friend, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for great results from your procedures. I know it will help to have your own personal nurse(wink)--glad she will be there with you. Keep us posted on how you are. Jeano

deb0670 05-05-2013 11:24 PM
Will be keeping You in my thoughts and prayers Clay.




Quote:
Originally Posted by clay (Post 793975)
YAY! for Dapper!!!

May 29, I will undergo a colonoscopy with a procedure being done for the bleeding as well as an endoscopy and a "stretching" of the esophagus to follow the colonoscopy! So, I am getting a "two for one".
My fiancee' will be here to go with, and being an RN is a HUGE relief for me to have her there....:).

deb0670 05-05-2013 11:37 PM
Thank You for this Spirit Dancer.
It is exactly what i did when Ethan had Cancer.


Quote:
Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer (Post 52757)



As a caregiver I want to post and to enlighten those who've never dealt with Cancer or any other long term chronic illness.
Your caregiver is the one who, gets every imaginable throwback, the happy days, sad days, angry days,
the I don't want to go on days and the days.
The days with good news, bad news and no news.
If there is a change we are there, we clean and cook,
we bathe and care for our loved ones.
Out of love, we are there.
We allow them to shed tears even when we hide our own,
we laugh, we share and in the most heart breaking cases
we watch them cross over.

We are tired, worn out sleep deprived but we march on.
They depend on us, for we are their Nurses, their Pharmacy, their Cooks, their Transporters and their advocate,
we get things done when they cannot. They trust us and confide in us
and we stay strong for them, giving them encouragement even on the darkest days.
Not every Cancer patient has multiple caregivers,
so when people think that caregiver is short, or curt, flighty, in a hurry.
Give some consideration they might be on day three, with only six hours of sleep, in 72 hours and multitasking to no end just to make sure their loved ones get the care they so richly deserve.

deb0670 05-06-2013 12:39 AM
I have spent the last hour reading this thread, wishing i would have found it sooner. I have not experienced Cancer first hand,. but have been the Caregiver of Ethan when He was diagnosed with Endometrial Cancer. It was a huge scare for Him, and for me.. and our daughter.
i had to be the strength and the glue that held us all together.
He had a complete radical Hysterectomy and they caught it soon enough so He did not need Radiation nor Chemo. He is doing good now.

I found out a few months back about my step dad having Bladder Cancer and it has spread to his lymph nodes. He tried doing Chemo twice and his white blood cells diminished too badly both times, so they refuse to do more. He had a router rooter type procedure done where they went thru his urethra up to his prostrate and cleaned him out so he could urinate better.. but .. there is nothing else they can do for him
My mom is having such a hard time with all this. He is the first and only man my mom was ever in love with.
It hurts me to see her deal with this.. and me being all the way in GA and her being in Cali.
i am waiting for the call or the text or FB message to let me know when i(we) have to plan a trip there.

I want to wish all who have/had cancer.... and all of their/us caregivers hope and happiness and love.
my prayers and support are with you.
Sorry for the ramblings..

Tommi 05-15-2013 03:05 AM
Happy Anniversary to ME :)
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 109569)
Andrew,
After a tough couple of months, and DustyBoy Kitty passing through on May 1st, I realized how time flies
I celebrated 6 years of being cancer free on May 15. Endometrial cancer diagnosis shook my world and it felt like the air was sucked out of the universe. After radical total hysterectomy, and 16 lymph nodes removed, i did well UNTIL...I got a massive infection that almost killed me.

I live every day to the fullest, and love like there is no tomorrow..Thanks for all the love and positive energy.

Tommi
Update.
I am now 9 years cancer free.

I have learned and lived and loved alot. I highly recommend it. THAT annual appointment at 7AM with my Oncologist is looming, I can't sleep, so..this is a healthy place to hang out.

Think I'll go make some hot chocolate and cinnamon toast.

mustangjeano 05-15-2013 11:52 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 798948)
Update.
I am now 9 years cancer free.

I have learned and lived and loved alot. I highly recommend it. THAT annual appointment at 7AM with my Oncologist is looming, I can't sleep, so..this is a healthy place to hang out.

Think I'll go make some hot chocolate and cinnamon toast.
Thinking of you Bud and hoping all is well. Jeano

Tommi 05-16-2013 07:07 PM
Rockin and rollin and boppin anda strollin
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by mustangjeano (Post 799303)
Thinking of you Bud and hoping all is well. Jeano
Thanks Jeano,

I made my follow-up appointment for May 14, 2014, my 10 year Anniversary :)

All went well, always glad to see them under these circumstances. Exams, tests and "results will be in the mail". I took several days off work for R & R Now, back to living life to it's fullest. Where is that bull named Fumanchu

DapperButch 05-16-2013 07:12 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 799675)
Thanks Jeano,

I made my follow-up appointment for May 14, 2014, my 10 year Anniversary :)

All went well, always glad to see them under these circumstances. Exams, tests and "results will be in the mail". I took several days off work for R & R Now, back to living life to it's fullest. Where is that bull named Fumanchu
Yay! About time you came back to report in, Tommi! Damn, just make us all wait (a day)! :fastdraq:

Congrats!

Tommi 05-16-2013 07:30 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 799680)
Yay! About time you came back to report in, Tommi! Damn, just make us all wait (a day)! :fastdraq:

Congrats!

Hey you...Thanks for the concern, and ...the smile at your post. :beerbros::dance2:

Novelafemme 05-20-2013 09:37 AM
A beautiful friend passed away last night from ovarian cancer. She fought so incredibly hard all the way and willed herself to stay alive to see her oldest daughter graduate from college and her youngest son from high school...both on the same day.

The world is a little less bright today but the angels have another sister to dance with. I love you T and I miss you already. :bunchflowers:

Tommi 05-20-2013 01:44 PM
So sorry to hear about your friend Novelafemme.
I honor that fight and the respect she earns as she journey's through this life to another. http://images.fineartamerica.com/ima...rina-petro.jpg

deb0670 05-20-2013 01:53 PM
*hugss* my condolences



Quote:
Originally Posted by Novelafemme (Post 801303)
A beautiful friend passed away last night from ovarian cancer. She fought so incredibly hard all the way and willed herself to stay alive to see her oldest daughter graduate from college and her youngest son from high school...both on the same day.

The world is a little less bright today but the angels have another sister to dance with. I love you T and I miss you already. :bunchflowers:

deb_U_taunt 05-22-2013 05:52 PM
struggling a bit today.

Its been 18 months since the last chemo. I am coming into the 2-3 yr time frame that mets most likely happen at. A friend at work was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months before me and she had a seizure at work last Monday and she has brain mets and was told 6 months. My staging and grade was higher than her's. SOOO I go this Friday for blood work (which was off last time a couple months ago and there was activity mid cervical on an xray) and I have been having some concerns, like headaches, energy, night sweats, small lump on neck. I hope its just canceritis and I am only scaring myself. I want this fear to go away. I don't like having fear over something I have NO control over. I think I need a hot bath and meditation.

wahya 05-22-2013 06:29 PM
I will be breast cancer free (depends on who you go by the oncologist/the surgeon who removed the tumor/ the radiologist) But I go by the date I received the news Dec 7 2010. My next scan will be in two weeks. I start getting a little anxiety by the last week before the scan. My health has been great. I have turned my life around inside & out. I believe in the power of positive thinking. My caregiver was my ex gf who did the best she could for me. I was a terrible VERY terrible patient for her. I won my battle with cancer but lost her. It was a terrible time in my life before during & after. We didn't have a shot in hell. I used to blame the end of our relationship on the cancer but even though I do believe it played a part in it. I was the reason for it ending. I was angry bitter and selfish. I only hope she is now happy and knows I did appreciate her helping me through one of the toughest times in my life and know she will always carry a piece of my heart with her. All caregivers are truly angels in disguise. :)

DapperButch 05-22-2013 07:18 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 802529)
struggling a bit today.

Its been 18 months since the last chemo. I am coming into the 2-3 yr time frame that mets most likely happen at. A friend at work was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months before me and she had a seizure at work last Monday and she has brain mets and was told 6 months. My staging and grade was higher than her's. SOOO I go this Friday for blood work (which was off last time a couple months ago and there was activity mid cervical on an xray) and I have been having some concerns, like headaches, energy, night sweats, small lump on neck. I hope its just canceritis and I am only scaring myself. I want this fear to go away. I don't like having fear over something I have NO control over. I think I need a hot bath and meditation.
Oh, gosh, Deb. I'm so sorry. I would be worried too. But, YES, it IS just canceritis! Keep your head up and keep the faith!

(I know, easier said than done). :-(

wahya 05-22-2013 08:04 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 802529)
struggling a bit today.

Its been 18 months since the last chemo. I am coming into the 2-3 yr time frame that mets most likely happen at. A friend at work was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months before me and she had a seizure at work last Monday and she has brain mets and was told 6 months. My staging and grade was higher than her's. SOOO I go this Friday for blood work (which was off last time a couple months ago and there was activity mid cervical on an xray) and I have been having some concerns, like headaches, energy, night sweats, small lump on neck. I hope its just canceritis and I am only scaring myself. I want this fear to go away. I don't like having fear over something I have NO control over. I think I need a hot bath and meditation.
yes think positive! I know how you feel. and find support. I had but one person who supported me. it was not enough. I finally joined a support group and I am glad I did. FINALLY people that know what it was like physically & emotionally. Even after the battle. People don't realize there are no fireworks going off inside of you just because the battle is over. inside it has just begun. If you need to talk I am here. :)

mustangjeano 05-24-2013 12:38 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by wahya (Post 802551)
I will be breast cancer free (depends on who you go by the oncologist/the surgeon who removed the tumor/ the radiologist) But I go by the date I received the news Dec 7 2010. My next scan will be in two weeks. I start getting a little anxiety by the last week before the scan. My health has been great. I have turned my life around inside & out. I believe in the power of positive thinking. My caregiver was my ex gf who did the best she could for me. I was a terrible VERY terrible patient for her. I won my battle with cancer but lost her. It was a terrible time in my life before during & after. We didn't have a shot in hell. I used to blame the end of our relationship on the cancer but even though I do believe it played a part in it. I was the reason for it ending. I was angry bitter and selfish. I only hope she is now happy and knows I did appreciate her helping me through one of the toughest times in my life and know she will always carry a piece of my heart with her. All caregivers are truly angels in disguise. :)
Wow! It sounds like you are describing my cancer experience. We have a lot in common. I applaud your honesty about your part in the process. I agree about positive thinking. Sounds like you have done a loit of good internal work---congratulations on continuing good health. Jeano

clay 06-02-2013 03:33 PM
I had my two procedures on the 29th. Things went well with both. My lovely fiancee' was with me for the week....she really took excellent care of me, too! I am truly blessed!

Awaiting results of two biopsies taken...Am remaining positive!

Thank you to each one of you here...who offer your kind words, warm hugs, and support. This means the world to me. I miss all of you, think of you often...:).

Warm hugs and much love to you all....:)

Tommi 06-02-2013 06:23 PM
The tests. The wait. The results. The re-test. The wait..and the beat goes on.
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 799675)
Thanks Jeano,

I made my follow-up appointment for May 14, 2014, my 10 year Anniversary :)

All went well, always glad to see them under these circumstances. Exams, tests and "results will be in the mail". I took several days off work for R & R Now, back to living life to it's fullest. Where is that bull named Fumanchu


The dreaded phone call came on Friday.

"We need you to come back for a follow-up as the Pap results showed some atypical cells. Doc wants to do a Colposcopy"

A what?? I can come in tomorrow, I mean Monday"

"The first appointment we have available is on the 19th at 7:00AM, and in case he needs to do a biopsy it will be done at that time." ...
What is a colposcopy anyway? ......as I am Googling it...Endometrial cancer, follow-ups for atypical cells, a magnifying light, acetic acid...oy vey*

as the Nurse is saying ....These things are just routine, and negative 9 times out of 10, just a little burning, and uncomfortable cramps possibly for a day or two and..... as my mind wandered off to the beach.

Who the hell can call this routine after 9 years of negative pap smears /post total radical hysterectomy with 16 lymph nodes donated to science***I thought it was "my prostate" surgery in the first place.

I hate waiting. So, to wile away the team, so I gessoed a huge canvas...:artist:
Hmmm. either a peaceful landscape or a rolling stormy seascape 3 X 4 feet

mustangjeano 06-02-2013 11:45 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 806976)

The dreaded phone call came on Friday.

"We need you to come back for a follow-up as the Pap results showed some atypical cells. Doc wants to do a Colposcopy"

A what?? I can come in tomorrow, I mean Monday"

"The first appointment we have available is on the 19th at 7:00AM, and in case he needs to do a biopsy it will be done at that time." ...
What is a colposcopy anyway? ......as I am Googling it...Endometrial cancer, follow-ups for atypical cells, a magnifying light, acetic acid...oy vey*

as the Nurse is saying ....These things are just routine, and negative 9 times out of 10, just a little burning, and uncomfortable cramps possibly for a day or two and..... as my mind wandered off to the beach.

Who the hell can call this routine after 9 years of negative pap smears /post total radical hysterectomy with 16 lymph nodes donated to science***I thought it was "my prostate" surgery in the first place.

I hate waiting. So, to wile away the team, so I gessoed a huge canvas...:artist:
Hmmm. either a peaceful landscape or a rolling stormy seascape 3 X 4 feet
Hey Tommi, It really sucks to have to wait til the 19 for that procedure. I am holding very positive thoughts for you from now until you are done and have great good news from the tests. Jeano

Tommi 06-03-2013 12:25 AM
(((((((((JeanOOOoo))))) big thanks

Genesis 06-03-2013 12:43 AM
Thank you for this post...
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer (Post 52757)


Thank you Andrew for starting this thread:goodpost:
As a caregiver I want to post and to enlighten those who've never dealt with Cancer or any other long term chronic illness.
Your caregiver is the one who, gets every imaginable throwback, the happy days, sad days, angry days,
the I don't want to go on days and the days.
The days with good news, bad news and no news.
If there is a change we are there, we clean and cook,
we bathe and care for our loved ones.
Out of love, we are there.
We allow them to shed tears even when we hide our own,
we laugh, we share and in the most heart breaking cases
we watch them cross over.

We are tired, worn out sleep deprived but we march on.
They depend on us, for we are their Nurses, their Pharmacy, their Cooks, their Transporters and their advocate,
we get things done when they cannot. They trust us and confide in us
and we stay strong for them, giving them encouragement even on the darkest days.
Not every Cancer patient has multiple caregivers,
so when people think that caregiver is short, or curt, flighty, in a hurry.
Give some consideration they might be on day three, with only six hours of sleep, in 72 hours and multitasking to no end just to make sure their loved ones get the care they so richly deserve.
I could have never said this more eloquently than you did, Spirit Dancer...
I am the caregiver for my Mom who has multiple myeloma. There will be no remission for her... just keeping her quality of life as best as it can be....

Tommi 06-03-2013 01:00 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Genesis (Post 807094)
I could have never said this more eloquently than you did, Spirit Dancer...
I am the caregiver for my Mom who has multiple myeloma. There will be no remission for her... just keeping her quality of life as best as it can be....
Genesis,
Sending Best wishes and sharing some strength with you. Sorry to hear about your Mom's condition. Knowing she has love and someone to listen and care are the gifts you can give. Please come back and let us know how you are doing.

nanners 06-03-2013 05:52 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 806976)

The dreaded phone call came on Friday.

"We need you to come back for a follow-up as the Pap results showed some atypical cells. Doc wants to do a Colposcopy"

A what?? I can come in tomorrow, I mean Monday"

"The first appointment we have available is on the 19th at 7:00AM, and in case he needs to do a biopsy it will be done at that time." ...
What is a colposcopy anyway? ......as I am Googling it...Endometrial cancer, follow-ups for atypical cells, a magnifying light, acetic acid...oy vey*

as the Nurse is saying ....These things are just routine, and negative 9 times out of 10, just a little burning, and uncomfortable cramps possibly for a day or two and..... as my mind wandered off to the beach.

Who the hell can call this routine after 9 years of negative pap smears /post total radical hysterectomy with 16 lymph nodes donated to science***I thought it was "my prostate" surgery in the first place.

I hate waiting. So, to wile away the team, so I gessoed a huge canvas...:artist:
Hmmm. either a peaceful landscape or a rolling stormy seascape 3 X 4 feet
Oh Tommi,
I am so sorry you got that call...you'll be in my thoughts and prayers everyday and I'll be waiting for the all clear on the 19th or whenever you find out the results. Big hugs to you. Keep on painting and creating, it is good for your soul. ((((Tommi))))

deb_U_taunt 06-03-2013 08:15 PM
Good luck this week with your results...much love

Quote:
Originally Posted by clay (Post 806919)
I had my two procedures on the 29th. Things went well with both. My lovely fiancee' was with me for the week....she really took excellent care of me, too! I am truly blessed!

Awaiting results of two biopsies taken...Am remaining positive!

Thank you to each one of you here...who offer your kind words, warm hugs, and support. This means the world to me. I miss all of you, think of you often...:).

Warm hugs and much love to you all....:)

deb_U_taunt 06-03-2013 08:24 PM
Hopefully having you wait until the 19th means they don't have any concerns. Damn thats a long wait. Hugs to you!

Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 806976)

The dreaded phone call came on Friday.

"We need you to come back for a follow-up as the Pap results showed some atypical cells. Doc wants to do a Colposcopy"

A what?? I can come in tomorrow, I mean Monday"

"The first appointment we have available is on the 19th at 7:00AM, and in case he needs to do a biopsy it will be done at that time." ...
What is a colposcopy anyway? ......as I am Googling it...Endometrial cancer, follow-ups for atypical cells, a magnifying light, acetic acid...oy vey*

as the Nurse is saying ....These things are just routine, and negative 9 times out of 10, just a little burning, and uncomfortable cramps possibly for a day or two and..... as my mind wandered off to the beach.

Who the hell can call this routine after 9 years of negative pap smears /post total radical hysterectomy with 16 lymph nodes donated to science***I thought it was "my prostate" surgery in the first place.

I hate waiting. So, to wile away the team, so I gessoed a huge canvas...:artist:
Hmmm. either a peaceful landscape or a rolling stormy seascape 3 X 4 feet

deb_U_taunt 06-03-2013 08:31 PM
After blood work last week, Dr sent me for more blood work and a brain and neck MRI. We meet Thursday. I am in constant prayer right now.

clay 06-03-2013 08:34 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 807491)
After blood work last week, Dr sent me for more blood work and a brain and neck MRI. We meet Thursday. I am in constant prayer right now.
((((((((((((((((((((deb))))))))))))))))))))))))
Holding you close, my sweet friend! Know you ARE in my prayers always...love you much! xoxo

Tommi 06-03-2013 08:43 PM
So, we are not typical....
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 807485)
Hopefully having you wait until the 19th means they don't have any concerns. Damn that's a long wait. Hugs to you!

You are right ,,I didn't think of that. Thank you.
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 807491)
After blood work last week, Dr sent me for more blood work and a brain and neck MRI. We meet Thursday. I am in constant prayer right now.
http://www.worcesterdiocese.org/Port...ling_hands.jpg
You are in my prayers (((((((deb))))))). The MRI is the best way to see the good, bad and the ugly. So, glad you are getting the Good Looked at. and yes, the damn waiting sucks.

mustangjeano 06-04-2013 12:49 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 807491)
After blood work last week, Dr sent me for more blood work and a brain and neck MRI. We meet Thursday. I am in constant prayer right now.
Deb, I'm glad your Doc. is extra careful and that way you can rule out any bad stuff . My loving energy headed your way. Jean

Genesis 06-04-2013 01:18 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by deb_U_taunt (Post 807491)
After blood work last week, Dr sent me for more blood work and a brain and neck MRI. We meet Thursday. I am in constant prayer right now.
Sending my prayers and positive energy your way...

Genesis 06-04-2013 01:24 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 807098)
Genesis,
Sending Best wishes and sharing some strength with you. Sorry to hear about your Mom's condition. Knowing she has love and someone to listen and care are the gifts you can give. Please come back and let us know how you are doing.

Tommi, thank you for your kind words. I took her to get a pet scan of her whole body and earlier today to get a ct scan of her stomach and pelvic area... We meet with her Oncologist and Primary in two weeks to see how it goes... the pain in her stomach keeps getting worse... will see how it all turns out... also sending my prayers and positive energy to everyone in this group...Tommi I'm rooting you get good news on the 19th... hang in thea...

Tommi 06-04-2013 08:13 AM
Genesis
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Genesis (Post 807591)
Tommi, thank you for your kind words. I took her to get a pet scan of her whole body and earlier today to get a ct scan of her stomach and pelvic area... We meet with her Oncologist and Primary in two weeks to see how it goes... the pain in her stomach keeps getting worse... will see how it all turns out... also sending my prayers and positive energy to everyone in this group...Tommi I'm rooting you get good news on the 19th... hang in thea...
Glad to see the "we" in your post.(f) It is great to have someone that isn't afraid to be with you when you have these scary things going on. Just to ride with, chat with, talk abut nothing. Enjoy the silence with her as her mind encompasses the things we never ever thought about, never ever planned in our daytimer or on a calender as part of that day to day routine of living the real life.

Thanks for the hi 5, and PLEASE come on in here and let us know how she is, and ....also importantly, how you are, even if it is a drove by hello. :candle::praying:
Adding "Genesis Special One" to the special peeps list that we keep in our daily thoughts and prayers here in the unique club, we never wanted to join. :| Let her know there is special energy of strangers around the Planet that are pulling for her. :moonstars: (*strange~ not me though) :mohawk:

Genesis 06-05-2013 10:35 AM
Tommi, again, thank you for the kind words. It means a lot. My Mom has her husband (my Father) and me during this process. I am beyond bless and fortunate that he is part of our support system. My heart and love goes out to all the caretakers out there who are only themselves. It's tough... As of right now my Mom is going as good as she can with her current condition. As for me... am evolving... just taking things in stride...the thing I always keep in the forefront of my mind is that she is the one going through it and if she can manage to get up each morning, be happy and smile, I got no choice but to do the same. My prayers and love and positive energy to every single person in this group going through the journey or being a companion along the way....


Quote:
Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 807678)
Glad to see the "we" in your post.(f) It is great to have someone that isn't afraid to be with you when you have these scary things going on. Just to ride with, chat with, talk abut nothing. Enjoy the silence with her as her mind encompasses the things we never ever thought about, never ever planned in our daytimer or on a calender as part of that day to day routine of living the real life.

Thanks for the hi 5, and PLEASE come on in here and let us know how she is, and ....also importantly, how you are, even if it is a drove by hello. :candle::praying:
Adding "Genesis Special One" to the special peeps list that we keep in our daily thoughts and prayers here in the unique club, we never wanted to join. :| Let her know there is special energy of strangers around the Planet that are pulling for her. :moonstars: (*strange~ not me though) :mohawk:

Italian_Girl 06-05-2013 12:30 PM
Not sure if I am doing this right it's my first time posting and not sure how to so if I put this in the wrong place or did something wrong please excuse me.

I am also a caregiver have been for many years. I have seen many people pass from all kinds of cancer and whatnot. It wasn't until I had to stop caring for strangers and cared for my mom that it had affected me. She was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and passed away within 4 months. Since then I have kinda distanced myself with people and am not able to connect emotionally I just kind of go through the motions (except for my girlfriend/friend) not sure how to get over it or if I can.
My mom passed away almost 3 years ago. Her birthday is tomorrow she would have been 71 her 3 yr anniversary of her death is January 6th at noon. I was the one who pronounced her death and wont ever forget that day. I am now living with my Dad and looking after him but still am a caregiver for a close family member as well. They say it gets easier with time but for me it seems to be getting worse. I just keep detaching. Never felt more alone. Thinking about giving up the caregiving but spent so much of my life doing it my other skills are too old and not updated for work as anything else.

Genesis 06-05-2013 01:12 PM
Italian Girl ~hugs tightly~ I am so sorry for your loss... My condolences... The process of loss for each individual is so unique and so personal, that only as you go through this journey, you will know how it feels and how it will play out. Have you considered counseling or group therapy? I will be more than glad to listen if you need to talk... It is admirable that you are now taking care of your Father and another family member... but also remember you got to take care of you... if you don't take care of you... then who will? My prayers and positive energy for you and your loved ones...
Quote:
Originally Posted by Italian_Girl (Post 808096)
Not sure if I am doing this right it's my first time posting and not sure how to so if I put this in the wrong place or did something wrong please excuse me.

I am also a caregiver have been for many years. I have seen many people pass from all kinds of cancer and whatnot. It wasn't until I had to stop caring for strangers and cared for my mom that it had affected me. She was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and passed away within 4 months. Since then I have kinda distanced myself with people and am not able to connect emotionally I just kind of go through the motions (except for my girlfriend/friend) not sure how to get over it or if I can.
My mom passed away almost 3 years ago. Her birthday is tomorrow she would have been 71 her 3 yr anniversary of her death is January 6th at noon. I was the one who pronounced her death and wont ever forget that day. I am now living with my Dad and looking after him but still am a caregiver for a close family member as well. They say it gets easier with time but for me it seems to be getting worse. I just keep detaching. Never felt more alone. Thinking about giving up the caregiving but spent so much of my life doing it my other skills are too old and not updated for work as anything else.

clay 06-07-2013 08:38 PM
My biopsies were all clean. NO malignancy! YAY!

I see my Oncologist next week for tumor marker levels and my regular 3 month FU.

Thanks for all the kind words, warm hugs, and loving support from all of you here..means the world to me...:). I <3 you all...:)

Tommi 06-07-2013 08:42 PM
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Originally Posted by clay (Post 808893)
My biopsies were all clean. NO malignancy! YAY!

I see my Oncologist next week for tumor marker levels and my regular 3 month FU.

Thanks for all the kind words, warm hugs, and loving support from all of you here..means the world to me...:). I <3 you all...:)
Yeah clay.
..:hangloose:

julieisafemme 06-07-2013 09:44 PM
Genesis and Italian Girl I am thinking of you. Caregiving is so hard. Kudos to you Italian Girl for caring for strangers. That must be a very hard job. I really miss my Mom a lot today. I am so blessed that I was there to take care of her in her last year. We have a large family and there was lots of support. My nephew graduated middle school last night and we all missed her so much. All of you caregivers out there please take care of yourselves as much as possible.


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