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Happy Friday Femmes!!!
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Hello, my sisters!
It's at least ninety degrees here today, quiet a shock for this wisconsinite so early in the season. I hope you are all doing well. |
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Hello Sister Femmes!
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Loved this read...
A few weeks ago, I was shopping at Buffalo Exchange when I came across a bright pink t-shirt. Normally, I wouldn't have bothered to pick it up. While I love a pop of color in my mostly black wardrobe, pink tends to wash out my ghost-white skin. But it wasn't the color that caught my eye, it was the word scrawled across the chest: "Femme."
As a lesbian who enjoys makeup, dresses, crop tops, and curling my hair (even though it's such a hassle), I'm basically the definition of a femme. So this shirt felt tailor-made for me. But at the same time, I was a little irritated thinking about other people wearing it. Namely, straight women. Because, among the LGBTQ+ community, femme is a descriptor that can feel as inherent to someone's identity as lesbian, bisexual, or genderqueer. So to see the word emblazoned across a shirt that was first sold at a mainstream store like Madewell and then eventually found its way to Buffalo Exchange was a little jarring. How many straight women have worn the shirt completely oblivious of the queer history it invokes? Femmes have been part of queer history since at least the late 1940s and early 1950s, when lesbian and bisexual women (specifically working-class women) coined a term to describe the relationships they were forming: butch-femme. "Butch-femme relationships, as I experienced them, were complex erotic statements...filled with a deeply lesbian language of stance, dress, gesture, loving, courage, and autonomy," Joan Nestle, founder of the Lesbian Herstory Archives, wrote in her essay Butch-Femme Relationships and Sexual Courage in the 1950’s. While many argued against butch-femme relationships at the time (and sometimes still do) as being attempts to mimic heterosexual relationships, Nestle claimed that butch-femme couples terrified other lesbians because they were unwilling to hide. Unlike closeted lesbians who could pass for straight, butch-femme couples made queer women visible. "In the 1950s this courage to feel comfortable with arousing another woman became a political act," she wrote. Femininity for femme lesbians wasn't just a look, it was statement that they wouldn't bend to anyone else's expectations. https://www.refinery29.com/femme-lesbian-lgbtq-history |
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Great read!! Perfectly sums up some of my own irritation around the word "Femme" being co-opted in different spaces. To me, Femme is a QUEER identity. Period. xoxo |
I read both teen Vogue and Cosmogirl. What can I say, I have a penchant for teen magazines. And they now use the word "femme" to describe a "girly" style. Like they might have outfits for sporty style, glam, boho, etc. And what used to be girly is now interchangeable with " femme". It really irks me that the word is being co-opted in this way, even if in teen magazines.
In other news, hellooooo femmes!!! |
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Hello, ladies! |
Hello & Good Afternoon....
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hi everyone wishing you a beautiful week ^^
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Brunch in Paris anyone?
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hello femmes !!!!
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Hello sister femmes!
Today is National Girlfriends Day so hello to my girls and know that I celebrate you every day that I've known you. :rrose: |
Girl Dee...
So glad to see you so happy. It makes me happy for you. If you get back to NOLO we must meet up for a day!
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Howdy fellow femmelings!!!
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Hello again, femme lovelies!
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No matter your weather today, enjoy the summer afternoon!
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Enjoy the weekend, femmes!
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It's been a while since I poked my head in here. Happy weekend to all my sister femmes who have a weekend! Sorry to anyone who doesn't.
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Hi girls!
I’m super excited for the new season. I love decorating the house in fall/winter themes. What do you do around the house over the seasons? Have a great day ladies! 💕 |
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I’m not big into decorating at ALL. My Mel is, so I am worried ...........:blink: |
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Hey girl heeeeey ☺️ |
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Glad to see it is still here! And active! Moved to Pacific Northwest! love it here 😍 How’s you? |
hi y'all have a beautiful and positive week
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Hello Femme Sister's
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Today I'm seeking joy, spreading joy where I can and letting my light shine. ~ Kätzchen :rrose: |
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