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Daktari 02-07-2012 08:28 AM

Ok, so I'm on day 8 of giving up a poison for my body. I'm tired and cranky and just gonna say it as I see it. No offence is intended, just honesty. Sometimes I think tough talking is needed!

OS...again!! You had non-smoking friends over and you chose to keep the only smoker company? At least you recognise that it was just an excuse, a justification. A good guest, knowing you were giving up smoking, would not have let you go out with her, nor would she have let you have smokes. Simples!

Glad you're back on that wagon again mate...same for you, just another day and the nicotine is outta your body, it's just the compulsion left in yer head you have to conquer. It's hard, I know, but you can do it.

Put yer tinfoil hat on and gerron with it.

May the force be with you too OS :tinfoil:

Lady Pamela 02-07-2012 03:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 522119)
Wooohooooo! Well done! 2 days it brilliant. I'm soooo glad you've got past the intermediate cop out thang of 'well, I am cutting down'. (sorry if that offends but I tend to say as I see it)

Be prepared for the worst then if it doesn't happen it'll be a bonus. :cheesy: Use all those techniques we've all spoken about in the thread. The best things we do for ourselves are not the easiest. It could well get worse but you have this thread for inspiration and hopefully you've developed your own internal positive self talk to get you through the 'wilderness' times.

I'm so stoked that you've made it to the non smoking part. Only another day and the nicotine will be entirely out of your body.

Go you!!

May the force be with you :tinfoil:

Thanks for making me laugh..I didn't take that bad at all. Actually it helped me but I do understand your point...lol

Thanks so much for keeping the motivation going..I mean everyone!

I am on day 3 and still not smoking! Yippieee!!!

And yes..my inner voice is speaking loud..ha But the other voice is truely trying to fight it..trust that.

One day at a time..or minute at a time..ha


Lady Pamela 02-07-2012 03:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 522140)
Everyone is doing so well! Keep it up. I didn't fair as well. On Sunday, my non smoking friends arrived....with a friend I have previously met and she is a smoker without any inclination of quitting. Well, I did bum 2 smokes and justified it by being a good host, not wanting her to be outside smoking all by herself!

The good news is I did not go out and start buying a pack, so here I am on day 2 of not smoking, again!


No kicking yourself in the butt! Good to see you got back on to ride! Good for you!

Keep it going.

Suggest that those who smoke, smoke outside and you do not follow.
I have had to do that for now.

Lady Pamela 02-07-2012 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 522161)
Ok, so I'm on day 8 of giving up a poison for my body. I'm tired and cranky and just gonna say it as I see it. No offence is intended, just honesty. Sometimes I think tough talking is needed!

OS...again!! You had non-smoking friends over and you chose to keep the only smoker company? At least you recognise that it was just an excuse, a justification. A good guest, knowing you were giving up smoking, would not have let you go out with her, nor would she have let you have smokes. Simples!

Glad you're back on that wagon again mate...same for you, just another day and the nicotine is outta your body, it's just the compulsion left in yer head you have to conquer. It's hard, I know, but you can do it.

Put yer tinfoil hat on and gerron with it.

May the force be with you too OS :tinfoil:

Fabulious!!!! Your doing great. And your a great support to those who are stopping other stuff as well.
Keep it up!

Lady Pamela 02-07-2012 03:40 PM

Day 3 NO SMOKES!
 
You know, I am so proud of myself. I have this demon on my shoulder telling me I want one, I need one, it will taste so great, it will ease my nerves etc etc etc.

But I have talked my way through this everytime time. Sometimes minute to minute litterally. And no, I am not tooting my own horn,,just stating that as of this moment, this day, I am proud of myself!

I have brought my sisters litterally to tears of happiness over this. That truely has shown me something on a deep level.

Anyway, the day is young and my intent is strong..as of this moment..I AM SMOKE FREE THREE DAYS...smiles

And having your support here has truely helped..thank you so much!

spritzerJ 02-07-2012 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 522425)
You know, I am so proud of myself. I have this demon on my shoulder telling me I want one, I need one, it will taste so great, it will ease my nerves etc etc etc.

But I have talked my way through this everytime time. Sometimes minute to minute litterally. And no, I am not tooting my own horn,,just stating that as of this moment, this day, I am proud of myself!

I have brought my sisters litterally to tears of happiness over this. That truely has shown me something on a deep level.

Anyway, the day is young and my intent is strong..as of this moment..I AM SMOKE FREE THREE DAYS...smiles

And having your support here has truely helped..thank you so much!

Lady Pamela, You toot away! Can you believe it? I can! So strong and yep intention rocks on you!

Lady Pamela 02-07-2012 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by jenna8987 (Post 522485)
Lady Pamela, You toot away! Can you believe it? I can! So strong and yep intention rocks on you!


Actually, I know I can do things very hard..But yes I am suprised I have made it 3 days..ha

Thanks for the support.

Lady Pamela 02-08-2012 12:29 PM

Day 4 smoke free..and I am being truely challenged today!!! Grrr

However my daughter comes to visit from Arkansas today till the 14th so I am sooo excited...Trying to hold strong..minute by minute...Hand a mini meltdown..maybe that will help..ha

Keep strong ya all...smiles Have a great day!

Daktari 02-08-2012 01:01 PM

Go you LadyP...there will always be challenges to our quitting anything but we can overcome - sounds like some sort of song there huh? ;)

May the force be with y'all :tinfoil:

OS Butch 02-08-2012 06:32 PM

One of the reasons I do keep coming back after I mess up is your honesty, Incubus. I don't take offense at all for getting barked at for my lack of will power.

Excuses, seems I have a load of them. I could have not mentioned it and made me look good, that just isn't me. I am accountable for all my actions, especially the bad choices for my health. I certainly hope to be successful!

Thanks Dude!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 522161)
Ok, so I'm on day 8 of giving up a poison for my body. I'm tired and cranky and just gonna say it as I see it. No offence is intended, just honesty. Sometimes I think tough talking is needed!

OS...again!! You had non-smoking friends over and you chose to keep the only smoker company? At least you recognise that it was just an excuse, a justification. A good guest, knowing you were giving up smoking, would not have let you go out with her, nor would she have let you have smokes. Simples!

Glad you're back on that wagon again mate...same for you, just another day and the nicotine is outta your body, it's just the compulsion left in yer head you have to conquer. It's hard, I know, but you can do it.

Put yer tinfoil hat on and gerron with it.

May the force be with you too OS :tinfoil:


OS Butch 02-08-2012 06:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 522973)
Day 4 smoke free..and I am being truely challenged today!!! Grrr

However my daughter comes to visit from Arkansas today till the 14th so I am sooo excited...Trying to hold strong..minute by minute...Hand a mini meltdown..maybe that will help..ha

Keep strong ya all...smiles Have a great day!


Great job. You are an inspiration! Keep it up.


Lady Pamela 02-08-2012 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 522982)
Go you LadyP...there will always be challenges to our quitting anything but we can overcome - sounds like some sort of song there huh? ;)

May the force be with y'all :tinfoil:

Thanks..made it through the day! Yes I truely had some force hepling me...thanks for the support...together we all can doooo itttt!...smiles

Lady Pamela 02-08-2012 09:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 523162)
Great job. You are an inspiration! Keep it up.



Thank you so much...And you can do it too..trust me if I can beat this...ANYONE CAN! ...lol

Way to go for keeping it going.

Daktari 02-09-2012 05:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 523159)
One of the reasons I do keep coming back after I mess up is your honesty, Incubus. I don't take offense at all for getting barked at for my lack of will power.

Excuses, seems I have a load of them. I could have not mentioned it and made me look good, that just isn't me. I am accountable for all my actions, especially the bad choices for my health. I certainly hope to be successful!

Thanks Dude!

You will be successful when you choose to be mate - we all know how rough it is though...I'll lend you one of my spare tinfoil hats if you need the extra aluminium! :cheesy:

It's only you that suffers; it's rough when you have to keep starting all over again, knowing how rough it's gonna feel for those first days and weeks.

I'm real glad you felt able to come tell us slipped up again...and if it happens again, come lemme bark at ya again ;)

Keep the faith y'all :tinfoil:


here's an extra one for you OSB :tinfoil:




Lady Pamela 02-09-2012 12:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 523372)


You will be successful when you choose to be mate - we all know how rough it is though...I'll lend you one of my spare tinfoil hats if you need the extra aluminium! :cheesy:

It's only you that suffers; it's rough when you have to keep starting all over again, knowing how rough it's gonna feel for those first days and weeks.

I'm real glad you felt able to come tell us slipped up again...and if it happens again, come lemme bark at ya again ;)

Keep the faith y'all :tinfoil:


here's an extra one for you OSB :tinfoil:





Barking only means you give a shit..and that you want to support and also be supported back.

It is great to have someone you feel you can depend on and also be honest with. No matter what...Ya all have been there for me..thanks so much!


Btw...day six and SMOKE FREE STILL...It is lessoning some with the turmoil..but so not a safe point yet.

And oh how life has challenged my quitting process..ha

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Lady Pamela 02-09-2012 12:27 PM

Day six
 
Smoke free 6 days and feeling my air in my lungs better.
Tastes are getting better.
My nose is off the hook with every smell around.
And I actually ran a little without thinking I was gonna die...lol

Still a strugle and a gained some weight but I am still doing it.

BTW, Weight is an issue for me as I struggled many years with anerexia..so it is very hard. But I don't care. I will pass through this and then loose the weight. Btw..I am healthy not skinny now so it's all good...smiles


One addiction at a time..smiles I will finally be where I am suposed to be.

Daktari 02-09-2012 02:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 523554)
Barking only means you give a shit..and that you want to support and also be supported back.

It is great to have someone you feel you can depend on and also be honest with. No matter what...Ya all have been there for me..thanks so much!


Btw...day six and SMOKE FREE STILL...It is lessoning some with the turmoil..but so not a safe point yet.

And oh how life has challenged my quitting process..ha

.


Day 6....woooohooooo...the force is working it's magic. :tinfoil:

Tis true, I do give a shit. I am <that> ex smoker; a walking advert for what can happen to you if you don't give up in time and if asked I will evangelise about not smoking til the cows come home or they walk away, which ever comes first! :cheesy:

Lemme tell you I was somewhat manic for a while after first quitting. It took a few weeks/couple of months or so to calm down and finally *know* that this time I'd cracked it.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 523559)
Smoke free 6 days and feeling my air in my lungs better.
Tastes are getting better.
My nose is off the hook with every smell around.
And I actually ran a little without thinking I was gonna die...lol

Still a strugle and a gained some weight but I am still doing it.

BTW, Weight is an issue for me as I struggled many years with anerexia..so it is very hard. But I don't care. I will pass through this and then loose the weight. Btw..I am healthy not skinny now so it's all good...smiles


One addiction at a time..smiles I will finally be where I am suposed to be.

I'm anosmic and have a less than standard sense of taste so sadly I didn't get those benefits. However, I did notice how wonderful it was to wake up in the morning - no matter how much or what I'd drunk the night before - with a clean mouth. It was a revelation that is was smoking that made the difference.

Ok, so the weight thing is an issue for me too. I spent 20some years with eating disorders but even as I recovered from that I remained very slim. I was used to being around 100lbs all my adult life. I purposely didn't substitute my oral fixation with cigs for food, I was well prepared for that one. Then, double whammy happened, I got hit with full on (peri)man-0-pausal symptoms.
Hoody on-hoody off...jebus I'm going mad but it's great not to bleed every month shyte.
Well it appears that nicotine sorta helps speed up your metabolic system. This combined with the above hormonal stuff led to an exorable increase in weight which is the hardest thing I've found to deal with. It's relative because if I told you what I weigh you'd laugh but I have flesh that I've not had since I was a teenager.

However, I'd rather be a small winnebago with 48% lung function left than a racing bike with rapidly decreasing lung function.


May the force be with ya :tinfoil:




eta...Day 10

uniquetobeme 02-11-2012 10:31 AM

You all are doing so well! Addiction is terrible because it teaches us to lie to ourselves and to find ways to justify our behaviors. There is a professor at George Mason University, Dr. Robert Smith, and he has done research on nicotine and the adolescent brain of rats vs adult rats. He found that the adolescent rats were much more sensitive to the nicotine and developed many more receptor sites for the nicotine, whereas the adult rats had little change. I bet most of us, if not all of us, started smoking while still a teenager. Our brains are wired for addiction. Unfortunately, his study showed that we would also be wired for other addictions as well. So, this is one of the most difficult things to overcome.

We are all amazing individuals to be this serious about quitting and making it through these struggles. Dr. Smith said his wife smokes and he doesn't think she will ever quit because of how addictive smoking is. I think I recall him saying (but this was years ago) the only way to really quit an addiction is to substitute it for something else. I'm not sure I agree with him on it being the ONLY way, but I think it does make it easier if we substitute the smoking habit for a healthy habit.

It has been 2 weeks since I quit smoking and I have been nicotine free for one day. I was worried last night because after a LONG week at work, I drank a couple glasses of sangria. I was worried that would trigger me to smoke. My son's boyfriend smokes...so I know I could easily get one, but I didn't and I didn't even have the craving. I know I have to be really careful...drinking is a huge trigger for me...luckily I don't drink often!

Tommi 02-11-2012 12:58 PM

Cake and ice cream later.
 
Good Luck to everyone. Just a drive-by in support of what I have been told is the hardest addiction to kick.
Congrats to those that r turning the corner. :rrose:
Never a smoker, but seeing and feeling the side-effects, My Mom was able to give up drugs, alcohol, and rl, etc., but could not give up smoking.

Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 12:52 AM

Just got back and thought I would say..Still going strong..on day 9 today and soon that will be doen.

I have had some hard moments but old habits die hard sometimes..smiles

Congrats to everyone for keeping on keeping one..smiles..tty all tomorrow. night


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