Butch Femme Planet - How did you know?

Hi Kassy,

Like you you I went through a self identification stage, asking myself, "what am I, what kind of lesbian am I?" I had one friend telling me that I was soft butch because of the way that I carry myself, my no nonsense attitude if a fight were to break out, I carry a knife, and I have a concealed weapon permit. Another friend described me as soft femme because I was always cleaning up her kitchen when I'm at her house, or doing other female gender-specific chores, but that I just so happen to have a touch of masculinity in me since I do carry a knife and I burp out loud. BUT, you will not catch me in a dress but I will wear eyeliner and mascara for my lipstick butch g/f who prefers femmes that are a bit tom boyish. I look butch, but I'm not, I'm soft femme; my g/f looks femme, but she's not, she's lipstick butch. Talk about a mind frack!