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Originally Posted by Gemme (Post 431521)

Music has a huge influence on me. I will listen to it and either play online or watch something that is super fluffy, so I don't have to think. Thinking is where most of my stress comes from. The last thing I need is to do something that will make me more stressful or sad.

Nods... That's why movies like Zoolander, or Stepbrothers are excellent *I need to stop thinking or I'm going to impload* movies....

I count my blessings !

I do something for someone else.

For instance when I'm feeling down in the dumps I try to get over to the local shelter and do what I can to help. Sometimes I just pop in and bring the staff donuts and the animals treats. Sometimes like today I step WAY out of my norm and go to social events like the Animal Blessings today and try to represent the shelter in a positive way. It forces me to be "social" when usually I'm not. It's SO not me because it involves small talk and "shmoozing" which I really dread. This actually does help me to feel better...not sure why exactly, but it does.

Usually do somethng physical ... and push myself extra hard to wear myself down so as to be very exhausted.
Examples:
- work in the yard
- shoot hoops by myself til I'm about to drop
- call a butch bud with a good arm, arrange to meet and throw the football for a couple of hours
- build something with wood

By the way, I enjoy doing all the things I listed when I am not down. Only difference - I just go at it harder when I am out of sorts.

Seems after I get totally worn out, the "down feeling" has gone away.

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Originally Posted by tapu (Post 433806)

Another day, another thing I do when I'm down. Hm, might this indicate that I spend a lot of time feeling down? I'll try not to think about that.

This is something I really have done, not just a joke, but it's not nearly so noble as giving blood.

Not so long ago I had this job that absolutely stifled my little self. It was pure management and nothing at all in the realm of creativity, where I've always fit best.

Well, in the kitchen at this job, where on my floor probably 100 people were, I would hear everyone complain about not having enough flatware available if you took lunch too long after noon.

So I gradually started removing flatware from the kitchen until people were, like, practically screaming about the lack of spoons every day. I'd hear, "People are taking the forks to their desks and then just leaving them there and now the rest of us can't use them!!" and such.

I had a pretty strong collection by about New Years so when we came back after the first, I started insinuating all the flatware back into the kitchen. I even gathered up an old set or two I had at home and added those in.

The whole office seemed happier within a week or two and I felt really happy and entertained, too.

You know... I always thought it a bad idea to make me a manager since, basically, I'm why they need management, but this seems like I ultimately had a large, positive effect on the workplace after all.

AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA omg I can't stop laughing. I'm so twisted I find this too funny. :huhlaugh::rofl:

i play the glad game

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Originally Posted by tapu (Post 432441)

If I'm just in the house and don't want to go out or do anything special, I just follow my dog around. Fairly closely, like he will me, you know? Wherever he goes, there I am, right behind him. He starts to get nervous pretty quickly and he's, like, looking around at me, left and right. Then his ears go down and he slinks around, trying to shake me.

this reminded me of an old housemate of mine that followed my cat around the entire day not letting her nap because she kept the housemate up all night meowing outside my bedroom to get in. ( i stayed elsewhere that night.)
every time i think about that it, cheers me up.

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Originally Posted by Dude (Post 434185)

I hose my duck.

That's the spirit!

(and that's not a metaphor, right?)

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Originally Posted by Dude (Post 434185)

I hose my duck.

http://i1142.photobucket.com/albums/...estmyducks.jpg

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Originally Posted by MsW8ing (Post 434452)

http://i1142.photobucket.com/albums/...estmyducks.jpg

Well, it's not just any duck. It's Dude's own duck.

:cheesy:

I usually do something for Red or I go and pick up my nephew and niece. All three of these wonderful people bring me back quickly.

Something new I've discovered that really cheers me up is posting on my grown adult childrens FB. Seriously. I know most of their friends and helped raise a lot of them. So I like to post the embarassing stories about all these kids. That starts them heckling and teasing each other in good fun. Cracks me up to read the comments they make to one another. I like to see how many respond comments one of my comments/stories can make them post. My record is 45 comments on one post. They all have fun and it makes me laugh. Memories can be good sometimes.

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Originally Posted by tapu (Post 434186)

That's the spirit!

(and that's not a metaphor, right?)

no metaphor

sometimes I suds him up with a little dawn (when he's stinky)
he enjoys it

Take the dogs to the puppy park. It's social for all of us.
I crank up the blues or rockabilly and clean house.
A hot bath with a good book.
Pick up my nieces and go shoot hoops.

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Originally Posted by Dude (Post 434605)

no metaphor

sometimes I suds him up with a little dawn (when he's stinky)
he enjoys it

Those ducks. God love 'em.

I pick up my granddaughter early from daycare and we play.
Sometimes if I'm in a funk I'll clean my house, organize, light candles, put some flowers about and make my space nice.
Often I sit outside in my meditation chair looking over the farm and concentrating on my connection to the universe.

Sometimes, I play Neil.

:praying:

:daywalker:

This time, I can't think of a blessed thing. :(

And I can't give blood again for a week.

Today I seem to be challenged to remember or find the umph to start any pick me up attempts.I'm going to go to bed, pick up my routine tomorrow and pray it brings a more heart calm day. I'm feeling wrung out.