No.

Thumpings are usually well deserved and I don't take them personally or get my feelings hurt.

I always go back and look.

I try to be good and not get thumped by moderators, I do well with self moderation, however I have been thumped by other members. It does not bother me enough to leave a site. For the most part I respect those who have thumped me for their knowledge, point of view and passion. I am of the opinion we can have varied points of views and still get along, respect each other and be in the same community.

What does bother me and makes me feel like leaving is the tone of some posts. I know this is how some speak or come across, tone will deter me.

I have left some threads and never returned and others I've gone back, reread and, most often, gathered more food for thought.

I completely, utterly agree. Thanks Semantics and Kimbo, for beating me to it... tone is a serious determent for me, especially if it's an angry, resentful, "better than thou", or an obvious strike to derail. If I were to get thumped by the mods... than that means maybe my tone was offensive to others and I need to take a step back? I don't mind being humble and taking my thumping, then minding my manners and thanking those that "thumped me good".

I've recently stayed out of more substantial discussions... for personal reasons only and high stress levels stemming from my previous job... not because of the fear of being moderated or thumped. I recall posting in this thread early on... mostly a ramble about tone of voice and how I should moderate my own online communications, with respect to others.


I got THUMPED from my DSL service last night... right in the middle of posting this response... hope it works now?

Another curiousity:

Do you ever stop "listening" in a thread?

Do you think that you "listen" (and I mean listen, not just read to understand but fully appreciate)?

A behaviour I've noticed is that when two people are presenting opposite views or slightly similar views but described differently, it's almost as if we don't listen to what another says (e.g., "I understand where you're coming from but for me, it was.."). I'm beginning to wonder if this is why we often feel like we're disrespected (whether based on what we say, how we say it or who were are). It creates, to me, a feeling of dismissiveness of others experience (as if the other person's life has no value or meaning).

Granted these are my view of things ... but what do others think?

Thumping is a slippery slope with me. Sometimes I can get too caught up in a thread. I get too emotional or stuck in a circle and I have to leave it. It is an avoidance technique for me.

I do get hurt sometimes. For the most part it does not bother me. The only subject I will not discuss now is religion because that got a little too hurtful and personal for me. That is just self-care on my part and in no way reflects on the discussion or how it was carried out.

As far as not listening? Yeah I totally do and see that. We all have our "schtick" if you will and I see the same phrases and arguments used over and over again. Since I can't truly see myself I would guess I do the same thing. Some people I am not able to "hear" anymore. I would think some people can't hear me either. It is the same in real time as well.

Thanks for the responses. I know that I personally, at times, have stopped listening in some threads but I've learned that when I do that, to try to step back and come back at another time once I've digested things a bit more.


The two of you that did respond (and those perhaps reading) I'm curious if you equate someone disagreeing with a post (let's say that they go through your post point-by-point and address each one individually rather than the post as a whole) as being against you as an individual? Do you ever feel slighted if people are continually on the other side of the fence than you (whatever that fence is)?

Linus,

I was really an ass to you once ( maybe twice? :watereyes:) when you were talking all computer techy to me.
I was frustrated and sooo lost in your terminology I got snippy ,rude and felt like you were talking down to me.
Anyway , you didnt deserve that and I am truly sorry

and thanks for the horse:cowboihorse:

I appreciate the apology but I'll have to admit that I don't remember (it's something to do with getting old and memory being the 2nd thing to go). And I tend to give people who are in dire tech situations more leeway because I know frustration tends to get the better of us.

Even me at times. Ask Medusa and she'll tell ya. :cheesy:

I read the following two articles:

http://www.pcworld.com/article/16373...ne_forums.html

http://www.pcworld.com/printable/art...printable.html

And some of it was dead on (particularly the comment about the various types of "idiots" on forums today). I'll admit to be a few of those idiots at one time or another. :P

Ha! A coworker actually just forwarded the "village idiot" one to me and I admit to having a chuckle over it :)

This is one of my personal faves:

http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/

It's a listing of "Flame Warriors". Internet personalities that I bet we can identify ;)

Just click the little drop-down box on the right and there is a huge list with some pretty amusing descriptions.

edited to add: It seems that author has employed a large amount of sexism to get his humor across so, just beware ahead of time.

LOL. "Thumping", in the BFPlanet world, means a mod has "thumped" you over the head for doing something bad.

Just wanted to bump this thread up:


For anyone who uses Facebook or any other website where you talk to people you don't know, I highly recommend watching the movie "Catfish".

It's a documentary that just came out and I think every single person on this site should have to watch it as a condition of membership :)