Dude, you are so very kind and generous with your time! I appreciate so much that you selflessly sacrificed your time to help someone that you don't even know.

(And yes, that's a very pretty one! Definitely one I'd consider!)

Even if hy doesn't like corsets, I'm quite sure that hy will appreciate that you have made an effort to please hym.

"research" :nerd:

seriously , how funny are we?

I have never seen anyone get a welcoming
committee , quite like this , that I can remember

@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.)

Dude!

I am in awe of your altruistic "research". It truly is wonderful that you would go above and beyond to help a newbie out like this!

*snort*

If you think a corset may be a little extreme/unsure about getting into it, you could always do a lacy lingerie set - I love frilly/lacy/see-through boy shorts and a bra with slight push up. Add some thigh highs, maybe go in a skirt/slacks and a nice fitting v-neck top.. Heels.. Nice surprise if she is undressing you, or simple enough to step out of and make an appearance in.

I'm sure the thought would count x 1,000,000. Sometimes I lounge around in boy shorts and a slightly big shirt that hangs off one shoulder, and it drives my butch crazy .. especially if I shaved my legs and smell yummy! (f)

I'm going to have to rally all of you to do an Extreme Makeover: Femme Who's Allowed Herself to Get Frumpy edition!

Seriously, you have no idea how much I need and would LOVE to have a bunch of femme's to go shopping with me and help me figure out what looks good on me, then return home to give me a femme-in-her-50's makeup lesson (I don't wear makeup everyday and can do a basic subtle application just fine but don't know how to do my makeup when I want impact without going overboard), then hang with the boys/butches to get their honest feedback. Anyone want to meet me at Torrent in Annapolis tomorrow afternoon to help me pick something out? ;)

I've only been in this community a few hours and already I feel that I've found My People. :)

I could help with the shopping part
and even say "girl, I don't think so" if something is not quite right
(sometimes the girlfriends might lie to be "nice", not me, one look at my face
says it all)
then we could do lunch :tea:
and go to the salon

make up.. subtle eyeliner and pretty lashes , light on the brows and the rest of it and you'll look smashing :beatnik:

I think it's great you are coming out of a funk.

She likes you already , just as you are , so remember that too.

what Dude said:

hi dance welcome to the planet as u can see by the responses u have received we r all very sexual woman . Sometimes availability may hinder sexy lingerie .In your better stores macys, Victoria Secret's ,Bloomingdales, hell even a store like Ranibow Fashions will sell very sexy seductive lingerie.. I find a camasole w/ garters works too ~ BUT now this is imprtant:Be confident~ the seduction prior to the bedroom is more imp. than what u have on.Wether u r wearing sexy lingerie under a sundress or a wrap silky robe, tease ur butch. The "dance" b4 u get in that bedroom will captivate , set the sceen.Don't loose ur lovers attention. While having dinner ,as u cross ur legs, open ur robe so that one leg shows ur gater., always having ur butchs ineterest. As u clean up the plates, kiss ur lover, lean into hym, keep teasing ~ slowly remove ur stockings, let hym appreciate ur movements.Use ur hands, and glide them around different parts of your body. Move to music..When hy approaches u ... be ready.ur eyes will let hym take u.. buy that sexy lingerie...and btw a camasole is very flattering to a womans figure regardless of size.and it can be worn w. or without the garters its a staple for a woman to have a few in her wardrobe. enjoy eachother :) confidence is always the most sexiest part of u ..when gently shown.~

I think it's fabulous the responses that Dance has received. It's really tough when you're in a relationship without sexual contact with your lover. It's tough on your confidence. Add to the soup being 40 or 50+ and constantly being bombarded with extremely slender young women as the image of sexiness :seeingstars: ... it's lovely knowing curves are appreciated.

I just love all the suggestions and hints coming from folks!

I will second what Nadeest said about making the effort. I think sometimes that just knowing someone has made an effort for you is a huge turn-on. Knowing that they care what you think. Putting forth the energy to do a little extra.

Confidence is super sexy. Even if you don't wear a corset or something lacy, own your space by squaring your shoulders and throwing your head back. Don't hunch over as if you are trying to keep them from seeing your body. Look her directly in the eye.
Smile.
Tell her with your eyes that you are the sexiest woman in the world and she better worship you properly.

However you do it, do it with confidence. You can never go wrong with that.

This line expecially made me smile... BIG!! :D

Also @ ocean and a general reminder to everyone else:

Why oh why is there an assumption that all butches use male pronouns ( or all the derivatives)?

Many do not!

Awww I would like to think it was an innocent mistake and has been brought to the attention of all... and will be duly noted, but omg please oh please let's stay on track with the OP and lingerie and corsets and other soft comfy frilly non-frilly sleepwear and tease/please attire!!

I'm a perv at heart... stay focused! ;)
:formalbow:

"@Nadeest- According to Dance, her butch uses female pronouns. (My pet peeve.) "

Oh! Now I know! Thank you for correcting me. :)

Hello Dance,
Have a beautiful sexy weekend with your butch treat.
After 8 years without sex.:poc-shocked: Im surprised that you didnt drive 100 miles:carride: to her each day butt naked wearing a lunchbox costume that opened up only to reveal your beautiful sexy size 16/18 self.
I just joined this site and seeing all of the responces of support :pile: to your questions was fantastic and makes me like this site more and more.
It also had me thinking about all of the ways that you could go about thanking your butch treat.
All I know is that Im going to be waiting patiently to read how it all went for you this weekend.