I like attention, so I can always tell if someone likes me. It works the other way too, I can always see if someone likes my partner, which can be hard.

I'm not always good. Once I spent a whole night with two old friends and completely missed the fact that they were now together. My gf at the time, who was usually rubbish at this sort of thing, was the one to point it out!

It's the way someone looks at you, this searching - looking for deeper meaning kind of look. Their body language changes, they move closer, become more attentive. They listen and remember things you say. Plus they contact you quite randomly. It can always go the other way as well, they can be very distant, even give you dirty looks when you are both out, but then you they always know where you are..

Um.. if I was into you I'd probably go dumb.. you know.. cos all the blood leaves my brain! That is why it's good to meet someone who genuinely makes you laugh.. giggling is a clue (and she's not laughing at you, unless you are making a joke about yourself and you meant her too!) I listen alot. I smile. Take deep breaths. Make eyes. I can't beleive you don't know these things ;-) you cheeky ones ;-)

Sometimes I think I confuse women 'cos if they reached out to touch my arm then I'd be all nervous but that's not the same as making a cold face and stepping backward, which would be "not into you". Reading between the lines it's a compliment I'm all tense! If you know what I'm saying! Sexual tension!

So be careful to know the difference between excited/nervous and not interested/hostile. How she shows her interest in you isn't always blatantly obvious.. so.. There are some videos on YouTube I've recently watched, although straight, kind of give you some solid clues. Named something like How to tell if a girl/boy is into you.

I hope that helps.
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If she's into you, she'll find a way to make it known.

I'm the shy type. But after I met B, my sweetie today. I took some initiative, found out her name, stalked her on facebook until we exchanged emails. Took her to dinner and plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home ;) (OK, maybe I didn't have to push her to hard to take me home -- I'm cute dammit.) But you get the picture? Even us shy ones, if we see what we want, we'll find a way to make sure you know it. :drool:

I wouldn't know if someone was into me unless she said something. :)

I just assume she's not. I'm almost always right. Bah, humbug.


--Slater, who might not be in the best frame of mind to be commenting in a thread of this nature

I love this, 'plied her with beer until she agreed to take me home' LoL so cute!

I totally agree though. If she's into you, you'll know it. If you don't know it, then she probably isn't.

I may be into you, but I may be too shy to say anything...then what?

If you text when me after I just left the room, I'd think you were into me :)

After everything I said I've realised that I am rubbish the other way round - meaning - at knowing if someone likes me!

I think I am a bit autistic in the world of dating!

I tend to rely on hearing the words.. literally.. but then I have been messed around and lied to so much (as everyone experiences thoughout life) that I tend to leave it all up to them now, and am sceptical.

So although I tend to attract shy girls too, things don't really get off the ground!!!

Have to work on this!

Any tips???
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Eight months later - I pursued someone else, fell in love, broken up.... and now, the girl that started it all is back in my life.

Only, now she has a girlfriend.

But she's a classy broad and I have morals, so nothing's going to happen between us.

But, at least I have validation from unbiased bystanders, that she's still into me O.o

I just read the entirety of this thread, and love you to death for posting it!!!

I had what may have been a successful date just before I left for a week long trip, and now I have no idea whether this chick is into me or not. Yikes!

I feel better knowing I'm not alone in this regard! :)

She buys your Axe bodywash... just to smell "you" all day ;)

So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?

I think ageism has hit the rockin house hold,or I dont have enough $$ or my disablity gets in the way or the only place to maybe meet someone is in gay bars that I dont hardly see anyone over 30.I gess the dateable women have either found someone or gone to high ground.I sometimes wonder if I just missed the boat somehow..BUT if some one was to become intresd in me dont stop trying to get thrue to my thick head cause over the years its gotten sorta dense.

Yes, unfortunately. Whatever the reason, she just doesn't sound that into you or she would be falling all over herself to squeak out five minutes here and there.

Why don't you try one of the lesbian dating sites? It is surprising how many women use them now and there are all different age categories.

As we age, we do not just run into them at nightclubs or the grocery store any more, we have to put ourselves out there.

I had a date with an ex-nun this past Saturday and another date with someone else this coming weekend (not an ex-nun this time).

I even heard from a woman that got out of federal prison-yeah me!! (No, no date there for me).

I figure I have nothing to lose and may meet "the one" one of these dates!
:bunchflowers:

yes sweetie you are...
don't hang around too long with this..
Move forward...

It usually involves something upside the back of my head.

:blink:

Sorry it's not working out the way you would like it to. I think you are right that she should be showing more interest. Have you tried to call her? Sometimes, life takes over. Try a call or another text. Express your interest of spending time with her and that you would like to again when she can and you look forward to hearing from her so you can make plans. Leave it like that with the ball in her court. You will know soon enough. I wouldn't keep texting however. That can lead to disappointment and frustration if no one is answering. Good luck!

I tryed that many years ago....some needed to b in a mental ward...the rest were so hard up to b with someone I thought I needed a guard dog..Good idea but bad results.

LOL...it is so true.


I can usually *feel* if someone is into me. When the actions match the words...thats how you know.

Now that this thread has popped back up on my radar, I feel compelled to add that ambulance girl and I did go on a second date, after which she asked to walk me to my car, then informed me that she had been seeing someone for a few months and she hoped i understood. Apparently I am really nice and smart and awesome, but she wanted to see where things went with this other girl. Whom she had been dating for three months.

I think it was questionable interest at best, so I still don't know how to tell if someone is ACTUALLY into me. :)

When it comes to online....I have no clue unless she sends me a pm or hits me with a hammer.
When it comes to real life.... Well I sometimes have a clue.

Trust me on this, if they come right out and tell you how beautiful, amazing, and awesome you are.........run like he11 :seeingstars:

This made me laugh. Although, I get that you are quite serious about what you are saying here.

I am partnered so I am not in the dating pool but when I have been single, I have noticed sometimes (not always) if they appear to not pay attention or communicate, then oh yes, they are interested. This may not add up but it is true sometimes.

It's ok, go ahead on and laugh..........:confused::confused: kidding! I'll be able to laugh again soon! I'll take the not interested/non-communicative under advisement :)

If someone said you were good looking lipsticklola why would you run like hell? I'd be flattered. For me I always know when someone is attracted to me, if I'm attracted to them. I have never been attracted to someone and wonder if they like me too. Maybe because I am very direct with my flirting, and I find out either way right off the bat. If it seems like I'm not noticing you flirting or I am not responding the way you hoped and you have to wonder if I'm interested, then I'm probably not .

Ditto...butch that is.

Ditto.....femme that is!

That was my last relationship exactly. I feel like rescuing the damsel in distress sometimes and I'm all for being supportive but I couldn't take the pity-wagon day in and day out. I'm not saying she has to be the most confident person in the world (I can help her develop her confidence) but a little goes a long way... you know?

ABSOLUTELY!!! Or if they ask why me, why do you love me so much? Or if they say, you don't want to date me, I'm to this or too that or I'm not this or that. Just say oh ok I didn't know that, my bad and run!!! Count your blessings every step you take in the opposite direction. =)

I'll be looking very forward to a more settled, boring existence :)

That or if someone tells you up front they're an asshole. Believe them. Yup yup...

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