I am definitely the most comfortable being the prey. I like to be pursued and I am good at letting the person know that I'm interested. I think it is just part of my nature because I like when the other person is more in charge, if that makes sense.

I tend to follow a sequence and it's somewhat like a dance:
First, I am the hunter (I seek her out and make overtures),
Second, I briefly become prey (She must respond with a corresponding, yet ever so feminine, pursuit of me),
And last, I become the hunter again (I charge in for the "kill").

Overall, I am the hunter - it feels natural to me.

If I'm really interested I'm most definitely the hunter however I also tend to be a 2x4 Ftm.. So if you're interested in me, unless you're really clear about it I will just think you're being friendly.

Been a hunter most of my life,but I do recall that one time in '85 where they put a collar around my neck,but even then it was I who found and persued them.I like to persue Femmes but i've notice i'm being hunted by a married woman lately..is it the season? or what??.I couldn't believe the words coming out of my mouth when I said Stop.And oh gawd she is soo hot.Thing is I see her once a week where she works and she lives very near...do you know how dangerous that could be.She is a huge flirt and the last time we met she touched me and when I told her to stop she gives me this fucking goes straight to my clit evil laugh.Damnit

Hmn. Hard. Dominant personality mixed with submissive sexuality. I like being pursued but will make it real clear if someone is pushing too hard. I prefer relaxed, easy going, genuine interest, rather than being chased. I like mild initiation and patience.
I react very poorly to being pushed.
But I'm pretty independent. I'm not a single tackle kind of gal. I won't initiate contact. I've learned not to. I've had so many bad experiences with initiating contact that it will take me months of interaction for me to initiate for a change. I've learned that if *I* initiate, people lose interest. They've succeeded. They have won. And they lose interest. So I have to trust the person isn't like that before I try.
I may be open and frank about who I am, what I think, but I'm emotionally reserved. So it does take patience. And it will take months, not weeks, to get me to emotionally respond in a deeper way.
I saw someone recently bitching that someone she was dating hadn't committed after three months and should she drop her and go for someone else who had expressed interest. The butch is my age. These are the reasons I don't commit quickly. People like that.

So it's not hunting me... It's hand feeding something feral till it trusts enough to stay longer and longer in your presence and I decide to stay. They loyalty payback is massive, but heaps of patience needed.

I could never be the hunter, ever. I dont have that type of confidence. And to be honest if someone was to choose to pursue me, not that I`m available but if I was, they would have to be prepared to play a very long and patient game. I woudnt want to be wooed and romanced, Hy would just have to be there, be around, let me observe, who Hy was, how Hy was and how Hy conducted hymself, then maybe I would allow myself to be pursued.

I myself, love people, I like to chat, interact, share and learn. Have a little fun. I think sometimes my friendliness can be misinterpreted as the wrong type of interest in a person. HHmm..thats something I need to be more aware of. :blink:

Daisy :bouquet:

It would be a great honor if I were persued by either one of you..just saying.

:D

I see myself as the Female Wolf, under the lamb costume disguised as Red Riding Hood. Ya, that about covers it.

LoL, no not the prey type, Have yet to meet Alpha Wolf under the baby goat costume disguised as Little Boy Blue..... maybe some day.

Hope springs eternal.:flyingpig:

Introverted prey and like the art of seduction.

I like to be the prey but I can flirt and drop signals.

definitively a prey ^^ but not an easy one

The Hunter albeit a shy one!

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I flirt a lot but I rarely pursue at first. If the woman lets me know she is interested then I do pursue (gently). Always a gentlewoman with the ladies and most appreciate that.

I have been the initiator in nearly every relationship I have had. I'm an introvert with a shy streak, but I always have to be the initiator.

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I am the hunter.

No suprise I am sure but I do appreciate a signal from a lady.


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Variable. After much consideration, that's the only sensible thing I can say without a long digression into why!

mostly I smile and dart glances and hope the other person starts a conversation... :hk16:

I feel like I tend to be the hunter. :cigar2:

Im both the hunter and prey... It just happens that way.

I'm the hunter, but I tend to hang back and observe for awhile before making a move!

My style is that of a medium sized cat. I hunt alone. My personal habits are rarely observed. I will lay on a cliff just watching your habits, waiting. You rarely see me.

I'm most comfortable being pursued. I'll flirt in a way that makes my interest known, but I could never make the first move. Yes, prey.

I'm still the "hunter"..so is my wife,that's how she got me.

Yep, I also got it bad for someone from this site. I'd say over a decade now,goes back to the original site.It's her mind I'm in love with and nothing else.

If she only knew the power she has over me. :bowdown:

Her posts are legendary..for me anyway.

Sad part is she lives far away..might as well be Venus.

When I saw this thread last night my first thought was...

Good grief... it's been a while!

My second thought was...

Well, I'm definitely not prey. My side thought was... Although ... some femmes are quite adept at letting the Butch think they're not prey. lol

I concluded, so then... I'm a hunter!

I thought back to a time when I hunted... and thought back ... and thought back ... and thought back ... and then I remembered a (now embarrassingly) cocky mantra from my youth ... I don't chase. lol SMH

I was standing in the middle of my kitchen ... with furrowed brow ... trying to recollect how I ever got girlfriend in light of these glaring contradictions... I'm a hunter and I don't chase ... and then... it hit me!

I'm a ... Venus Fly Trap!! :blush:

I quite literally laughed out loud when that name and image popped into my head last night. I know... I admit... it may not seem as sexy as hunter or prey but ... more importantly... I've never gone hungry. ;)

This thread has proven to be a most interesting trip down memory lane and self-reflection. Thank you!


p.s. I want y'all to know I resisted the urge to replace Venus Fly Trap with something else that lures and is a lot more Butch!! Let's all pretend I said the very butch... Alligator Snapping Turtle! :p

you find Me in My wranglers and cowboy boots and usually a polo shirt or button down and My ball cap

This has changed radically for me over twenty years. Twenty years ago I was definitely prey.

Last fall I stalked someone at a leather weekend (in order to determine what I might use to start a conversation, nothing more) and eventually wound up offering to buy her a cup of coffee. Success with the coffee and almost success with more but alas it was not to be.

There are still times when I need a clear signal that more might be welcome. So I put a lil bait out there and if it's snapped up, it's on.

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I will let a butch know I'm interested in hym ~ a look , smile , get hys attention ~ then I'm prey ~

When I have dated in the past, I like to pursue. I also date “soft butches” or more feminine dykes (not necessarily femmes) so I guess it works out.

It depends on the personality of the person I want to hook-up with. Can vary between butch and andro Top (rare) to serious butch submissive and masochist (frequent) or sammie or even the rare brat personae.

Got to be able to read the person or people in order to make my split second decision where to go. That keeps the excitement up even in my relationship.

I don't know if it's because I'm femme, but I always end up making the first move. I would like to be pursued once, lol.

I like the femme to make the first gesture, then I'll make a move.
See, I'm one of those smiling, friendly people, and in a lesbian setting my natural friendliness is sometimes read as flirtation, when it's not.
Sometimes I give my closest friends nice 'just because' gifts or pay for dinner, and some of them have thought I was trying to get in their pants.
What does one say to an old, platonic friend who thinks that, when their pants are of zero interest to me?
If I've known them 20+ years I'd usually say, "You wish."
They reply, "No, YOU wish."
"Yeah? You wish I wished."
"You're too wishy washy to wish!"
"You need a trailer for that ego!"
"You need one for your self help books.."
"F*uck that!"
"No, f*ck you , you f*cking f*ck."
"No, thanks."
etc.

After a few dozen rounds of that..we get bored and go back to normal.
But if I get that kind of static from someone I'm not making moves on, I'm sometimes kind of scared to make an actual first move and get the same reaction. Make sense?

I find that lots of femmes tend to be comfortable making moves, and I think it's great. The best lovers I've ever had always made the most memorable first moves.:rrose::rrose:

I always flirt, let them take me from there ~ enough said. lol

Depends on the person... In general though I think I make the first move to show interest and then go from there. Same way back in high school, with the addition of hand-written notes, drawings, and poetry (To all my ex's: I'm so, so sorry for all that poetry... :| I mean, it worked..but still.. #angstybabyfemmedyke )

Depends. Sometimes I'm the bug and sometimes I'm the windshield. :|

I'm prey.

*runs off nervously giggling :byebye:

I prefer to think of it as a dance, rather than predator vs. prey. I wouldn't want to do the preying or be preyed upon lol. I'd rather be swept off my feet. :bellydancer: