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Nadeest 12-23-2011 07:17 PM

I'll pass on the Kindle and such things. I want and need a solid book in my hands to enjoy. Besides, you need a power source for those type things, even if it is only a battery. I prefer to simply turn the page.
I left most of my library in Michigan when I moved to Texas, out of necessity. That was two years ago. Now I have four bookcases, and need another one desperately. I tend to read fiction books, however, rather then nonfiction ones.

pinkgeek 12-23-2011 07:49 PM

How much am I the girl who reads??
 
I just paid an ungodly amount of money to ship a box of math notes, bioethics papers and books to Hawaii. I ran out of suitcase room!

Kätzchen 12-23-2011 11:11 PM

Well, I'm not any early adopter by any means so I do not think I will be adopting the latest technology for reading (kindle). Call me a snob if you must, but someone has to hold the line with traditional means of publication (publishers of literary materials in hard back form).

I won't bore any of you to tears tonight, but:

My past seven years of formal academic training led me to devour at least 8K pages a year or more by reading scholarly literature from journals of every kind from every discipline you could image. That was fun for me because of my background in knowing whether a study was credible or jacked up.

Other than that: I favor non-fictional accounts of any flavor.

I also love a good romantic novel or two and porn (as needed).

Ginger 03-11-2012 03:59 PM

Well spoken, written words!
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by pinkgeek (Post 486852)
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

– Rosemarie Urquico –
Original blog post here: http://nonamerah.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/869/

Brava! A joy to read.

Jess 10-09-2013 12:56 AM

I love a girl who reads......




:sunglass:

Jess 10-09-2013 01:07 AM

and a different nod to women, reading and education... if you haven't seen this documentary yet, please do. Please bring it to your town. Please talk about it and influence others to see it... and talk about it...


http://girlrising.com/


http://dnk76v3gh4zam.cloudfront.net/...l_AboutGR2.jpg

Gemme 10-09-2013 04:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jess (Post 852614)
I love a girl who reads......




:sunglass:

I don't think she was alone at that table.

:innocent:

~baby~doll~ 10-09-2013 08:29 AM

Such a wonderful post. i loved it and smiled and giggled as i read. Thanks for sharing.

i liked to read in my youth but only developed my true love after picking up a book in the late 60's. The cover was tattered and the pages folded over. i was attracted to the title at first. When i began reading i became immersed in Laura and Beebo Brinker the lead character in Ann Bannon's series. This book is called I Am a Woman. (i still have the copy) i fell in love with books as i read this over night. i sought out the rest of Ann's books over the next several weeks and found many others i still love on the way.

Scots_On_The_Rocks 10-09-2013 09:33 AM

Pinkgeek, the article you cited....ahh *sigh* indeed that it the learned reader to a tee...not just the girl who reads...but the gentleman who reads as well. You know the guy, tattered but well loved paperback shoved in the pocket of his coat.

Yup, I am that guy...who loves a book reading girl.
Nothing is better than comparing opinions of the same book over coffee. Or giving each other recommendations.

Ahh bliss that is.

GeeGina 10-09-2013 10:35 AM

Bravo!!
 
Show me someone who reads...and I will see someone who thinks. It's really just that simple for me. While we all have our certain types, kinks, fetishes, weaknesses, and turn on's...is there anything sexier than a sharp mind?

I'm notorious for snooping around to see what books are on the shelves or magazines lie the tables at the homes of my dates. I remember one who stashed a few copies of Playboy in the bathroom. I asked about it and they said "Well, for the articles, of course!!".

macele 10-09-2013 11:31 AM

i don't know how i missed this. i ought to be ashamed.

love it! thank you for posting, pinkgeek. (f)

Bard 10-09-2013 12:20 PM

I have a deep love or reading always have I could read before I went to kindergarten and that in a way got me expelled. We have many many books here at home and about 6 bookcases of various sizes one we made ourselves. We also both have a kindle and we love them the rate we read well we would be overtaken with books or be broke I find that some of the book deals on the Kindle get me to try a author I might not.. Also I have passed my love of reading to my daughter and she is now reading the Hunger Games.. in the 4th grade ... it in not unusual in our house to have all 3 of us immersed in a book

LexiLove 10-16-2013 11:43 AM

I am a reader, tea drinker (english style), and I love dogs. :)

I know everyone isn't talking about that anymore but I had to add my bit in.

homoe 01-03-2018 10:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kätzchen (Post 491287)
Well, I'm not any early adopter by any means so I do not think I will be adopting the latest technology for reading (kindle). Call me a snob if you must, but someone has to hold the line with traditional means of publication (publishers of literary materials in hard back form).

I won't bore any of you to tears tonight, but:

My past seven years of formal academic training led me to devour at least 8K pages a year or more by reading scholarly literature from journals of every kind from every discipline you could image. That was fun for me because of my background in knowing whether a study was credible or jacked up.

Other than that: I favor non-fictional accounts of any flavor.

I also love a good romantic novel or two and porn (as needed).

I knew before I even purchased an electronic reader I wouldn't like it! Funny how we sometimes cave in to modern technology!

homoe 01-03-2018 10:49 AM

When I'm getting to know someone, talking about books they've read and enjoyed sheds a bit of insight to them.

I prefer talking books rather than about latest fashion colors, trends, etc so I'm always on the lookout for a book lover :hangloose:

kittygrrl 01-03-2018 11:54 AM

i read extensively but i don't think that makes me an exceptional girl..when i am interested in someone i listen to what he talks about..what are his opinions on politics, social justice? Does he show interest and love for his mother? Is he concerned with my opinions? Good table manners? A sense of humor? Does he have a variety of interests or hobbies? These don't have to be amazing or exciting. Just have something you do besides being on the net. Is he embedded in his facebook page? Is he a gamer? Does he look at his phone when he is with you or is it turned off. There are many nuances to the first few times you meet someone. While being well read may make for some interesting conversation. It will never charm me into liking you more then you deserve.

BullDog 01-03-2018 01:44 PM

I read hardcover, paperback, on my Kindle and on the Kindle app on my phone. I also sometimes read books in the browser on my laptop. It's the book that matters to me, not the form. The last few days have been frigid here so I have been hiding under the covers a lot reading from my Kindle library on my phone. Hooray for technology. It's also a hell of a lot easier when you move if a lot of your books are electronic!

Greco 01-03-2018 02:04 PM

libros
 
still true...dig a femme who reads and loves books...with glasses
because I love to read...and love books...you get me...



Quote:

Originally Posted by Greco (Post 487292)
I absolutely dig this! Yes, this is my type of woman for sure...why? Because I love to read, and love books that's why. Thanks for posting it pinkgeek.

Looked at Murakumi's new book today, the first paragraph alright I'll be reading all 900-something pages of it...slowly.

Greco

Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkgeek View Post
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

– Rosemarie Urquico –
Original blog post here: http://nonamerah.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/869/
__________________

Greco

ardentfemme 01-03-2018 02:26 PM

I think reading is crucial because it helps develop empathy. I've consistently noticed throughout my life that readers are more adept at understanding and appreciating others' feelings because they are used to taking a walk in the shoes of their favorite characters.

What is everyone reading right now?

I'm reading Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg and bawling my eyes out.

Esme nha Maire 01-03-2018 04:25 PM

I love books, but can't get on with the electronic readers I've seen so far. I just do not like the user interfaces. Physical books work better for me - though I do see the utility of ebooks in space-saving. I only do any research online because unfortunately it's nigh on unavoidable these days.

I do wish I had a better memory, and could better remember the details of books I've read though. The plus side is that if it's a very long time between reading a book and re-reading it, quite often I'll notice things that I didn't first time around, which can be fun, interesting, and occasionally surprising (can't remember which book it was now, but I do know that I got a quite different story from one book on re-reading it than I did the first time I read it!).

I'm currently reading "Crash into you" by Diana Morland - a roller derby lesbian romance. So far, so good! Generally I like reading about the sciences, science fiction, historical fiction and comedy. I don't think my love of books necessarily makes me more interesting, it's just a side effect of my curiosity, geek streak, and having had large amounts of time to kill at times

Characters and situations in books do live for me - I get lost in them - I can see the worlds of "Known Space" by Larry Niven so clearly, and Darkover by MZB, and Napoleonic times in a history I just re-read as if there. But I'm not terribly knowledgable about literature - it informs me, entertains me, occasionally sparks new ideas, that's about it for me, I'm not terribly scholarly about 'em. :-}

Oh, and that 'Hysterical Literature' link earlier - I think Gemme was right, that young lady may not have been alone in the room! 8-} (chuckle)

girl_dee 01-03-2018 06:41 PM

i’m a reader! :reader:

indigo 01-04-2018 01:28 PM

I read both fiction and non-fiction, the latter mainly related to politics and history. Not one day passes without me reading something. So, where are the dates ? :confused:

PlatinumPearl 01-04-2018 02:18 PM

I read and read daily. I'm the girl that always has a book in her purse, even in my evening purse.

I have and will read anywhere that is appropriate. I have known to be reading a book while waiting at the grocery store checkout line, Doctor's office, and even while waiting in elegant restaurants. I don't mind waiting but I do mind waiting for time to pass, so a book makes that wait more bearable. I shut off my phone most times when entering a public space and only turn it on when absolute need be as it's more respectful to the establishment and patrons.

I love bookstores and can spend hours in one. Oddly enough I have not had a date at a bookstore yet. I love the gift of books but don't get me wrong a piece of jewelry is the way to my heart as it holds sentiment!! The perfect gift for me would be books + jewelry/accessories. I may be a reader but I do like nice things as well and have no problem investing in things such as fashion and accessories.

Date a girl that not only reads but looks good, takes care of herself (not for vanity but for health), and is knowledgeable in at least one area that shows knowledge books provide. While looks fade and change intelligence remains and in my opinion intelligence is sexy!! :stillheart:

EnchantedNightDweller 01-04-2018 03:06 PM

Ever since I was a young girl, I have loved reference books. One of my parent's friends had a set of encyclopedias and I can remember reading them for hours. Here's my current read, a gem I found at Half Price Books:

https://pictures.abebooks.com/isbn/9...260-us-300.jpg

homoe 01-08-2018 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EnchantedNightDweller (Post 1190828)
Ever since I was a young girl, I have loved reference books. One of my parent's friends had a set of encyclopedias and I can remember reading them for hours. Here's my current read, a gem I found at Half Price Books:

https://pictures.abebooks.com/isbn/9...260-us-300.jpg

Encyclopedias yes one could spend hours pouring over those indeed.......

homoe 01-08-2018 07:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by betenoire (Post 487247)

I think this should still hold true..............

cathexis 01-08-2018 10:14 PM

Date a womon who not only has a huge library, but has read the books included therein. Also one who can discuss the political theory, history, philosophy, and science concepts of the day or of historical significance.

One capable of initiating and maintaining an argument of theory with knowledge and exuberance with unswaying conviction.

Greco 07-11-2018 05:58 PM

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Greco

Quote:

Originally Posted by pinkgeek (Post 486852)
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

– Rosemarie Urquico –
Original blog post here: http://nonamerah.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/869/


homoe 07-11-2018 06:10 PM

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I either send my books along to others, sell them back, or donate them to women's shelters! Is this WHY I haven't been getting any "action"?:blink:

Vincent 01-01-2019 05:22 PM

I must say that a persons bookshelf is a good way to see if we will click or not.
I love books,I couldnt read properly until I was 36,I met a girl,who was middle class and taught me to read.
Like I could read to get by,but not books,she gave me a dictionary.
I started with easy books,and eventually got into the classics,Dickens,Steinbeck.
Unfortunatly,since the trauma that triggured mt Complex PTSD,I find I dont have the concentration,my therapist said it is the last symptom to go.

what a gift she gave me

But I also would need someone who loves music and I guess the same sort of music.

homoe 01-01-2019 08:37 PM

https://i.pinimg.com/236x/40/b4/08/4...an-reading.jpg

homoe 01-01-2019 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pinkgeek (Post 491192)
I just paid an ungodly amount of money to ship a box of math notes, bioethics papers and books to Hawaii. I ran out of suitcase room!

Don't forget when shipping books, always request "media" rates...:gotmail:

RockOn 01-02-2019 04:23 AM

Recently I met a sniper. NOT A FRIEND, MIND YOU! It was just in passing. When he mentioned he had worked the Arizona and U.S. border, I was horrified because standing before me was a man who hunted and killed human beings. My first reaction was a need to spit in his face. That was my clue I needed to keep my mouth shut and move on because I realized things would rapidly deteriorate and nothing good could could possibly come from my comments.

Normally, I like to read DIY gadget type books or psycho thrillers.

Now I want to read this book, "The Line Becomes A River - Dispatches From the Border" by Francisco Cantú. I know for a fact beforehand this book will disturb me a great deal. I want a paperback copy. There was only one left yesterday at my local Books-A-Million. It was a hard back. I may wait until February when the 2nd edition comes out but will definitely read this book. It is unimaginable to me that someone could lack so much conscience to do this type of work. I know snipers are necessary in certain one hit situations (example: like SEALS doing a rescue on a person somewhere abroad) but to go in to work day after day shooting people who are attempting to walk across a border ... No Fucking Way!!!

Gemme 01-02-2019 05:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RockOn (Post 1237053)
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Now I want to read this book, "The Line Becomes A River - Dispatches From the Border" by Francisco Cantú. I know for a fact beforehand this book will disturb me a great deal. I want a paperback copy. There was only one left yesterday at my local Books-A-Million. It was a hard back. I may wait until February when the 2nd edition comes out but will definitely read this book. It is unimaginable to me that someone could lack so much conscience to do this type of work. I know snipers are necessary in certain one hit situations (example: like SEALS doing a rescue on a person somewhere abroad) but to go in to work day after day shooting people who are attempting to walk across a border ... No Fucking Way!!!


If you'd prefer a paperback and the store only has hardbacks, you have a couple of options. You could get it online at amazon or you could go into B-a-M and have them order you the paperback version. They would call you when it came in. It's a super easy process and doesn't cost you anything upfront.

cathexis 01-02-2019 07:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RockOn (Post 1237053)
Recently I met a sniper. NOT A FRIEND, MIND YOU! It was just in passing. When he mentioned he had worked the Arizona and U.S. border, I was horrified because standing before me was a man who hunted and killed human beings. My first reaction was a need to spit in his face. That was my clue I needed to keep my mouth shut and move on because I realized things would rapidly deteriorate and nothing good could could possibly come from my comments.

Normally, I like to read DIY gadget type books or psycho thrillers.

Now I want to read this book, "The Line Becomes A River - Dispatches From the Border" by Francisco Cantú. I know for a fact beforehand this book will disturb me a great deal. I want a paperback copy. There was only one left yesterday at my local Books-A-Million. It was a hard back. I may wait until February when the 2nd edition comes out but will definitely read this book. It is unimaginable to me that someone could lack so much conscience to do this type of work. I know snipers are necessary in certain one hit situations (example: like SEALS doing a rescue on a person somewhere abroad) but to go in to work day after day shooting people who are attempting to walk across a border ... No Fucking Way!!!

This sounds like the kind of book I'd read. Military History and true books about clandestine operations are my passion. Also, Science, especially Geology and Physical Oceanography...rogue waves, earthquakes, and all sorts of seismic events, make my blood hot. A bit of Geography to kind of round things out.

Add Political Theory (Marxism, Anarchism, and others, even Fascism and Authoritarianism,).

Guess those mark me as weird, but who didn't know that already?

homoe 01-02-2019 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by homoe (Post 1237047)
Don't forget when shipping books, always request "media" rates...:gotmail:

Also I have no clue why but you can use media class to mail any pages of medical records!

homoe 01-02-2019 11:29 PM

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homoe 01-09-2019 12:27 PM

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Who doesn't enjoy a little danger now and then....:hangloose:

Bèsame* 01-09-2019 01:33 PM

I was caught in the library last month. I was doing a little research and found my answer in a huge world atlas book. I eventually, traced what I wanted and then stitched up and framed my project.

I then got a library card. ( I haven't had one in years!) Found a little something I wanted to read. Well, actually, didn't find it, but put my name on a waiting list. I'm happy number 127.

I guess, I'm datable, I have a card now...lol

Psst...you should date a girl who can thread a needle too!

Bèsame* 03-01-2019 09:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bèsame* (Post 1237729)
I was caught in the library last month. I was doing a little research and found my answer in a huge world atlas book. I eventually, traced what I wanted and then stitched up and framed my project.

I then got a library card. ( I haven't had one in years!) Found a little something I wanted to read. Well, actually, didn't find it, but put my name on a waiting list. I'm happy number 127.

I guess, I'm datable, I have a card now...lol

Psst...you should date a girl who can thread a needle too!

Well, I got my email notice of this book. Wait list #127. I really don't think I waited that long. I am the happy renter of a brand new book!

Makes it all that more exciting to turn fresh pages!

I'm getting more date able, I'm on two other lists!


Someone has noticed, I am dating. I can read, thread a needle and cook!



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