What not to do in a relationship:

This really holds true with any relationship... don't lie... really there is no point. The truth always comes out in the end at least that is what I believe.

Don't tell someone you love them if you don't mean it.

Don't forget that you are in the relationship for a reason, if you forget why, take a step back, analyze and see if it's right for you. Sometimes we forget what brought us to that person in the first place because we get too busy with everything else.

Don't forget to breath. It's important.

Don't forget to tell the one you love how you feel. Don't let that become habit. Make it mean something when you say it.

Don't settle for just anyone... life is too damn short!

Don't take each other for granted

Don't be a douche. It's pretty basic.

more don'ts
 

When you see a bill in your name for a magazine, don't assume the woman who loves you is "using your name to get stuff".... Because it may just mean that you got to the mail before she did.... and now your gift is spoiled by your ugly remark.

Jumping to conclusions is like jumping off a cliff, it's not gonna end pretty.

Refrain from saying 'all my exes.........' if you feel hurt, get some help. Assuming your current love is 'just like' your exes does both of you an injustice. It sets the stage for animosity.

For the love of God, please don't be clingy or needy. I get that you have needs. We all have needs. Express them as an adult, sans whingeing.

Dont assume that everyone has the same do's and don't as you do.

What one assume to be a rule breaker another might see as adorable.

OMGosh I am never going to be someone to give relationship advice on what to do however sadly *lol* in my experience, I am quite able to give advice on what NOT to do...

• Don't assume. Ever.
• Don't withdraw... you are a couple, that means two.
• Don't mistrust without a reason.
• Don't bring that third person [exes] into your bed. Ever.
• Don't let small problems become monsters. They will if you don't address them. You can't wish problems away & monsters will eat you.
• Don't let ego come before your heart.
• Don't forget the tiny things... they mean everything.

finally!!!! My kind of thread!!!

Don't ever underestimate me and I mean that in the non harmful way :)

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This post was reported for being problematic.

Here's the thing, this is supposed to be woman-positive space and I'd like to think we can do a little deeper digging around language that has been used in ways that don't honor women.

I know that "douche bag" is popular vernacular right now but how about a word like "asshat" or "dumbass"? Those words don't hold the same kind of negativity in women's space that calling someone a "douche", a "twat", a "bitch", a "cunt", a "whore", a "slut", a "tampon", and "insert other words that are not woman positive unless consented to" tend to hold.

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Before...
 

You are even in a relationship and find out what NOT to do...

Are you *available* to put the time into having and nurturing one?

Will it be or become one of your *priorities* to be in one?

LDR are not easy. Think long and hard if you are capable of *sustaining* one BEFORE you start having feelings for that awesome femme or butch. <that look out the window together on the phone in the morning and one has 6 feet of snow and the other is watching seagulls flying around and its 75 degrees outside at 8am and 11am for the other.> It took 3 hours to shovel and clean the car off:sunglass: This is where the "I wish you were here" begins. For the record I am not against LDR I have seen plenty work out wonderfully.

And the last one...
ARE YOU TRULY AVAILABLE mentally,emotionally, physically and spiritually TO EVEN BE IN A RELATIONSHIP???
What does *single* mean to you?
The time spent reflecting after your relationship has ended is when you *truly* learn what not to do in your next relationship. It hurts but its a gift:goodluck:

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Don't ignore the other persons needs.

Don't lose track of how much time you spend on online (e.g. connect with facebook friends, play games, groups etc)
Establish a healthy dose of time and stick to it