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Discrimination laws....................& the future...
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My girl hasn't felt good today, serious BOO to that! One of my employees is having a really hard time right now, seeing this big burly guy cry breaks my heart. I'm having a GREAT season, my crew totally ROCKS. July is almost OVER, wheeeeee! Life is GOOD! So much to look forward to. Seeing DEAR friends and a silly brown dog in a couple days, can't wait! Damn I'm tired,lol.
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WTF why am I wide awake....
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Labor day weekend....all weekend long
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This article.
"It is amazing how many uncomfortable situations people get into and stay in because they are unwilling or afraid to admit that they've changed their minds." ~ Brian Tracy Sometimes the hardest thing to do, and the thing that can make a huge difference in your life, is to say "I changed my mind."
Do you know one of the main reasons people lose money in the stock market? They don't have an exit strategy. They don't know when to cut their losses and get out of a bad investment. They think that if they just hang in there, the stock will rebound and they'll make their money back. It seems to go against our nature to face up to a loss or a situation that is going badly and to make a change. Sometimes, one of the best things you can say is "I changed my mind." We stay in circumstances that are uncomfortable, unprofitable, unfulfulling, sometimes even dangerous, rather than taking the steps to make a change and improve the situation. We find it too hard to say "I changed my mind." What is keeping you from changing? Is there an area of your life where a change could do you good? Are you in a dead end job? Are you facing an empty nest or contemplating retirement and unsure of how to move on to the next phase of your life? Do you have a relationship on life support that desperately needs to be revived? Do you want to start doing or stop doing something? To get in or get out? There are all sorts of ways we keep from changing. Some are external constraints, some are internal. If I were to make a guess, I'd say at least 80% are internal. Which is really good news, because you have complete control over the internal barriers. Let's take a look at some reasons we don't change and what we can do about them. The comfort zone. The first barrier to change is our old friend, the Comfort Zone. The force of Habit is a powerful force to keep us in the status quo. Or as the old saying goes, "The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know." Often it is easier to put up with the situation than it is to change . . . or so it seems. But little by little, small things add up until suddenly you are faced with CHANGE in capital letters, forced on you by an emergency situation that could have been avoided. To replace a bad habit with a good one, take advantage of the comfort zone. Find ways to make it harder to do the old familiar activity and easier to do the new one you want to habitualize. Put the candy or the cupcakes in a plastic bag inside a covered container in the back corner of the top shelf in the cabinet. Put the fresh veggies or other healthy snacks at the front of the refrigerator where they are easy to grab. Bring home fruit instead of chips or cookies. Put the TV remote in a drawer in another room where you have to get up and walk to get it. Keep the book you want to read next to the sofa, where the remote used to be. If you want to quit smoking, clean all the ashtrays and put them in a bag in the back of a closet and throw away all your cigarettes. If you want to exercise first thing in the morning, sleep in your (clean) gym clothes. You get the idea. "Things will get better." This is a lie the Comfort Zone frequently whispers in our ear. Truthfully, sometimes things do get better. But if they aren't better by tomorrow, or at least by next week, seriously consider if you really believe things will get better on their own. This thought that things could be better can actually be your first step towards making a change for the better. At least you've acknowledged to yourself the fact that things ain't all that great. Now, visualize what could make things better. Get in a quiet, comfortable space and really see in your mind's eye the way you want the situation to be. (By "see", I may mean "hear" or "feel" or "think about" -- however visualization works for you.) Do this for about 5 minutes, at least once a day. Again, make it easy to do until it becomes a habit. "Change is too hard." Indeed, we usually perceive change as difficult -- that's what the Comfort Zone is all about. And because our perception is our reality, change becomes hard for us. However, if you change the perception, you change the reality. One way to do this is to dispute this negative belief. Here are 4 questions you can use to dispute negative thinking: What is the Evidence for the belief? What are Alternatives to the belief? What are the Implications of the belief? How Useful is the belief? Ask and answer these questions about your belief that change is too hard. Keep telling the truth and see if your perception that the change is too hard changes. "My wife / husband / family / friends / boss / employees / co-workers, etc. etc. might not like me if I change." With this statement, you are basing current behavior on a future outcome that may or may not be true. The fact is that some people may prefer the "old you", especially if the change makes you more independent, or gets you out from under their control. But consider that for a moment. If this is the primary reason for their interest in you, what kind of relationship is that? If the other person is mainly interested in what they can get from you - be that money, time, or love - then this is a one-sided relationship and it would behoove you to consider the effects of continuing this relationship as it is. The people who have your best interest at heart will become your cheerleaders as you take steps to change. "A change may make things worse." That may be true. But it may not be true. You can't say with 100% certainty, either way. A change may make things better. That may be true, but it may not be. You can't say with 100% certainty, either way. But . . . which statement serves you better? Usually, it's that "a change may make things better". Now, since you can't say with 100% certainty that either statement is true or not true, why not pick the one that best serves you? "I don't know what to do." Well, you now know 5 things to help you get started on your road to change. ======================================== “Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.” ~ Keri Russell ======================================== Copyright 2011, Steven Huskey, Excelerator Coaching Services. |
I feel like I've been kicked.
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Just thinking how its amazing when a person changes and not necessarily for the better ~ yet when push comes to shove and they know exactly what they are doing, well, that just baffles Me even more :blink:
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Yikes.
I gushed about my great job yesterday and then ended up working until 5am this morning. :| We had 2 server crashes and my brain is completely fried from the deep level research. :seeingstars: Twenty hour shift? NOT. SO. MUCH. |
money......... im broke and have bills to pay, food to buy for my lil dog and no money
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Hmmmm...
...what does one wear for a totally 80's themed party?
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Who ya gonna call?
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Leaving tomorrow for a two night camping trip. Just me and my tent in the woods. Much painting, meditating, and thinking will be done. This is so needed, and long past due. I am more then excited.
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THIS is on my mind...
I saw this and figured it would be something interesting to read. Then I read it. Then I read that they view domesticated animals (pets) to be outside of nature, therefore one of their goals is to "kill off" as many of these unnatural animals as possible. I'm reading more things now, trying to see what is truth and what is not. Wow...just...wow. If these things are correct, then I need to do more research on the organizations I donate money to. :(
In 2000, when the Associated Press first noted PETA's Kervorkian-esque tendencies, PETA president Ingrid Newkirk complained that "actually taking care of animals costs more than killing them". "PETA claims it engages in outrageous media-seeking stunts "for the animals." But which animals? Carping about the value of future two-piece dinners while administering lethal injections to puppies and kittens isn't ethical. It's hypocritical -- with a death toll that PETA would protest if it weren't their own doing." Pets Killed By PETA Year......Received......Trans-ferred......Adopted.............Killed 2010......2,345...............63...............44 = 1.86%........2,200 = 93.8% 2009......2,366...............31.................8 = 0.34%........2,301 = 97.3% 2008......2,216...............34.................7 = 0.32%........2,124 = 95.8% 2007......1,997...............35...............17 = 0.85%........1,815 = 90.9% 2006......3,061...............46...............12 = 0.39%........2,981 = 97.4% 2005......2,165...............69.............146 = 6.74%........1,946 = 89.9% 2004......2,655................1..............361 =13.60%.......2,278 = 85.8% 2003......2,224................1..............312 =14.03%.......1,911 = 85.9% 2002......2,680................2..............382 =14.25%.......2,298 = 85.7% 2001......2,685..............14..............703 =26.18%.......1,944 = 72.4% 2000......2,681..............28..............624 =23.27%.......2,029 = 75.7% 1999......1,805..............91..............386 =21.39%.......1,328 = 73.6% 1998........943.............125..............133 =14.10%..........685 = 72.6% Total...29,823..............540...........3,135 =10.56%......25,840 = 85.9% http://graphjam.files.wordpress.com/...ta-u-scary.gif |
Moments that turn to thought processes that turn into wonderings that turn into future endeavors/dreams.. ..
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Our son, Garrett(19), married *J* just over 2 months ago, in Michigan, because she claimed she was pregnant. He did/does care about her, but stated he did not want kids nor would he have gotten married. He was trying to do the right thing he claimed.
Once married they relocated here with us. this was for Garrett to get a good job, save, and get a place of their own. Since they've moved here this girl has been nothing but an emotional roller coaster. She supposedly is bipolar or BPD. Totally disruptive. Regardless of the amount of assistance and resources you give her she fails to do anything with them unless you call her out. Then she will temporarily appear to be getting her poop in a group, usually long enough for you to be distracted/forget, and then the cycle repeats. we have had so many conversations, family meetings, etc. it goes nowhere, but in a circle. Lies, blame, snarky, temper tantrums, truly seems like she is 5. Garrett knows she had lied on more than one occasion about circumstances, but the pregnancy and emotional side put it over the top. He called MI and they stated he would have to discuss with an attorney to even find out if he qualified for an annulment or if he would have to get an attorney for a divorce. He wants to send her back to Michigan relatively soon. Soon isn't fast enough for me. |
I just don't get people sometimes, I really don't :seeingstars:
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