Don't include your partner in major purchases to show a sign of togetherness, like buying a house, unless they are creditworthy and your relationship is solid. :blink:

Don't be anybody's secret side thing. Don't let your fellow brothers and sisters get played. Be fair. Don't make them do anything you would'nt want done to you. We should be looking out for each other in such a nasty world. Don't ever let cheating be an option. Make sure you've moved on first from your lasr relationship, before you even think about starting to date. If they cheat, they're done. Absolutely no exceptions.

Eric Clapton once said, "I wish I could love my wife as unconditionally as I love my children."

That quote amazed me.

Don't love with conditions.

... disappear.....

Don't just say you are sorry, explain WHY you are sorry.

Just saying you are sorry does not explain your understanding of what went wrong. Be clear Why you are sorry.

"I'm sorry" just does not do it.

Folks-

I am making the executive decision to close this thread while I review it and create some guidelines about what can and cannot be posted here.

This thread has been a headache since the beginning for the Mod team because we have way too many people on this site who have dated other members here who want to talk about what did not work for them in the relationship in ways that are and have been problematic.

Look, I want adults to be able to talk about relationships and what we can do better. I actually find it helpful knowing that some of my own triggers are shared by other members here. What I don't want is for folks who break up on this site to use this thread to swipe at one another or make each other feel shitty. And let's face, there are some folks here who have crappy boundaries.

I'm not calling out anyone specific here because this isn't about one person, this is about the need to make sure this thread is used in ways that can help better us as individuals and as a community and NOT used in ways that are unhealthy or negative.

In the meantime, please do not start another thread with this same theme.

My Dad is having surgery tomorrow and I will be out of the loop with him for several days. Please allow me those days to be with him and I will come back with some guidelines for using this thread.

Appreciate those of you contributing and let's please all work together to keep this community a healthy and positive one!

Thanks,
Angie