I was just thinking about you both and wondering how things were going. Didn't want to bring it up though if you were trying to not think about it as much as is possible when going through something like this. Anyhow I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you and my prayers are for his safe and happy return.

Stuffed to the brim

Thank you, FSF.

I’ll be sure to let you all know when he returns.

How are You Feeling?
 

Disillusioned. I thought joining an all female chat room would be a place to meet ladies and perhaps have a date or two. OMG. No less than 5 countries and at least half of the womens' pics are of women who appear to be ready to do as much as cough hard and they will be prepared to breast feed the world. How can a woman feel good about herself exposing what the law allows and expects to find a person interested enough to make a date. Perhaps another woman like her I really don't know. I am feeling very let down by so many women that I thought might be a couple that were not offensive. Truly disappointed and yes disillusioned.

Oh wow wait, hold on a minute. If you want a woman who dresses a bit more conservatively then why not we all have our wants, our wishes. Own individual tastes. However just because a woman dresses in a way that you don't approve of doesn't mean she owes you any explanation as to why she does. Or that she wouldn't be a good match for somebody unless it was with another woman who enjoys dressing the same way herself.

How Are You Feeling
 

I only meant that to openly display yourself like in a mens magazine to the point of being somewhat lewid then go to a magazine that produces that kind of display. I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes, all about her that does not have to be in her exposure of body parts unnecessarily. Besides I am voicing MY opinion of what I see as proper in a room full of women who mostly are looking for love not dating because they have breasts (almost all women do). I like to see my partners in pvt not an advertisement to the world.

Did you really have to post the same judgmental post twice? It definitely wasn’t any better the second time around.

There is so much shaming of women that goes on especially about their bodies and how they dress. Do you really want to contribute to that?

Not my cup of tea either but I would just move on and not make judgmental comments.

BTW I find this a bit suspect and wonder if these are really legit pics posted by real women or if the photos have been put there to lure people in - probably men more than women. I’d be careful about any info I had on there. Then again it could be legit photos from real women. If so, more power to them. Hopefully they find what they are looking for.

^this....so much this, thank you!

I'm way tired of these old school butches.etc saying shit like they do about how a woman dresses, etc... IDK if they don't stop and think that femmes or women,think the same shit about butches,bois, non binary, transmen and transwomen! It needs to stop, stop shaming someone!

Ty for this, as well!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one seeing what I see!

Feeling
 

Feeling at a loss for words. I have never seen a chatter bombarded like you have done toward me. I did not get my opinion from being an old school butch (by the way that is an attack on old school butches). I learned how respectable women showed up in public and a place of meeting is public. If someone was offended then yes by all means voice your opinion as I know that some folks like your opinion if it matches theirs. It is easy to bully people in a computer. You know who I mean. I will not bore you with anymore of my opinions. It must be nice to have a clear conscience and never offend anyone. I pointed at noone in here. Noone knows who and where I am speaking of but it does not matter. I learned to respect women in my own home where I was taught manners and respect. I hope you all who are involved take a look at yourself and then cast the first stone. Amen

Well that’s a very disappointing response. You say you respect “respectable” women - so in other words they have to meet your standards. There is a long history of women being shamed based on how they dress or present themselves. That is specifically what I brought up. No one is bullying you. You are the one refusing to look at the issue. You can choose to chat and date who you want to without being so judgmental and contributing to the shaming of women - based on your own words here and not on whatever your background happens to be which to me is irrelevant. We are all responsible for what we say and write and your life story doesn’t have anything to do with that.

As a Butch I would think you would understand. We come under so much criticism for how we dress, having short hair, etc. sometimes it’s brutal. And yet we present ourselves in how it feels natural to us and not to meet society’s expectations despite often being treated with utter disdain.

I've started a regiment of Mercurius and Bio-Vegetarian.

IF anyone gets this issue, forget traditional medicine and head to a homeopath!

You're not being attacked, we are pointing out how you are shaming women, even femmes. You want us to look at our behavior, you have to do the same in this community.

I don't see eye to eye much with Bulldog but this situation, I do! We get shamed by short hair, etc as Bulldog said, women including the femmes in this community, get shamed for showing too much, by folks like yourself.

I don't care who you date but check your behaviors before you tell us to check ours!

Surely the "tits-in-public" convo hasn't ended already!
Just as my interest was 'roused.

You never fail to crack me up.

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Well put kittygrrl......

Oh please.

It’s one thing to say “I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes…”

It’s quite another to comment on women being lewd and belonging in men’s magazine and discussing what is and isn’t necessary.

Yes, people can voice their opinion but they need to do it without being judgemental and shaming women.

It’s an easy concept.