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Lady Pamela 08-14-2012 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by GreeneyedMe (Post 632176)
My smoking story...smoked for 25 years...quit in Feb of 2009 by choice. Had a heart attack June, 2009. Remained smoke free until October of 2010. Worst relationship break up of my life up to that point. Drove right to the gas station, bought smokes. Lousy excuse....here I sit...puffing away....quit for 3 days last week, was a wreck...tears...thoughts of feeling like I lost something...bought "just a pack for the weekend"...yea right...why can't I find the place in my mind where I know it's what I HAVE to do...and be ok with it....the expense is outrageous...$19.16 for 2 packs...I AM crazy...I must stop...have tried all the "helpers" nothing has worked so far...sigh...please.... I need to be strong, mind over matter...willpower...blah. Absolutely THE biggest struggle of my life right now....help.

You struggle is a normal one trust me.
I smoked since I was a young teen and my story very much the same.

I tried often to quit but honestly, did it in a much more non robotic method this time.
I also stopped kicking my own ass...that helped incredibly!

I quit using several methods together..Also some thought I was a whimp..for taking so long to finally commit.

It was the only way my mind would allow me to concieve never smoking.
Whimp or not, the results are in the final outcome..right?

I would be happy to share my tricks if you would like.

Also I suggest reading this thread from front to back.

It truely may have great suggestions in it you might choose to use.

Let me know in a pm if I can assist.


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Blaze 08-14-2012 08:56 PM

I may be late, but all things in life are possible... For those of you who have read my story, or those of you who knew my heavy smoking habit, this is my Celebration of life...

http://rlv.zcache.com/celebrate_life...2envb3_400.jpg

*And it is a stepping stone for me.
*It has been one year and 6 days.
*It has become much easier.
*Yes I still have cravings, but water or a snack has tamed the beast.
*I don't blame stress as my crutch anymore.
*I blame my own loss of control if it becomes out of control.
*I deal with my actions one at a time now.
*I don't point at others and shoot blame.
*I feel more responsible and in control!
*Yes, I did gain weight after quitting... BUT... I also lost it with learning how to ease my down time at the gym in stead.
*I learned to do things I love to do, and not wait for any excuse to run outside and light up.
*I can go outside and sit with my smoking friends and still laugh, joke and shop talk without smoking.
*All the money I spent on cigarettes are now used to buy CD's or clothes that I realize I deserve after all, it's a celebration....

**I wish everyone the freedom of choice, and I need not judge or criticize. For I once was, once did, and have made my own choices in life. Good luck everyone! Learn to breath in the beauty all around you...

Lady Pamela 08-14-2012 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Blaze (Post 632737)
I may be late, but all things in life are possible... For those of you who have read my story, or those of you who knew my heavy smoking habit, this is my Celebration of life...

http://rlv.zcache.com/celebrate_life...2envb3_400.jpg

*And it is a stepping stone for me.
*It has been one year and 6 days.
*It has become much easier.
*Yes I still have cravings, but water or a snack has tamed the beast.
*I don't blame stress as my crutch anymore.
*I blame my own loss of control if it becomes out of control.
*I deal with my actions one at a time now.
*I don't point at others and shoot blame.
*I feel more responsible and in control!
*Yes, I did gain weight after quitting... BUT... I also lost it with learning how to ease my down time at the gym in stead.
*I learned to do things I love to do, and not wait for any excuse to run outside and light up.
*I can go outside and sit with my smoking friends and still laugh, joke and shop talk without smoking.
*All the money I spent on cigarettes are now used to buy CD's or clothes that I realize I deserve after all, it's a celebration....

**I wish everyone the freedom of choice, and I need not judge or criticize. For I once was, once did, and have made my own choices in life. Good luck everyone! Learn to breath in the beauty all around you...

WAY AWESOME!!! CONGRATS TO YOU!!!

Keep it going for sure.
It is amazing all that you find just from putting down the smokes huh?..lol

I myself am learning to do everything new and fresh..it is bazzar but awesome to me.

BTW, very well written .

Keep it up everyone!!! It is way worth it!...smiles

GreeneyedMe 08-15-2012 05:35 PM

Only had 2 cigarettes today....pretty good day for me! Baby steps!

DapperButch 08-15-2012 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 626436)
[B][SIZE="3"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]I won't be back from work untill way late tomorrow and leave at 5 am,
so I had to post tonight...

I AM OFFICIALLY 1/2 A YEAR...OR...6 MONTHS...OR ..182 DAYS..

SMOKE FREE TODAY!!!!

WAHOO!!!!!


Keep up the good work everyone!!
What an amazing feeling.

AWESOME!!!! CONGRATS!!!! Sorry I missed this post!

Lady Pamela 08-15-2012 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by GreeneyedMe (Post 633198)
Only had 2 cigarettes today....pretty good day for me! Baby steps!

I did the cut down thing for 2 months..it helped me extremely.
I needed to make sure all was consistant..and for me it worked.

Less is an achievment all in itself.

Thats awesome!
Keep it up!

Lady Pamela 08-15-2012 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 633275)
AWESOME!!!! CONGRATS!!!! Sorry I missed this post!

Thank you so much...smiles

You as well as others have cheered me on through it all..And I am very thankful for realzzz!

Sometimes it helps to have others to show up for.
Or that recognize .
Or simply to tell.

Call me needy or emotional..but it all works for me..ha!

Thanks again!

funkyfemme 08-21-2012 08:30 AM

Day seven...
 
and I'm a hot, twitchy mess! I didn't intend on quitting but a week ago I came back from vacation and decided not to smoke anymore. Just like that. I've managed to go seven days without the first craving and today I'm a wreck!! Actually the irritability started last night, I just didn't recognize what it was. My poor honey. He caught pure hell!

I've smoked a pack a day (give or take) for the past 10 plus years. I've been wanting to quit for some time but just haven't been serious about it. After a short visit to GA, where Camel menthol is only $3.96 per pack, I cannot bring myself to pay $9.87 per pack here in NY! Fuckers!! Oops...there's the cranky again! So for health and financial reasons, I am gonna take a stab at it!! Wish me luck and thanks for reading. Also, thanks for sharing your stories. It helps to read about your struggles/successes as well!

Lady Pamela 08-21-2012 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by funkyfemme (Post 636234)
and I'm a hot, twitchy mess! I didn't intend on quitting but a week ago I came back from vacation and decided not to smoke anymore. Just like that. I've managed to go seven days without the first craving and today I'm a wreck!! Actually the irritability started last night, I just didn't recognize what it was. My poor honey. He caught pure hell!

I've smoked a pack a day (give or take) for the past 10 plus years. I've been wanting to quit for some time but just haven't been serious about it. After a short visit to GA, where Camel menthol is only $3.96 per pack, I cannot bring myself to pay $9.87 per pack here in NY! Fuckers!! Oops...there's the cranky again! So for health and financial reasons, I am gonna take a stab at it!! Wish me luck and thanks for reading. Also, thanks for sharing your stories. It helps to read about your struggles/successes as well!

Wonderful choice...and congrats to you for choosing life over the alternative...smiles

I suggest reading the thread for tips..And remember..many of us are here to help if you need any pep talks or an ear..smiles

funkyfemme 08-21-2012 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 636247)
Wonderful choice...and congrats to you for choosing life over the alternative...smiles

I suggest reading the thread for tips..And remember..many of us are here to help if you need any pep talks or an ear..smiles

Thanks LP! I spent a good part of the morning going back through the thread and will keep doing so when needed. I appreciate the support offered here and am lucky to be part of such a great community! :)

Daktari 08-21-2012 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by funkyfemme (Post 636296)
Thanks LP! I spent a good part of the morning going back through the thread and will keep doing so when needed. I appreciate the support offered here and am lucky to be part of such a great community! :)

S'grand to come back to this thread and read that more folks are choosing their lungs over their addiction(s). :cheerleader:

Keep the faith those of you who are giving it a go. If you lapse just carry right on and don't give up giving up.


LP, you've done brilliantly making it to half a year. A whole half a year!!! Go you! :cheerleader: :cheerleader:


Think it's 2 and half-ish years since I gave up tobacco and it 6 and half months since I gave up the other thing that was killing me.

Lady Pamela 09-03-2012 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Daktari (Post 636418)
S'grand to come back to this thread and read that more folks are choosing their lungs over their addiction(s). :cheerleader:

Keep the faith those of you who are giving it a go. If you lapse just carry right on and don't give up giving up.


LP, you've done brilliantly making it to half a year. A whole half a year!!! Go you! :cheerleader: :cheerleader:


Think it's 2 and half-ish years since I gave up tobacco and it 6 and half months since I gave up the other thing that was killing me.

I just wanted to say thank you for the kind words and support!


And as for your small green print..ha
CONGATS TO ALL OF IT!
Keep it up.

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Lady Pamela 09-03-2012 11:05 PM

AS OF THE 4TH I AM

http://www.melodic.net/img/cover/img2/7months.jpg

SMOKE FREE!

I have stopped myself of smoking 7,840 smokes to date.
I have stopped myself from smoking 392 packs of smokes

Still blows my mind.
smiles


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funkyfemme 09-04-2012 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 646701)
AS OF THE 4TH I AM

http://www.melodic.net/img/cover/img2/7months.jpg

SMOKE FREE!

I have stopped myself of smoking 7,840 smokes to date.
I have stopped myself from smoking 392 packs of smokes

Still blows my mind.
smiles


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:clap: AWESOME!!!!!!!!! :clap:

funkyfemme 09-04-2012 07:37 AM

21 days!
 
They say it takes 21 days to break a habit so I'm hoping "they" are right! Feels like it anyway. I'm not twitchy anymore although I have moments where I feel like I want a smoke but it passes. I have avoided alcohol (until Sunday) knowing that would trigger me wanting to smoke. I had a margarita Sunday evening and I was amazed that I didn't have the first craving. I'm sure if I'd kept drinking I would've caved though.

Anyway, thanks for letting me share!

Congrats to you LP!!!! Sounds like you got this!! Keep it up!!!!! :)

DapperButch 09-04-2012 07:59 AM

Congrats Lady Pamela! That is awesome!

Great job funkyfemme! Keep it going! There will always be times that you have cravings...just wait it out and they will pass. Good job being conscious of how having that second drink may have brought up cravings (and maybe made you more vulnerable to giving in). Thinking ahead will serve you well in this battle. Great job!

Lady Pamela 09-04-2012 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by funkyfemme (Post 646824)
They say it takes 21 days to break a habit so I'm hoping "they" are right! Feels like it anyway. I'm not twitchy anymore although I have moments where I feel like I want a smoke but it passes. I have avoided alcohol (until Sunday) knowing that would trigger me wanting to smoke. I had a margarita Sunday evening and I was amazed that I didn't have the first craving. I'm sure if I'd kept drinking I would've caved though.

Anyway, thanks for letting me share!

Congrats to you LP!!!! Sounds like you got this!! Keep it up!!!!! :)

Congrats to you for the 21 days!
Keep it up!

As for the 21 days in my own opinion, I think it is a personal journey and has no time frame.
Just the fact that you are 21 days clean is amazing and should be credited. Ya know what I mean...smiles

As for myself,
I work very hard at staying in the moment with any addiction.
Over confidence has lead to relapse in my past.
And that simply is not an option for me anymore.
So I stay in the here and now, hopeful for tomorrow's
And celebrate the me I am becoming...Make sence?


For all of you on this ride,
Stay strong today.
Know you are not alone.
And check in often...smiles

Lady Pamela 09-04-2012 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 646830)
Congrats Lady Pamela! That is awesome!

Great job funkyfemme! Keep it going! There will always be times that you have cravings...just wait it out and they will pass. Good job being conscious of how having that second drink may have brought up cravings (and maybe made you more vulnerable to giving in). Thinking ahead will serve you well in this battle. Great job!

Just wanted to say thank you so much!

And good advice as well.
Have a wonderful day.
And thanks for showing up for others on this ride.


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funkyfemme 09-04-2012 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 646857)
Congrats to you for the 21 days!
Keep it up!

As for the 21 days in my own opinion, I think it is a personal journey and has no time frame.
Just the fact that you are 21 days clean is amazing and should be credited. Ya know what I mean...smiles

As for myself,
I work very hard at staying in the moment with any addiction.
Over confidence has lead to relapse in my past.
And that simply is not an option for me anymore.
So I stay in the here and now, hopeful for tomorrow's
And celebrate the me I am becoming...Make sence?


For all of you on this ride,
Stay strong today.
Know you are not alone.
And check in often...smiles


Thank you so much and yeah, totally makes sense!!

I so hear ya on staying in the moment. I don't want to get overly confident either cause I've been there, done that and failed miserably! I really don't like counting the days but then I do. I'm just being careful, present and ENJOYING not smoking. I'm also constantly thinking about situations that may cause me to smoke and staying one step ahead. I wonder when that will cease. Eh, I'm just gonna keep working this and stay strong. I'm glad this space is here and it's good to know I'm not alone in this.

:)

Lady Pamela 09-04-2012 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by funkyfemme (Post 646867)

Thank you so much and yeah, totally makes sense!!

I so hear ya on staying in the moment. I don't want to get overly confident either cause I've been there, done that and failed miserably! I really don't like counting the days but then I do. I'm just being careful, present and ENJOYING not smoking. I'm also constantly thinking about situations that may cause me to smoke and staying one step ahead. I wonder when that will cease. Eh, I'm just gonna keep working this and stay strong. I'm glad this space is here and it's good to know I'm not alone in this.

:)

Your definately not alone..smiles
And this thread actually helped me to stay honest to myself. Ha!

I plan and prepare so that smoking people do not effect me as much.
In time that grows easier but I can not say that it goes away altogether.
I used to use other stuff and though it is very few and far between,
some remnants of that creep in on a whim..You just have to breathe, exhale and walk on with your chin held high.


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