Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 480477)

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.



One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy (Post 490464)

Good morning guys and girls!

I've been struggling a lot with being lonely. Since we're all single, and at least some of us are open to finding a relationship, I figure I'm probably not the only one.

How do you deal with it?

I love to give gifts, come up with little surprises just to see the smile on the recipient's face. There are so many things I want to do, but they're too romantic to do for friends.

How the heck do I help myself get over it and move on? You can't force a relationship, and you can't make someone like you if they don't think of you that way. Now I need to figure out what I CAN do to keep myself out of gloomy town.

Any suggestions?

Originally Posted by Heavenleahangel (Post 480672)

Originally Posted by Library_girl

(Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!)

I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself.

ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation.

Ok, enough rambling!

Originally Posted by veryfemme

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

Originally Posted by veryfemme (Post 494095)

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

Originally Posted by veryfemme (Post 494095)

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

Originally Posted by veryfemme (Post 494095)

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

Originally Posted by veryfemme (Post 494095)

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.