exactly!!!! and, it would be fairly easy to develop this app.

And it could still be called "searching/listening."

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This app idea shows promise. there seems to be an app for everything, why not locating femme's or butches?... and as if I need more reinforcement to keep the phone set to vibrate...

I have a cure!!!
 

My cure for Femme Invisibility:

I see someone that I may find to be rather dashing, or I may want to get to know or I may want in their pants..

I go up and introduce myself and see how it goes, the worse than can happen is they say sorry I'm not that kinda girl/butch/boy/boi;)

Gay men already have it and it appears to be working quite well for them I saw it on LOGO, so it must be true~

i don't have a fancy phone, otherwise i'd love the app idea! mine just calls and texts, lol.

i need to get me a 2x4 though...or a necklace at least.

Here is the problem. If a femme starts talking to me of course I assume she is straight. Even if she goes out of her way to talk to me, and is overly friendly. It doesn't make me think she is gay or interested in me . I just think she is a straight women, who knows can tell I'm gay, just by how I look and is in her own friendly way trying to tell me she is ok with it. In other words she's trying to show me in a subtle way, that she isn't homophobic. So talking to me and smiling and being friendly wouldn't make me think you were femme. I would think you were kind and just a friendly lady. Lol. Sorry .
You would have to say something really flirty for me to understand you were femme, not straight.

Thank you Laney. I love being picked on . No apologizes needed, but I will take the chili dog since you offered. *smirk*

You are lucky I am not single. I may serve it to you on a 2 x 4.

lol

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This is true....It would have to take some flirting or outright saying "I am a femme" for me to get it. Otherwise I too would think you were just a friendly straight woman who was accepting of me. Now the flirting on the other hand would get my attention, and I would act accordingly....when I say stand up and be counted, I mean approach me, talk to me, let me know, I really cannot guess. And yes if you are at a gay function or bar, I will believe you are a femme....

What a novel idea, Kris. If you ever get one developed, I get first dibs!

I think this is more common than some gals might think.

When I met my SO she was friendly, but not willing to (in her words) "scare the straight girl" no matter how much I batted my lashes. So, I flat out asked her if she was single. After she said yes, I told her she looked delicious in those vintage jeans and asked if I could buy her dinner one Friday night. I wasn't creepy stalkerish in my approach. Just to the point. If it had gone the other way, no harm, no foul.

My opinion, Say Something. Even if they turn out to not be available, you may have made someone's day by just making them realize they've "still got it" ;)

Hey now you're talking my language, I would catch on to that ! HaHaHa

And saying something really flirty might make you assume we want to date you or as Snow says, get into your pants. i do not want to confuse anyone. i sure don't want to be rejected when i wasn't even on the make. So . . . .

Attention all Femmes:

What do you say about gethering up JAGG and hauling him to the lumber yard and let him get cozy with some of those 2 x 4's.